#FatSideStories reminds us body-shaming is everywhere
Using the phrase #FatSideStories, men and women have been sharing the things that only people who carry more weight than others endure. Thanks predominantly to the actions of others, there is a bunch of shit people who others deem “overweight” are constantly up against.
People who consider themselves fat or overweight, or who society has labeled as such, wrote about some of their most private moments online. Their experiences further highlight how body shaming is hurtful and completely unnecessary.
Having to spend twice as much on a single item of clothing because it’s labeled plus sized. #FatSideStories
— Sarah (@Sarahsayspanic) August 11, 2016
Not cool, clothing companies.
Being told by a former boss that I needed to work on my appearance or I’d never get promoted #FatSideStories
— Amy Gaskins (@AmyVGaskins) August 11, 2016
True story – I’ve had at least one boss that only hired people who had been athletes in high school or college. I was told they had more drive as if there’s no other way to prove dedication and hard work than through sports. Those A’s didn’t earn themselves.
Fearing a job interview because you know they will take your weight in count even if they will never admit. #fatsidestories
— Giuliana (@Giulleone) August 11, 2016
When men hold the door for the thinner woman in front of you, but let it close on you, even if you’re just 2 feet away. #FatSideStories
— Xan Sprouse (@udanax19) August 11, 2016
Good manners have nothing to do with someone’s size. Being nice to people because of how they look makes you an asshole.
Society: Be confident! People are attracted to confidence!
Society: Fat people are not attractive, who would love them?#FatSideStories
— Andrew Crowley (@JumpinJackFlask) August 11, 2016
Can we all agree that the second sentence must be eliminated from our conversations?
#fatsidestories being told “You’re not fat, you’re beautiful” because fat is SO synonymous with being ugly you can’t possibly be both
— Lottie L’Amour ✨ (@Lottie_Lamour) August 10, 2016
And don’t ever think that you can be beautiful, pretty, or cute and also fat.
Oh, we’re sharing stories about dating/relationships while fat? “You could be so cute if you just lost some weight” x 1000. #FatSideStories
— Louis Peitzman (@LouisPeitzman) August 10, 2016
Did everyone’s moms not teach them that our differences – the fact that we aren’t all the same – is what makes us beautiful? That’s okay if the message didn’t make it through, we’re all adults now. It’s time we treat each other with some respect and not do horrific shit like this:
Taking pictures of the fat person minding their business at the gym to make fun of them #FatSideStories
— Team Mystic Thot (@SourceDuMal) August 9, 2016
These acts of cruelty aren’t just heartbreaking to read. Some of the stories show dangerous situations can occur was someone is constantly bombarded with messages about how they’re not good enough.
Being told by my sister to be grateful to the man who groped me on the bus, because I need the attention. #FatSideStories
— Nonbinary Nonfiction (@applewriter) August 9, 2016
Sexual harassment is never okay.
Feeling like you need to stay in an abusive relationship because you feel like you wont find anyone else who will love you #FatSideStories
— Elsa Snow ❄️ (@elsamtzc) August 11, 2016
No one should ever feel trapped in a terrible situation.
Or feel pushed to harm themselves.
Developing an eating disorder at 15 and losing a lot of weight and being told to “keep up the good work” #FatSideStories
— Mika Woodby (@MikalenaFosho) August 11, 2016
These were hard to read and that’s nothing compared to living through these experiences. These brave folks shared the nightmares they’ve endured to remind us all to cut the shit. It’s up to us to listen and, more importantly, treat one another better.