So You Want To Start A Blog?

About the writer


What started as an innocent on-line baby book to chronicle Jill Smokler’s stay-at-home days with her children, quickly transformed into a vibrant community of parents, brought together by a common theme: Parenting doesn’t have to be perfect. Welcome to Scary Mommy!


My Inner Chick 2 years ago

if your husband is from Liverpool, we are married to the same freaking dude!

I agree, it’s HARD work, but if you’re blogging for the right reasons, people will read what you have to say.

Excellent advice. x

Anonymous 3 years ago

Great advice! I love your site and enjoy your segments on with KLG and Hoda. Please support my new blog. Thanks!

Leah Drewcock 3 years ago

I have never written a review or entered anything on a blog, but I just HAVE to share how much I LOVE the Scary Mommy books. I can relate to every story, I am hooked and have told all my friends to buy the books.

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    That’s so nice to hear. Thank you!!!!!

onefunnymummy 3 years ago

Thanks for the great advice and for the inspiration to keep working at my blog and my writing! Can’t wait to read your books–kinda hard to read anything at the moment with a 2 1/2 and 10 month old running around–but they’re definitely on my list. : )

Elaine A. 3 years ago

Honestly, I cannot imagine starting a blog now with the way things are so much MORE than they were when I started 6.5 years ago. I would feel like a super small, tiny baby gold fish in a big ole ocean (still do sometimes anyway!)

But you give great advice to those who are brave enough to jump in and you’re so genuine and real and that counts for SO much, Jill.

p.s. love your hair and your sweet smile. always. :)

Jessica Cobb (@DomesticPirate) 3 years ago

Thanks so much for this! My blog is still itty-bitty and sometimes my husband will come home, see me on the laptop and ask if I’ve made any money yet. Sadly for him, that’s not why I started it, but having such awesome direction and hints from ladies like you and JD from Honest Mom are making it seem like a very real possibility!

Stephanie @ Mommy, for Real. 3 years ago

What I love about this post is the fact that I bet every blogger who watches this will feel that you are speaking *just* to them, as if you had plucked their questions and anxieties right out of their head- I am no exception. Thanks so much for this- you really captured what many of us “newer” bloggers are thinking!

Katy @ Experienced Bad Mom 3 years ago

Great clip, Jill! Thanks for encouraging us all to be ourselves and root for one another!

P.S. You look and sound great. :)

Jill 3 years ago

Great advice! I am currently trying to find my “blog voice” and coming to realize how much work it will be to find it. I love reading your blog; thank you for putting the time and effort in to make such a great community.

Jennifer P. Williams 3 years ago

Spot. On.

tracy 3 years ago

Oh hon, this is awesome. So many reasons why I love you. xoxo

One Classy Motha 3 years ago

Thanks so much, Jill! My humor is usually off-center, sometimes warped, and often embarrassing…but it’s me. I could play it safe (my in laws would love it), but what fun would that be? Thanks for the reminder to be myself!

Kristin VanderHey Shaw 3 years ago

You are THE BOMB. "There's room for everyone" – this is why I love you.

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago


Janine Huldie 3 years ago

Seriously, cannot thank you enough fro sharing this here with all of us. And must admit my husband does get so frustrated with all the time I put into my blog, but you are right I do very find myself treating it as a job, but also just love it. And have found I love the community aspect about it most and have really made some wonderful friends from blogging. For that alone at the end of the day and what it is worth have found it truly worth it and so rewarding. thank you again and have shared this, too!! 😉

Lauren (Don’t Lick the Trash Can) 3 years ago

Jill, thanks so much for this! Great reality check and great advice!!

Alison 3 years ago

Best advice – be yourself, don’t try to be anyone else.
That’s what I love most about you, Jill.
Scary Mommy is one of the reasons I started blogging. No BS.

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    That makes me happy. 3 years ago

Word! It is hard ass work with few rewards but worth it.

Jessica 3 years ago

This is great Jill and I think it is such great advice for new bloggers and a good reminder for anyone who’s been doing it for a while. It’s so easy to get caught up in trying to be like someone else in order to grow your blog but I’ve found that the only way I can keep doing it, and actually like doing it, is to write what I want to write and just be myself. BTW, you look amazing!

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    I love you. :)

Jenn @ Mommy Needs A Martini 3 years ago

I definitely needed to hear this! Thank you for giving other bloggers a voice on your site. I have learned so much from other bloggers and the outpouring of support and encouragement is invaluable.

JD Bailey @ Honest Mom 3 years ago

Jill, that was perfect. Really. Best advice for new bloggers yet.

I love the blogging community so much. I have two blogging tribes that I adore – one filled with experienced bloggers, one filled with newer bloggers – and both are amazing because all the women in the groups celebrate each other’s successes.

It’s so true – it’s easy to get caught up in the internal debate of “why did HER blog get so popular and why isn’t mine?” But as you said, very few blogs go viral. Most of the time, blogs that become megasuccessful do so because the blogger kept at it for a looooong time.

Fantastic points – sharing this with my blogging peeps. xoxo

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    Thank you. And it’s something I have to remind myself of often – it’s never enough, and there will always be someone getting more, doing better etc. You have to just get over it or it consumes you. (Easier said than done, of course!)

Frammitz 3 years ago

I agree that we need to support each other, and I feel so good when I see someone doing and writing really well. I sometimes question myself, whether I should be writing, or writing about the wide range of things I write about. I guess we all do. Your vlog was a reminder to be patient and be myself. Thank you.

Pam Melyan-Bratton 3 years ago

Awesome, and congrats on your successes!

Anita @ Losing Austin 3 years ago

All I see is that the plugin has crashed- and I thought that was just your funny words, that it all crashes and is a nightmare (but is well worth it) LOL

Now I need to go fix that so I can see your real words of wisdom!

Stephanie R 3 years ago

I love this so much. I have friends wanting to start a blog purely for the “free stuff”. I normally roll my eyes and give them links to “blog how to’s” just because its easier than sitting and explaining that it is a TON of work, not that they would actually believe me. A ton of work, yet I love (almost) every minute of it. I think from now on Im going to pass this post along.

Jenn 3 years ago

I started blogging because I love to write and I needed a hobby and an outlet. I LOVE blogging :) But even for a “nobody” blogger like me, it is a lot of work and is very time consuming. I often let my blogs go silent because it can stop being fun. As long as I’m enjoying myself, my blog and I get along just fine.

Tania Leigh 3 years ago

That is awesome. I like this blog and makes me feel good at the end of the day, especially when I feel guilty that I made so many parenting mistakes in just one day. Having my 4 yr old get angry at me for breaking off a piece of his bagel and putting it my mouth and then right after he says "I still love you mommy! but don't do it again!". Those are the little moments I live for. This blog makes me feel not alone. Thank you for that.

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    That makes me happy. Thank YOU.

Grown and Flown 3 years ago

It is more work than can be imagined, but the friendships, the learning, the new experiences…beyond words!

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago


Jessica 3 years ago

I love blogging and would like to see my community grow. I think her advice to be yourself and get involved in other sites is great advice.

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    It’s really key – that’s the best way to do it.

liz 3 years ago

I’m one of your cheerleaders! You are adorable in this clip. You really have worked hard, and that’s so obvious in all that surrounds your site and you. Thanks for sharing your “secret”…

    Jill Smokler, AKA Scary Mommy 3 years ago

    Awww, thanks!! It really is work – fun, great work – but work nonetheless!


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