I Am My Mother. And….


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We’ve all done it.

“Don’t run with scissors!” And you clap your hand over your mouth the instant the words are out.

You have become your mother.

I knew it had happened to me when I told one of my kids to be sure they were wearing clean underwear in case they got hit by a truck.

What the…?

Upon further reflection, however, I’ve come to realize I have become not just my mother, but many women.

Remember watching the movie Sybil when you were a kid? How Sally Field had a couple dozen “personalities” living inside her, each coming out when he or she was most needed? Well, same thing here. Not to disrespect those suffering the affliction of Multiple Personality Disorder. I’m just sayin’, many hands make light work of this parenting game.

Most of the personalitites I channel are Moms from TV or the movies. Some are not even Moms, but I still need them. I pull them out of my neurological wallet and channel them as the situation mandates.

I am my mother and…

1) Martha Stewart. I call on Martha anytime one of my kids has a school project due in 12 hours. With her composed assistance I am able to procure styrofoam balls, hot glue, and sequins from me arse, and help them to craft a Nobel-worthy creation.

2) Carol Brady. There’s nothing about her I really need. I’ll admit it: I’m jealous. She is a stay-at-home Mom of six (check) with a handsome, professional husband and a lovely home (check) with full-time domestic help (no check). I want an Alice! If I had an Alice I could float through the house with perfect make-up, nails and dress, while Alice took care of the cooking and cleaning so I could tend to Marsha’s broken nose or try to discern if Greg is telling the truth about those cigarettes in his pocket. My right arm for an Alice. My firstborn for an Alice. Seriously. Someone get me an Alice.

3) Gloria Pritchett. (from Modern Family) I wah uh kih-er bah-ee. Sorry, I was eating a Ring Ding. Lemme try again: I want a killer body.

4) Minnie (from The Help) With a can of Crsico in hand, Minnie could rule the world. She could fry up a chicken, get a tangle out of someone’s hair, and quiet that squeaky hinge.

5) Roseanne Connor. I sometimes need Roseanne’s tell-it-like-it-is mouth, with no PC filter. Problem is, she usually shows up late and I end up telling someone off in my head on the drive home. We need to work on coordinating our timing.

6) Nurse Ratched. (from One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest) OK, not a Mom, but nevertheless. I want her cool, quiet, composure while all hell is breaking loose around her. “Mr. Cheswick, sit down. I will answer your question when you are calm. Are you calm now, Mr. Cheswick?”

7) Shirley Partridge. I need her when it’s time to get all the kids someplace. Now, the psychadelic bus helps, to be sure, but anyone who can get five kids out the door and to a gig on time has got my vote for having it all together. Plus, she can solve any of the kid’s problems by singing a song. Nice, as abilities go.

8) Morticia Addams. Let’s face it, she looks fabulous in black, and she runs her family smoothly, all while keeping just enough of a kooky edge about the place. Non-conformity rules!

9) Ree Drummond. Aka The Pioneer Woman. Aka PW. Who wouldn’t want a healthy dose of Ree in her mental make-up? She’s the effortless homeschooling mother of four little ranch-hands and the adorable wife to one gorgeous hunk of cowboy. She writes, she cooks, she makes it all look easy. When she comes out in me, she makes me chocolate sheet cake and iced coffee in a mason jar and I love her.

Oh dear. What is this? I only have nine women on my list and that’s just all lopsided and uneven and yucky. Someone please! Suggest a 10th for me. I must have 10 women in my multiple personalities file. Otherwise my OCD will throw a tantrum.


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  1. 3

    Jadzia@Toddlerisms says

    Edith Bunker. Not as daffy as she appeared to be at first glance. Loved her flawed family with all of her heart, but grew into her voice and was able to tell them straight-on when they were wrong. Stood up to her husband when she wanted to keep working at the Sunshine Home. Let poor Mr. Klemmer down easy.

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    Mama Melch says

    I like to channel Kitty Foreman from That 70’s Show, because that woman always knows when it is time to pour a drink, put her feet up, and send in Red!!

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    OHN says

    Victoria Beckham. She wears killer clothes, has more hired help than she knows what to do with, jet-sets all over the world and gets to witness David slowly lifting his exquisite physique out of one of their pools every day….not to mention what else she gets to do with him.

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    Kate in Ohio says

    I am always channeling Frankie from “The Middle”. Just barely keeping it together, but she always gets the job done. When I was little I thought I would be June Cleaver. I guess that is just one more of the shocking realities of life.

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    • 18

      Anne Kimball says

      I don’t want to channel her b/c I think I’m too much like her already. She gets frazzled. Unlike me, though, like you said, she generally gets it done.

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    MommaC says

    That was hilarious and I totally relate to it… Scary Mommy would be my suggestion to balance the scales. Gotta have a nice even number! Also, I kinda snorted and choked on my coffee, while reading this one, so thanks!

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    Sarah Negovetich says

    Sign me up for a dash of Maria from the Sound of Music. She has the stamina to sing while running up a mountain and can make dresses from anything. Plus, she helped her family escape Austria. Not too shabby. Great post, Anne. MNINB rocks!

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    Anne Kimball says

    Yes, yes, yes to Maria! She and Scarlett O’Hara could get together and open up a boutique (well, not so much Scarlett. Maybe Mammy). Good one! Thanks Sarah!

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    Sarah May says

    What about Bree (Desperate Housewives)? Always able to rustle up some muffins in every crisis (even when she’s drunk) and her house always looks like she has 15 people cleaning it (mine on the other hand looks like 15 people are dumping on it – although there are only 6 of us).

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    Cate8 says

    Peg Bundy— then I can finally smoke inside. (JK)
    Seriously I would need the Dad from Cheaper by the Dozen (the old version) That whistle would come in handy here with 8 kids….well 3 down 5 to go…(to Adulthood)

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      Anne Kimball says

      I don’t think I knew there was an older version of Cheaper by the Dozen. I only know the Steve Martin one. But I have to admit, I have used his line ‘em up routine when I need to give them all “The Lecture”. Very effective.

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    Vera. says

    Maria, from the Sound of Music. the way she was managing all those 7 kids _and_ the Captain, even without noticing she’s doing it!… and all her singing, sewing, directing dance-and-sing performances with freshly-taught how to sing kids…

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    Judes says

    The mom that can get her teenage daughters through anything and still hold her self together emotionally. That is the mom I want. Not sure who in the entertainment world fits. Maybe Clair from Modern Family. Maybe not, she uses wine to cope, which most of us do anyways.

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    Cynthia says

    The Mom from Brothers and Sisters. Nora Walker is the solid foundation upon which that family was built and grows. Proof that a solid foundation can get a family through anything.

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      Anne Kimball says

      Shoot, Cynthia, now you’ve added something to my To-Do list, b/c I want to go watch Brothers and Sisters now. Haven’t seen it. But I couldn’t agree with you more on the solid foundation thing. Like my grandmother. Can’t believe I didn’t put HER on my list!

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        Cynthia says

        You have to watch it. So sad it’s over. Was really a great show, and while I can’t relate with being as good off as the Walker family is, the family dynamic is really the same for everyone. I come from a large family and I could totally relate to the chaos and rumor mill. But having a family you can count on is truly priceless and that’s what Nora really strives for with her family. To really get through to her kids that family is the most important thing in life. Gosh, I really miss it now!

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      momofteengirls says

      I am basically Mrs. Heffly from the Diary of a Whimpy Kid Movies. When the kids were younger I was always coming up with methods for behavior and chores that involved charts and rewards, always teaching some kind of lesson about kindness, etc., (like mom-bucks). The kids pretty much know that I am a teacher/lecturer/life coach type of mom, and I hate hate hate punishing, and usually offer redemptive ways to avoid doing it.
      I had to laugh about the nurse Ratched comment. I use this at work all of the time, in working with behaviorally challenged children : ”Mr. Cheswick, sit down. I will answer your question when you are calm. Are you calm now, Mr. Cheswick?”
      This made me laugh because that”s exactly what I sound like!!

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