THE FIRST TRIMESTER:
— You’ll probably develop carpal tunnel syndrome from spending over an hour a day on Google trying to figure out if those niggling pains in your pelvic area that you’ve been feeling for a few days are period cramps, or possibly (OMG!!!) pregnancy symptoms… Then you’ll google “carpal tunnel” and “pregnancy” to see if there’s a correlation.
— Even if you’re TTC, chances are, you’ll be smoking a cigarette or drinking a glass of wine a day or two before you find out you’re pregnant.
— You’ll be secretly thrilled to have an excuse not to suck in your tummy. But until you start looking pregnant, you’ll just look a little bloated.
— Transvaginal ultrasounds are bionic dildos sheathed in condoms and squirted with a lot of lube. It’s like a sci-fi porno starring your cervix
— There’s an unspoken rivalry between women who puke and women who don’t.
— Unless you wear a big old sign that says “Hi, I’m pregnant!” people will assume you had a boob job.
— Hormones are no joke, and should be a valid defense if you cut the bitch who took your parking space in front of Krispy Kreme.
— You will hold your breath until you cross the First Trimester finish line.
THE SECOND TRIMESTER:
— You’ll spend at least 20 minutes a day looking at your profile in any full-length reflective surface you can find. You will celebrate when your belly”pops.” But really, you still just look bloated.
— The hormone defense should still hold water when your partner brings the wrong kind of ice cream home from the supermarket.
— You will have crazy-intense dreams. And not flying-with-unicorns-over-
— The first time you think you feel your baby move, it’s probably just gas.
— At the 20 week ultrasound, all babies look like Voldemort.
— There comes a time in (almost) every pregnant woman’s life when she fantasizes about her OBGYN or midwife.
— Maternity bras are fugly.
— Bellabands are da bomb.
— There’s (another) unspoken rivalry between women who want to know the sex of their baby, and dumbasses women who don’t.
— Your nipples will change color and may even leak.
— You’ll fart your way through the Second Trimester.
THE THIRD TRIMESTER:
— That shit they make you drink to test for Gestational Diabetes will make you swear off sugar for a day. But if you have a choice between Orange or Yellow, drink Yellow.
— Sex becomes an elaborate game of naked twister.
— Cocoa Butter does not prevent stretchmarks. Save your money.
— You aren’t glowing. You’re just really sweaty and oily from the hormones.
— Getting off the couch will become a test in heroics. But it will serve as a training exercise for your marathon walk down the candy aisle at the Supermarket.
— By now, all some of your friends are tired of the belly pics you’re posting on Facebook.
— Around this time, you’re going to start buying a ton of Mozart CDS and wooden toys made by magical elves in Scandanavia. And you will judge the shit out of real parents. You know, those with actual kids that are on the outside who blast Gangsta rap and let their babies play with matches and plastic toys made in China.
— During the final stretch, if your OB/ or midwife checks your cervix during a Braxton Hicks contraction, you will want to kick him or her. But, since your legs are in stirrups, you’ll just look like a moose on iceskates. And then, you’ll probably fart because you’re (still) gassy.
— You may feel like a (gassy) beached whale, but you’re beautiful. Really and truly, you are.
— Your mucous plug looks like your vag hocked a giant loogie.
— If you want to go into labor by your due date, don’t pack an overnight bag, don’t shave your legs, don’t get a pedicure, and for GODSAKE, don’t wear clean underwear.
— You will want to die.
— You will want to kill the
Motherfucking piece of shit ratbastard asshole person who “did this to you.“
— You will scream and kick and possibly shit yourself. More than once.
— At some point, you will realize that you can do this. And you will.
— Pitocin is not satanic, but it will make you bleed more.
— At some point, you may offer to fuck an anesthesiologist in exchange for a quick epidural. Just because birth is natural and women have been doing this for thousands of years does not mean you have to skip out on pain management. Remember, this is your body.
— If you feel like you need to, well, um, have a long meeting in the bathroom with a newspaper (ahem), then it’s probably time to push.
— The laws of Stockholm Syndrome dictate that you will fall in love with at least one person in the Labor and Delivery room. And that person will not be your partner.
— All the olive oil and perineal massages in the world will not prevent you from tearing. And if you didn’t tear, then I hate you. You probably didn’t get stretch marks, or puke, or want to know the sex of your baby either.
— No words or metaphor can adequately describe the sweet relief you feel once your baby comes corkscrewing out of you.
And yes, it’s all worth it. (Especially the um, vivid dreams in the Second Trimester.)