Scary Mommy Nation Recipients



Without Scary Mommy Nation, we would have spent Thanksgiving evening eating noodles and maybe, if we were lucky, a half chicken from Boston Market. But thanks to the generosity of complete strangers, I was able to prepare a turkey, stuffing, side dishes, pies and more with enough leftovers to make soup and sandwiches for days. The meal was so much more than a meal, though. It was proof to me and my family that people really do care, there is good in the world and that we would be ok, at a time when we were doubting all of those things. I’ll never adequately be able to express my gratitude, but I will say again, thank you. From the bottom of my heart.

When I saw my approval email I couldn’t stop the tears from rolling down my face. I was desperately trying to find a way to adjust our budget to allow for the cost of a Thanksgiving day dinner that wasn’t a cheap rotisserie chicken and some potatoes. I realized to even make this happen we would have to not pay at least one of our monthly bills. I hated the feeling of failing my family. I thought isn’t Thanksgiving all about family? And here I’ve failed mine. I looked at Twitter and saw the tweet saying applications were being accepted. I thought surely there is no way that my little family deserves this help. We always find a way to survive even if it means a less than traditional Thanksgiving day dinner. I said the same thing I always do. We will be fine, we don’t need help and moved on with my day. Later as I tried to make the last $20 in our bank account cover a few more weeks of groceries and put gas in the car I realized I could ask for help, I needed to ask for help. So I applied with very low hopes we would be chosen. Then I got the email. The email that lifted a physical weight off of my shoulders. I have a million other things to worry about but this was one thing I didn’t have to fret over anymore. I am finally looking forward to making a delicious dinner without the guilt of knowing I didn’t pay our electric bill just so we could have a turkey and stuffing. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. It is incredibly humbling to need help like this and I am hoping once I am finished with nursing school I will be able to give back tenfold to those moms just like me, other scary moms who feel like they are at the bottom of a pit with no ladder. I want to one day be the helping hand that reaches in, but for now it was the scary mommy nation that extended a hand down into that pit to help pull me out. For that I am eternally grateful. Thank you so much.

I have spent many sleepless nights with my babies by my side either nursing my newborn or dealing with whatever ailment real or “real to them” my 2 & 5 yr olds have or just plain worrying if I’m doing things right. I found Scary mommy in Facebook and since the day I found it I have pulled up your page to laugh, cry, feel confirmed in the craziness that is my life & is in fact others lives as well, and recently I searched for the reality that I’m not alone it needing a little help. You have found a way to help single moms in a position that they can’t do it all by themselves for the time being, but you do it in a way that’s not demeaning or so humbling it becomes embarrassing. Thank you. I opened my email today hoping to have heard from my mom or brother who both live overseas, I needed a little Internet hug because I was feeling down. I received my confirmation email that my little family was “adopted” for thanksgiving and I just started crying, my sons birthday and Halloween just passed and I was barely able to do the minimum so knowing thanksgiving will be awesome just about made my year! I can’t wait to be in a position to pay it forward and be on the giving end of this project but in the meantime…. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

We weren’t planning on having a Thanksgiving dinner at all in 2011, so when I was able to receive help, I felt like I’d won the lottery. I cried tears of joy ripping into the envelope and vowed at that moment to pay it forward. This year, I have a job, have paid down debt and am able to contribute to someone else’s meal. Doing that was one of the proudest moments of my life.

I am totally in tears writing to thank you from the deepest part of my heart. Today was an especially hard day, and this good news has truly touched and overtaken me. I am so very thankful to be chosen to receive this help. I can now know in advance we will have food and a Thanksgiving meal. You are helping myself and the other recipients beyond just the food. You are helping us all have some hope, some strength, relieve a little of the stress, to feel some peace and for that we are all so deeply grateful.

In a time where we were grieving and financially hurting after a major death in the family, Scary Mommy came to the rescue. We were able to have an amazing Thanksgiving thanks to them. We will be forever grateful for the generosity of the community.

I can’t even express the emotions running through me! Thanks to the kindness of perfect strangers, I can breath a sigh of relief for the first time in weeks. Thank you to everyone for being so giving and helping those in need! My spirit has been lifted, and my family will pay it forward for sure!!!

I happened upon the Scary Mommy site looking for a place to vent and connect with other mommies. After a few days I kept seeing a thread for Thanksgiving assistance. Being too proud, it took me several days to fill out the application. Once I completed everything, though, I felt right at home. The Thanksgiving help came at a time when I needed it most. My hope is that I can one day give back to Scary Mommy Nation.

I’m sitting here near tears…Thank you so much. This money means food on our table and I thank you from the bottom of my heart and the rest of my family’s heart. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thanksgiving wouldn’t be possible this year without your love and kindness and generosity.

I was waiting to hear on my disability claim and we were so very broke and behind on our bills. Scary Mommy saved me at Thanksgiving with a gift card to my local grocery store. I cried when I received it, it was such a big help to our family! I recently was approved for disability and I’ll never forget how Scary Mommy came through for me!

There are no words for the relief you have brought to my family. Knowing that there are people in this world who want to bring happiness into the lives of strangers has changed not only my holiday, but my outlook on life. From my family to all of yours, thank you.

I was confused for a moment when I saw the envelopes in my mail this afternoon (Huh? I don’t know anyone named Meghan in Arizona…). Then I remembered Scary Mommy, and my heart skipped a beat. Words cannot express how grateful I am to Meghan, and to the woman with the postmark from Kearny, NJ (signed simply “Me”) who also, incredibly, included “a little something extra for the upcoming gift-giving season.” You have made my family’s holidays immeasurably brighter. Thank you so, so much.

I wanted to send a note of thanks to you for organizing the Scary Mommy Thanksgiving and for the generosity of your readers. Because of $50 that you sent, our family was able to enjoy a traditional Thanksgiving meal with turkey, dressing, cranberry sauce, green bean casserole, mashed potatoes, sweet potato casserole, Jello salad, and pumpkin pie. It’s not often that we can afford a $50 meal, but thanks to you and your readers, today we could!

Can you help give another mother Thanksgiving this year? Learn more about the Thanksgiving Project or donate below. 

(You can also mail checks to: Scary Mommy Nation, PO Box 20866 Baltimore, MD 21209)


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  1. Melissa says

    I don’t have much extra money. Like many people, our family is struggling to make ends meet…behind on bills and always trying to figure out where the money will come from to keep going until next week. But this week I do have $50 to donate. I may not know how we are going to pay our hospital bills from the birth of our son, but I do have a wonderful family that will provide us with Thanksgiving dinner. I am not worried about being able to feed my child and have a nice holiday for him. And because of that…because there is someone to help us, we want to help another family. Happy Thanksgiving!

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  2. Katie Schubert says

    I know what it is like to wonder where the money for next week’s groceries will come from, and having to decide whether to buy gas or groceries. I have a good job now and don’t worry about feeding my 3 girls, but I haven’t forgotten that there are other people like me out there who aren’t “well” yet. Money is still tight, but not so tight that I couldn’t afford to help someone less well off. I hope some family has a wonderful Thanksgiving with my donation.

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  3. Jaime-Maria Nelson says

    My wife and I find ourselves in a fortunate position and able to make a $200 donation. We just had twins earlier this year and hope to never wonder where their next meal will come from. I remember, as a kid, my Mom having to go across the street to borrow peanut butter and jelly, or eating nothing but potatoes for an entire summer because that is all we had. I hope those families in need get the “break” they have been waiting for. Paying it forward. Happy Holidays to all.

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    • says

      Where or who do we talk to to get help ? I have a 4 year old and a mentally disabled step son! Both me and my husband both lost our jobs everything is getting shut off my car is about to be reposed ! We owe 2300 in rent and utlilites alone the pantrys have helped us get through weekly! We moved back to Florida from Ohio to be my sick mom and everything has gone wrong for us! Its putting pressure on our marriage everything is just overwhelming; (

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      • SS says

        Have you talked to the Department of Social Security? Dealing with them sucks BIG time, but that’s your best bet for where to start looking to find help. You should be able to get help as the parents of a disabled child, you should be able to at least get state insurance for your kids (if not for yourselves, depending on your state), there’s cash assistance tied to a work program (you get help finding work and get cash assistance for participating), there’s food stamps, you can get aid in paying for rent and utilities, etc. DSS is where you apply for all that.

        Look into WIC- it can help with food for your kids (at least for your 4 year old).

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  4. Roxi Hohimer says

    I too know what it's like to survive on macaroni and rice. I am fortunate to have always had a wonderful Thanksgiving. It's my favorite holiday. I hope my donation will help make it special for another family. Blessings.

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  5. Howard and Gareth Levy says

    Hi Jill, This is a lovely project. Making a dofference in the quality of a family’s life, on a very personal level. We’re very happy to contribute, and ask you to put our name on your list for next Thanksgiving donation time. Warmest wishes to you and your family Howard and Gareth Levy

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  6. Deborah Traxel says

    Jill – the first year you did this our family was a recipient of help. That year was the first time I ever used a food bank, enrolled the kids in free lunch, and had to choose between electric bill and Thanksgiving dinner. More than the obvious help; the personal notes that were sent by people along with the gift cards we so touching, I have them still today.

    We are doing better now and that year is just a blip on the radar of life. I am so happy to be able to turn around and help another family this year. Thank you for putting all of this together. We made our donation through paypal but would love to write encouraging notes to people if you need volunteers to do that.

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  7. Joleen says

    Just donated. I’ve been reading this website since I was looking up parenting websites when I was 5 months pregnant. The absolutely honesty about parenting and children had me hooked. I love the fact that things aren’t glossed over and there are statements about people being super tired, overwhelmed and even cranky about parenting. Bring on the snark and sarcasm! That is my idea of heading into parenting with your eyes open.

    Things have been tight since I’m a single mom of my 3 month old, but I’ve now returned to work and things are getting better. The thought that my donation will allow a family the chance to have a real Thanksgiving instead of ramen (or for some families nothing) makes me feel so glad the Scary Mommy Nation is here. Keep up the good work! I hope the money keeps coming and everyone that applies can have Thanksgiving.

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