A single mom — fed up with her son’s rude, entitled behavior — decided it was time to put her spawn in his place. He’d recently begun receiving income from a YouTube channel he started, and his newfound wealth had gone to his head.
After one particularly bad exchange with her son, Estella Havisham decided it was time for a “rude awakening.” She posted the following note on her son’s door:
She added on her Facebook post, “Not only will he find this on the door, but his mattress stripped, and the toys and clothes that I bought confiscated. He will have three options.. Buy his own, rent his clothes at $3 a day, or renegotiate his terms of being a child. Mama’s done playing games and being a doormat.”
Havisham intended for the note to only be seen by friends and family, but the photo was set to “public” — and it circulated quickly. It’s been shared over 160,000 times since it was posted. Since this is the internet, and when you post something on the internet that gets seen this much there will always be those who disagree with you, Havisham has since posted a further explanation of her motives for writing the letter. She explains that since her son’s begun to earn money he seems to want the “perks of growing up without the responsibility that comes with it.” And the letter has worked, according to mom.
Havisham says her son was initially furious, staging a sit-in in her room, where he laughed at her and repeated, “Really? What are you going to do? You can’t take my stuff.” I have no words for how infuriated this makes me, so I’ll just post this:
But somehow the letter got through to her son. She says, “He went to his room, and after about an hour, he had removed some electronics and items I missed that he felt he should have to earn back for his behavior. He apologized, and asked what could he do to make things better and start earning items back.”
For those of you who want to jump in and say, “He was only misbehaved because she let him be! Always the parent’s fault blah, blah, blah…” Just stop and shut your mouth-hole. Being a single parent is hard as hell. Being a single mom to a boy who’s now making money and thinks he’s an overnight adult can not be easy, either. Teenagers are difficult. If yours isn’t, congratulations and well done. Here’s a gold star. Some of us struggle with our children because we lack the perfect parent gene. And this woman deserves some applause.
She’s taught her son an important lesson: with money comes responsibility. If you have the money to contribute and think you’re an adult – fork it over. If you still want to be a child who doesn’t have any fiscal responsibilities, you will live by my rules.
Make a choice. (I advise you to choose childhood, kid. Being an adults sucks.)