10 Things New Moms Want to Tell New Dads


1. You’re holding the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

2. You’re wiping the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

3. You’re putting the diaper on wrong. Do it anyway.

4. You’re burping the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

5. You’re bathing the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

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6. You’re pushing the stroller wrong. Do it anyway.

7. You’re feeding the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

8. You’re dressing the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

9. You’re soothing  the baby wrong. Do it anyway.

10. You’re singing to the baby wrong. Do it anyway.


P.S. We have no idea what the hell we’re doing, either.

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Evan 6 months ago

This is really messed up. If I wrote an article like this about my wife (hell if I even thought this for a fleeting moment) I’d get lambasted for it.

Dads are capable. We have different approaches but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong. And heads up – we see the stuff written about us and the what you “think behind our backs” and it’s not cool. We’re human and have freakin feelings contrary to popular belief.

Kris 10 months ago

This list has a haughty, condescending tone. I’m a pediatrician and I’ve seen countless fathers handle newborns better than their mothers. Try a team approach and encourage your partner to be involved. Lose this “you’re doing it wrong” b.s. You’re likely to divorce in years to come if your partner can’t even speak to you in a respectable, helpful manner.

Jenna North 1 year ago

The dad has got to understand their child aswell so let them learn by themself and dont talk down to them like they dont know what there doing. Give them a chance :) Taff Williams

Suzanne Dreitlein 1 year ago

My husband was a far better burper.

Patricia Pigeon 1 year ago

The first time my hubby helped I told him how to do it. The next time in let him figure it out. It is important to trust his instincts.

Brent Almond 1 year ago

My reply if a new mom had told me any of these when I was a new father?
“Mind your beeswax, lady! My husband and I got this!”

Hsiuwen Jao-Torres 1 year ago

Do it anyway… And don’t wake me

Benjamin Ellis Hurford 1 year ago

This could be written about any new mum or dad.

Jerry Palmerino 1 year ago

As a dad, I always say “Just because I don’t do it the way you do, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

Leah-Renee Nettekoven 1 year ago

My husband was more kid capable then I was. He bathed our daughter from day one because I was too afraid to. He’s a 100% daddy and I love him for it.

Samantha 1 year ago

Not the case here… I do it myself because I do it better, faster, easier, correctly. Control freak, ugh, wish I didn’t have this type of personality!

Nicole Webb 1 year ago

My husband always told me ” you’re the food supply.. So I can’t do anything” and he went back to his video games. I thought I was going to have more help with our first.. Weather it was my in laws or my husband.. Our second child WILL be different.. We’ve both learned a lot and this time I will voice my needs for help more.

Erin Marie Hudson 1 year ago

Don’t agree with this…

Sarah Brimlow Charles 1 year ago

I think this maybe speaks to how HE feels like he is doing everything wrong, not that the mother is judging him, because at the end she says she doesn’t know what she’s doing either…. Seems that maybe this speaks to dads shying away from helping because they don’t feel like they know what to do but the mom seems to and she’s saying joy to because she feels the same way.

Joanna Anderson 1 year ago

Uh, heeelllpppp

Monika Hammond 1 year ago

They left out “piss off!!”

Caryn O’Connell 1 year ago

My ex was very helpful in many ways. One in specific was bathing. I dropped my first boy back in to the baby tub covering his face completely under water and never bathed them again because of it. Obviously now that they’re 6&7 I help shower them but as babies that was his job and it turned it into daddy time and mommy time alone 😀

Angela Noon 1 year ago

Not wrong. Just different. They have to find their own “right” way.

Kay Trajkovski 1 year ago

I wanted to tell my husband to leave. Not because I was upset or because he was doing something wrong. I just wanted nothing to do with anyone but the baby. I just wanted to weep and be alone with the baby… Then after about a month, I snapped out of it.

Kelly Conley 1 year ago

I had a friend that was a new dad, he was burping the baby by patting the bottom of the babies feet. I tried not to laugh but I could not help it. I guess pat the bottom was not specific enough.

Veronica Parks 1 year ago

My husband does things his way and I do them mine. She likes some things the way her daddy does them and other things the way that mumma does them.

Tracie Roughley 1 year ago

I think instead of “wrong” we should say “differently to how I would” haha

Amanda Ayers Campbell 1 year ago


Levi Ladof 1 year ago

Thanks moms. We got this

Neishia Grady Preston 1 year ago

Daddy’s are daddy’s. Just like mommy’s are mommy’s. Every bit as capable to change a diaper or burp a baby. We have to let them.

ASAP Sitters, LLC 1 year ago

hahaha :)

Christi Poor 1 year ago

My husband had never changed a babies diaper when our daughter was born and anytime I went to offer advise he told me…….I have to learn, I got this

Keri BarkMan 1 year ago

If the dad is helping, he is doing it right. Best thing I ever did while pregnant was to prepare myself for my husband doing things a little differently.

Beth 1 year ago

I so agree!!!!!! Our daughter is 2 almost 3 weeks old and I have thought every single one of these….I keep it to myself, and let him do it, I’m thankful he’s an awesome daddy and husband and is willing to do everything he can.

    Kimberly 1 year ago

    Good thing you are keeping it to yourself. I kept making those “eeek” noises when I was worried too. Really upset hubby from holding him

    Laura 10 months ago

    Baby is 3 months and I still have these thoughts lol


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