A Day in The Life of a Newly Working Mom

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• Arrive at work a few minutes late due to chaos getting out of the house.

• Make presence known at work – “I’m here. I’m working. I promise…”

• Visit the bathroom to touch up streaking mascara from crying all the way to work.

• Call to check on baby.

• Check watch; Time to pump already.

• Do a questionable amount of work.

• Start thinking about missing the baby.

• Try not to cry.

• Time to pump again…

• Lunch hour! (Contemplate leaving and never coming back…)

• Attempt some more work, but decide to make a “quick call” to see how baby is doing.

• Breathe into a paper bag (baby was screaming and crying in the background during the phone call)

• Oops, “let down”… time to pump again.

• Have trouble staying awake to do work.

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• Begin to worry that you’re going to get fired.

• Try to focus.

• Try to focus.

• Wonder if baby has stopped crying. Best to call just to check…

• Brainstorm financial alternatives to working away from baby.

• Get depressed when there’s no obvious solution.

• Go home.

• Repeat.

• Repeat.

• Repeat.

• Repeat.

• Repeat.

• Repeat.

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    adrian says

    It is definitely a tough situation and unfortunately, so many people abuse these opportunities, which makes it rough on the rest of us who do stick to the rules. Fortunately, I had cooperative Managers, so I was able to work full time (and very productively) after my children were born. I was able to work from the office in the mornings, then work from home in the afternoon while the baby napped. It wasn’t perfect and it got rough when he became mobile at a very early age – walking at 8 or 9 months, I believe. But we persevered and he’s 14 now and hardly any trouble at all. Well, not as much, anyway!

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    Beth says

    I know this all too well. As a single mom, I had to go back after 2 weeks. I got to bring her with me, but it still sucked. I just wanted to be at home, with her, snuggling. I finally went full time away from her during the day 2 weeks ago. I think my performance at work has gotten better (I am out of the post pregnancy fog), but I still miss her like crazy. I am literally at the point where if some rich man offered me his hand in marriage, and I could stay at home, I would do it – just to be at home with her.

    Ack.

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    Mama and the City says

    Oh my gosh. So true. I had all of these same feelings, after a year of mat leave …yes, your heard it right, but still, very hard when you feel under the loop.

    1. Being on time – arrival and departure.
    2. Not even think of sick days because of baby’s being sick and not you.
    3. Considering working part time.

    It’s hard. We need more companies that support work-from-home kind of activities.

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    Nicole says

    I think it is not a matter of allowing work from home and whether or not it will be abused, but a question of management overseeing the quality and quantity of work being accomplished. There are people who can abuse work ethic being in the office as well. It’s a management situation. If the work is getting done and well, then fine. If not, then axe the person whether or not they are in the office.

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    Grown and Flown says

    First week back from maternity leave. Baby is fine, I am fine, Nanny sick as a dog. No working at home. Did what any sensible mom would do, told my husband to go home…not a solution I could use very often!

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    Wendy says

    We’ve been begging for a more flexible work schedule in our office — and not just for kids. There is only one person who states that 4-10s just “don’t work” for her, which then translates to no one gets to. Unfortunately, that is NOT what having a flexible work day means. A flexible workday means that you work what works for you and as long as you work 40 hours, why should I care if you do that in 4 days, 3 days, or 7 days? We are still stuck in the dark ages when it comes to work/life balance.

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    Heather says

    This happened to me. I was able to work from home with my baby up until she was two at which point the company that I worked for decided it would be better to make all of the work at home employees come in and work from the office. We had all earned our right to work from home based on our previous job performance and anyone who did not perform well from home would no longer get to work from there. I never had that problem, my job performance from home was actually better than in the office even while I was taking care of my daughter and doing my job at the same time. Our job performance wasn’t even considered when the decision to stop allowing working from home was made and I ended up quitting my job as a result. It’s a shame too because I was one of their best employees. It does give me a small sense of satisfaction though that I was able to quit. Their loss for being a company that doesn’t care about their most valuable employees.

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    leighanne says

    Love the way Mrs. Meyer made headlines for her astronomical payday upon accepting her position with Yahoo. A pay that insures her a great nanny and monies to protect her future and the future of her family for generations…..easy way to lose touch.

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    Debbie says

    I totally agree that a blanket policy is not the solution. If you’re doing a good job, meeting your job’s objectives, etc. it shouldn’t matter where/when you do the work.

    However, I am interested to know how the scenario you described above about your “typical” day away from your baby would change if you were home? You’d still be breastfeeding. Still need to attend to your baby crying (which they do whether you’re there or not). Probably still be sleep deprived, etc. I guess you’d save time (not) getting dressed and not commuting…?

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      hoyajeda says

      When you’re with your baby, it’s easier to let them sleep on you while you do work… like me write now. Babies cry cause they want the mother, the host. I’ve got both babies with me while I grade midterms… much easier and financially viable for my situation. I’m not even dressed but got all my work done and it’s only 8.20 am. :)

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      workingmama says

      I work from home a normal 9 to 5 job after working it out with my manager when my mat leave was nearing its end. I had told him that I’m really on the fence about returning to work and seriously thinking of leaving, and asked if I could work from home with a nanny. I was very fortunate that he was supportive if it so I was able to keep my job and be near my baby. It’s awesome but really, if you want to make it work you HAVE TO hire help. I’m sure I couldn’t get anything done had I worked from home without a nanny taking care of my baby while I worked. Babies only nap for a short time and drops naps as they get old. So working while your baby is sleeping really doesn’t give you enough time to dedicate to work. I loved how I didn’t have to waste 2-3hrs on getting ready and commuting every day or having to deal with pumping and washing the bottles etc. It’s a great perk and because I know that it’s a previledge, I worked hard to better perform at my work. If you really wanna make it work you should hire a nanny. It’s only fair for your company as well.
      The only one downside is that advancement in career is limited. Before I got pregnant my manager and I had discussed for me to be in the management track, but working from home diverted all that. I’m planning to return to the office slowly as my LO gets older, until then I’m really not expecting a big jump.in my career.

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