This mom is living the “fed is best” life by using formula and breastmilk
Whether you choose to breastfeed your babies or formula feed your babies, there’s one thing we should all be able to agree on: keeping up with the demand of hungry babies is hard, period. No one proves this statement better than mom Maya Vorderstrasse.
Her latest Instagram post shows there is more than one right way to feed a baby.
I will tell you a little about my journey. I always dreamed I would breastfeed my child as long as I could. I've seen so many beautiful and amazing journeys through the bonding and comfortIng experience that it is. I breastfed my first daughter until she was 6 months old, and I loved all of it. It was our time together, so special…and no one could take that from me. I got pregnant when she was 2 months old and by the time she was almost 6 months old, my milk was gone, dried up, like, it disappeared. I felt my heart shatter, and the guilt consumed me. We had to start bottle feeding and I thought our bond would disappear and that she would think I was not providing for her, until it hit me: nothing had changed. It was still our time, she'd still grab my hair and smile at me with her eyes. She was so happy. Fed. Loved. Now I breastfeed my youngest, but the comfort of knowing that if life throws me a curved ball and I have to stop, or even if I decide to stop, she will be ok. Feeding them is beautiful. Providing for them, seeing them gain weight, grow and smile and be milk drunk makes my heart jump in happiness. So I don't know about your journey, but I can tell you that whatever your choice or circumstance, don't ever feel guilty or like you are inadequate. Ever. Just love them and do the best you can. You're a rockstar. No. Matter. What. Whatever your feeding routine consists of, it is hard being a mother, so let's show support for each other! To me, fed is best. . . Dress by @milkmademarket Braid by @madisonbraids
Vorderstrasse says she always dreamed she’d breastfeed her children “for as long as I could,” but as many moms know all too well, sometimes our bodies have other plans.
“I breastfed my first daughter until she was 6 months old, and I loved all of it,” she writes. “It was our time together, so special…and no one could take that from me.”
Well, no one except another baby, that is. Because even in utero, they can be pretty demanding. (We kid. Kinda.)
If you have 1, 2, 3, even 7 children, pregnant or thinking about it, I want to encourage and lift you up. My parents left to return to my home country and my husband went back to work. I found myself on my living room floor crying and begging God for strength. There were 2 screaming children who needed me, ALL OF ME. I gave myself 30 seconds of vulnerability, and decided that after that, I WOULD SIMPLY DO IT. I put the little one in the carrier, the older one in the stroller and left the house. I walked, walked and walked. All the way I kept envisioning my life 1 year from now, and how different things will be then. I kept repeating to god: "I can do this. I am going to do this. You are going to help me." Over and over. When I came back home, there was no scream that came from them that discouraged me. SO YOU, tired, exhausted, sad, depressed, fragile mother who is struggling, take the DEEPEST breath of your life, and DO NOT allow the chaos and fear TO PARALYZE you and keep you from living the best life you possibly can. So let's make motherhood AWESOME. IF I CAN DO THIS, SO CAN YOU! 💛 . . My @nativewilds Nests are EVERYTHING. They serve as breastfeeding covers, cart covers, blankets, and they have UPF 50… WIN! 😍
“I got pregnant when she was 2 months old and by the time she was almost 6 months old, my milk was gone, dried up, like, it disappeared,” she says. “I felt my heart shatter, and the guilt consumed me.”
Having to let go of something you desperately want to do for your child is awfully hard. It’s difficult enough feeling out of control of our bodies when we’re new moms.
“My inspiration [for the post] came from getting my oldest’s bottle ready while I breastfed my youngest,” Vorderstrasse tells Scary Mommy. “Our story played in my head like a movie and I remembered feeling so sad, guilty and embarrassed for having to stop breastfeeding my oldest. Now I look back and I would not have changed anything. She was always so happy when I fed her a bottle, that I stopped caring about everyone else thought. She was healthy and happy, and so was I!”
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Look, nothing is going to deter a fed baby from feeling happy and satisfied. And absolutely nothing on earth can change the bond between a mother and her baby. Breastmilk gives babies everything they need to eat, grow, and thrive. So does formula — because that’s what it’s designed to do.
Family is giving yourself for each other every day. Your all. The good and the bad. It is forgiving each other and not going to bed angry simply because you love each other so much that the thought of missing a single moment of joy over anger seems foolish. It is putting on a crown, allowing some make up, and dancing with your child. It is hugging your partner after an argument. It is sometimes even being a single mom, and after getting home exhausted, playing with her kid. Family is EVERYTHING, and I sure am proud of mine! 😍 . THIS COUCH IS GOALS. @nuggetcomfort is a couch that comes in four pieces, that allows you to set it up any way you want. You can build forts with your kid, you can use it for sitting, as a bed, you can do endless things! I genuinely love it, and I totally recommend it! 💛
“So I don’t know about your journey,” she concludes in her post. “But I can tell you that whatever your choice or circumstance, don’t ever feel guilty or like you are inadequate. Ever. Just love them and do the best you can. You’re a rockstar. No. Matter. What. Whatever your feeding routine consists of, it is hard being a mother, so let’s show support for each other! To me, fed is best.”
Vorderstrasse says the response to the photo she shared has been “beautiful.”
“Mothers commenting on my post, struggling and feeling ashamed for formula feeding their babies because they couldn’t breastfeed? That’s cruel,” she says. “I am so happy that so many could relate and finally feel better about it. No matter what our choice as a parent is, what matters is that our children are fed and loved. Our journey is unique, and we shouldn’t feel anything but joy.”