Post reminds women to celebrate each other, not tear each other down
Don’t comment on someone’s appearance unless you’re saying something nice. That’s a rule we all abide by, right? It’s not earth-shattering advice: if you are a semi-decent human you don’t say shitty things to someone about the way they look — especially someone you don’t know. One mom recently learned that not everyone knows this rule.
Brynn Huffman probably didn’t give too much thought to the outfit she threw on to run some errands at the UPS store. It was the perfect summer get-up: denim shorts, flip-flops, and a flowy white shirt. She was forced to analyze her choices though, when a woman in line decided to give her some unsolicited “fashion advice.”
Ok here goes. Read this. It’s long. I don’t care. I don’t want sympathy. I don’t want compliments. I want action. Read…
After receiving a nice compliment from the woman in front of her, Huffman decided to pay the good vibes forward by turning around and smiling at the woman behind her. When she made eye contact, the woman said, “Your hair really is amazing.” ::cocks head to side:: “You should probably rethink the shorts though.”
Satan herself flippantly decided to ruin this woman’s day by uttering words that didn’t need to be said. Ever. For a little irony, the woman was wearing a shirt that said, “COEXIST.”
“I turned around and ignored her until I left the store. I wanted to say more but was afraid, of all things, that I would start crying,” Huffman writes. “All I wanted to do was go home and change my clothes. And THAT made me angry.”
“You might have an issue with my body,” she continues. “I don’t. And I’ve worked very hard past judgmental family and friends, past divorce, past depression to NOT have an issue with my body.” Preach, sister.
You have no idea what someone’s going through or where words like that could put them. Having conquered an eating disorder, had two humans sliced from my womb, and battled just the general slowing down of metabolism that comes with aging, I applaud this woman for handling the situation like she did. I wouldn’t have been so graceful.
What’s the deal with women tearing other women down for their clothing choices? If you see someone confidently rocking something you wouldn’t wear because of your own body insecurities — be thrilled for them. The confidence women exude when they feel comfortable in their own bodies is priceless. Catty comments about clothing choices are just fucking ridiculous. If you find yourself making them, take a step back and put some kindness into the universe instead. Applaud women with confidence, don’t tear them down.
She ends her post:
“Women. Do not tear each other down.
Celebrate each other.