The 10 Most Annoying Moms You’ll Meet


annoying moms

At a birthday party last weekend, I got stuck with “That Mom.” Oh, you know the one — the mom you dread seeing at school functions, parties, playgrounds, and park outings? Sure, there are different types of “That Mom,” and different tactics to diffuse her bothersome traits or at least escape them.

Here’s a list of the most annoying moms I’ve come across and how to deal with them. Armed with this knowledge, you’ll be able to avoid them before they trap you, or at least make yourself disappear faster than David Copperfield at a One Direction concert (I don’t have insider info on whether David Copperfield dislikes One Direction… I just imagine he wouldn’t want to be there).

1. PMS Pam: Talking with this “depress-fest” is more sobering than watching an aged Gary Busey perform live. Her weighty chit chat will include talk of diseases that could strike at any time, children who were poisoned by school lunches, and Botox gone horribly, irreversibly wrong. After a few short minutes, you’ll be sucked into an abyss of worry and despair that will have you questioning your safety, your health, and your marriage. Rule of Thumb: Never talk to her alone, as it will take another friend to pull you from the pit (hope that friend comes bearing cocktails)!

2. Fend For Yourself Fran: This mom sees your child as her respite. Your kid is distracting hers, so that she can get a moment of peace, a glass of wine, a few minutes to read “Mommy Porn.” She’s not concerned with what the kids are doing, as long as they’re doing it quietly… and far away. You may come to her house to find your child, miserable, hungry, bruised, or locked in a bathroom, which she will have no explanation for, as she was unaware your child needed supervision… or a glass of water, or a Bandaid, or some protective gear. Rule of Thumb: Always have her kid at your house or send yours over to hers with a survival kit.

3. Know it all Nicole: This mom is like Kris Jenner, but she won’t take your family to Hawaii. She will, however, advise you how to be a better mom and wife, because well, who doesn’t like unsolicited advice on parenting and marriage? She’ll tell you whether you should or shouldn’t vaccinate, how to get your whites their whitest, and why fast food is making your children dumb. Rule of Thumb: If you want her to impart her wisdom elsewhere, bring up a blush-worthy topic like blow jobs. If she doesn’t run for the hills, hear her out — you can never know too much about blow jobs — when she’s done, bring up vibrators.

4. Donna Droner: Talking to Donna will make you wish you had a cyanide pellet. This chatty chick finds every detail of her stories not only imperative, but scintillating — whether she’s describing how she rescheduled her children’s annual checkups, or rattling off her 39-step trick to get discoloration out of grout. Throughout your pow-wow you’ll feign interest and nod politely, while wondering if plastic party knives are strong enough to perform Hari Kari. Rule of Thumb: Take a fake call. If you’re not holding your phone, pick up anything, hold it to your ear and answer it.

5. Braggy Beth: This gal will make you question whether your child is stupid, lazy, or socially inept. No matter what your kid’s accomplishments are, Beth’s kids did it better, and did it earlier. “Your daughter doesn’t know her alphabet yet? Have you had that looked into? I mean, I’m sure she’s fine. It’s just that my Lily is just really advanced. She probably learned it in the womb — I mean, we taught her French in the womb. Does yours speak French yet? Sorry, that was insensitive… she barely speaks English.” Listening to her talk will bring out a shameful side of you that wants to give her perfect little angel the finger. Rule of Thumb: Don’t give her kid the finger… kick her in the shin and run.

6. TMI Tammy: Tammy is like a bad Facebook status in the flesh. She feels that the disgusting details of the ooze in her son’s ear and the consistency of her daughter’s last bowel movement is lunchtime fare. Though you may only know her from “Meet the Teacher Night,” you somehow also know that she has an inverted uterus and hence prefers it doggy style. Rule of Thumb: TMI Tammy can work in details that would make Eminem blush, so stick to “Hi” and “Bye” and NEVER ask how she’s doing.

7. Delusional Denise: DeeDee has no clue what her child is REALLY like. She’s blissfully unaware that her darling offspring, whom you’ve seen suffocate a baby bunny, could do any wrong. If confronted, Denise will emphatically deny that it was her little angel, she’ll explain how it was surely an accident, or she’ll complain that her child always seems to be the scapegoat. Rule of Thumb: Keep yourself your kids and your pets as far away as possible — Denise’s kids are the ones who grow up to be serial killers.

8. Stalky Samantha: Samantha wants your life. She will sidle her way into plans with you. She’ll make sure her kids get close to your kids, sign them up for the same activities, clubs, teams, and classes. She’ll call other people to determine where you are at any given time. Her covert detective skills include frequent drive-bys, constant contact through scouring pictures and updates on social media, and oddly “running into you” like, everywhere. Rule of Thumb: Be careful with this one, as we all know how stalker movies turn out… plus you’re probably convinced she has weird super powers like super hearing or ESP. (Well, that’s just silly because she’s actually a vampire.)

9. Judgy Julie: This delightful mom is assessing your every move. On play dates, she’s estimating how many toys you have in your dining room, the sugar content in your pantry, and when you last dusted your blinds. Her goal is simple: find enough evidence to confirm what she suspected all along: She is better than you. Rule of Thumb: Be careful how much you let Judgy Julie see because she doesn’t keep her verdicts to herself. Yep, the high fructose corn syrup snacks you offered up as team mom could be the talk of the next PTA meeting.

10. Me Me Mimi: “Enough about you, more about Mimi,” is her slogan. “What? Your child is allergic to peanuts and went into anaphylactic shock at school?  I totally know what that’s like. That happens to my little Carly with chocolate. I mean, she’s not allergic, but it does a number on her tummy. Last Halloween she had such a bellyache… as you can imagine, it was awful.” Rule of Thumb: Avoid this time suck at all costs, as even a nod in her direction opens a door for her to tell you more about herself and her family… AND DON’T GET HER STARTED ON HER DELIVERY STORY!

Some days I may fall into at least one of these categories (I mean I had to be a Judgy Judy to write this), but I like to believe those days are few and far between. Of course.


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    You left off my favorite “mom” of all: Furball Fran.

    You know, the “moms” who try to relate to you because they have a dog. And dogs are just like your kids…even going as far as wishing other furmoms a happy mother’s day because, well, dogs are just furry children in disguise…

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      Ganzii says

      Oh my goodness, YES. The dog people who have no children but believe having dogs is the same thing. “Gosh, it’s so hard to get anything done when the dog just wants to play all day!” Seriously? And they steal the funny memes about life with kids and just change them to “life with dogs” and act like it’s the same thing. I want to punch the dog people.

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      NMP says

      Not everyone can have kids. For some folks, their dogs, cats and other companion animals are their kids – because it’s the closest they’ll be able to come. To discount their feelings and the relationship they have with their companion animals is rude and condescending.

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      Lynda says

      I love my cats….. I mean I LOVE my cats….. I talk to them and baby them, etc….. they’re indoor cats so when my oldest got out and disappeared for two weeks, I called for her every night and cried almost every day until she came home……… If one of my CHILDREN disappeared, I would have to be heavily medicated, put on suicide watch, and my life would pretty much cease to function. I know you love your animals……I really do get it, but they AREN’T children…… Please try and understand that.

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    This is brilliant! Let us not forget Susan. Susan is a real person who wears a dslr camera around her neck while holding her video camera to document Every.single.thing. her son does. She’s been thrown off the sidelines at football games for yelling at the coach and refs. She claims she was once a superintendent of schools for a rather large city and the athletic director, so that gives her the knowledge to run all programs for all schools anywhere. Susan rents out an entire pumpkin patch for her kid’s birthday party…for 40 children. Oh I could go on, but one of the best things about moving from that town was not having to see Susan any longer.

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    Jasmine H. says

    You forgot Desperate Debbie! The one who has three or more small children and hasn’t had a meaningful conversation with an adult outside her immediate family in over two years. That’s why I couldn’t find myself on your list…..well, okay, I’m definitely TMI Tammy, when I can actually glom onto someone for a playdate. :)

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    If you have to get stuck talking with any of these moms at least TMI Tammy is entertaining. Of course if your kids are in hearing range you may end up answering awkward questions later!
    And I agree with Chelle – the furbaby moms. I get it. I love my animals too, but no it is not the same thing.

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    Sabrina says

    I think that all moms are some kind of “that mom”. I avoid the ones that have their camera strapped to them and nature mamas. I’m not going to deny that I’m a little bit of a Judgy Julie. In the end, we all annoy some other mom(s) for whatever reason.

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    Perhaps this is why I just don’t get along with other Moms.
    But, you forgot a couple:
    Domestic Debbie…who does all the stuff from Pinterest with ease, we’re pretty sure she makes her own cloth, sews everything by scratch, bakes for FUN….ONE of those. She finds it a bit odd when you tell her you don’t have time to cook, you popped a lasanga in the microwave. She belongs sometime in the 1950s when homemaking was a craft. Lots of women strive to be her with all her crafty skills and all her tasty treats but there is only one Domestic Debbie and she makes the rest of us look like crap. But we try…sometimes.

    Don’t Give a Shit Sarah
    Don’t Give a Shit Sarah doesn’t really give two farts about you, your baking, your Pinterest activity, she doesn’t really tolerate any of you. She puts on a happy face but she sticks to herself, knowing that she cannot relate to a single one of you. She won’t join in your little “reindeer games”, she’s a Rudolph by choice. Her main goal is getting in and out without having to say anymore than “Hi” and “Bye” and a cordial smile. She knows she gets judged for her avoidance of all things that are so stereotypically Mom, but being Don’t Give a Shit Sarah…she don’t give a shit.
    TRY to guess which one I fall under…. ;)

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      Gail says

      I would fall more closely to DGSS or TMI TAMMY actually a little bit of both because if I don’t want to be bothered and people are insistent upon talking to me, I share, share and share some more. lol

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      Stacy says

      Oh Sarah….I soooo love this. I avoid hanging with the other moms when there is some sort of activity for the kids. Like Cub Scouts. I really just want to bring my kid, let him do his thing, and sit alone “over there” and do my thing. I am not a social butterfly. I really don’t care to compare the nutritional content in the drinks that were brought with you. If my son likes it, then he can drink it. If he chooses to eat a cookie rather than a piece of celery from the snack table, then by all means, eat it. I’m not a helicopter mom who micromanages her child’s every waking minute of the day. I do care that my children eat a fairly healthy diet, but if we are at an activity and they want a goody, then they can have it. I guess you can substitute Don’t Give a Shit Sarah with Don’t Give a Shit Stacy. :)

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    I'm fairly certain I would be called a Fend For Yourself Fran, but without the hungry & miserable part. (I love to cook, so no problem making sure the tots are fed there!) My kids run off in the backyard or to the upstairs and brawl and play the day away and I feel like I don't see them until I call for meals. And I do spend a lot of that time buried in cleaning or reading, but to my credit I don't like wine. ;)

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