A mom takes to Instagram to show off her real postpartum body
Haddas Ancliffe is a 21-year-old mother and blogger who lives in Australia. She recently got a lot of attention for posting a gorgeous image of herself breastfeeding her son in a flawless dress at her sister’s wedding.
“Gotta do what you gotta do, wedding or not. #normalizebreastfeeding,” she writes.
The image has been widely shared, because it’s absolutely gorgeous. It’s almost impossible not to browse through her other images, because her family is so adorable. And when you do, you’ll come across some other gems: Ancliffe sharing images of her real postpartum body.
Here’s an image that might make people uncomfortable! When I shopped for this particular bikini one of the sales ladies told me that I needed to start drinking soy milk and recommended some cream to tighten the skin on my tummy. Now I know she was just being kind and thought she was being helpful but the whole idea that someone offering me ways to change myself could be a kind gesture, really annoys me. First of all – I don’t have a problem with my saggy tummy. Second of all – no body else should have a problem with my saggy tummy Today I went to the beach with a mommy friend of mine and we talked about our stretch marks and imbalanced breasts and all the rest of that body changing goodness, and she mentioned to me that one day we had spent together I had worn a crop top and so she felt confident to start wearing them (it’s also waaaay easier to breastfeed in them). That to me was an amazing thing! So starting now, I’m going to post lots of saggy, stretchy tummy pictures, in hopes that in some way it would make it easier for others to feel comfortable in their skin ✌️ A photo posted by Haddas Ancliffe (@dahs) on
“When I shopped for this particular bikini one of the sales ladies told me that I needed to start drinking soy milk and recommended some cream to tighten the skin on my tummy,” she writes. “First of all – I don’t have a problem with my saggy tummy. Second of all – no one else should have a problem with my saggy tummy.” She decided then to start showing off her “saggy, stretchy tummy” in hopes that it would make others “feel comfortable in their skin.”
Our bodies go through so much and change so much after children. And it doesn’t matter what size you are, you are never immune to self doubt when it comes to body image. Ancliffe has a body most women would kill for: it doesn’t take away her right to have feelings about the changes she’s gone through. You don’t have to be overweight or unfit to carry doubt about the way you look. Weight has absolutely nothing to do with accepting what you see in the mirror. If it did, eating disorders wouldn’t exist. Body image issues wouldn’t exist. We don’t always see what the rest of the world sees. Her images show that all women may have parts of themselves that others regard as “imperfect,” and that they have to put a conscious effort into loving.
Hello body, I haven’t appreciated you much lately but I do love you, I am proud of you too. One day if we have another child, you’re going to change again but don’t worry, you’ll still be beautiful! Just like every other body, you are full of wonder and worthy of love. Thanks for keeping me alive after all I’ve put you through, I promise I’ll take care of you and feed you lots of good food to show you my gratitude. With love, your tenant ❤️
No woman should be left out of the body positivity conversation. The focus on body is exhausting — for all women. Ancliffe reminds us to love what we have — and that’s an important message.
#mombod ✊ Images of young women in bikinis flood our Instagram feeds daily. Sexual, near naked, provocative pictures that get a lot of attention and make other women who don’t look the same feel inadequate. Well here’s a different kind of provocative image for your feed. An image that says, my body is stretched, sagging and uneven but I’m still attractive. You don’t stop looking good in a bikini once you have kids, you just look like a different kind of good. When your body no longer looks like the Instagram bikini model and you have a mom bod, be proud! Put on your bikini and belly chain, do your best Kylie Jenner in the pool pose and be proud that your child thinks you’re the most beautiful person in the world… That’s all that matters anyway. #motherhood A photo posted by Haddas Ancliffe (@dahs) on
“When your body no longer looks like the Instagram bikini model and you have a mom bod, be proud!” Even those of us who never had an Instagram bikini body can relate to this kind of pure positivity. This is a message we all need to hear.