Dear Internet: We Need a Break

I have a confession: I’m a social media attention whore.

I need my entire family publicly alluding to the fact that my kids are the cutest they’ve ever seen. I need my random Facebook friends that I haven’t talked to in 10 years to wonder why their kids don’t read yet and my 4-year old does. I need constant social media displays of my kids grinning beautifully through the best, most flattering filters Instagram has to offer.

What the hell is wrong with me that I can’t enjoy a simple moment with my family without running to the iPhone to document and share?

Of course this cheapens the moment.

While it will be nice to have a house full of wonderful pictures to show my adult children in 20 years, I worry that the only actual childhood memories they will have will be of a camera obsessed crazy mother (“Calvin, I will give you FIVE cookies if you fucking smile for this picture with your brother!”).

I also worry that my kids will not have any recollection of a life without technology. I live in fear that my 4-year old is viewing life through the lens of cheesy YouTube videos while my husband and I remain glued to our iDevices. I am pretty sure that we are all missing out on some very important quality time because of our addiction to iCrack.

I think we need a Digital Detox.

I’m talking about a full weekend of no cameras, phones, iPads, computers, etc. My family will go off the grid for 48 hours and actually relate to one another.

I bet the baby will wonder who I am without that little shiny black box attached to my fingertips. I bet my kids are even more annoying when I can’t tune them out and crush a little candy for a minute. Oh God, what will I do while I’m breastfeeding?! It’s so boring!

I suspect that my family is pretty amazing and I’ve been missing out. My husband is probably a really interesting person with hilarious things to say. Isn’t this why we started dating in the first place? I think people barely texted back in 2005 so we must have gotten to know each other somehow.

My kids are also probably awesome and I bet I can realize this myself without turning to the Internet to validate my suspicions.

There is also a chance that if something goes slightly amiss we have the ability to figure out a solution without our good pal Google and thus strengthen our bond as a family.

Maybe when the weekend is over I can reevaluate my relationship with technology. Maybe we can find a healthy place to meet in the middle.

So that’s the plan and I’m sticking to it. I’ll (literally) pencil in the weekend on the calendar on the fridge, right after I buy this awesome LivingSocial photo deal real quick…

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About the writer

Stephanie is a full-time work-at-home-mom who currently lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina.  She spends her days teaching English, learning Spanish and rocking out with her 2 little boys.  She loves smiling, laughing, dancing and traveling.  Until she overcomes her unhealthy fear of criticism and publishes her blog, you can find her rambling and over-sharing pictures of her children on Facebook.


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Jessie N Jesse Criado 1 year ago

Well I could but I would be in Hell… I do everything from home.. I been out of school for 3+ years (so much for a short brake) with 5 banking… my emails.. my family social time.. my shopping…

CM 1 year ago

I had a friend in college that wild always say, “I prefer not to be the person behind the camera in my life; I’d rather be the one living in the moment like at the cats in the photo.” Cheers to you, smart man.

Linda G 1 year ago

I was thinking the same thing today. I have so many things to do, I want to do, and yet here I am again, on the computer, trolling SM, reading blogs, playing games….

Valerie Ann 1 year ago

We did this on our honeymoon! Only downside is not having pics of our stay lol. I’d love to do it again!

Barbara Mastroddi-Lackey 1 year ago

It would be hard, but I’ve taken social media breaks (if not entirely shut myself off from the Internet, only checking e-mails, and even then, have done that for maybe a day).

Jessica Ottinger 1 year ago

The part about taking pictures. I remember before having digital I went through tons of take and toss cameras and reg old 35 mm film so my obsession has actually been easier to maintain but I do feel like it cheapens the experiences. I also am so use to having Pinterest to give me ideas for crafts and activities that I’m not sure I could have an original idea any more.

Whitney Shaffer 1 year ago

I did it for a whole week while in Japan. It was nice

Bridgette Jordin Poper 1 year ago

No, i need it for school. (online classes)

Catherine Ann 1 year ago

Done it before….multiple times….can do it again

Kaycie Catterson Butcher 1 year ago

Spent 4 days in a camper with no phone or anything. It was great!

Ana Rodriguez-Arce 1 year ago

Went a whole month without it. Took a trip with my daughter, and only communicated with my hubby via landline phone. It felt great. Liberating!!

BeeMoney 1 year ago

As much as the first few paragraphs made me go “oh for f’s sake” I think I should at least commend you for being honest. When I say that many moms I know are seeking that kind of validation, I’m usually accused of being mean. At least you’re owning it! I hope the detox works out and you are able to throw that damn phone off a cliff (or at least into another room?) while you hang out with your family.

Wilma Rodriguez-Linton 1 year ago

Away from cell phones, internet, tv, voice mail, snail mail, landlines…B L I S S

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