A Girl Mom



I’ve got two little girls. Unless the universe has another surprise in store for us, I will always be a “girl mom”. I know several “boy moms;” moms who are the lone female in their houses and plan to keep things that way.

“Boy moms” love to tell me how lucky I am. How easy I have it right now with two sweet little girls, who are adorable, full of sugar ‘n spice ‘n everything nice.  Yet, in the same breath, these “boy moms” express their sympathy for those awful drama queen moments I’ll have to endure in the teen years. There are times when these moms border on being condescending. And there’s nothing I hate more than a condescending mom.

Boy moms, allow me clear up some myths for you…

1. My boys are so rough and tumble, I’m exhausted chasing them around. You are so lucky to have little girls!

Girl mom reality: My younger daughter is a runner, a climber, and an explorer. She scales anything that even has the hint of a foothold. She dashes away at any opportunity. She tackles her big sister. She can break out of any harness or gate. She falls, she bumps, she scrapes, all within arm’s reach of me. She is non-stop. She is exhausting. I don’t think missing a Y chromosome slows her down at all.

My older daughter? She’s been called “affectionately aggressive”. Which means she plays rough. She’s reduced more than one little boy to tears when she tackles him to the ground with a hug.

2. Ugh. My boys are disgusting. You are so lucky to have little girls! 

Girl mom reality: My child has finger painted with her own poop. Multiple times. She’s had tea parties with water she drinks from her straw cup and spits into her tea set. My little one spends a good portion of the day with her hand down her diaper. Boys don’t have the market cornered yet.

3. Girl clothes are the best! Everything is so cute! And when little girls dress themselves, even when they don’t match they just look adorable! You are so lucky to have little girls!

Girl mom reality: My girls are stuck with short sleeve holiday dresses – in the dead of December. I’d love a nice sweater vest. I’d also like to point out that your toddlers aren’t encouraged to wear booty shorts and jeggings. We’ve all got issues.

4. Trains everywhere! Hot Wheel tracks won’t stay together and I’m the one who has to assemble them all! You are so lucky to have little girls!

Girl mom reality: Maybe not, but we’ve got princesses and doll clothes. Doll clothes that my almost three year old doesn’t have the motor skills for yet. Not to mention that my girls are fascinated by cars and trains as well.

5. Ooooohh… but I don’t envy you once those girls get to be teenagers! I am so lucky to have little boys.

Girl mom reality: I’ve heard the stories from my husband’s teenage years. I might have to deal with a little drama and a few tears, but chances are pretty good that my kid won’t be escorted home after flipping off a cop or attempting to car surf. Was it a teenage girl who just took down our mailbox when they ran their four wheeler off the road? I don’t think so.

When your child is frustrating you, it’s easy to think that the grass is greener, cuter, and smells better on the other side. But  just because my girls wear ribbons on their pigtails doesn’t mean I don’t have a mud ring around my bathtub. We’ve all got our own challenges in this parenting thing. Let’s just agree that every kid is full of surprises, and save these boy/girl worries for the teenage years.

I’ll be the one hiding under the bed.


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  1. Sara says

    Lol. I’m a mom of two girls as well and I believe they’re messier than any boy I’ve seen. Dolls, my little ponies, stuffed animals, shoes and dresses, its a sea of pink everywhere I look!

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  2. Heather Gochoel says

    I have a 6 month old girl. Even before she was born people were saying how lucky I was that I'd get to dress her in all the cute, frilly girly clothes. The problem with this? I hate the pink, frilly, girly clothes. I think my mother is seriously disappointed because I won't let her get the frilly dresses.

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    • Meredith says

      Right now, I get to choose the clothes, so we’ve been avoiding the mini-tween and the frilly princess! But my three year old is already starting to express preferences and I think my days are numbered!

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    • Debby Lewis says

      Suck up the frilly stuff for now. I suffered with a little bit of pink myself but after a bit, you can get other colors. Or at least revel in the fact that she can always ruin them with one good whirled pea puke moment! ;)

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    • Rebecca MacEgan says

      I have 5 daughters. I was resistant to pink as well. So I bought BRIGHT colors in stripes and polka dots and mix and matched everything. Also, nothing is cuter than a pink sweater with a skull in a bow! They choose their favorite color around age 2, so you will be dressing them in their fave color after that. My DD#3 loved green, and nobody was selling green girl clothes. Rit dye for white clothes became my best friend.

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  3. Tinne from Tantrums and Tomatoes says

    Just the other day I walked outside to find my two little princesses sitting in the mud singing something about happy pigs. A love of mud is not just confined to males…

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  4. The Next Step says

    ha! SO TRUE!! I have 3 girls, and I was one of 3 girls, so I’m pretty sure I know what’s coming – and I’ll take that over all that boy stuff in a heart beat!
    And my girls? The eat off the floor, they pick their noses and eat it, one of them would sit in her own poop all day long if we let her, and they ALL tackle, wrestle, climb, run, and hit. And they pull hair & scratch.
    Now, if we could just get all the moms on the same page about raising their kids to be nice to each other. :-)

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  5. Tia says

    I am the mom of a 1yr old girl and stepmom to 2 teenage boys. People have told me that I “need” to have one more kid, so that my daughter has someone to play with…I tell them that I’m already doing the teenage boy thing, and I’ll be putting up with the teen girl thing too, so since there are no other options, I’m good with what I’ve got. It may sound selfish to the little old Southern ladies, since they stare at me like I’ve just told them their haircut needs to change since it hasn’t since 1983, but I’d like to end up halfway sane.
    Plus, it’s better than the reason I tell my girlfriends, which is, “I only have one uterus to worry about becoming pregnant….”

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  6. Kathy Radigan says

    This is so great!! It’s so true, we do always seem to make the grass greener on the other side! I am completely screwed since I have both, two boys and a girl!! And, as painful as a lego injury is, it aint nothing compared to a polly pocket one!!! Lol! Thanks for a great post!!

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    • Kristin Shaw (Two Cannoli) says

      I have one little boy and he is perfect for us! My sister has three girls, so between us, we have a good match, and I’m just thrilled that he’s happy and healthy.

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  7. jeannine says

    I have 3 girls and 2 boys and while they all have different personalities and go through varying difficult stages, I have to agree with everything you’ve said, especially #3 and #4. Really hate those polly pockets!

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  8. Tracie says

    Yes so much to the #3. The older my girl gets, the harder it is to find clothes for her that don’t make me want to run away to a remote cave with her.

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