This year, instead of making New Year’s resolutions I’m bound to break within 48 hours like eating less, swearing less or spending less time on the computer, I’ve decided to make a couple of resolutions that I might actually be able to keep.



First, I resolve to expect less from myself.

2012 was the most exciting year of my life, but it was also the hardest. Instead of enjoying the milestones and achievements, I spent months comparing myself to people who were reaching bigger milestones and achieving more. Nothing I did was ever good enough because I was too busy trying to top myself.

This year, I’m aiming lower. I don’t have to write the most successful book or have the biggest tour or get the most reviews. What I do have to do? Chill out. Enjoy it. Lighten the hell up. Where the book is concerned, but everywhere else as well.

I also want to master the fine art of saying “no”.

No, I can’t rearrange my schedule to help out at school at the last minute. No, I don’t have time to chair that board that I really do care about. No, I can’t arrange for a babysitter just to schedule a call when it’s convenient for someone else.

If something simply doesn’t work for me, for whatever reason, I resolve to say no without apologizing 500 times times and then caving and doing it anyway.

No. I can do that.

Just, no.

Go easier on myself and know my limits. Shouldn’t be all that hard.

Plus, drink more water, of course.

I’ve got to allow some room for failure.


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  1. Symanntha Renn says

    Those sound like great Resolutions Jill! I am going easy on myself this year too. My only Resolution is to read 3 classic books before the end of next year.

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  2. Super Sarah says

    LOVE NO. I used to work with a little autistic girl who learned the “I want,” sentence structure (e.g. “I want cracker,” or “I want outside,” or whatever) and eventually learned “no.” So, you see where this is going, she just said, “I want NO.” And often I do, too. Not “I want no,” so sorry, I’m such a jerk, etc. Just “I want no.” The end.

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  3. Stefanie says

    Yes on No.

    And I can SO relate to this…”Instead of enjoying the milestones and achievements, I spent months comparing myself to people who were reaching bigger milestones and achieving more. Nothing I did was ever good enough because I was too busy trying to top myself.” I resolve to enjoy my successes, not compare them! Also, I need to see your face.

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  4. Dora Groothousen says

    HOORAY! 2012 Introduce pinterest to many of us and has put the pressure on us even more to be these “Perfect Stepford Wives/Moms”. I love the neat things I find on Pinterest but not going to ALLOW others to make me feel bad because my kids party wasnt as snazzy as theirs. Hence why a few weeks ago she did not have a party for her 2nd birthday. We went to Chuck E Cheese just the 3 of us and had a ball. Besides we are going to Disney in March. Would rather spend all of that money there on family time VS a party with a TON of adults and barely any kids.

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  5. Christine says

    Thanks for your post – setting boundaries is totally where I’m at for 2013 – and if people can’t seem to deal with the “no” they will indeed get a “hell no” complete with hand on hip because I just don’t have time for it. I can relate to so much of what you post – I’m a mom and a physician – I work with the mentally ill and when my work doesn’t exhaust me, my child and crazy ass dog do. My husband is a good man – thank God and helps me the best way he knows how. They are worth every second and what I love about your inspiring blog is that despite all the bitching and moaning that comes along with being a mom – its still quite clear that you still feel its the best job ever. I couldn’t agree more. Sigh… back to work.

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  6. anymommy says

    Yes to more no and more water. I need more of those in my life. Also, I aspire to accomplish even half of what you’ve achieved since I “met” you and started to read your brilliant, sparkly stuff. The idea that you wouldn’t think it’s enough is amazing to me. But I get it, I’m terribly hard on myself as well.

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