This beautiful postpartum photo is something every new mom needs to see
Tired of society’s unrealistic expectations for new mothers, Nat Jorge-Martin shared a photo of her and her newborn daughter immediately postpartum that every mom can relate to.
If you’ve delivered a child, then you know the body you once had before becoming pregnant is absolutely not the body that magically re-appears as the baby emerges from your uterus. If only society didn’t guilt and shame mothers into thinking that’s what should happen, maybe we wouldn’t have to worry about it so much.
Which is why Jorge-Martin shared this amazing photo.
Why would I post this picture? You can see all the cellulite on my fat legs. My stomach looks huge, like I am still pregnant. My ankles are so swollen they look like logs. You can see the pad in my unflattering hospital panties. I have no makeup on and my hair hasn’t been brushed in days. Why would I post this picture? Because this is postpartum. This is REAL. THIS IS CHILDBIRTH. You will not bounce back once that baby comes out of you. You will not “lose the baby weight” super quickly. Your ankles will still be swollen and your belly will still be round. And there’s NOTHING wrong with that. You just brought a baby into the world. Whether you had a vaginal birth or a c-section, a child emerged from your body and that’s a HUGE deal! I asked my husband to take this photo because it was the first time I stood up in days and the first time I held my baby all by myself, without wires connecting me to a bed. This moment was so beautiful, I got to sway side to side while holding the life I sustained for 9 months. I didn’t care that my robe was open and you could see my chunky legs or the ugly hospital panties. All I cared about was that I was a mother now; and that I was head over heels in love with this little human. I’m still not happy with my body and I still have days where I look in the mirror and whisper “ugh, this is what I look like now” under my breath. I am not happy with how my body looks but I am immensely grateful for what it has done. It grew a life out of a few cells. It labored for 26 hours and it was opened on a table to bring that life into this world. I share this photo because it’s REAL, beautiful, and in this moment I felt LOVE and happiness. #celebrating_my_postpartum . . . #ig_motherhood #momcommunity #motherhoodunplugged #momhub #motherhoodthroughinstagram #featuremama #unitedinmotherhood #uniteinmotherhood #honestlymothering #dailyparenting #oureverydaymoments #joyfulmama #honestmotherhood #featuremama #memoirsofmotherhood #selflove #postpartumbody #takebackpostpartum #csectionrecovery #effyourbeautystandards #postpartumjourney #csection #youareenough #fourthtrimester #fourthtrimesterbodiesproject #igm_033
“Why would I post this picture? You can see all the cellulite on my fat legs,” she writes in the caption. “My stomach looks huge, like I am still pregnant. My ankles are so swollen they look like logs. You can see the pad in my unflattering hospital panties. I have no makeup on and my hair hasn’t been brushed in days.”
She posted the picture because this is the reality of life immediately postpartum. My own ankles took 10 days to return to normal — I had to wear slippers in place of shoes for almost two weeks after giving birth.
Jorge-Martin, who labored for 26 hours before undergoing a c-section, explains there is no “bouncing back” when it comes to life following birth. Our bellies remain round, our bodies seem unrecognizable, and that’s okay. Because we grew a human being for nine months, dammit, and that takes some work.
So you guys all know that I am an avid supporter of breastfeeding, specifically breastfeeding in public! 🙌🏼✨ I teamed up with @lot801 and a few other mamas to bring awareness to the #normalizebreastfeeding and #dropthecover movement! The first time I nursed in public without a cover was 6 days PP and it was an extremely stressful experience, until it wasn’t. Once my blog gets up and running I’m going to share the story in detail. 🤱🏻 I have now been breastfeeding in public without a cover and without giving a single damn for almost 9 months! 🙌🏼( . )( . )💕 I want you to know that it is normal to feel cautious or scared to breastfeed in public. The world has taken this wonderful, natural thing and stigmatized it so that we are made to feel guilty for doing what our breasts were made to do. It’s heartbreaking but together we can change it. The more people see a woman breastfeeding the sooner it will be a normal sight! If you wanna go one step further, always have your boobie blanket on hand because the more people see BOOBS the quicker they will stop being sexualized and seen for what they are; a piece of fatty tissue and cells used to feed babies. If you want to cover up while you nurse do so because it makes YOU comfortable, not because NOT covering up make OTHERS uncomfortable. That’s their problem, not yours. 🤷🏻♀️ In addition to changing the world, this blanket is super soft and we use it daily in our home. It’s Delilah’s favorite! 😜 If you want your own boobs baby blanket head to @lot801 and use the code NATSHIP for free domestic shipping! 🙌🏼 . . . . #normalisebreastfeeding #breastfeedingmom #breastfeedwithoutfear #breastfeedingjourney #breastfeedingadvocate #breastfeedingmama #breastfeedingisbeautiful #breastfeedinpublic #feedingwithlovesubmission #freethenipple #stopcensoringmotherhood #disneysmmoms #disneymama
She says she asked her husband to take this photo because it was the first time she was able to hold her precious little one without being hooked up to wires or stuck in the hospital bed. A moment she didn’t want to forget.
To hell with the cellulite, the round belly, and the puffy ankles.
Did I buy these pants just cus they slightly resemble a pair of leggings my daughter owns? Yes, yes I did. Why? Because twinning is life. 👯♀️✨ • Do you guys twin with your littles? I honestly can’t get enough of it 🙈 . . . . #twinning #ig_motherhood #featuremama #messy_motherhood #memoirsofmotherhood #mumswhostyle #ohmamamoment #ohheymama #mommystatus #momdotme #mommylifestyle #instamamagang #joyfulmamas #vsco_mom #vscomom #motherlove #clickinmoms #acupofmotherhood #momlife #motherhoodthroughinstagram #uniteinmotherhood #unitedinmotherhood #honestmotherhood #honestlymothering #myhonestmotherhood #momhub #socialmediamom #momsofig
“I didn’t care that my robe was open and you could see my chunky legs or the ugly hospital panties. All I cared about was that I was a mother now; and that I was head over heels in love with this little human.”
Jorge-Martin tells Scary Mommy she’s overwhelmed by the positive responses she’s received in regard to sharing the photo — especially since she almost didn’t share it at all.
This is what i looked like at 3 weeks postpartum. My boobs were uneven because I still hadn’t figured out the whole breastfeeding thing. My belly was saggy yet i still looked pregnant, covered in stretch marks from growing a 10lb 4oz little girl and gaining 80lbs in 9 months. • When i first noticed my first stretch mark at about 25 week pregnant i wasn’t sad or disgusted, i figured stretch marks are a part of pregnancy for some women. Then i saw another one, closely followed by about 20 more. By the time i gave birth i was completely covered in stretch marks. My belly was unrecognizable. Every day i looked at my belly, rubbed it and thought of why it looks like this now. • Honestly, most days I felt a bit of sadness; like my days of feeling sexy were over. But then my husband would look at me in my giant, pregnant glory and tell me that I have never been sexier. He consistently complimented me not only on my looks but on my strength and endurance. • I grew a life. For nine months i carried my intelligent, strong-willed, perfect little creature. Every single mark on my body is a testament to what it has done. I could not be prouder of what my body went through and accomplished in less than one year. • Now i look at my belly and think “damn! i’m a fucking warrior. i’m a force to be reckoned with. i am a strong, powerful woman and i can do anything”. • So what if my belly doesn’t look that way it did before i had Delilah. Who gives a shit if I have stretch marks or a mom-pooch! When i decide I want to lose weight I’ll do it for myself and my health. And no matter how much weight I lose i will still always have my stretch marks and my mom-pooch and i can honestly say that i am finally okay with that. • I struggled like hell to bring my human into this world. I endured more in 26 hours than i ever thought i could endure in a lifetime. I am proud of myself and my body. It’s time to take back postpartum. Stop comparing yourself to other moms that “lost the baby weight right away” good for those women! But good for you too, because you are doing your best! Let’s start empowering our fellow mamas because being a woman is a goddamn amazing gift we have been given.
“I don’t want anyone to feel like they can’t share a photo that brings them joy and happiness because they are afraid of what others may say about their flaws or vulnerability,” she says. “The more women start accepting their bodies and loving themselves, the quicker we can grow and hopefully help lower the amount of new mothers suffering from PPD.”
In her Instagram post, she writes that she — like all of us — has moments where she doesn’t feel the self-love. “I am not happy with how my body looks but I am immensely grateful for what it has done.”