5 Back to School Resolutions I’m Making

Back to school time is upon us. If you’re like me, this time of year feels a little like January, with the promises and resolutions all focusing on school. Every year I make the same ones: We will always be on time for school, I will not lose any permission slips, and I will pack lunches the night before. (Ha.) But this fall, I’m adding a few new ones, and thanks to some age and experience on my back, I’m confidant I’ll be able to keep them…

1. I will say “No”. I have had a child in elementary school, middle school, or high school for 12 straight years now. I am no longer the new, eager, kindergarten mom ready and willing to throw my hand in the air to volunteer and be the homeroom parent contact, fundraising chairwoman, or PTA president. That ship has long sailed, sister. I have since found my people among the 40+ year old school parents. We are the ones all hiding in the corner slouched over, head hanging low, simply too burnt out to be super involved anymore. We are the ‘been there done that’ school moms, and we are looking for a few good 29 year olds to take over. Please. Take the hell over. Because we have long since abandoned harboring any guilt over simply saying the word “No.” And truthfully, we don’t care what you all think about us anymore- “Why doesn’t she help out? She is so uninvolved in her kid’s education!”  Hey cute little baby wearing mama born in 1985, I just want to say two things; I am sorry you missed the 80s, and saying “No” is the new black, and when you hit 40, you too will get bloody brilliant at it.  So can you and your ‘Gossip Girls’ just go ahead and throw all the class parties this year? Because we’re all going to yoga.

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2. I will let my kids manage the morning routine all by themselves. I know, I know, but I gotta try it. I am keenly aware that I have some very big and completely unrealistic morning dreams here. I am also 100% certain that without my screaming morning voice, and without my school stuff packing, crap organizing, double homework checking, and pretty much total body maneuvering of all the small humans here, nobody in this house would move a muscle before 10 a.m. But I am going to try, really TRY to stop the morning madness that has turned me into a resentful raving lunatic. This is going to require me keeping my mouth closed (duct tape please) and trusting that my kids CAN and WILL step up to the plate, and are physically and mentally capable and mature enough to wake up, feed themselves, and get their bodies and all their stuff inside the school mode of transportation and ready to go. Every. Single. Morning. And all this morning magic will happen without my head turning around 360 degrees, without any undue strain on my vocal cords, and without tears being shed from any and all of the inhabitants of this house. We can do this kids. We totally can.  At least until Christmas. Maybe Halloween?

3. I will let my high school kids plan for THEIR future, not the one I wanted them to have. When my oldest started high school two years ago, I had all these plans in my head about what classes he should take, what ‘track’ he should be on, and what college he should go to. I never asked him his opinion. I thought I knew better. Turns out I have raised him well enough that he is perfectly capable of both discovering and acting on what is beginning to inspire him, not what his mom wants to inspire him. So he won’t be in AP Calculus, or Engineering Honor Society by his senior year. Lately, he thinks he wants to be a teacher. And his favorite subject? English. Turns out he is not a math prodigy, and he is only vaguely interested in science, but he reads more fiction that your average adult, and that kid’s personal podcast library is both intellectually awesome and boyishly hilarious. Look, I’m smart enough to know his career choices and subject interests will change ten fold in the next five years, but from now on those choices will be HIS, not MINE, because in two years, I will not be sitting next to his college advisor checking boxes on class selections. Only he will. Time to start letting go NOW. Gasp.

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4. I will not help do science projects, history fair displays, state dioramas, book reports, or any other projects that are assigned to my kids. Who else out there can spot a totally parent made science fair entry from a mile away? Hey mini Bill Nye, who is trying to pass off his precisely scaled and intricately engineered replica of a pool’s solar heating pump as his own work, doesn’t your dad own a solar heating company?  Luckily, I am already pretty good at the no help thing,  because four kids does this to you naturally. I have zero time or energy left for you to pull the, “Moooom…..my project is due tomorrow!” because this mama doesn’t say “How high?” when you say “Jump.” She says, “Well it appears dear one that you are totally screwed. Good night.” Even when the last kid guilt kicks in, and my crafty instincts  want me to pull an all-nighter and personally hot glue the hell out of that poster board, I will stand tough. Better to snag a great big F in the fifth grade and learn your lesson, rather than let the crap hit the fan as a high school junior, when your every move is being watched by a college admissions officer.

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5. I will enjoy my youngest child’s elementary years. Recall #1. Yes, I am the ‘over it’ school mom, but I need to not let my youngest child know or experience that. In so, so many ways, kid #4 gets the shaft big time. As in, his baby photo book doest not exist, he is the king of hand me downs, and every developmental milestone is no longer ushered in with a parade, but rather a weak, “Oh yay. I remember when your brothers first did that.”  I don’t want his early school years to be a string of whiny and complaining “not agains” from his mom. I am in the homestretch, and as much as I really want to put the pedal to the metal and get him to the finish line, I need to slow down my race, both for him and myself. He is entitled and deserving of the same school enthusiasm from me that his oldest brother got. Weary that I may be, I need to be just as excited for 2nd grade ‘dress up like a saint day’  as  I was the first three times. (Thank God I saved the costume. That thing is already boxed and ready to go. He’s gonna be St. Patrick whether he likes it or not.) So I plan to show up utterly giddy, video camera in hand, for the school Christmas play I have seen three times already, and the science museum field trip I know by heart, and I will help him hand make 30 Valentines for his classmates, just like I have been doing for the last decade, without bellyaching. I vow to make his school firsts again be my school firsts. Because who knows, maybe I did save the best school mom experiences for the last.

Related post: Back to School, Pottery Barn Kids Style

About the writer


Melissa L. Fenton is a mom to 4 sons, cookbook hoarder, yarn bomber, wannabe pastry chef and carb lover, mother runner, adjunct librarian, sometimes a humor writer. Find her at 4boysmother, on Twitter as @melissarunsaway and on Facebook.

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Theresa Ceniccola 1 year ago

Love these resolutions, Melissa! I’ve been doing #1, 2 and 4 much longer than I have been entitled to…but I’m an early adopter that way:-) My secret to a successful #2 – I leave the house at 6 am to workout and return at 8 am in time to give kisses before they head to the bus. Sink or swim, tiny humans.

And #5 is high on my priority list this year. My baby is entering the 4th grade and I’m gonna cheer up and show up! Thanks for that reminder. Have fun at yoga:-)

Sarah Jones 1 year ago

As a 52-year old mom of three girls (14, 11, and 9), I can totally relate! I love this essay!

Allie 1 year ago

Can get a hell yeah for number one? I am a mother of four as well, and my youngest just started first grade. At open house, I ran from the sign up sheet! But I do still plan to enjoy his elementary years, but from the sidelines, with guest appearances, not a front-row in the classroom. I love number three. I have one going to high school next year. Greta advice.

Melanie Lynn 1 year ago

When that happens, contact the teacher. I’m sure an explanation would help clear things up for the student or feedback from parents would help the teacher realize it’s too hard.

Kim Durand 1 year ago

My kids take the school bus, but we live close enough for them to walk to school if they miss the bus. It hasn’t happened yet because the thought of walking 30 min in the middle of winter is enough for them to wake up early and be outside in time.

Lish Dish 1 year ago

OH MY GOD…… for sure #1 !!!!

Kristy Engel 1 year ago

I can’t do #2. I have to remind my 12 year old to use soap in the shower, brush his teeth (with toothpaste) and apply deodorant, every morning. It’s a public service I’m doing here. You’re welcome, teachers, you are welcome.

Bito Walker 1 year ago

Love this !

Erin Wallace 1 year ago

How many Amens can a girl shout?

Jacqueline Leon-Christ 1 year ago

Good luck with that !!

Misty Smith Riffer 1 year ago

love #1

Shannon Nadasdy 1 year ago

Oh yes… To saying NO!

Catherine Bishop Duffy 1 year ago

Hell to the yes, number 1!

Carrie Sealy-Morris 1 year ago

1 and 3 lol

Jennifer Crews 1 year ago

Number 2 and 4. Totally.

Burgandi Keddington 1 year ago

As the PTA president for our 3 charter schools, I’m not a fan of #1. It takes lots of help to pull off all of the activities in a school year. It often is left to a few parents because everyone else is “too busy” or just “done”. We had a tough time staffing anything last year. So our council (all age 35-50) worked our butts off to give everyone else’s kids some fun things throughout the year. If you really want that last child to have a great experience, you just might need to step up and help. The rest of the numbers – I’m all for!

    Burgandi Keddington 1 year ago

    And every one of us on the council works a full time job. It can be done.

Jenelle W. 1 year ago

Aw crap. I’m the 29 year old in #1. To a tee. Blerg.

Cheryl Miller Keller 1 year ago

I am on our school PTO and my only child/son is going into 4th grade at the school in which I’m employed. If the newer parents (parents with kids in K-3 or new to the school) don’t start stepping up to help with volunteering, we won’t have anyone to do these events. Reality is, we HAVE to do carnivals, fund raisers, etc. so we have money for field trips, technology, etc. at a cost of $20,000+ a year for our rural charter school of 150 students. If we don’t have folks willing to work these events and if they prefer to throw money towards it…great! But no one does throw the money into the pot. They claim they’d prefer that option, but few actually do it. It’s close to $125/student. If you’ve got a family of four in our school, it’s difficult for average income families to drop that chunk into the school. So…I work every event…my husband volunteers too, all of our teachers do…many of our staff does…because parents are far too busy to be inconvenienced by a two to three hour work session to raise money for the school they’re so proud to send their kids to. How would it be if the staff felt that way about educating their kids too? It takes a village for sure! I’m proud to do it…I get tired, but I love the altruistic benefit and the best is the valuable lesson my son is learning…to give…to work hard…and to support something you love!

Ginny Schultz Vandenburg 1 year ago

I agree. I worked full time all through my 20s, so that for me was the hardest time to get involved at school. It wasn’t until our 30s that we’d established enough of an income for me to quit my job and stay at home with my kids. That’s when getting more involved at school became possible and enjoyable.

Ginny Schultz Vandenburg 1 year ago

I have to agree with you. I’ve heard parents complain about the types of events the HSA (as we call it in our school) organizes and the way they are run, but do you think those parents show up at the meetings to help with the decision-making? Nope. I know some parents genuinely don’t have time to come even if they wanted to, but when you hold a meeting once a month from 7-8 p.m. on a Monday and provide free childcare right down the hall, you know there are more than the 10 parents who do show up who could actually be available.

Melanie Sainz 1 year ago

Number 1!! Omg have I done my time! I am the parent that always got the worst jobs too. Flinging paint with strings, making “real” birds nests with real mud, the “bubble station” on field day while my 2 year old dances in mud just over from me while other parents merely just look on.. uhg! I have done my time!!!

Sherry Gray Walters 1 year ago

As for #1, I volunteer a lot for stuff I like to do. I’m always room mom for one of my 2 kids classes. I help with the book fair every year, as well as the walk-a-thon, the end of the year festival, and I am a driver/chaperone on every one of my kids field trips since our school is small and we don’t have buses. I refuse to volunteer for stuff I don’t like to do. I volunteer enough of my time already. So someone else can work concessions at the games while I plan the class parties as room mom.

Dana Measel Wagner 1 year ago

Love number one!

Tammy Abreu Lucas 1 year ago

Omgosh funny . Love it

Michelle Woolston 1 year ago

I always hated when my child made their own projects, obviously done by child, all the others are perfect! Grrrrrrr

Leah Walker-Barone 1 year ago

My biggest hint is to let them decide how they need to study and when. And when they don’t study, let them fail. Who cares if they get 100% on every spelling test. Come to find out my son, who is on the honor roll, does better to get up in the morning and do some of his homework. I think it is strange, but he goes to bed early and gets up a little earlier and does his work. I know SO many people who make their child come in and do their work right after school. I want to know how many adults come home from work and start doing things before they take a minute break. Not every kid can do this, but let them figure it out.

Kevin Smith 1 year ago

WOW! Somebody hit it on the head. Number 1, I know several examples. The rest…… know a few that fit in there too.

Nancy Schema Paradis 1 year ago

I have one 8th grader who gets ready on her own while I drive her 1st grader sister to school.
Than I go to work, I have to get my 1st grader going in the am, my husband is just coming to bed from working all night when I get up at 5am.
I admit I feel like I am loosing my mind being a parent to a 1st grader at 47…I’m tired..flat out tired!
I am a single parent during the week, since the hubs is working.

Carol Stone 1 year ago

This is Great

Julie Fritz 1 year ago

My granddaughter started kindergarten this year and my youngest is a HS senior – yup, I did/doing all of those! I am also not cutting my granddaughters cheese into cute little shapes for her bento box lunch

Kathea 1 year ago

Parents who give in to #2 and #4 drive me batty. By middle school the expectation was up with the alarm, fed, dressed and ready to go without prodding. If you didn’t do your homework or project, that was you on and you’d have to deal with the wrath of your teacher and then the wrath of the parent for getting a bad grade. Not to say we were left to our own devices but older elementary and certainly middle school students should be able to complete homework assignments ontime without prodding. And my parents NEVER EVER did any of my projects or papers for me. They helped with logistical things that someone without a car or money couldn’t do but it was all on me. Your kids will step us if that’s the expectation. It might be a rough week or two but a new routine can be established. Please don’t create any more college students who can’t cook a basic meal or do their own laundry. Those kids make me lose faith in humanity.

Pam Geiling Watson 1 year ago

I have always been the mom that says “no” to volunteering. My husband and I run the elementary school variety show but that’s because my kids love to perform. I don’t do ANY other volunteering at any of the other 3 schools my kids go to (preschool, middle, high). Once I got pregnant with my youngest (twins), I decided that if I’m going to be at the school a total of 18 years, I should do something.

Elaine 1 year ago

How utterly sad.

Stephanie Peacock Engel 1 year ago

What if I’m 40 and my kids haven’t even hit kindergarten yet? Can I still opt out of volunteering?!! I plan on it! :)

Christina McDowell Parks 1 year ago

So great, although I doubt I could follow through..,

Jessica Fox 1 year ago

I love your posts, but seriously “cute little baby wearing momma born in 1985″… way to alienate your younger readers and poke at us. I’m one of those 1985 mommas. I have a 6 and an 8 yr old and I hate volunteering too. How about just leaving the volunteering to the enthusiastic ones, no age requirement involved?

    Mel 1 year ago

    Very true. And I didn’t mean to alienate anyone. And I was once the cute baby wearing mama, 4 times. But I gotta say, many times those moms (not you!) are looking at all of us been there done that older moms and judging US. Just like I wrote. They are looking at us like why are we not doing anything, etc. Well, because we’ve done it all for over a decade and are a little tired. I have also felt like right now that my teenagers need me more than I need to help volunteer in the 3rd grade. So if I am not helping at the elementary school, it’s because I have 2 teenagers I am trying to raise into outstanding young men, and trust me, the teen years are brutal.

Rebecca Greene 1 year ago

OMG…so funny. I start each school year with all sorts of “going to be the best Mom ever this school year”. I do what I can but now I am back at work PT I can no longer ALWAYS be the mom who can do X and Y at a moments notice. The for some of the other Moms to wake up and engage….but I do swear I will be more involved it he homework supervising and healthy lunch packing…HONEST! LOL

Trish Martin Mayro 1 year ago

We have the same life, apparently! It’s like you read my mind.

JD Katsonis 1 year ago

Haha #4! Definitely lol

Mary Schneider 1 year ago

I can’t speak for everyone else, but I know why I stopped volunteering. The cliquey attitude of the mom crew who does “most of the work”. You’re either the polished soccer-mom, probably with an exec husband or at least one that makes a decent paycheck and you never worry about which bill to pay next, or whether there will be enough groceries for the week, or you’re not in the inner circle.

Those who are not in the inner circle are not considered “responsible” and “dependable” enough to handle anything of actual importance. Outside the circle is the land of “can you bring a package of napkins to the party? Oh, no, we won’t ask you to lick envelopes or (*shudder*) send you home with a pile to address and mail out” Because that’d be asking too much of this poor, overburdened parent.

Single moms, SAHMs who make due on one paycheck, and those who don’t buy their fashions from tar-jay or the Mall, are excluded from the volunteer club. After one too many times of being turned down for any job that was actually useful, I got the hint and left them to their work. After all, who am I to interfere with their SuperMom self delusions?

There’s no shame in doing the little jobs. By all means, if someone’s working full time, and sending a packet of napkins in is what she can handle, that’s great. But when someone volunteers their time and is willing to do things… Seems like the smart thing to do would be to embrace that, rather than questioning the decision to volunteer.

Ashley Schmidt 1 year ago

I’m 29, I have a 4th grader & kindergartener, I will be with you 40 year olds in the corner saying “no” thank you

Tanya Lauer 1 year ago

Love #3! It’s so important to support your kid’s dreams even if it’s not what you dreamt for them

Sandy Olsavsky 1 year ago

You and me both sister!

chill 1 year ago

#2 for me. Not sure why I become “crazy Mom” in the morning. Maybe it’s because I want them to have good habits of being on time and moving quickly in the morning, or maybe it’s because my kids move like tortoises and talking reasonably doesn’t work. Or maybe it’s because when I vow to just sit there and let them be late, my skin crawls and my eyes bug out until I finally lose my mind. Bwahahahaha!!

Rachel Burr 1 year ago

All over number 5

Jen G. 1 year ago

OHHH. EMM. GEEE. We have got to share the same life because I swear to all that is holy, I have thought or felt EVERY single word in this post. I have 4 as well, and I could not have said any of this better myself. I can’t pick out a fave, or a “I strongly relate to” number for you because literally…every one. Spot on.
So yeah – you just earned a fan for life, how’s that feel? Thanks for sharing. You’re doing a great job momma…keep reppin’. #SuperSix 😀

    Mel 1 year ago

    awww! Thanks so much from the author. You are kind to take the time to comment. This article is also on another website and there are comments over there calling me a whiny and bad mother. Nice, huh?

Kira Peterson 1 year ago

I’m already the one hunched in the corner hoping they don’t ask me to help out and I have a 2nd grader, kindergartner, preschooler and a baby. I’m all over no… My 7 yr old, almost 5 yr old and 3 yr old get up and make themselves breakfast and get dressed before I even wake up so I’m all over number 2… And if my kids can do it so can yours.

Allison Diehl 1 year ago

I want to like #1. I have really overdone things in the past. Yet I know that parental involvement plummets as children get into upper elementary and beyond. Maybe I will do things backward with my youngest: wait to volunteer until he is older.

Judi Talbot Pearson 1 year ago

Amen to every single one!

Erin McMahon Sarafa 1 year ago

#1 is my favorite 2 unrealistic 3 we shall see 4 doesnt an never has applied to me and 5 is for you, Sherry Smith-Atiemo :)

Keri Taylor 1 year ago

The on time to school everyday is so on my list

Andrea Kleinman-Parker 1 year ago

I’m totally rocking this entire list already. Yay mom, for a change.

Denise Muller 1 year ago

Have you mastered #1 yet???

Rachel Ramirez 1 year ago

I’m glad to see I am not the only one who doesn’t like children other than my own. There are a select few I like, but otherwise nope, ain’t gonna do it!

Chris 1 year ago

I am SO #1. The oldest of our six kids is 33 and our youngest is 11. We also have 9, almost 10 grandkids all 10yrs old and under. I’m totally burned out of programs and special days. Do you have any idea how much $$ I give to fundraisers this year?! I do not let me kids go door-to-door in our neighborhood to sell fundraiser stuff. We’ve lived forever in the same place and I’m sure my neighbors are sick to death of popcorn, cookies, Entertainment Books, wrapping paper, fruits and nuts etc etc.

*sigh* I’m 50 now so please all of you young perky moms, let us rest.

    Chris 1 year ago

    I’m also obviously too old and tired to proofread the things I write.

Briit 1 year ago

How bad is it that I’m 25, my oldest child is in pre-school, and I’m already too exhausted for volunteering at school? I mean… I feel like I probably should do something but I’m so freaking tired. What will I be like when I hit my 40s????

Jennifer Leone 1 year ago

LMAO! That was good and I should be all over #1

Rebecca Simmons 1 year ago

Love it!!

Debbie Ponzo Locke 1 year ago

Thank you, thank you!
I have one on each campus and I teach. I’m gonna say no! , let them do their own stuff and let them make decisions about their future.

Jennifer Ball Whitehead 1 year ago

Yes #1

Mandy Lynn Dessureault 1 year ago

I am on baby#3 and so over volunteering lol! My oldest is only in grade 1.

Nicole 1 year ago

I am all about #4 this year (though I love them all) I let those late projects stress me out when really, they do need to experience a little failure. Thx for the reminder!

And btw, I have NEVER been a super involved mom at school. And I am okay with that.

Michelle Grush 1 year ago

I love this and HELL YES times 5! I embraced #2 3 years ago. It’s amazing not to be screaming my head off all morning and the kids can totally handle making their own breakfasts and lunches. Often they forget to bring a sweatshirt, but really, it’s better it gets left here than the dirty, lice infested, lost and found bin at school after they peel if off because they are too hot.

Liese Aucoin Homer 1 year ago

#1 and #5 both thrill me a and break my heart. This 39 year old experienced mom will leave the parties to the young ones but I will be at every field trip and play. This is happening too fast! I have a junior, a 7th grader and a kindergartner. I’m not ready to let it go yet!!

Tina Powell 1 year ago

I am all over #1 & #5. I decided that last year when my middle went to middle school. Already told the teachers that were eager to have me room mom again when my youngest and last started. Sorry teach, I’m just a visitor now. Here to enjoy my daughter. :)

Danielle Kingston Fry 1 year ago

Number 1. All.the.focking.way.

Vanessa Lane 1 year ago

#1! This is my 18th year with a kid in school. My middle child is starting high school and my youngest of the 3 will be a 2nd grader. After being president & vice president of the PTO and volunteering for just about everything, I’m not raising my hand this year except to help in my daughter’s class. She’s my last and I want to enjoy it!

Danielle Hooker 1 year ago

Ana ^^ just because we like our own kids does not mean we have to like kids in general… also other moms. Id rather people I have things in common with than the mere fact we have kids the same age. Took years to figure that out…

Donna Giersdorf-Thompson 1 year ago

No Fundraisers! I have set aside money from our tax refund to contribute to whatever needs contributing to for our three children. My children will not be used as a marketing tool /free sales force for a for-profit company that peddles over-priced junk no one wants or needs and gives the school maybe 40% if they are lucky. And I will not burden my already overloaded brain with trying to remember who ordered what and when and where I have to deliver it.

One exception – I do like fundraisers where the kids provide a valuable and needed service. For instance – Saturday babysitting service at the school in December so I can go Christmas shopping. Or leaf racking in the fall. I love these kinds of fundraisers and will happily encourage my kids to participate when they are old enough.

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    Chris 1 year ago

    Amen sister!!!

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Rebecca Halley Starks 1 year ago

Number 1. – last sentence hilarious! I am 42, and leave the bus stop 3 of 5 mornings to go to yoga class!!

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Ann Carter 1 year ago

Love this!!!

Carolyn Pleasance 1 year ago

Melissa, I am nodding along with you like a bobble head. Might I ask what podcasts your son likes? I’m the mom of an 8 yo boy, I need to stay 1 step ahead!

Kim Chase Fulton 1 year ago

Feeling you on number one for sure!

Ana Lyman 1 year ago

Hahaha!!! I was born in ’84, but I want to skip out on volunteering as well. I adore my children, but the mass majority of other kids (with just a few exceptions) I want to avoid like the plague. I don’t like other kids.

Andi Piscatella 1 year ago

My daughter has been solely responsible for her morning routine since she hit the 6th grade. I don’t wake her up, check her backpack or fix her breakfast. And she rides her bike to school AFTER I’ve left for work, so she needs to make sure she gets there on time.

    Lizard 1 year ago

    That’s awesome! I love the idea of making your kids take ownership of their lives at an early (but appropriate) age. I bet your daughter is a very confident young woman.

Kim Bristow Dilloway 1 year ago

#4 is a HUGE pet peeve!

Stormy Miller 1 year ago

Nailed it!

Traci Dunn Martin 1 year ago

So much #1! I’m going to yoga!

Tracy Ruth 1 year ago

Standing ovation for #1!!!

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Christine NK 1 year ago

I love #5. I’m so over school with my older two, but I need to remember its all new to the youngest one.

Jessica Kite McKinzie 1 year ago

I’m only 31 yrs old, with only one kid, who’s only going 2nd grade and I’m already all over #1 big time!!!! Much kudos to those of you with more than! Bless you so much! Enjoy the

Kim Sunshyne 1 year ago

I am sooooo #1!

Jackie Doerner 1 year ago

For the love of all things sacred, #3, parents. NUMBER freaking 3. As a former HS teacher, I saw more kids broken and demoralized by not living up to or being burdened by parental egos. My children are not me (Lord is that true) and I don’t expect them to teach French and ESL and have their Masters. I DO want them to love their jobs as much as I do. (Oh and be able to support their own backsides someday)

Kirsten Blom-Westbrook 1 year ago

Amen to #5. My baby is 6. My LAST baby. I am DONE..but he ISN”T…so I will have to find the energy to survive it all again!

Sarah Faber Jones 1 year ago

Prepare for #3! Biggest heartbreak yet as a mom, but it is her life!

Rebecca Wilber 1 year ago

Since i work outside the home my kids now have to get ready on their own. They are middle school/high school. When they know no one is jumping on them all the time, they get it done. And if they DARE get a tardy, i have threatened to walk them to school with no bra, no makeup and walk them to each class and announce they are not tardy. Yup 3 years now, no tardy’s.

    Stephanie Droegemueller 1 year ago

    I LOVE THIS IDEA so stealing it!!

Linda Everingham Taylor 1 year ago

Gratefully, number 5 is in my rear view mirror!

Rachel Ramirez 1 year ago

#1! You don’t want me to volunteer anyways, and I’ll tell the teacher where she can shove the three hours a night of kindergarten homework.

Ruthie Hummel Mohney 1 year ago

Love them all!!!!

Cristine Wallace 1 year ago

#1 all day! Im 34 with 6 kids. My oldest is going in to 8th and my youngest is starting pre-k this year….im burnt out….

    Amy 1 year ago

    I feel ya! Hitting 34 this year and lo are 17,15,14,5, and 2! And to make matters worse, I’m a teacher!!!! I will smile for all of the field trips, plays, and monotonous hum drum of elementary again.

Melanie Lynn 1 year ago

Lol!!!!! ^^^

Melanie Lynn 1 year ago

As a teacher, I beg parents to stick to #4. It’s their project. I need to see the child’s level of understanding and effort, not yours…..but I do thoroughly appreciate your involvement in your child’s education. Believe me! :)

    MamaTeach 1 year ago

    Totally! When I assign ‘take home projects’ the handwritten worksheet, in class speech, in-class quiz, and the diorama/poster/project are each worth the same value. I always shake my head at how much parents do for their kids and get an evil giggle when they start to figure out that the kid that did his own diorama with construction paper and crayons earned the same 10 points as mom’s hand-carved clay models wearing intricately stitched clothing. Be an involved parent, don’t be the student! I’m sure you’ve done it before!

    towerofshelly 1 year ago

    I would add that it is quite sad that teachers do not update their methods/assignments such that this situation even occurs.

    Erin Pender Thomson 1 year ago

    Helping shouldn’t mean doing the project. However, schools are quite fond of assigning projects that cannot possibly be accomplished by the child alone. This is a major change from when I was a kid. It was then considered embarrassing for a kid to have let their parent do it instead of doing it on their own.

      Kristy 1 year ago

      OMG I totally agree! Every time my daughter gets a project, she practically has a nervous breakdown! They can be so difficult….even for me. I feel so bad for her that I end up helping her. :-(

Harriet 1 year ago

I love this, and I’m only 29… especially #5. Way to go for making your fourth child still feel special!

Sarah Fritz-Maldonado 1 year ago

So guilty of #4


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