I’m not pregnant. The three tests with cross expressions on their faces that are sitting in my bathroom trash confirmed it.
Considering that I have an IUD siting snugly in my uterus this should come as no surprise.
But, I woke up yesterday feeling like shit. My stomach was bubbly and crampy and I had heartburn radiating from my chest. Plus, I’ve been exhausted for weeks.
I bet you’re pregnant, Jeff suggested.
No, I responded. Impossible. I just had one too many Fiber One bars. And, I better not be. We cannot have a baby now.
But as the day wore on, I became less sure.
I cried at the end of Hotel for Dogs. I drank lemon tea and toast. I brainstormed just how we were going to tell the kids that we had to get rid of the puppy, but they would get a new sibling instead. I drafted announcement blog posts in my head. I found myself protecting my belly as Evan pounced on top of it. I cuddled with him on the couch and for one brief moment thought it might not be so bad to have another.
But, Jeff brought home a pack of tests and each of them instantly resulted in a single straight line.
This is a good thing. I would have been in hysterics if they were positive. We cannot afford a baby. It would have been a mess.
I just wish I didn’t feel so disappointed.
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Awwwww, I know that feeling. The would be baby AND too many Fiber 1 bars. xoxo
I have mixed emotions on having another too.. I know what you mean.
Corine recently posted..Goldie Locks- The Mommy Version
I know what you mean! I was positive that I was preggo a few months ago. I even claimed to be craving waffles and that was my excuse to eat like 4 of them every single morning…”I must be pregnant!”
I’ve said all along that we are “one and done” but I was still a tiny bit disappointed when Aunt Flow showed up.
Plus, I had to give up the waffles. :)
The Mommyologist recently posted..10 Reasons Why Facebook Totally Sucks
That’s the only part of pregnancy I like!!
the last line just made me cry…
there’s nothing more rewarding to me than raising my family.
Sara -The Football Wife recently posted..WFMW- Working From Home
I’m with you on that one sista. One minute I am reveling in the beauty that we are DONE with diapers, naps, and fear of SIDS. Next I am weeping like a newborn over someone’s else’s baby because I want.one.more.so.bad.
We are just so, so ,so WOMEN.
franticmommy recently posted..The Alphabet Story
I feel the same way when my special monthly friend is a little late. Sheer terror mixed with a little, tiny, itty bitty bit of hopefulness.
The beer (or 3) that I have once my friend makes her grand entrance usually makes me feel a LOT better.
Sara Plays House recently posted..Wordless Wednesday I
I know just what you mean. It took months for my periods to get back to regular after having each baby and there were times in there when I was sure I was pg. I’d be terrified, hope I wasn’t and then be disappointed when I got my period. I chalk this up to mothers being crazy. Our brains and hormones don’t often agree and we don’t always get to decide which will be the stronger force. Luckily, sometimes the brain wins.
Congrats on no baby!
Allison @ Motherhood, WTF? recently posted..It’s Hammer Time
I’m sorry Jill, i totally know what you mean though.
The last line also made me cry :(
Sending you *Hugs*
Stephanie@Geezees recently posted..Wordless or should i say Speechless Wednesday
I know exactly how you feel. I had one of those scares recently. All signs were pointing to pregnant, which wouldn’t exactly have been the best news financially or even sanity-wise. Yet, the growing feeling throughout the day, that what’s meant to be is meant to be, got the best of me. I started thinking about all the sweet moments a new baby brings. Maybe we’d finally have a girl? Maybe she’d have my brown eyes or her dad’s red hair? By the time I got that negative result on the test, I felt like I’d lost an opportunity.
A mother’s heart. What can you do? I feel for ya, mama.
Jessi recently posted..Anne’s Story
Exactly. I was shopping for baby clothes last week and starting lusting after them. I have so many unused girl names I adore, and I really want a blond haired baby girl. Sigh.
Whenever I get whimsical thoughts like that, (for me it’s a blue-eyed baby who looks even a little like me), I remind myself that I could just as easily have another strong-willed, defiant, genetic clone of my husband. Then I shudder and move on.
Allison @ Motherhood, WTF? recently posted..It’s Hammer Time
I feel exactly this way, exactly. :)
“I drafted announcement blog posts in my head.” Lmao!
I’m with you. There are sometimes that I’m just really not sure that I’m not pregnant. Two or three tests later (just to be positive… er..negative), I’m sure.
Echo @ Barely Mommy recently posted..A Child is a Curly Dimpled Lunatic
oh my god, I totally had the same thing two weeks ago! (IUD and all). I could smell food one mile away, my boobs were big and painful…. acknowledging the madness I kept it to myself and took the test on my own. I am about to travel for work to developing countries, we are probably moving the whole family to another country by the end of the year, sooo many reasons this would have been just awful timing. so disappointed I was right. it was just madness (although I had the weirdest period the following week, so I think maybe there was something to it)
angelica recently posted..Motherhood is nothing but a series of days
I can’t say I know that feeling yet since I’ve been perma-pregnant for 3 years. If a pee stick actually revealed I wasn’t pregnant, I’d be amazed. But I know that day will come. Some days I wonder if it will come sooner rather than later. I wanted 4, but truly can’t bear the thought of a 4th pregnancy.
On a related note, do you like the IUD??
The IUD is pretty amazing. Plus, now I know it actually works! I haven’t had a period in over a YEAR. What’s not to love about that?
I also love mine. I’ve had it over a year now and it’s fabulous! Birth control pills trigger migraines for me, so iud was the best option for us.
Charissa recently posted..Distrubing Day
Love my iud. Everything else made me feel awful and super hormoney. I quit having periods two months after it was inserted which is awesome. I still get cramps and pms-y but I will take that.
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I’m so sorry you are feeling such a mix of logic and emotion. I’m glad you got the answer you needed – even though your heart is obviously big enough to welcome another bundle (when the checkbook says that it just can’t be).
Love to you!
Oh, and Fiber One overdoses are hell. HELL!
Cort (Modern Super Momma) recently posted..Get the Bug
A fourth pregnancy would be a medical nightmare for me after my last one, yet I still catch myself thinking from time to time that it wouldn’t be THAT awful if my IUD failed us. . .
I am trying to talk my husband into fostering/adoption, though. I don’t feel completely done.
I understand your disappointment.
The older I get, the more my PMS mimics pregnancy. Stupid biological clock, trying to trick me.
foxy.kate recently posted..I’m driving your milk helmet!
Yes, this was me for years until I actually got my IUD removed to get pregnant. It’s crazy how PMS can change to make you even crazier that it already does. And then after that baby and I got another IUD (beautiful, beautiful form of BC) I was content until I had my uterus removed. No more crazy pregnancy scares for me!
Desiree recently posted..My Jaidelyn
I totally get it. I have a four month old and when a friend told me recently that she’s expecting my first reaction was jealousy. WTH? Maybe another one day…for both of us!
christy recently posted..Crying at the Gym
Oh good lord, I am so with you. For weeks I’ve been nauseous and tired and weepy and heartburn and even have huge swelling ankles. I literally just took a pregnancy test about 8 minutes ago. It was negative which is fortunate since I have a mirena and don’t want a baby popping out with a pre-pierced ear. But there was a tinge of bummed outness.
This is making me cry. I know the two sides of this too well. I want another so badly and hubby says no and it is killing me. Yes – the money , the time all the reasons no….babies are just so wonderful! But I totally get the fear of being pregnant – I di this same thing last month – and the disappointment with the immediate lines.
For some reason for some of us it is impossible to not imagine a gorgeous tiny baby the minute we think we might be pregnant.
Thank God or we might never have any babies!
Brittany at Mommy Words recently posted..Pre-Schoolers Dream of Being Princesses
I know that feeling, the uncertainty..This just happened to me too. Spent a week on vacation dreaming about #4…only to have my late period show up on the last day…..
But then again, 4 might put me over the edge.
Laura recently posted..Dream house
I know that feeling. We’ve got two and really can’t “afford” another– so we’re waiting or maybe we’re done. But, we’re not really being too careful either. So every month, I’m kind of holding my breath. Caught up somewhere in between desperately not wanting to be and desperately wanting to be pregnant.
Cara recently posted..Vacation 2010- Part Three
I am so overwhelmed right now with 3 month old twins and I still have a tinge of jealosy when I see a pregnant woman. Its crazy.
Oh, Kelsy, thank you. This comment made me do a double take. I am the same. My heart clenches a little every time I see a pregnant woman and I have four beautiful children, three fun, full pregnancies. I do not understand it, but I am glad to be not alone.
And Jill, yes. Negative pregnancy tests are sad. They are empty stockings and no more ice cream in the freezer and crushed beginnings of hopes and plans. I’ve vowed I’ll never take another one. I will show up in the emergency room complaining of appendicitis in my already removed appendix and deliver surprise twins first.
anymommy recently posted..Above all these is love
Who can ever afford to have another one? I’ve got two and my husband was itching for a third one. We tried, didn’t happen-shop’s closed for good now! I’m not good at being pregnant!!!! But I do kind of want the third one……perhaps I can rent out someone else’s uterus? Any takers? LOL. You can get that urge to be pregnant again without having to actually raise the kid……come on, win-win, right?
Staci recently posted..Intense Debate-Bad News for my Comments
I so know that feeling. Shortly after having our second, I had a scare and as much as my head told me that NOW was absolutely the worst time ever to get pregnant (new job, second child newly diagnosed with epilepsy, etc.), my heart really wanted that pregnancy test to be positive.
Kmama recently posted..Buddys Bodacious Birthday
I know, I know.
It sucks but it doesn’t.
Have some wine, that will make it better.
Jen recently posted..I was Attacked by a Bug and I Lived to Write this Post
Been there, done that. Even though we aren’t “trying” part of me secretly hopes for birth control failure every month.
amber recently posted..Wanted- A Professional Stylist for My Toddler
It usually does feel like that, doesn’t it? I mean, when I fell pregnant with my first-born, I was of course over the moon. Then with my second, I was again delighted.
But if I’d fallen pregnant a third time, I don’t know how I’d feel. I might have felt excited, scared, weird, happy-ish. I’ll never be too sure, and that’s the feeling we get.
Glummy Mummy recently posted..Random Tuesday Thoughts- Chocolate
I would have felt the same way. *Hugs*. :)
Teri recently posted..This is…
We had a similiar experience in our home about a month ago. As much as I want another I can’t help but think about what stresses another child brings. It is such a strange mix of emotions, happiness, joy excitment, mixed in with fear and uneasyness. Your not alone , lots of hugs
Cheryl recently posted..Last Days of Summer
this made me cry because I know how you feel. A baby now would not be good for us because of some other things going on but every month there’s still a pang of disappointment. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like this.
S Club Mama recently posted..WW- 1 Corinthians 13 brothers edition
up until a couple of years ago, i knew that disappointed feeling very well. now, i celebrate every month and beg my hubby to get snipped!!
xo
melissa recently posted..On Vacation- Be Back Soon
Aw, I know how that feels. Everytime I pee on one of those sticks I secretly want it to be positive even though I know we can’t afford to have a baby right now.
Lin recently posted..OC Fair Fun
So here’s the thing I’m more concerned about. Hormones. My hormones are on such a wild roller coaster lately that I’m often wondering if I’m pregnant, too! (It also helps to tell myself that’s why I’ve gained a few pounds.) Does your IUD make your hormones stop? Because I’d like to be level, even, rather than UP, DOWN, UP, DOWN. Is there some magic drug to help with this?
Jana @ Attitude Adjustment recently posted..Jana and the Giant Cable Company
Awww. Sometimes we just have to mourn what could be, even if we know for 100% sure that it shouldn’t be.
Jennifer recently posted..This one time when I was sleeping
I know the feeling. We’ve decided we’re not having anymore, but every couple of months I have that “what if” feeling. We don’t have the room or money for another, but when Aunt Flo comes around, I do feel a little disappointed.
Evonne recently posted..Mount Washmore
I totally know that feeling!
Julie recently posted..Of Pets and 2 Year Olds
Like almost everyone else who has commented, I so relate. I have one, my boyfriend has two. I had always said I didn’t want anymore, then that damn biological clock started ticking. We decided to stop using birth control and just see what would happen. What a disaster coming off the Depo shot was. A surgery and one less ovary later, I’m back on the pill. The only time I’ve ever had regular periods is when I’ve been on the pill. For the first 4 months going back on it, that was true. Now I’m on month 2 with no cycle. Three negative pregnancy tests later, part of me is relieved and part of me is extremely disappointed.
Stacey recently posted..When friends aren’t
I have the opposite problem…
Melisa recently posted..Wordless Wednesday – Son of a Pilot
Ugh… the negative pregnancy tests brings back such strong memories for everyone. Here’s hoping that your next one is positive … because from someone who just knew when it was time to say when … a fourth definitely sounds like it’s in your mix!
Can’t really relate here since I have a new 3weeksomething baby in the craddle. But I am sure that one day, in the very very very very far future I will know what you mean and then I will probably cry.
Feeling the same thing. All I can offer is hugs.
Pantrygirl recently posted..I wish
LOLOL! too many Fiber One bars. I’m sorry but that is so funny how too many of those give you the same feeling as being pregnant. What a fucking ad slogan for them eh? LOL!
vanillasugar recently posted..white chocolate cheesecake w- cherries and a mini-vacation
I loved my IUD, except that whole no period=pregnancy scare=is it working? That was troubling. Because you just never know.
Sorry you are disappointed, but now you know that you might want another and maybe this will start some discussion?
It’s hard to be disappointed when you consider the reward.
But I know what you mean. I need to get myself to the doctor pronto before I end up expanding my litter.
Texan Mama recently posted..Lowered Expectations
Aw, Jill. I love the last sentence in your post!
Lynn from For Love or Funny recently posted..Sandboxes make me cry
Been there. Felt the same way. And cried, too. :)
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I think you should celebrate with one of those pretty pink cocktails. That feeling does suck, but really it doesn’t! I need to get one of those IUD’s- do you like it?
Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation recently posted..Dear Mommy- A Letter from Sadie to Yours Truly
I DID THAT LAST MONTH!!! I was SO sure. I felt like shit and so tired…BUT my hubs id fixed, so um, yeah. I wasn’t, but I was 2 weeks late and my cycle is as predictable as Big Ben. So I was FREAKED.
Oh : (
Sorry you were disappointed.
Your kids are so beautiful. I wish you could have another.
You know, because anyone that has beautiful kids should keep reproducing.
I want a baby so much.
Gary just says ‘let’s wait’ over and over again.
Apparently he wants me to have a baby when I am 100.
Do you have any weddings coming up that you have to be in?
That is the time you like to get pregnant, right? : )
Praying you will have peace!
Life with Kaishon recently posted..Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows Helen Keller
aw i can totally relate! but sort of the other way around. when i first found out about my unexpected pregnancy, i knew was supposed to be upset and scared and mad at myself but a part of me couldn’t help but be…excited.
The real L.A. love story. recently posted..The History of Food- Post-baby Goods Eats
Ahh! I am so sorry you’ve been feeling like crap. I know exactly what you mean about being happy and sad all at the same time.
Lolli recently posted..Pink and Black Do Not Go Well Together
I’ve been there, and I completely know how you feel. It SUCKS. (HUG)
MommyGeekology recently posted..Superstitions GTT
Aww, I know how you feel. But, that’s only because you are thinking about the new baby smell. You aren’t thinking about the dirty socks left under the bed smell that stays with them for most of their teen years. You aren’t thinking about the cost of sending another one to college, or daycare for that matter. Remember the cost of diapers!
I’m sorry you are disappointed but think of it this way, if you had gotten pregnant with the IUD in place it would have been a disaster most likely.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling disappointed. I can relate somewhat. We haven’t had baby 1 yet, but want to wait til we’re more financially stable. I had a “scare” and couldn’t help feeling relief and disappointment all at the same time.
I had a 2-year-old and 10-month-old twins when I thought: “Something’s not right. I’ve felt like SHIT for three weeks now.” Unlike your tests, mine was positive. I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for an hour. An ENTIRE HOUR! “We can’t afford another baby. Our house is too small. I’m insane now as it is!” I kept thinking “WTF?” throughout most of the pregnancy. And then he was here. And goddam if he’s not the best thing that ever happened to our family. I can’t imagine us without him.
Dana recently posted..Namaste
I know how you feel. I have four kids. Been nauseous for a week. Took a test it was negative!! Really don’t want anymore kids but kinda felt sad for what could have been.
Isn’t that what makes us women so wonderful? We can feel emotions on both sides of the spectrum and all the emotions in between.
Catherine recently posted..Oatmeal Raisin Cereal Bars
Boy do I know how you feel! I haven’t had a period in a year, since my little Batman was born. I get the flutterly feeling in my stomach, the cravings and I just want to sleep. I’ve taken tests at home and at the doctor, about one every two months. All negative. They say I’m not starting because I’m breastfeeding. I’m on the pill but I was on the pill when I got knocked up with my big boy. I’m happy that I don’t have to deal with a new baby and that I’m sticking with my “only two kids” idea of a family, but a baby is just such a wonderful thing. I don’t want more kids but when I hear a friend of mine is pregnant or see their babies, I get all full of nostalgia for the bun in the oven.
Summer recently posted..What Clueless Has Taught Me About Life
Ah. Do you remember that episode of Friends when Pheobe told Rachel that the pregnancy test was negative and then Rachel started to cry because she has insisted she didn’t want a baby…but really she did. But Pheobe lied, the test was really positive. I think you really know how you feel about having another baby. You will NEVER have enough money, time, or sleep but you will have enough love.
josephine recently posted..an als kind of birthday
I’m glad I’m the only one not disappointed by a negative pregnancy test – even when we aren’t trying and can’t afford another baby. My retort? We can’t afford the one we have, so why not have more? I was convinced that I was pregnant last month when I woke up for a week straight with an upset stomach. I guess it was just stress.
;)
I am toying with having my IUD out, but am scared that I WILL get pregnant and then what I will do?
Heidi recently posted..Wordless Wednesday – More ketchup- please!
I have 4 kids! 14, 10, 8, and 6 months and I do not want to have another one at all! I swear I’ll do anything and everything I can go avoid it too! I’m sure that I will be envious of those who are pregnant and have babies eventually, but starting over isn’t all that easy!
Jackie recently posted..Wordless Wednesday – Mackinac Trip
I totally understand where you are coming from. We are quite happy to stop with our two, but every once in a while I’ll have a strange cycle and think “what if?” Getting my monthly visitor brings both relief and disappointment those months.
Metro DC Mom recently posted..Wordless Wednesday- Got Costume
Oh I hate that :(
I hope the right time comes for you soon
Jayme recently posted..Shutter Love Tuesdays with the Trendy Treehouse
That’s the curse of adaptabiliy. When you get used to rolling with the punches, you learn how to do it quickly. And to embrace change. So when you realize that nothing has changed, you’re then required to go through the process all over again. I’m sorry.
If you want a baby, I’ll give you a baby.
I freakin’ love Fiber One bars. The peanut butter ones hit the spot. And they were the go-to when I was pregnant and constipated. But I know just what you mean. A while back, I thought I was preggers and panicked – SO not the right time, wasn’t ready, NONONONO! – and then when I wasn’t, I felt so hollow. And sad.
The Flying Chalupa recently posted..American Gladiator- Millionaire Dance Edition
It’s such a roller coaster of emotions. When I found out I was pregnant with K it was a HUGE surprise and I was literally in SHOCK. Of course now I wouldn’t have it any other way!
And I’m sure if I hadn’t been pregnant there would have been major disappointment on my part… ;)
Thinking of you…
I found myself in the EXACT same position this week. Although, I had even just recently been visited by Aunt F….I just felt so…pregnant. So tired, so crampy, so HUNGRY. But it was also negative. And although the timing would have been terrible…I couldn’t help wishing I was more disappointed myself.
JulieBouf recently posted..The Apple Doesnt Fall Far From the Tree
Heh…just saw Jeff’s comment. Well -there ya go ;) Wish my husband was as accomodating!
JulieBouf recently posted..The Apple Doesnt Fall Far From the Tree
I’ve only started to read, and so I feel perhaps I shouldn’t comment on such a personal post. And to be honest so many already have, and probably most have said some version of what I want to say. But what the heck, I’m here and that’s what a blog is all about. If the same thing were to happen to me, I’d feel exactly as you do. I suppose, in some way, most of us who are mothers would. I wonder if the feeling ever goes away. I wonder mostly because I’m unsure whether to have a third of my own. I have no idea whether I will, but I know if it happened now I’d be torn like you (and a bit dismayed since I too have an IUD that should be handling the job!). All this to say, I understand and hugs to you.
Christine LaRocque recently posted..Following in his fathers footsteps
I’m glad you posted. :) And, I wonder if the feeling ever goes away, too. I’ve heard around 40 it kicks in. We’ll see.
Oh Jill—
Had a tubal years ago, and one semi-late period and in a bizarre entirely illogical we CANNOT/SHOULD NOT/DO NOT want another child way, I wanted that “surprise” baby. Know EXACTLY your feelings. Relief and regret tag-team.
Weird pairing…but so get it. Thanks for your candor.
Cheryl recently posted..The Dog Days of Winter
I’m not pregnant either! Totally thought I was. You would think that after having a kid, we’d know for sure, but it seemed less clear to me this time around. WTH?
I’m sorry. Isn’t it funny how you ‘miss’ something you didn’t realize you might want in the first place? *hugs*
~K
Kel recently posted..Friends re-visited
I long for another one too, but then our two will do something and I am reminded that we have what we can handle.
It doesn’t take away the disappointment, but if you tried for a 4th you would more than likely just end up with another mini-Jeff.
That’s my biggest fear— another mini-Jeff.
I was feeling the same way, which I do often, until three seconds ago when my son yelled to me from his room that he can’t possibly put his clothes away because there’s no room in his drawers and I have to come and see for myself. Good feeling gone…
Dear Scary Mommy,
Welcome to the Hormal Rollercoaster Theme Park! Glad to see you got your invitation and are joining the party as scheduled. It’s oodles of fun! Sounds like you are taking advantage of all this park has to offer. I advise you to keep lost of M&M’s, potato chips and soda nearby, because…well, you just never know.
-Pam
ps…keep a good supply of Glenn Close movies handy and be sure to keep your TV set to the Lifetime channel – just trust me on this one, ok?
pamtastic recently posted..This one time I was sleeping and I was mauled by the cat next door!
I know that feeling. I just love the baby stage, and I would crave that even if I had 10 kids (God help me).
xoxo
next time you are in MA let me know and we can do a kid swap. you can take newborn Suki and i can take your kids to the movies (Neva is still too young – and it is part of my mommy dream to go to the movies with my kids)… deal?
Yes, deal. Good luck with that.
{{HUGS}} I totally “get” what you are saying!!!
Chrissy MacCEO recently posted..Saturday Snap-Cup
don’t you hate that? it’s like, screwed if you are, screwed if you aren’t. sorry jill. really, really sorry. for what, i’m not sure. but sorry.
alexis recently posted..guess what i did yesterday the awkward thursday edition
Sorry you had to go through all the mixed emotions. Men don’t get it. It’s times like these that it’s hard being a woman.
Jill– I’m so sorry!! I know how the I-don’t-want-to-be-pregnant-but-if-I-start-thinking-about-baby-booties-I-get-excited roller coaster feels.
I secretly LOVE that you were a bit disappointed. I need more friends on my 4-kids-team.
Hugs, Kat
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Baby’s are just so wonderful and sweet…think long term, then the disappointment will fade a bit. =)
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XOXO.
angie recently posted..Our Visit to a real life DAIRY
yep, I agree…I would feel …like “Damn” .
I think once we embrace something like that (and for me the Infertility that brought me the twins, I think not only do I not WANT to get PG..but I CAN’T..right???) and it’s taken away, the Oops, the miracle of it, the OMG without me thinking about it….it’s deflating, it’s sad, it’s disappointing.
yep, I know exactly how you feel. *sigh*
BIG HUGS
Kir recently posted..Glad to Meet YouAgain
Totally understand those mixed feelings. I am turning 47 in a few weeks and there’s still a little part of me that’s like “oh, we could do one more, right?” What, am I nuts?? Stupid hormones. Stupid emotions. I need to get another pug puppy.
dusty earth mother recently posted..Beware of Senior Citizens on Jet Skis
That situation is definitely bittersweet! Amazing how may scenarios can cross through a mind in a short period of time.
ZippyChix4 recently posted..Chair Court
I’ve been through this several times myself over the past 3 years, you know just wondering cause I’ve been late or weird muscle pains in my stomachm,w hich was the first indicator that I was pregnant with my 3rd baby before any other clue and even though I do NOT want to be having a baby now… part of me wants another baby to snuggle. So believe me, I get it.
zeemaid recently posted..Wives Say the Weirdest Things
I know the feeling! I think us moms are happy either way!
Does the desire and yearning for another every go away? I have five gorgeous kids, lost 5 miscarriages. I’m creeping closer to 40 and have chronic health issues. But the jealousy monster creeps up when someone announces a pg.
This is so irrational, ridiculous but it’s my hearts desire for one more.
Darn hormones !
I recently went through the ordeal of finding out that my IUD was purchased illegally from Canada by my doctor’s office. In any case, I was informed that the FDA could “not guarantee effectiveness” for devices that do not have FDA approval. And hubby and I had had quite a lot of “action” the week before I found out – precisely the week I was ovulating. Wow! With a 3 yo and a 1 yo already at home, I went through the same emotions, “it’d be stupid to have a baby so soon!” “Hubby’s going to be gone most of next year, it’d be stupid to have a baby now!” But ohmygosh, I really, really, REALLY wanted to be preggo. Cause hubs is fine with the two we’ve got, and I’m on the fence about a third. And if it was an accident, then it wouldn’t be anybody’s idea or anybody’s fault, it would be like the universe telling you you HAVE to have another baby, you know? Anyway, that was a few months ago, the IUD is out (it was the real brand, but still from Canada), I am very definitely NOT preggo, and I was very, very sad about that. Eventually, when we decide for sure that we’re done, hubs is getting snipped, and then I won’t have worry about “accidents” anymore. (Of course, with our luck…..)
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I know exactly how you feel. Truly, I do.
I cannot imagine how having another baby would turn my world upside down (when I already feel upside down as it is).
And yet, the times when I have felt sure I was I felt such a let down when the pregnancy test said No.
I have been there and done that.. only the original tests said not pregnant but three weeks later I had a positive test when I still felt like poop.. My IUD baby will be 4 in November… Hope that doesn’t scare you.. Just sharing the whole IUD scare, I apparently am not a candidate for IUDs because they like to dislodge on me
I peed on sticks for over 2 years . . always one damn line . . . seriously messes with one’s head! Sadly, I gave up . . . went on the pill last month . . my Dr suggested IUD, but it freaked me out a bit . . . do you really like it? And I see from your mass of hair that your hair did NOT fall out? I heard that is a side effect and I seriously have lost enough of my hair in the pat year to satisfy me forever – that is all!
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I recently had a little “scare”… my daughter 2 1/2 and son was 8 mnths and I thought no way. Plus I was recently unemployed. By the end of the day and thoughts of the baby names I didn’t get to use and all the baby things we already had I was disappointed. So silly how can you be disappointed for something you never even had? I guess once a mommy always a mommy… it’s funny, we know that maybe it is not a good idea at the time but once the thought is planted you are already in love… so sorry.
I’ve been there…Done that…Last week, as a matter of fact. I hated that I was disappointed.
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I know exactly what you mean. I have 3 beautiful kids. We’re in a great place & having a newborn right now isn’t in the cards. I even have an IUD to make sure it doesn’t happen. But there are still random moments where I think I might be & still feel a twinge of disappointment when I realize I’m not.
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Us moms are just wired that way, no matter how overwhelming our parenting lives can get we still get excited at the thought of having a new baby. I can totally relate to how you feel.
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I’ve had the same thing happen, a few times.
The anticipation of testing… the frantic water drinking… the one thing that you didn’t need or want right now suddenly didn’t seem so bad.
And then you pick up the test to see “Not Pregnant” and a little piece inside crumbles to the ground.
Goodness, I thought I was the only one! I have taken 3 pregnancy tests this month and all negative, relieving but disappointing at the same time? I know I’m not pregnant I can’t be even though my husband had a vasectomy reversal a couple months ago the doc said it didn’t look good although he gave us a 40% chance it “might” work we will know in 4 months to a year (wtf?) I am going in freaking sane! My body is a mess my emotions a mess and aunt flo should be arriving by Wednesday(fingers crossed) and still I keep feeling like I might be pregnant. But i’m not 3 tests all negative. Yeah ok I could be taking them early I don’t want to be pregnant but it’s not a big deal because he can’t get me pregnant or maybe he can or most likely he can’t everything I’m feeling is just hysterics but I want a baby but then when I think of it I don’t want a baby I couldn’t handle it right now I already have three and they are older do I really want to start over again?… but then I think I could and so yeah I feel you! It was soooooooo much easier when I was wishing his vasectomy would fail every once in a blue moon and then I would get over it and not have to deal with it. Now well i’m on that oh my freaking goodness roller coaster! I Just love being a woman, yet sometimes I don’t…..whew feel so much better now that I got that off my chest…I think I just need a nap or maybe a drink but I shouldn’t til aunt flo comes because well you never know… ;)~
I know…its like: OMG!! really!!?!? and If we considered only the financial implications of having children, we might end up childless. There’s no two ways about it: having a child is very expensive. Financial experts say a home is the biggest investment most people will ever make, but even when this is a fact, their eyes looking at us, their smile, and all their love..it worth every cent! XOXO