Why Mothers Should Embrace Grandparents Day

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My Mother’s Day this year was fine, even somewhat fun. I volunteer the second Sunday of every month at my church, watching the three to six year olds, so I had to be there by 9AM. Afterwards, we had a picnic lunch and a short hike at a local winery. The weather was beautiful. I did a load of laundry and packed a salad for myself and one for my mom, all before heading to church.

Then I started seeing photos of friends on Facebook who were having elaborate Mother’s Day weekend celebrations. Whole weekends celebrating motherhood while I had to share half a day with my mom. And I got pissed.

I already share my bed, my meals, my bathroom time – heck, all of my time – with the kids. And, in return, I should get one full day that really is all about me. But then, I have a mother, too.

I have quite a few friends whose mothers have already passed away. Others still whose mothers live far away or who just can’t be bothered to spend time with their daughters and grandchildren. And I am truly grateful for mine and she certainly deserves to be celebrated.

But, wouldn’t it be better if we each got a special day? At least while I’m still the one wiping my kids’ butts?

Turns out Grandparents Day is September 7 this year. I had to Google it because I knew there was one, I just didn’t know when. Grandparents Day is relatively new, and was officially declared by Congress in 1978. Well, I think it’s about time it got its due.

I’ve added a to-do item on my phone to work with my kids’ schools this August to make crafts for Grandparents Day. The year will still be fresh, and the kids, not having just celebrated Teacher and Staff Appreciation Week and struggling with end of the year burn out, will be happy to oblige.

And then next year, I’m going to switch my volunteer day at church so I don’t have to volunteer on Mother’s Day, AKA the day that will be all about me.

Are you with me, fellow mommies?

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  1. 1

    says

    Wait, what? A grandparents day because you don’t want to “share” Mother’s Day? Sorry, but that’s ridiculous. Stop comparing your holidays to the “elaborate” celebrations of others- it will make you much happier. Besides, they are only posting the highlight reel any way.

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    says

    That Grandmother is also a Mom and she, too, would probably like some form of gift. My mother’s day consisted of some sweet art pieces from my kiddos and a Starbucks gift card from my *gasp* MIL…. Works for me….

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    says

    How can you ” like” this post??? This is the most Ridiculous!!!!! Spoiled and self-centered thing I have ever heard!!! ‘You are lucky enough to have a living mother..who lives close enough to spend time with and your annoyed your not center stage… ??? Unless you hatched…which is highly possible after reading this nonsense.. the women that gave birth to you..raised you..guided you and LOVED you is deserving of being celebrated on mother’s day too. Regardless off who’s as s you have to wipe!!!

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    We do both. We only get one mommy so share it with her, one day she will be gone and your kids will have elaborate dates for you. You have time to have that day to yourself. As for grandparents day it’s an extra day to shower your mom and dad with love for putting up with u and your kids lol. I say that with love. Enjoy them daily and give a little extra on mothers day, fathers Day and grandparents day.

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    Grandparents day is good to celebrate. But because they (both your father as well as your mother, if he is in the picture) are your children’s grandparents.
    If it is difficult to share mother’s day with your mom, (as I well understand because I too have Sunday morning duties) , she may well be okay with doing something for/with her on Saturday.
    Hope grandparents day goes well for you! Remember Father’s Day in June! :)

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  6. 8

    says

    Umm wut? Why should a grandparent have a fathers/mothers day AND grandparents day? That’s a bit excessive. How about not be a brat on a holiday celebrating MOTHERS and spend some time with your mother and children? Sounds more like the author is jealous of other people’s weekend festivities. We did absolutely nothing in mother’s day. I sent my own mom flowers and gave her a phone call. Mothers day is about celebrating your mom. Not yourself. Jeez can you be any more entitled?

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  7. 9

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    Don’t listen to these people. Having a day that is for your kids to celebrate you is NOT selfish, and making a big deal of grandparents day is a great way to both have that AND give your parents (and/or your husband’s) a special day of their own. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still give your mom a present, call, card, etc – but you are your children’s mother, and Mother’s Day should be about you and them! I actually already started this last year – we spent all grandparents day with my husband’s parents, made them dinner, gave presents… and we grilled with them the Saturday night of Mother’s Day weekend, but Mother’s Day was for me and my husband and son. It was lovely.

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    I am Joanna Kaniewski’s mother, and I agree with her. I know how very much she loves me, and she shows me that on a regular basis. But this year *she* was a mom, too, and I was not so ridiculously selfish as to expect Mother’s Day to be all about me. This one was suppose to be about her. I wanted her to start the tradition of celebrating her motherhood with her new little family. Because I had her entire childhood to celebrate mine. I feel like I am explaining this badly, but the moms with little kids needs more celebrating than I do. My job is done. I am just having fun now. I have been rewarded with Grandkids.

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  9. 17

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    I have always done an elaborate brunch for my mom & MIL, but this year each one got their own day & I took a relaxing Sunday all to myself with my husband & little boy & it was fabulous. We took each one to do an activity that they both would live & I made them each a beautiful picnic. We all got to relax & feel appreciated. Nothing wrong with that!

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  10. 18

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    Did anyone who wrote such negative and berating comments read this line? “I have quite a few friends whose mothers have already passed away. Others still whose mothers live far away or who just can’t be bothered to spend time with their daughters and grandchildren. And I am truly grateful for mine and she certainly deserves to be celebrated” Can we not tear each other down?? Good grief. This was my first Mother’s Day without my mom and I miss her tremendously. But every year I was conflicted between wanting to be with her on Mother’s Day, which meant travel and lots of work for me, and staying home to let my little family spoil me. Sometimes we visited on Mother’s Day, sometimes we didn’t. Whether we did or didn’t had no effect on how much I loved my mom, and she knew that.

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    says

    One of my favorite things about Mother’s Day is getting the generations of mothers together. It’s about rejoicing in the heritage of motherhood, and being thankful for the mothers still with us in our family. Of course, as the mom who is “active duty”, my family goes more out of their way to give me a break for the day, but the “retired” moms get cards and gifts too, because without them, I’d literally not be a mom at all. If you want a day just about you, throw yourself a birthday party.

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  12. 21

    Heidi says

    So funny that you wrote this because I had the exact same thought on Sunday. Until my epiphany I had always thought Grandparents Day was a useless, commercially driven holiday; but now I’m completely for it. Thanks for posting this!

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      AM says

      I agree – let’s see how she feels when her children are grown and ignore her on Mother’s Day. This is one of the most selfish and immature things I have ever read. Are you 14 years old? Good god.

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