25 Ways You Know You’re a Stay at Home Mom


1. At least half of your meals consist of your child’s leftovers.

2. When your husband asks, “what did you do today?” you can’t muster up a single thing to report, despite feeling like you’ve been put through the spin cycle of the washing machine.

3. Your kids ask where you are going when you put on jeans.

4. You can clean your entire house with a package of baby wipes.

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5. A “night out” is roaming the aisles at Target alone.

6. The TV has been on all day, but you have no idea what’s happening in world news.

7.  Showering is a major accomplishment.

8. Your kids see you naked more often than your husband.

9. You actually know what the fox says, or what it could say at least, because 50% of your time is spent making animal sounds. 

10. Your mood depends solely on the length of time your child napped for. 

11. Putting a bra on means someone special is coming over.

12. On the way out the door, You look down at your kids crusty food on your shirt and think to yourself, eh, it’s not that bad. Or worse, you pick it off and actually taste it.

13. You fake stomach problems once your husband gets home, just so you can be alone in your own bathroom.

14. Your dog barks when you put “real” shoes on.

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15. You have invited Jehovahs Witnesses in on more than one occasion, and scared them off after asking if they’d like a dirty martini.

16. You have to check the weather outside before you head out because you have no idea how cold or warm it is because you haven’t been out in days.

17. You consider going on Facebook “spending time with your friends.”

18. You’ve been wearing the same outfit for a couple days in a row…and you’re not sure exactly how many “a couple” means.

19. You’ve contemplated performing your own hysterectomy while preparing dinner… more than once.

20. Your vacuum cleaner is a permanent fixture in [insert the busiest room in the house] and hasn’t been unplugged for three months.

21. You have no idea what the date or day of the week is, but you can tell what time it is just by what cartoon is on TV.

22. It’s only 9AM and you’ve thought “I need a drink.”

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23. You’re nursing an infant on the toilet while simultaneously scheduling a doctor’s visit.

24. The cup of coffee you are drinking at lunch is the cup you made at 5:30am, just reheated for the 100th time.

25. You don’t want to go to bed at night because the silence is just too beautiful, no matter how tired you are.

Related post: The Stay At Home Mom Challenge

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Raegan 2 weeks ago

As a stay at home mom of three I can say my life is NOTHING like this. While I am not the type of person to schedule every minute of my day I find it is helpful to have some sort of a routine. Plus if I get up, get dressed, do my hair and make up I accomplish a lot more during the day. I don’t want my husband coming home to a slob. http://www.raeganmirickffodblog.blogspot.com

wife1014 1 month ago

What the hell happened to yourself if this list is true for you. I’ve been a SAHM for almost 8 years and I can proudly say that I am me, a wife, a friend, and a mom.

Anonymous 1 month ago

Been their know your pain but wish I could do it all over

Jenna 5 months ago

I wish all of you negative commenters wouldn’t have ruined this wonderfully true and funny and honest blog…gated…what’s your problem!?

Christa 6 months ago

Is that how you feel about working dads, too?

Veronica 6 months ago

As a Jehovah’s Witness who is a SAHM, I found #15 to be particularly hysterical. Lol =)

Crazy Mama 6 months ago

Most of those describe me exactly which made me CRY. I feel like I’m losing it everyday and I feel like I’ve had the most challenging time with my now 1-year old. I am now expecting and due in 5 months which has me anxious and depressed. I feel like I’m doing everything wrong and about to go completely insane once the other arrives. I feel like I don’t even know who I am anymore. What is even more depressing is that I have no one else for support. Though my husband does his best he has his plate completely full and is literally dying working crazy hours resting a few hours at night at most. I hope some day if we can make it we will look back and laugh and be happy thinking it was all worth it. Each night I have to look at cute pictures and short fleeting moments I had with my son to remind myself to take a deep breath and take one day at a time.

Brenda 6 months ago

Yes!!!! All of them except # 18 I try to make time for myself most of the time

Ledah 6 months ago

What does it mean if you are a working mom and you still can relate to this?…now that’s scary!

Natalie 6 months ago

Ummm, this is nothing what my life is like. Did the author actually ever stay at home with kids or are they just guessing what they think it is like?

lisa 6 months ago

Twin mummy too and I do exactly the same. Although I worked in a day nursery as a manager and my girls came with me. Think balance is key and I have to say love my time with the girls

sarah 6 months ago

Wow. Who cares what a random person says on the internet? Calm down and get some confidence!

CSaw 6 months ago

Ahhhh…… the silence, I can actually relax!!

Aimee 6 months ago

I think we need to get our facts straight. If I had come to your door and you offered me a martini, I would have asked if you had blue cheese olives.

Kelstar 6 months ago

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately.

My grandmother was one of the first women to go to college in her small Georgia town. She worked her butt off to get there and then to pay for it. She graduated, started an exciting career, got married, and quit her job so she could take care of her babies to ensure they would grow up to be successful.

It worked! My mom did great! She went to college and graduated and started an exciting career. Then she got married and quit her job to take care of babies to make sure they would grow up to be successful.

And it worked! All five of us have advanced degrees and exciting jobs. I am in a position where I could quit and stay home with my child, but two generations of women already did that in an effort to get me where I am. When you consider all the work you pour into your children…to me, I would shift my efforts quite a lot if I thought the endgame was for my kid to stay home with children all day long.

I have a great deal of respect for stay at home moms, and sometimes I’m jealous of them. Then I think of all the effort my grandmother poured into my mom, and all the effort my mom poured into me, and all the effort I’m pouring into my kid. I have to be honest, I would be a little disappointed if, after everything we’ve done for this kid, he devoted his entire life to someone else’s success (who would then devote it to someone else’s, and someone else’s, and someone else’s).

*bracing for incoming attack*

Bea 6 months ago

I’m a SAHM and I agree. The same outfit for days in a row? No bra? I’d be depressed if I allowed myself to live like that, it takes a few minutes to put on clean clothes, brush your hair, get yourself looking decent, and it does wonders for your mood. When my kids were babies I would put them in the bouncy chair or play pen by the open bathroom door while I showered or showered after they were in bed. When they grew they would play in my room while I showered and dressed. On a rare occasion when we have a very hectic day I may skip a shower in the morning (but in that case will take a quick shower after they’re in bed). Stayiing at home is sure he tic but it’s no excuse for poor hygiene.

Lauren 6 months ago

How true. This is why homeschooling worries me. There are so many uneducated people pretending to be teachers.

lee 6 months ago

You are so smart! Your comment makes so much sense!

Megan 6 months ago

Omg this is my life

SallySue 6 months ago

Wow. Perhaps your just upset with your own choices you made. You “cannot have your cake and eat it too”. If you want children you should care for them, spend time with them whether you work or not. However, I had read a lot of comments for working mother’s who say things like “I can’t stand being around my young children all day every day and that’s why I work.” The real answer should be “I would love to spend all day every day with my children unfortunately I have to work full time to pay for the things we need like food, shelter etc.”

mda 7 months ago

Maybe you have that choice to stay home but when a father walks away after the last one is born and doesn’t pay child support and a judge looks at you and tells you that you need to support you and your 3 kids and you don’t have any family around to help then what, you don’t have that option of staying at home, you have to leave your kids in childcare.

Proud stay at home mom 7 months ago

That’s what my mom says to me. She wasn’t a stay at home mom but a single working mom. She said she didn’t realize how much a stay at home mom did until I became one. Somedays she wonders how I do it!

Sarah Harris 7 months ago

Reading the infantile comments above one thing sticks out like a sore thumb – people will say anything to justify THEIR position.

Stay@homeMom 7 months ago

Did ya see the warning pre-comment section: “The Scary Mommy Community is built on support. If your comment doesn’t add to the conversation in a positive or constructive way, please rethink submitting it. Basically? Don’t be a dick, please.”

PD 8 months ago

This list is a bit ridiculous. I am a stay at home mom. I put on jeans/ proper clothes every morning, go out almost every day and never leave the house with crusted on food on anyone’s clothes! We also never used to have the TV on, now that my son is almost 2, we have it on maybe for one show a day. This list just describes a bunch of slobs, which I hope is not what most stay at home moms are! I have an education and a career, and I could afford daycare, but I believe that it is best for my kids to be home with me for at least the first 3 years, so I’m taking 4.5 years off. Yes it’s a small setback in my career, and yes sometimes it’s tiring and frustrating and naptime is glorious. But being home with my kids is about interacting with them, teaching them things, taking them places where they can participate in stimulating activities and just spending time with them. It’s not about cooking and cleaning all day while leaving cartoons on!

amy 8 months ago

Thank you! I’ve been a stay at home mom for 7 years. It is the hardest thing ever!! I wish I could take an hour lunch break and 2; 15’s!!

Lisa 8 months ago

Seriously! Seeing all this animosity amongst mothers depresses the hell out of me!

Lisa 8 months ago

It’s really sad to see women, especially mothers, attacking one another. There is no right or wrong in this, everybody is different -therfore the same thing will not work for everybody. As mothers, we have so much on our plates already, so why are we tearing each other down? I applaud and support every mother who is raising their children in the way that works for their family.

Christina B 8 months ago

I don’t even bother to reheat my coffee anymore I’ve just gotten accustomed to drinking it cold. The only time it’s hot is the first sip.

reader 8 months ago

Lol :)

Sarz 8 months ago

#25 I have actually developed a bit of insomnia because I enjoy the peace so much at night :(

Nadine 8 months ago

Note to self: To maintain the light-hearted feel-good factor, reading must stop at the end of the article. DO NOT scroll down to the comments section…

Petra 8 months ago

Hi all,
so it was too long for some of you to stay with your baby at home for 6 months? Imagine that in our country we usually stay at home with kids for 3 YEARS! (we get some parental benefits, but are mainly dependent on our partners). In fact, I don’t know anyone who stayed out of job for less than 2 years… Well, it’s a tradition and often a necessity, as it is difficult to find a nursery for a child younger than 3. Most families can’t afford private nurseries, that usually accept children from the age of 2. And, the nurseries/preschools close at 5 pm, some even earlier (so the problems continue when you try to find a job to be back for the child on time). Most of us can’t afford nannies, so we “employ” grandmothers or older siblings (yes that can and do stay at home alone as soon as they go to school at some families).
Have a nice, calm Friday evening 😉
P. D. (Prague)

Amanda 8 months ago

Sometimes mother’s cant help it. What if a spouse suddenly dies or walks out on them, as what happened to my sister? Moms aren’t always as lucky as some of us who CAN stay home with our kids.

Amanda 8 months ago

Are you serious? We should go do adult things? Without kids? That would be great! Except most of us don’t have that option. We are MOTHERS who don’t get days off and even if we do we still have to take care of someone. I am not independent because I find this list funny. I take care of my 6 kids, one that isn’t even 2 yet, and for me that is a HUGE accomplishment for me. If you don’t think this is grown up enough then you are the one that needs to get off the internet, Noname. I had a house full of sick kids that I took care of even tho I was sick. Then a sick husband that I had t baby just as much. My reward? Nothing you may find exciting. Sometimes reading things like this makes us realize how NORMAL we stay at home moms are and that there is nothing wrong with neglecting certain things others think they need for the benefit of our babies.

melg 8 months ago

Touche :) these comments have really deteriorated in to ridiculousness. As usual *sigh*

Heidi 8 months ago

I loved this list. However, I can’t believe the cattiness in the comments. So sad. I have been a working mom, a telecommuting mom, and now a SAHM. There is no right or wrong in any of it. They both have their perks and drawbacks. And trust me, the grass is not greener no matter what side you’re on. When you work, you miss out on events at school and milestones at home. BUT your mind is stimulated, you have adult social interaction, and you gain a sense of accomplishment from actually completing tasks. As a SAHM, you have the satisfaction of always being there for your kids. BUT after constantly being on what I call the hamster wheel (cook, clean, laundry, kid stuff, repeat), you start to resent the never-ending to-do list of things you can’t cross off.

Moreover, some of us earn our titles “working mom” or “stay at home mom” by choice. Some don’t. The bottom line? It’s ALL hard work. It’s ALL frustrating. And it’s ALL worthwhile. As long as our kids are loved and well cared for, aren’t we all doing our jobs right?

chantel 8 months ago

Uhhh. No.
none of these. I actually do stuff with my kids. Parks, shopping, movies, games..my house is cleaned. I shower at night when the kids are in bed. It’s not hard…. coming from someone with 3 kids who left a career to stay home.

morri 8 months ago

thats me minus the tv being on(not into tv here). is it bad if the only news i look at are cricket news xD . I have one child and yes i plann at least a steri as i want to keep it this way haha xD

Amanda Sparrow 8 months ago

these days as most mothers are out working and there little ones are being looked after either by a nanny or and an Au oair

So a stay at home mother is a thing of thee past I am sad to say

Laurie 8 months ago

I was a stay-at-home Mom to 4 children, a boy and 3 girls, the first three were 2 years apart each. It was wonderful. I taught them to sing and play the piano. We had pretend art shows. We made home made play dough. I taught them musical pitch by experiments with different amounts of water in glasses and tapping them to hear the different sounds. They learned Math by adding raisins or mini marshmallows and then were allowed to eat them when they got the answers right. I taught them to cook and bake. We had fun summer days where they rode bikes and I supervised the little ones in an inflatable pool in the yard. They loved outings to the playground. When they were older I chauffered them to their numerous activities. When they started school, they did extremely well, and all four went on to go to college. I miss the days when they were little.

Dori 8 months ago

I agree with your comment and was wondering, what exactly, the other person thought so bad about children spending their lives with their mothers? Lol…is that not what being a family is all about? I agree children need to socialize and spend time away from their parents, but you are so right in that they will have plenty of time to develop relationships outside of the family. There is nothing wrong with children learning by example how to take care of their surroundings among EVERYTHING else they will learn from their mommies…stay at home and working.

Sara 8 months ago

Wow. It’s just flat out rude and ignorant of you to say something like that.

I am a SAHM of a 15-month-old girl and a 2-month-old boy who has reflux and cries nearly every minute of the day… I enjoy articles like this because they are funny (sometimes the only laugh I get in my day) and they give me a sense of comfort and community… in knowing there are others out there in my shoes and we will all make it through. Not a day goes by that I don’t miss having a career, working in an office of adults, contributing ideas, and feeling accomplished as a professional woman.

That said, I have a tremendous amount of respect for working mothers. I know that being a SAHM (especially of babies) is difficult, but I imagine there is great difficulty that comes with getting your kids out of bed, hauling them and all the stuff they come with to a babysitter, having to say goodbye and trusting that someone else will keep them safe and nurture them. Yes, working moms get to “put on real pants” and leave the house. For that, I am admittedly jealous. But, that does not make them any less of a mother.

My mom was the world’s most amazing mom… she was a single parent and worked two jobs on top of going to night school. I don’t recall EVER feeling like I was raised by someone else or that she wasn’t present in my life. Of course I spent time with grandparents, family members, and my dad, but spending some time with other people is good for children. I’m sure it was difficult for her, but ya know what? She did it, and she did it well.

Motherhood is hard. I’ll admit, some days — it’s downright miserable. And it has many faces. How about we all stop judging, finger-pointing, and assuming we know everything… enjoy fun articles like this… and support every mother who is doing the best she can for her kids.

Stephanie 8 months ago

I am a SAHM and have been for almost 3 years. I was a very hard working mom before my husband and i got together. Both jobs are hard but it takes a special kind of woman to really jump head on into being a SAHM. not saying there is anything at all wrong with working moms. you ladies are super heros i swear it. I have found out that with being a sahm that you have to have ALOT of patience and thats something i lack and have tried and tried to get better at it. I now have a 5 month old that i stay home with while my 6 yr old goes to school. I havent had my license for this whole 3 years and any car we get ends up breaking down and we dont have the money to fix them so i literally stay home all day every day and it gets very lonely and disheartening. ive lost quite a bit of friends because of that. but this year with tax check we are getting a good running car and my license back so im hoping to make the most of everything. ive been considering getting a part time job for the extra money and for mommy to get out of the house every once in awhile. lol

Jamie Konopik 8 months ago

This is right up my alley! Best and yet hardest job in the world!

KaseyT 8 months ago

You are right. I have a 6 & 2 yr old daughter and I choose to be a sahm because I have always said that I choose to have children they are my responsibility and not any body else’s. In 6 years my husband and I have had 2 evenings to yourself and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My oldest is in kindergarten all day and when my youngest starts school then I will start my career. I have 2 months left and I will have my MA in psychology/Child behavioral science and I have been doing online college for 4 years now. Just because you have children you can still go to work or school and be a productive person. You can also do the same being a sahm. Being a sahm is harder than any job out there. You are shaping and forming young impressionable minds and also scaraficing your own wants and needs to make sure your children have everything they need. Being a parent whether working or being a sahm is not an easy job. All of you who want to bash sahm or put down working moms shame on you. In today’s society moms have to work as well as the fathers just to make ends meet.

Lu Vavak 8 months ago

My favorite! Haha!

19. You’ve contemplated performing your own hysterectomy while preparing dinner… more than once.

luvmyboy 8 months ago

From one SAHM to another. You don’t want people to judge you, so don’t judge them!
You’re no better than anyone else. Your life is no more important than anyone else’s.

Sinclair 8 months ago

You lost me at ‘hot balanced meal. I feel sorry you feel that way, I wouldn’t want my kids anywhere other than home with me!

Aubrey Roberts 8 months ago

Sooooooo true!!

Cadence Candeloro 8 months ago

Uh oh. I’m officially there

Sara Sardina 8 months ago

Haha. Silly nonsence.

Danielle Robitaille 8 months ago

I kno all the opening songs to almost all the disney jr shows. And almost all songs sang within the shows. Ur not a stay at home mom- if u cant sing along with disney junior.

Jenny Zacharias-Phelps 8 months ago

These are great! # 24 & 25 for sure!

Jen 9 months ago

#15 LOL I made friends! Was all I was thinking. Adult convo for an hour was a treat for me despite who they were!

Ashley Poole 9 months ago

I can soooo relate to #25!

Ashley Prater 9 months ago

#8 & #25 dead on

Sarah Herniman 9 months ago

Ah maternity leave <3 I’d still choose everyone of these over going back to work in march

Stevie Alder 9 months ago

*Looks down and realizes I’m wearing the same clothes as yesterday…* Haha!

Denise Hughes Frank Blados 9 months ago

I can only relate to No. 3. I love baby wipes.

Alison Reding McGuinn 9 months ago

Wow, overreact much? Plus mother should note equate to martyr. Wake up before the kids to shower or do it after they go to bed. I’m blessed to have 3, the smallest 18 months. The p

Aviva Comet Hoback 9 months ago

I thought staying home with my 6 kids for 18 years now, was proof enough of my status as a MASTER DOMESTIC ENGINEER

Nakhat Fatima 9 months ago

Oh good lord! I’m not alone … yay 😀

Katie Cizauskas 9 months ago

I laughed so hard I peed a little :) Totally my life.

Sarah Butcher 9 months ago

Lmao its all true!! Haha

Kimberly Herp Bowles 9 months ago

How dare those women offend you, a total stranger, with their inability to find 20 minutes to maintain themselves. How dare they take care of all those other people first. It must really chap your hide. How dare they.

Kimberly Herp Bowles 9 months ago

You have an easy kid(s). Congratulations.

Kimberly Herp Bowles 9 months ago

SAHM is a luxury for the husband. A lot depends on the personalities and specific needs of your kids. If you don’t feel overwhelmed, congratulations. Please don’t assume that your analysis applies to anyone other than yourself.

Eunice Miyatake 9 months ago

Ahhh! Those were the days. Glad they are over!

Amber McGinnis 9 months ago

There are pants without elastic waist!?!?

Julie Morones ‘Dortch’ 9 months ago


Jessica Nunez 9 months ago

Love this, lol!

Stacia Norris 9 months ago

So funny, but so true. Try adding home schooling on top of it, no peace what so ever, but one day I’m going to miss it.

John Laurence 9 months ago

Cute, but disturbingly accurate.

Stacey Bass McPherson 9 months ago

#25 is the one that fits me to a T. I will sit on the couch in my dead-silent living room after the kids and hubby have gone to bed for at least an hour, just to take in the silence.

Teri Lynne 9 months ago

Along with being a stay at home mom, you are also a housewife. The husband gets no respect for providing the luxury of being able to raise your own kids. Having a clean house, meals, and looking respectable the majority of the time should be expected. And if you think a man should feel grateful that his kids are still alive while he left them in your care, you probably shouldn’t be alone with kids.

Alicia Beatty 9 months ago

Wouldn’t you just know because you stay at home?

Teri Lynne 9 months ago

Monika, I completely agree. But, not only are the kids, and you important, but so is your HUSBAND!!! Don’t forget about the man who is making it able for you to stay home with your kids!!! That is a luxury a lot of people do not have.

Reader 9 months ago

Wouldn’t you know your a stay at home mom just by being a stay at home mom… Not sure why a list for this is needed…

Monika Nelson 9 months ago

Comfy doesn’t have to be sloppy though. I’m totally comfortable in tights and a tunic shirt. I’ll lounge in pj’s after the kiddos bed time or if I’m feeling sick, but otherwise, there is nothing wrong with getting properly dressed in the morning into ~clean~ clothes. And just because you’re a mum doesn’t mean you have to wear the same clothes day after day. I think that many SAHMs have lost sight of the fact that while your kids are important, so are you. And if you make the time for yourself, you’ll feel better about yourself. If you need to call a neighbour over so you can have a proper shower and out on clean clothes, do it!

Raymond Dowd 9 months ago

hire a lot of day labor (cleaning up lots and empty house’s and store fronts steam cleaning parking lots) and my friends wife asked me for a job (her mother was visiting and wanted to help with the kids) she just wanted to get out of house and be around big people.

Kaylene Pryor 9 months ago

People need to realize not EVERYTHING is going to apply to them. And if you get up at 5am just to work out and put yourself together, good for you.. Other moms consider that time to be better spent on precious zzzz’s..

Kate White 9 months ago

And yes I too have a sense of humor. It does not mean this article is not offensive.

Valerie M Cody 9 months ago

Some do and to me it’s a shame.

Liam Smith 9 months ago

As a shift worker I actually spend as many if not more days home with my son than my wife. Not saying we need to be “politically correct” but its worth remembering there are plenty of stay at home dads these days too.

Kate White 9 months ago

Same here. I busted my butt to make ends meat for a long time, especially when my daughters father and I split. I’m now happily married with a toddler at home and my two girls in school. When I was pregnant my husband and I decided TOGETHER that we did not want our son in daycare, at least for a little while. So yes my job is the homemaker, and to me it’s a very important job. I work very hard to run a tight ship and I don’t take naps, I don’t watch talk shows and soap operas. I maintain a well oiled machine and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. <3

Valerie M Cody 9 months ago

Rachel I have a wonderful sense of humor. But I get fed up hearing about how all sahm’s are fat lazy slobs! Ok wait I am fat but…lol

Valerie M Cody 9 months ago

Jessica thank you! Being a SAHM was what I always wanted and I take pride in it too. I’ve done both ways so I know how it goes. It’s not always easy and it’s not always fun but at this point I am happy :)

Jennifer Janicek 9 months ago


Amanda Lee 9 months ago

24 is true for me! Coffee and breakfast is always cold by the time I am able to have them :)

Morgan Buchanan 9 months ago

Oh my!! This is scary!!! Funny….but scary!!!!

I agree with both sides – maybe 2 or 3 of these apply to me. The rest are just horrible… But I’ve known SAHMs like that so I do get the humor behind it and agree that some commenters on here need to lighten up just a smidge!

Alison Reding McGuinn 9 months ago

For the life of me I can’t understand why it is so hard to take a shower every day? Sounds like it’s just not a priority for these women. Gross.

Camille Ruckman 9 months ago


Valerie Ann 9 months ago

Definitely not all true – I shower daily and am asleep before 10 most nights – however the dog goes nuts when I put my shoes and coat on.

Regina Lanzetti 9 months ago

Nice to know some things don’t change. Lived it 40 years ago and reading all 25 still bring about scary memories.

Sarah Marr Teixeira 9 months ago

So true!!!

Holly M Barnes 9 months ago

Haha! So funny!

Kimberly Thompson 9 months ago

Yep, yep, and yep. All true!

Andrea Benson 9 months ago

Bah my wife always asks what I did today… it’s easier to say nothing.. because todays real answer will involve joys such as cleaning diarrhea flecks off the bathroom walls. You’re welcome!!

Imani Malika 9 months ago

But anyway, I know I’m a SAHM because……wait for it…….I’m a SAHM. Mind. Blown.

Imani Malika 9 months ago

Number 24!! I am queen of reheated coffee.

Stephanie Guerra 9 months ago

So true

Dee Dee Hamilton 9 months ago

I think being a stay at home mom is commendable but isn’t it also really obvious do u really need 25 ways? Just saying

Krystal Ramos Barnes 9 months ago


Deanna Shissias Flanzbaum 9 months ago

Tara Coppola so funny!

Danielle Erwin 9 months ago

You also may be a SAHM if you consider the grocery store employees to be close acquaintances.

Danielle Erwin 9 months ago

#2, especially. Almost all of them, really.

Lindsey Rogers 9 months ago

Funny and very true! X

Jennifer Amendola-Mcmillan 9 months ago

So true, it’s scary lol

April Ratajczak 9 months ago

Hilarious!! And we’ve just begun lol

Sondi Wilson 9 months ago

#25 almost every day

Lishelle Modmama 9 months ago

I still put a bra on when you come over Natasha Carter! <3 Special frannnndddd <3

Debbie Dodds 9 months ago

Pretty much all of them

Holly Davison 9 months ago

Lol so true

Shivi Kour 9 months ago

Although my son is 10 now…I can totally relate to most of these…especially #3,17,21 and yes #25..u totally nailed it!

Tess Bryan 9 months ago

I work evening shifts. I’m a stay at home mum AND a working mum, and funnily it seems like I have all the cons of both, and none of the pros…. lol.

Melissa Kooyenga Forbes 9 months ago

This is me 3/4 of the time! Taryn Alyssa Lee we may not be sah but we are still livin the mom life :)

Ruth Simpson 9 months ago

No.25 far too often. Gotta watch grown up tv sometime

Heather Plowman 9 months ago

Not a stay at home mom but I can totally relate!

Kathi Barfield-Brewer 9 months ago

Even some of my office pants have elastic waistbands. It’s just comfortable.

La Rubia 9 months ago

Hahahah pretty close!!

Emily Larsen 9 months ago

FFS does anyone know?!?!??! Sophia Osotio Barbie Lenker Ternlund

Sara Sardina 9 months ago

Doesent one just know that she is a stay at home mom? Dumb.

Erika Chester DeMaggio 9 months ago

#25 all the way.

SAHMof4 9 months ago

I’m a SAHM and I feel horrible that you would even imply a working mum is less because she uses daycare. I do not feel in anyway better than other mothers just because I stay home instead of finding a job. If a woman has to work for financial reasons, personal reason or just because she wants to does not make her a bad parent. Woman faught for their rights, this means they faught for the right to choose. That means if a woman works as a labourer or a doctor or a teacher or stays home to raise kids they are all equal, that is their right.

Cameron Hemphill Confer 9 months ago

#23. Truth!

Jessica Birney 9 months ago

Definitely 24 and 25!!!

Tasneem Imam Khan 9 months ago

Hahaha YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Gahhhhh!!!

Meghan MacNeil 9 months ago

I have done every single one of these, yes even #23!

Ayla Ervin 9 months ago


Michele Gately Rodts 9 months ago

I think many of the people who have made comments here need a list titled, “25 ways you know you don’t have a sense of humor”! Get a grip people. It’s meant to get a little laugh out of the people who do relate it the topic. As with all types of media, if you don’t like it, don’t read it/turn it off.

Elaine Gill 9 months ago


Dawn Bialoskurski LoBello 9 months ago

Yes to all but my kids seeing me naked lol

Laura Avila 9 months ago

Oh Lord so true is sad!

Marsha Dunstan 9 months ago

Once my kids asked “where are we going?” because I put on shoes.

Jeanie 9 months ago

As a mom who has done both, I found my youngest thrived being at home with me, as well as my oldest who was in daycare until she was 5. And anothe commentor stated the truth. My house was a total wreck from us playing all day and bedtime for them meant cleaning time for mommy. I spent it with my child doing what she wanted to do, so lots of tea parties, mommy baby games, with me being the baby of course. Yes there were days that she had to go shopping with me and both my girls assisted with dinner. My girls are six years apart and their personalities are totally different and because of this I think the decision to send the oldest to daycare so I could return to work was best for her. She was a super shy child and just bloomed in daycare. My youngest is very outgoing friendly child who makes friends everywhere she goes,so socialization for her was a breeze. Both are in school now and I miss them during the day and my house is spotless

Kimberly Jo Kittridge 9 months ago

10, 11 and 16 resonate!

Lori 9 months ago

too funny

Heather Miller 9 months ago

#3. My son just asked me this today….

Liz Slie 9 months ago

Have you guys been following me around with a hidden camera?

Denise Howe 9 months ago


Ingrid Abdelnour 9 months ago

Wow, pretty right on!!

Sarah Cohea Trichel 9 months ago


Lori 9 months ago


BETH 9 months ago

Very well said. I am a SAHM everyday is different but the same lol I can say for certain it’s not something everyone could do, before being a mom I had a high horse of everything then I became a mom my eyes opened and my world changed. I think all us moms NEED to stop judging . guilt and worry come with the title we need to stop adding society acceptance to the list, wether you are at home or do daycare realize we are all trying our best and some people really truly rock at the mom thing others struggle with 24/7 mom role I honestly can not judge them and neither should you we all have our strengths and our weakness there is SO much that goes into raising kids what is wrong with getting help ? I would rather a mom get help from a daycare then go insane trying to meet everyone else expectations , do what is best for you and your family and forget the rest, because in the end that’s all we can do,good luck and God bless
(Any ‘you’s are not directed at anyone in particular just a broad statement

Nicole Marie Winborn 9 months ago

Almost all of them…lol I live on 20 acres in a small small town. I cook from scratch. My driveway is a quarter mile that we walk to meet the bus in the afternoon. I drive them in the morning. Plus the store. Let’s not forget my 13 Month old son and farm animals. Cleaning my beautiful 2200 square ft house every single day….I’m exhausted at night…but when I fall into bed I just won’t allow myself to sleep. I need that little extra alone time. Just so I can embrace myself. Then wake and nurse my son at least twice still!!!!! But I love my life.

Becky Bradley 9 months ago

23 my favorite

Tiffany Ulanowski 9 months ago

Nailed it…..and im not a sahm!

Tiffany Johnson-Martinez 9 months ago

ESPECIALLY #25 No matter how tired I am, I need that little bit of me time to relax before i actually sleep. THEN i regret it in the morning!!! Lol

Jennifer Wilson 9 months ago

Haha! So many of these, but especially number 25! I’ll get up early and stay up late just for some quiet time. I’m with you Miriam Park! Five with one on the way, and I homeschool. I also cook every meal from scratch. No convenience food or ordering out. I’m a VERY busy, and happy, woman. :-)

Grace Garaycochea Garza 9 months ago

#24 and #25 yes!!!

Courtney Whener 9 months ago

This article is really sad! :( like wth. I hope people really don’t live like this

Fara Kemelman 9 months ago

Hehe #5 this evening

Heather Howell 9 months ago

#3- every time!!

Barbara Johnson 9 months ago

no comment here

biteme 9 months ago

Says the “mom” who lets someone else do the parenting.

Melinda Ma Powell 9 months ago

I’ve rocked yoga pants for the past 5 years… In the time, have NEVER done yoga.

Amie Bowlen Hall 9 months ago

Scary Mommy is now known as Fancy Pants!

Amber Locke 9 months ago

#25 Is so me! !

Jessica McClellan 9 months ago

This was awesome! And made me feel normal

jj 9 months ago

…especially when they’re posting said comments all over facebook continually each day…

jj 9 months ago

I see lots of posts from stay at home moms who make it seem, as in this article, that doing so causes such a hectic life that you can’t groom yourself, you can’t cook meals, you don’t have a social life, or any time for housework. What do stay at home moms do, at home, when their kids are in school/pre-school that makes doing these things so challenging? I’m not a mom, but I’m out of my home 50 hours per week for my job. I feel that, despite not having children, I still face a lot of these challenges. My Sundays are dedicated to housework, grocery shopping on Saturdays, weeknights are for cooking, laundry, exercise, and a tiny bit of television or internet time. Like, an hour tops. I don’t really understand some of the comments I see from stat at home moms at all.

Traci Pangburn 9 months ago

sounds about right

Laurie Milnes-Fox 9 months ago

So true!

Valerie M Cody 9 months ago

Really? Is that the best we can do? I’ve just recently become a SAHM in the last year after working full time since my daughter was born. This is the easiest shit I’ve ever done! Imagine having to work 50 hours a week and STILL do all the things some of you women find it impossible to accomplish. I guess some just have more than they can handle.

Kristy Engel 9 months ago

#10 and #25 every day.

Miriam Park 9 months ago

#23 *blush*

Nikki Howell 9 months ago

My vacuum stays behind the couch and used daily lol

Desiree Wynn Pieprzyk 9 months ago

Preach it!!

Ilana Lowy 9 months ago


Rachel Valcourt 9 months ago

You know you’re a stay at home mom because you stay at home…I’ve simplified it!

Stephanie Pucci 9 months ago

I work 2 days a week, and most of these are true! I could add a few more though…

Amy Vanderkolk Collet 9 months ago

#25 ; ) it’s me

MirandaG 9 months ago

This is my life . being a stay at home mother is not easy, and neither is being a working mother. I have been on both sides. Being a working mom kind of lifted a bit of stress off me , mainly because I was coming home to the kids 2 hours before bedtime and spending 2 -3 hours with them before I rushed off to work. Being a working mom meant less time with my kids , less time being able to enjoy their cute little buts . Which made me miss them so it was no easy on me being at work thinking and worrying about my babies ..But I do have to say being a stay at home mom is stressful yet so rewarding . One moment you feel like ripping your hair out the next you are over joyed by hearing your child say “i love you” for the very first time or running up to you hugging you and kissing you . All those precious acts of love kids to definitely makes up for all the moments you want to pull your hair out. I LOVE MY KIDS . and yes sometimes they do drive me to the brink of insanity , but I wouldn’t have it any other way . . well maybe being able to poop without an audience :p. And I wish my husband would understand just what its like to be a sahm . I wish I could just film a day and a life with a stay at home mom for my husband and for the world to see , just so they can get a feel on how I feel through out the day. :)

Richelle Covello-Sagers 9 months ago


Karissa Smith 9 months ago

#3 is me!!

Shailyn Volk 9 months ago

Hahaha so true

Sarah Bartlett Shelton 9 months ago

At least half are just ridiculous. I am a SAHM mom with 4 children. Really ladies is this the best we can do? I don’t think military precision is necessary but is it necessary to live like a slob? Dirty clothes, kids, house? A little planning and follow through is all that is needed to avoid the filth. Poor kids that live like that.

Michelle Horstman 9 months ago


Tate Shilgevorkyan 9 months ago

Well said!

ScottCynthia Shepp 9 months ago

I work at home and have kids at home. I shower every day, wear a bra, etc… Though I’m a huge fan of sweatpants. 😉

Amethyst Kelly 9 months ago

omg.. 15… i have done that.. well not the martini thing but invited them in and talked their ears off…. they never come over anymore it makes me sad. they did ask if they could do anything for me. my house wasnt that bad…..

Ingrid Walerius 9 months ago

Hahaha loved this

Toni Morato 9 months ago

Yes to at least half of those…and regretfully have been bitten on the ass by #25 on more than one occasion.

Kacy Carlson 9 months ago

I work a full time overnight shift and more than 2/3’s of this applies to me.

Maggie Falato 9 months ago

This is supposed to be a funny light hearted article! “Oh this doesn’t apply to me” who cares? It’s funny!

Holly Luvmyhubs Engler 9 months ago

This is my life & I love it!

Jamie 9 months ago

I completely agree

Alayne Boyce 9 months ago

Actually none of these fit me except the shower one and I’m a stay at home mom…wow

Lisa Pompetzki Lizak 9 months ago

I think it also depends on how many children are home with you. All. Day. Long.

Andrea Batsis 9 months ago

#1, 2, 5 and 10!

Dara Vanover 9 months ago

I’m working PT, and most of this still applies! Plus, I just have gotten used to drinking cold coffee. Gave up on reheating it!

Michelle Ash 9 months ago

Hysterectomy! Check!! Check!! Check!! Thank everything that is Holy!!!! I’m past most of these things but still, I’m very glad I don’t have to worry about when my period is supposed to start. Yay!! My oldest is 18 and I threaten on a regular basis what will happen if he decides to prematurely make me a G Ma!! I’ve done my time. He better wait till he’s settled enough to deal with whatever he brings in this world. I’m nowhere near ready for that. My youngest is eight. He ends up in my room every night. I keep telling him they cut the cord when he was born but I swear there is an invisible bungee between us. I hope that they all wait till they are all out for any of them to become parents. I just want a little time in between my kids and their kids.

Lisa Pompetzki Lizak 9 months ago

Yes. Just yes.

Amy Volk Berger 9 months ago

Yes, to every single one of these items, even if some of them are stereotypes…

Erica Cohn Pearlman 9 months ago

Haha, nursing a baby while on the toilet. I’m pretty sure I have been there a few times. Whatcha gonna do when the baby takes 45 minutes to eat and you finally got him to latch on! Sometimes nature calls.

Carrie McIntyre 9 months ago

Yep, almost all of these are me lol

Kari Lynn Hansen 9 months ago

#16 sounds familar

Zina Curtis Smith 9 months ago

Lol #3,6,16,25 are me!!!

Jeanette Espinosa 9 months ago

Number 10. Love ir

Vanessa Alfaro 9 months ago

Yup ! I can relate to almost all of these.

Penni Cardona Monticello 9 months ago

Love this!

Christa Clark 9 months ago

Omg my kid asks where I’m going when I put on jeans! Yikes

Michelle Edwards White 9 months ago

Oh dear God I need to go back to work…. My kids are 7 & 10 and I still can relate to most of these!!!

Alissa K Welter Tyminski 9 months ago

#21 and #22 all the time!!

Jenn Losco 9 months ago

Absolutely #25

Kaytlen Woods 9 months ago

2, 6, 18, 19, & 25 for sure!!! Haha

Sheena Pritchett Jorgensen 9 months ago

So true!

Jessica Lynn Opsahl 9 months ago

12 16 18, oh my side hurts from laughing so hard thank you so much. I’m not the only one doing this!

Amy Wachsmuth 9 months ago

My Jehovah Witnesses have told me, “Well we have to go now… We have other people to visit.” Send up a red flag… little bit.

Lorie Dummkep 9 months ago

I wouldve never do number 20.It is the most dangerous tthing leaving a plug in so your toddler plays with it all!

Kaylee Edwards 9 months ago

Me. This. Is. Me.

Aprille Leal 9 months ago

I’m a single working mom… Over half of these apply to my life! Should be named “Signs of a mom”

Sarah Beth Arnold 9 months ago

16, 23, 25.

Chrissy Lawlis 9 months ago

#10. Absolutely!

Kiesha Bills 9 months ago

#25 everyday

Valerie Sisson 9 months ago

Yes me too I vacuum up to three times a day drowns out my three under three

Trianna Landon 9 months ago

I’m a working mom who is a nurse.. I still don’t wear non-elastic pants!

Kariina Nurkala-Persyn 9 months ago


Valerie Sisson 9 months ago

Every single one is so true. Though I’ve never eaten whatever’s stuck to me lol thank god

Jessica Lynn Sloan 9 months ago

When I put on make-up, my kids ask where we are going. :)

Charity Angella Deel Malone 9 months ago

The whole list sounds like my life.

Theresa Boucherle 9 months ago

So funny so true!!

Caleb N Melinda 9 months ago

This is my life

Lake Iverson 9 months ago

#25 every single day

Amanda Hegedus Kirkland 9 months ago

This is cute! I work but on the weekends, when I put on “real” pants, my daughter asks where we are going… She knows if mama’s getting dressed, something exciting must be happening!

Chelsea Mason Selman 9 months ago


Genie Lee Miyaoka 9 months ago


April Maddox 9 months ago

And this is niw my life. And somehow I love it.

Neda Russell 9 months ago

Just laughed so hard at this. Hilarious and so true!

Erin Joslyn Palmer 9 months ago

As a mom who works outside the home, most of these apply to me, too!

Alisha Stevenson James 9 months ago


Sarah Koebler 9 months ago

Okay, I just need to pat myself on the back. I am normal!! I seriously thought I was the laziest slob ever!! Bahaha

Ariana Smith 9 months ago

This is so great!

Pamela Tributino 9 months ago

Umm yeah #16 & #18 as a mom who works from home….

Heather Hammerich-Taylor 9 months ago

Omg love it!

Amanda Johnson 9 months ago

#25. Omg yes!

Sylvia MacDonald 9 months ago


Sara Sheetz 9 months ago

Wish husbands could understand this…

Natasha Tanji 9 months ago

#26 the best time of day is nap time

Kristen Johnson 9 months ago

All this but no husband to come home and let me fake stomach problems to… :-

Kelly Cripe Costello 9 months ago


Dana Panzarino Hodermarsky 9 months ago

I’m not a SAHM but on maternity leave and this is so my life right now. Lol

Becki Blaubach 9 months ago

I never reheat my coffee. I make just warm enough that I can chug it lol

Jennifer Iovieno 9 months ago

I’m a stay at home mom and I don’t think most
Of them are accurate … Not wearing a bra? Wearing the same clothes two days? Bad chicle for stay at home moms

Tonya Spitler 9 months ago

Oh my! Spot on!

Kate Bynsdorp 9 months ago

18, 24, & 25. Seriously why Bother getting dressed and risk the ruination of my ‘normal’ clothes? Cause then I need to buy more and there’s no money for that because 3 kids lol

Nichole Beisner 9 months ago

So many of those r true haha

Kate White 9 months ago

I’m a SAHM and find most of these stereotypical cliches annoying… Expect for #25. But that help true even when I was working.

Jennifer McDonald 9 months ago

YES!!!! All of these!

Jenn Miller 9 months ago

#25 !!!

Nicole Stephenson Robertson 9 months ago

#25! I will fight sleep if it means I can be alone!

Wendy Martin 9 months ago

EXACTLY! I was a much better mother to my small children when I worked full time. I’ve been unemployed for almost a year now. With the three at home all in school, I love my new role as a SAHM. Now that they are big, when I’m with them I can actually enjoy them. Being home with them 24/7 nearly drove me (literally) crazy. I don’t identify with any of the things on this list because I am me as much as I am my kids’ mother. It’s vitally important to show children that it’s ok to be a person AND a mother. Pretending like working moms are any less mothers is just asinine and indicates clearly to me that people who believe this need to put on real pants and leave their homes. I’m sure their husbands would appreciate it, too!

Valerie Hale 9 months ago

On my! So freaking true

Jennifer McCormick Jeffries 9 months ago


Christina Todorov 9 months ago

#5 yes! hahaha sometimes I just go to the store and sit in the parking lot lol

Stephanie DeMarzo 9 months ago

Too funny!!

Katie Coleman 9 months ago

Not a SAHM but can relate to the majority of these every weekend!

Kelly Damm Ganamet 9 months ago


Tracy Hartman Darmofal 9 months ago

Omg my husband and I just laughed so hArd at these and yup so many are so true…..but I wouldn’t change it for anything as I was a working mom and I give those ladies super gold stars

Paula Székely 9 months ago

It sure is depressing… Been there

Maggie Schlosser 9 months ago

Haha ! Yes!

nichole 9 months ago

Enjoyed this…all except the Jehovahs Witness joke. Really?

Mary Schneider 9 months ago

Dude who asks me what I did all day is liable to get himself appointed head Supper Producer for the night. Dude look around. Are the kids alive? The house is somewhat close to sanitary? (Hey, you didn’t get dissentary or the plague yet, right??) STFU.

Anitra Garcia 9 months ago

All true. Hi, friends! Haha. Blessed beyond measure but I do miss me time!

Melissa Waid Verner 9 months ago

Can’t disagree.

Karen Scahill-Stiles 9 months ago

dead on

yoli 9 months ago

I was a stay at home mom for many years, just recently I got a part time job.its okay, even though I am kind of missing being a stay at home mom, even thou my only child is 12 years old. Now, I am looking for a better full time job. Being a Stay at home home was great even thou I would get bored sometimes. Good lord willing if he sends us another baby blessing this year, I will go back to be a stay at home mom. Now, a days you can’t really trust anyone with a baby. Just my opinion. Even thou there are some really good day cares out there. But mostly charge an arm and a leg just for child care. You go to all the stay at home moms. It’s a very hard and rewarding job, but so worth it.

fishy 9 months ago

Stay at hone mom. Is another term for lazy. You think you have it so tuff. All u do is stay hone and feed and change children. Get a job and raise your kids. That takes actual strength and work

Sarah 9 months ago

I love this! Great comment girl

Mom of 3 9 months ago

That’s just ignorance, Rae. I tried to be a SAHM when my triplets were small. I realized VERY quickly my husband and I couldn’t make ends meet going that route. By my taking a job and enrolling the kids in daycare, they got a jump-start on their education that I wouldn’t have even thought to give them AND we were able to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. Do I enjoy the fact that I get exactly THREE waking hours per day with my kids? Of course not! Can I avoid it? Not a chance. It DOES make me cherish the fun times I do get to have with them every weekend and holiday. It’s not fair for any SAHM to judge a WM, nor the other way around.

Val mom of 4 9 months ago

I send my kids to early head start and preschool but no day care for us. I’ve been in them to pick up friends kids and I’ve seen first hand and heard the horror stories. To each his own but in my home kids don’t leave mommy’s side until they can tell me all about their day. A friend of mine now leaves her kid with me because he is three and came home with bite marks and constantly starving by the time he got home and this is supposed to be a better day care. Poor babies. Teach your kids all about your day. My oldest is 7 and she loves helping do dishes and laundry. She learned to count this way too. One day they’ll thank you and you’ll be glad their not piggys

Val mom of 4 9 months ago

To all the other stay at home moms,
If ever your doubting your ninja mommy skills just go to a fellow mom’s house for a day. It will make you feel ahead of the game. Lol especially if you have several kids and she has one.

Renee 9 months ago

Luxury?! Lol, that’s adorable.

Michelle 9 months ago

I 100% agree with you. I know that some stay at home mothers do empathize with this list but I am not one of them. I take showers daily , wear normal clothes daily and take care of myself. I still take care of kids and my home. Some of the things on this list are just disgusting.

Natalie 9 months ago

Meant to say #10 not #11. I can’t imagine going without a bra but I do enjoy my nap.

Natalie 9 months ago

I enjoy being a stay at home mom and think it is very good for my kids and I, although hard at times, but I don’t do the majority of those things except for #11 and #25 and I have three little ones and expecting fourth! I do not enjoy staying in pajamas all day for me or my kids and don’t let them watch tv all day! And I have to get out of the house at least a few times a week or I go.crazy and so do my kids. Being a stay at home mom should be a joyful job.

rachel 9 months ago

I can fully tell you your comment is based on your own laziness. I am a mother of 3 ages 4, 1, and newborn and I stay home with them. I worked in multiple preschools in many cities (rich and poor). You would be better off leaving your kids with your dogs. Half the teachers don’t have any education to be teaching children anything, what they sell u is a fantasy. The ratios are too high for your child to really learn anything. Between diapering 15 kids, cleaning up after them left and right, and keeping them from fighting. No incident reports at the end of the day was an accomplishment for the day. They are also all about money, not your well balanced meals and nifty crafts that get sent home. I’ve worked at a high end school that kept spaghetti noodles soaked in water from morning until lunch to soften then thrown in the microwave to heat. Another school claimed to have catered food brought in for an extra charge and the owner would just make the kids Ramen noodles. I’ve worked management at some of these schools so my kids actually went for free, we always paid a nanny to watch them until my mother retired. At home my children get way better care and learn way more. I have a degree in education so my kids are well educated. If you think daycare is better think about this. Do you think you would be putting all your effort into watching someone else’s kids (anywhere from 4 babies to 26 prek) by yourself when you’re only making 8 bucks an hr. I doubt it if you don’t even want to watch your own kids.

Stephanie 9 months ago

I def agree!!!! Wish we had money to send my 2yr old to daycare also!

Connie 9 months ago

I raised 4 incredibly successful children and I was a stay at home mom for more than 20 years, I even went to college at the same time….mostly at home computer courses that our local college provided. I taught my children (stimulation you called it) played with them and showed them the love from their mommy that no daycare of minimum wage daycare worker could….I didn’t need a career outside the home, I was doing the most important thing in the world raising the children God gave me. It’s the least I could do for the gifts He gave me

April 9 months ago

#35 so glad that is an opinion and your not in government. I would never put mine in daycare are public school. We homeschool and I am home with them. My children are very social and have no problem playing with others or communicating with anyone. Get out of your box you are living in. Kids seeing Mom doing these things and seeing their Daddy go to work daily is very strong structure. Remember this Opinions are like A**holes everyone has one.

Kayla 9 months ago

Lots of rude comments which sadly isn’t uncommon to see. As mothers we should encourage each other because we all know how tough being a mom can be. Whether working or being at home, both have their parts that are hard and both need patience and time management. Do what’s best for your family and not knock down those that do different. Just be sure to love your babies and appreciate the time you have with them. Cleaning can wait!

candy 9 months ago

so people who are crippled in some way ought to be killed off cuz…OMG they cant reproduce.

someone here is very stupid & brainwashed.

oh & for religious freak shows, read on:

did you know that even the bible supports a childfree lifestyle? paul blessed those without kids more than once. luke blesses breasts that never suckled…& he’s a doctor so he knows what he is talking about….& jesus actually warns against children in the last days…..twice. (oh & before you bring up that ‘in childbearing she shall be saved’ verse…that is meant for eve & eve alone. says so in the verse before…AND the verse before that one to. see some faiths think adam/eve are going to hell…’cough jw’s cough’..that verse blows them out of the water. in fact in modern bibles..the word she is changed to they..the word woman is changed to women & the name eve is dropped completely, causing an actual contradiction to what jesus/paul/ luke say…..but at least it hides the fact eve will be in heaven & so people can say she’ll be in hell.)

nfc 9 months ago

This is awesome! Love my life as a SAHM, even as crazy as it gets I wouldn’t trade it for anything!

Angel 9 months ago

I don’t agree with you. I’ve been both a working mom and have stayed home. Both are challenging. It’s not fair of you to judge those who work and have kids. Don’t be so judgmental. You make stay at home mom’s look bad. .

dy 9 months ago

21 is so true!!!!

Jamie 9 months ago

I’m a stay-at-home mom and I think you’re judgmental and sanctimonious. You have no right to dictate how working parents “should” parent or tell them what they “need to understand.” Someone parenting differently than you would doesn’t make it wrong, and being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t make you a better parent than everyone else. There’s actually lots of research that suggests that daycare is beneficial to children.

I’d also love to see those statistics on how “not a lot” of working parents spend their free time with their kids. Can you point me to the studies you’ve read? I’m guessing not.

Someone saying that they couldn’t be a stay-at-home mom for “insert reason here” isn’t disrespectful to you. Get over yourself. Someone living a different lifestyle isn’t an insult to you, even if you disagree with their reasons. This is especially funny since you basically insulted most working parents in your post (after all, “not a lot” of them spend proper time with their children), but are demanding respect for your own lifestyle choice, which hasn’t even been questioned.

You’re judgmental and sanctimonious. Did I mention that already?!?

brooke 9 months ago

You have the choice to give them everything (and more) than they could get a daycare. My kids get all of the things you mentioned, but it’s all from someone who loves them rather than someone who’s being paid to spend the day with them. And THAT is why I stay at home with them. My house is not always clean, but I spend all day making memories & enjoying every moment with my girls. I told my husband that I’m a stay at home MOM, not a stay at home cleaning lady. They’ll soon spend the majority of their time in school, in sports, with friends…. I’m lovin this time while I have it.
Oh & as for balanced meals…why can’t you provide them with that? I think Daycare actually ruins their eating habits. It gets them hooked on kid food (crap food). My kids eat what we eat & don’t think a thing of it because it’s all they’ve ever known. Their favorite meals are salmon/rice or spinach artichoke wraps.
If you have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom, make use of it!!

V 9 months ago

Don’t WANT to care for them?! Are you insane, Rae? Like….do you think every mom who works is doing it because she chose to? Some of us HAVE to work, because Prince Charming decided to leave us for someone else and build a new life with her, and now we’re the only one who can bring home an income. Please, honey, being a stay at home mom is a choice, and if it’s a choice someone is in a position to make, awesome. Go for it. But working always isn’t a choice. I dare you to walk in my shoes for a day – work 10 hours a day, come home and care for a disabled child who hasn’t seen his father in years by yourself, then usually do more work in your home office before bed. Sometimes chores get done. You wouldn’t even last a day. And don’t bother responding, I won’t take time to read it.

Lana 9 months ago

2,5,10,17,19,20,22,24,25. And I work out of the home full time too!

Chelsea 9 months ago

I am a mom of 5 kids 6 & under. When our third was born, our oldest had just turned 2 two weeks prior. Although I work 20-30 hrs a week serving during the evenings while they stay home with dad, I feel like a sahm mom during the day, and also idenfify with the Strustruggles of a working mom. What offends me most is the other mothers’ quickness to judge that this mother for being honest with her feelings on her ability to stay home all day with the kids with “Maybe you should keep your legs closed” Gross. That is very judgemental and mean spirited. She never said that ahe didn’t love or want her kids. She just has a difficult time handling them all day. Most of us do. At least she is honest with her feelings instead of a holier than thou approach, whether you are a sahm or working mom. Grow up!

Peanuts & Thread 9 months ago

I agree, I feel I should do my make up and hair just to uplift my mood. Otherwise i can seem to keep my eyes open all day.

Peanuts & Thread 9 months ago

I’m current moved and am part time. At first it did feel good to go from 2 jobs to one part time. I do feel like a stay at home mom. But I am thankful I get to have a couple days of work to stay sane. I am an active mom, but when it comes to cleaning and cooking, being home has made me a bit lazy. I feel I am more on point when I have somewhere to go.

Olivia 9 months ago

What the heck?! I a not a mom. But I was a child that had a stay at home mom. I had a great education and a perfect environment for growing up. Not every mom can be a stay at home mom. But I definitely think that if you can’t than you should get a nanny . Kids do best in their own homes. Not in a crowded room with a bunch if other kids. Ridiculous

Megan 9 months ago

Most of these are true for ANY Mom!

Bizzy 10 months ago

I can see the good and bad in both scenarios. I have a decent size company that used to rely on me. I decided to hire someone to help me with that so I could spend time with my two little ones. We’re also trying to build a home by ourselves. My family tends to collect junk. I have never been a very good house keeper. I hate grime but don’t mind messy, our house is always messy. I’ve decided to do a complete Makeover of our house to clear my brain. With two kids,. (2 & 4), three dogs (6 months, 2 years, & 8 years) , a business, new home construction out of state (lots of travel back and forth with dogs and kids) I’m on the verge of collapse…. I want so bad to home school my kids and show them the the “finer” things in life; the things that are missing now. I want it so bad!!! I’ve decided to do a whole house Makeover. Not decorating but cleaning and organizing. My head spins with junk all over. We have too much stuff! I’ve been busting my rear for a solid week and the kids are in a learning center. Not just daycare. Everyday they come home having learned something new. I’m jealous of the school but people are good at different things and I think they’re learning things I may not be so good at. I enjoy a little bit of me time, too. I plan to scramble to get things with home and business in order enough to finally be able to home school and enjoy my children ….you can’t ever go back in time!!! Okay, sorry so long but I think that’s what this thing is for…..to vent. I personally don’t want a daycare for my children but a learning center is perfect for me. As stated before above ….whatever works for your family! (Thanks for listening, I feel much better now) :)

Nikki 10 months ago

This post made me laugh and they’re all so true!

But I must say, I take showers everyday and wear a bra. Oh, and I despise facebook!

Wifey 11 months ago

I have 5 children ages 9, 7, 5, 3, and 11 months. I am a SAHM and I homeschool. Most days I really love it and I am thankful I can be a sahm. I firmly believe in everyone’s right to choose what is best for their family. I know how hard it is to balance cleaning and spending time with your children. Whether working or staying at home it’s about finding a balance that works for you. Lastly, whether you work or stay home I still think the most important job you’ll ever do is to raise your child. I just wish there weren’t “sides” and “mommy wars.” That we could all encourage each other in our motherhood journeys! We judge ourselves enough. So, to all of you I wish you joy in your mothering! You are doing a great and important job.

Heather 11 months ago

Lol yep to all of them except i stopped bothering to reheat the coffee. It tastes good cold too.

BizzyH 11 months ago

The feeling like you need a drink by 9am is soo true. Hehe. Wish there was something that had the same affect as alcohol without the pesky health risks.

BizzyH 11 months ago

I feel fortunate to be a stay at home mom. But of course there are days when I want to rip my hair out. My pregnancy was not planned and I had not planned on having children for years down the road but here I am with a 17 month old son and I would not change it for anything. I have always been the type of person to get easily agitated under stress but being a mother is the ultimate lesson in patience and learning to be more flexible (going with the flow). I giggled at alot of them but some of them are a little too much. Like not wearing a bra. Showering being an accomplishment, not leaving the house for days, and leaving the house with dirty stained clothes or wearing the same clothes for days at a time lol.. I think a big lesson that many Stay at home moms need to learn is taking a little time to Care for Yourself is soo important to your ability to cope and be a better mother. Just getting outside and going to the park with your kids does wonders for mood and energy levels. Showering relaxes you wearing clean clothes and a little makeup will instantly boost self esteem which all go towards making a mother feel happier. These in my opinion are all a given. Don’t even get me started on the bra thing. I live in my genie bras. Sometimes you just have to put the cleaning aside and say f it if the house is messy , I want to do something that makes Me feel good.

Andrea 11 months ago

Actually, research shows that children who’s moms work part-time fare better than those who stay home all day. Research also supports mom’s physical and emotional health improves when working!

Talya 12 months ago

#24 People talk about how I drink SO much coffee, no… It’s the same cup. All day. I’ve said it before, and they seem so grossed out by reheated coffee. Lol. Now I just say, yeah, I drink a lot of coffee.

katie 12 months ago

#25 all the way! I have missed so much sleep because i was enjoying the peace and quiet too much lol!

Laura 1 year ago

This comment section is bitch after bitch after bitch with too much time on her hands. Yes, some women must go to work out of necessity. Yes, some women are able to stay home. None of you bitches are any better than the other. Why don’t you lift each other up rather than fighting on the internet about which bitch is better? None of you assholes are better as long as you remain smug assholes. And what the fuck is this? 1950? I’ve never seen such annoying vomit from SAHM’s before. Your method is not better or worse. Get your bleach blond heads out of your husbands asses and jesus christ, take a shower. This list just makes you seem lazy.

Natalie D. 1 year ago

Lol! Same in my house! :)

Natalie D. 1 year ago

#21 is SO true!!! Lmao!! *sigh* yep I am a stay at home mom.

Shanna Marquez 1 year ago

Thank you! I was thinking the same thing.

Shanna Marquez 1 year ago

Gdmf there’s some judgey women on here! Do what’s best for you and your family, and stop putting down other people’s choices. This is why women can’t get ahead in society. We’re too busy looking down on each other, instead of building each other up. Men know our weakness, and it’s cattiness. Plain and simple.

karla 1 year ago

#21 for sure, as of right now i know its between 9 and 9:30 because Daniel tiger neighborhood is on!!!!

Jschultz 1 year ago

MY DAUGHTER IS THRIVING AND SHE GOES TO DAYCARE! How dare you say that! Implying that my daughter isn’t thriving because she goes to daycare! She learns so much from being at school and so much from her time at home with me as well. She has been speaking in full sentences since 16 months, can count to 15 and knows her ABC’s, among lots of other things. And she isn’t even 2 yet. Ugh I am so disgusted with the things you women have to say. You have no idea what you are talking about.

Jschultz 1 year ago

Sorry I have to say one more thing…

I do agree with SallySue saying that working mothers should devote their non-working time to their families & children.. to an extent. I for one, cannot stand when a mother pawns her kids off to relatives to go out all the time, or to go out and party. I do not condone that what so ever.

However, I can tell you that once or twice a month my mom does babysit so I can go out for an hour or two AFTER I put my daughter to bed. Whether it be to go to a zumba class, for coffee with a friend or dinner with my girlfriends. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with that. As long as it isn’t every night or every weekend, why shouldn’t we get a little bit of time for ourselves? I know for me it is very important. I don’t have many friends and I feel very alone often. I don’t have a significant other either. Sometimes I just need to get out for an hour or 2. Being a single mom can be so mentally & emotionally challenging. I know it first hand. Sometimes I am just so sad and so lonely. And if going out for a cup of coffee with a friend helps me feel better and puts a smile on my face then I damn sure am going to do that once in a while.

Jschultz 1 year ago

I can not believe some of the things you women are saying! First of all, every families circumstances are different! Some women have NO CHOICE but to put their child/children in daycare and go to work. I am one of those mothers. I have been a single mom since my daughter was born. Would you rather I not work and not be able to put a roof over & provide for my child?? My daughters father is not present in her life & I do NOT receive child support. I am the sole provider for my daughter & just because I have to work does not mean I love my child any less than a SAHM loves theirs. And I was a stay at home mom until my daughter was 5 months old. And I wont lie, it was hard! I absolutely loved spending every moment 24/7 with my baby girl. But just like any other mother I got overwhelmed at times, felt lonely, and needed to be around other adults. That in no way makes me a bad mother or a mother that doesn’t love her child!! As a mother it is extremely important to take care of ourselves as well as our children. How can you be the best mom you can be if you feel lonely all the time, or you don’t have a chance to do anything for yourself. Whether it be going to the gym, getting your hair done, going out for dinner with your friends, or going to work… It should not matter to anyone but myself & my daughter what I do with my life. I like going to work. It makes me feel good knowing that I am providing for my child because I LOVE HER MORE THAN ANYTHING and I want to take the very best care of her. It also makes me feel really good about myself that I am playing an active part in society. And also socializing with other adults helps me keep my sanity. If I am happy, then my daughter senses that and it makes her happy.. I see it.

Would you women also tell me not to go back to school to further my education so I can get a better job so I can save money and get a place for just my daughter & I???? (we live with my mom and my brother in a 2 bedroom apartment)

So please keep your opinions to yourself. What I do with my life does NOT affect yours. Why don’t you go pay attention to your children rather than sit here and bash other mothers for doing what they HAVE to do.

And for the woman who said “All of the work you put into raising them, your paying other to do it” Screw you!!!! .. My daughter goes to daycare Mon-Friday while I go to work. Yes during those days her teachers at school are HELPING to raise her. They are wonderful women and I trust them 100%.. but when I pick her up and take her home it is ME that is RAISING her! And on the weekends when it’s just her and I at home, I AM RAISING HER. And just so you know, my daughter will be 2 next month and she is incredibly smart. She has been speaking in full sentences since she is 16 months, she can count to 15 & she knows her ABC’s. And I know for a fact that going to school contributed to all of that. She loves going to school to learn & play with her little friends. Socialization is so important for future schooling.

OK I am done now. I KNOW that I am an amazing mother. I KNOW that my daughter is happy & well cared for. I KNOW that this is what I have to do. And I KNOW that my daughter sees & feels how much I love & adore her…. and that is all that matters.

I hope you ladies get a reality check and stop bashing other mothers. We are supposed to support and empower each other, not criticize, judge or hurt each other.

SallySue 1 year ago

I actually say the opposite. As a stay home mom of 2 young children, I feel like working is a luxury in a 2 parent household, now a 1 parent household is different as the single parent must work. I cannot afford to work, because the cost of daycare in the community I live in would be about $1700 for full time care for 2 children. There is no job in my career field in my area right now and any ordinary job paying $10/$11 per hour is n’t even going to close to covering the daycare costs! Some SAHM would love to work but can’t because of daycare!

SallySue 1 year ago

Not to sound rude, but obviously you must have a lot of money with six children, able to send them all to daycare while you stay home and with hire a house keeper on top of that. Now that is what I call a life of luxury, but my family doesn’t have that option. With only 2 kids we can barely afford to pay for preschool for my 4 year old!! I am a poor SAHM and there is definetely nothing luxusious about my life. Being a SAHM and sending kids to daycare just baffles me and I think it’s very silly. You can say that it’s good for your child but what I really think you mean is that it’s good for you!

SallySue 1 year ago

I commend you for being a single working mother. And I commented because I want other working mom’s to understand that if you are a working mom you should commit your non working hours to your family and you children. Unfortunately, not a lot of parents do that. They find relatives to watch their children for entire weekends while they go off and live their adult childfree life. I think when SAHM say.. someone else is raising your children that’s exactly what they mean. But the working mom who says things like “I would make a terrible SAHM, being bored, resentful, lack of adult conversation and my kids would drive me nuts” they number 1 disrespect my role as a SAHM and also disrespect their own families. Being a parent is a sacrifiece and it isn’t all rainbows and sunshines. It’s HARD work and should be respected as such. SAHM do suffer from more depression which isn’t hard to believe considering it’s unpaid, undervalued 24/7 work.

SallySue 1 year ago

While I don’t agree with how it was said I do have to agree with Rae. First of all, I believe all mother’s should have choices to have better family/life work balance. Working mothers shouldn’t have to work all the time and SAHM should have to “work” caring for their children 24/7, which has become the norm for myself(SAHM with 2 young children. From the comments you said, it seems like you work because you don’t want to be with your children. I don’t feel like that is respectful or appropriate for you children. To say things like I work because I’d be bored, resentful of my husband if I stay home seems very selfish to me. I do believe parents should be able to spend more time with their children. I have a sister who does the very same thing. She has only 1 child and whenever she has non work time, she is constantly finding a way to “get rid of her child” and find someone else to watch him or entertain him. She also have a lot of non work time because she only works 30 hours per week, husband is an attorney so they definitely don’t need her income!! I think many mother’s work out of necessity, but mother’s who choose to work simply because they can’t stand their children are the mother’s who probably shouldn’t have been mothers in the first place. Being a mother is about sacrifiece. I don’t get adult conversation everyday and I survive!

Julieann 1 year ago

I can’t believe how many people actually say working or staying at home is harder than the other. That is such an individual thing. It is obvious from these comments and from talking to moms that some people find one easier and/or more rewarding, while some people prefer the other. This is all just opinions and thoughts about what works for you! If there is one pet peeve in my life, it is the amount of judgment between working and stay at home moms. Do whatever works for you and I will support you 100%. But I will stop supporting you the second you act like you are a better mom than someone else when you can’t possibly know what their life is like.

My other pet peeve is the “mommy wars” between moms who have to work vs moms who choose to work vs moms who make sacrifices to be home. Basically “mommy wars” in general are absurd. If there is one thing we all have in common it’s that we need supportive friends!

tiana 1 year ago

My son loves helping me clean and loves helping with his sister

tiana 1 year ago

I so agree. I have that stupid good morning red bird tune stuck in my head lol

tiana 1 year ago

It would only be not the best environment if the mother who kept the kids all day kept her house nasty. I am a mother of three and my kids have never been in daycare. I cook I clean I do laundry I do everything around the house but guess what my kids are safe my kids are with me and I’m raising my kids not trusting someone who could molest them. Or beat them. My kids have fun my kids are happy and wet have a thing called play dates with other mommy’s and kids so they get the interaction they need but also the mommy time they need too

Meg Glidden 1 year ago

Lol! Yes! 19 & 25 are present on a daily basis for me! And even though I hadnt included a self given hysterectomy in my permanent birth control blog this week…maybe that should be an additional alternative to consider! If you can’t reflect with humor on the joys of being a stay at home or work from home mommy, you’re missing out; childhood is so brief and beautiful and we will all miss having these daily struggles once they’re grown ✳

Karen 1 year ago

One of the chapter titles of the book “The Feminine Mystique” is “Housework Expands to Fill the Time Available” and she goes on to explain that women fill their time with housework, and housework soon becomes all they do, and yet that women who work are equally capable of keeping their houses clean in only a few hours a week. So it’s basically the time you have to give to it. Stop letting it take all your time. I am a sahm to two grade schoolers, and this year I am going to start working part time, and let me tell you, I only do housework about an hour a day. And yet my house is clean.

Theres Just One Mommy 1 year ago

Guilty of more than I’d like to admit…. A big YES to 5! LIving large here!

Janelle 1 year ago

My daughter thrived in daycare. Before she started attending I couldn’t even leave her with her father for a trip to the corner store … She made lots of friends & is happy and socialized. And I honestly think I’M a better, HAPPIER mom because of it.

cbgrace 1 year ago

Made me laugh. There have been a few times I’ve asked my 6 year old to please give his mouth a time out…so I can finish a thought.

R 1 year ago

I can see why she calls herself “noname”

Jeannette Harmon 1 year ago

Well said!!!

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katie 1 year ago

I completely understand how you feel, I’m the same way, except not entirely by choice, if the house isn’t almost perfectly clean I have to deal with my husband’s attitude. And now I feel terrible for my daughter and that I don’t spend as much time playing with her (at home) as I would like. I hope when she grows up she doesn’t wish she was in daycare as a child, that would break my heart! I do take her to the park most nice days though and the library and she finished swim lessons a couple weeks ago. I also always read to her and sing to her when she goes to bed too. I think it’s good I read this, I will try to do better for her.

Flex Time Mom 1 year ago

I’m guessing your kids haven’t made it past second grade or so. At least I hope not; I’m pretty sure knowing the difference between “there”, “they’re” and “their” is core curriculum then.

Fred 1 year ago

Just came accross this site by accident,but know really will everything that was posted. three kids,one mulithandicapped ,all under the age of seven. And my wife of 11 years says goodby!!! I get the kids and the home and child support. We got by so will others!!!!

grandma beth 1 year ago

I’m not a stay-home mom and at least half of these items directly define my day. my daughter IS a stay home mom and possibly the busiest person on the planet, GO BABYDOLL!

Brunette 1 year ago

“it usually takes two to make it”

So much for the freedom of choice.

Brunette 1 year ago

Producing children IS being a “productive member of society”. Society is comprised of, wait for it… people! And people start out as *gasp* babies!

You’re welcome.

Jo 1 year ago

Read the article. Thought, wow this sounds like me. Scanned the comments to feel like I belong only to see the same bullshit mom shaming that I always see on the internet. Makes me feel like shit when all I wanted was a laugh. Thanks for making it about how awful moms are instead of just agreeing with the list.

Olive 1 year ago

I appreicate you saying this because I find myself cleaning all day long and I do need to cut it out.. i feel like Im not getting to really reap the benifits of staying at home with them (part time) as Im putting dishes away or cleaning the floors.

Olive 1 year ago

I agree. My girls loves the stuff and the friends they have at day care. Its a new environemtn for them, different foods, different book and toys, different play ground stuff.

Mom 1 year ago

I’m adding 26. You get all the kids in the car and are about to pull out of the garage when you realize your shirt is on inside out. Consider leaving it cause if you couldn’t tell then who can, but decide to strip it off as you drive down the driveway and turn it right side out.

Rachel @ Wife, Then Mama 1 year ago

Perhaps she meant living like the supposed SAHMs in the list. I wouldn’t much like living the list here, but I am pretty happy being a housewife with kids. This list is very much a list of a martyr, not a mother.

Dad 1 year ago

#26 should be “you argue with other moms that are just as bored as you are in the comment section of mommy blogs.”

Jess 1 year ago

I was a stay at home mom for years and I can’t say I had any one of these issues (well, maybe the hysterectomy comment!). My kids were always taken outside or enriched with some sort of activity. I was just plain bored if I was in the house more than a day and so were they. It’s not an easy job and I do commend those that do it as a “job” but most of the above is just laziness! My boys were 2 and 3 and I was at home with them from the time they were born. It doesn’t take much effort to get things done, get dressed in something other than sweats, shower and spend time with them.

Zencrash 1 year ago

I am a stay at home mom to my two kids and my boyfriend’s five kids….yes, SEVEN kids, full time. My boyfriend’s five have been with us for about a year now, and my lovely attitude has rubbed off on them! I used to think it was hard taking care of two kids, now I laugh about those “quite days”. Does anyone else randomly wonder what they used to do for fun, before children?

Alicia 1 year ago

I have been a stay at home mom and I am currently a part time working mom. I have two kids under 5. My daughter is turning four on Monday and my son turned 1 last Friday. I have had moments like the ones above and I would do anything to go back to staying home and raising my kids. Both situations have their downfalls and happy moments. Even though I get to be home with my kids four days a week, I still want to be with them every day. It is definitely harder for me personally to work and raise kids. I would take staying home over it anytime i had the chance. Not because one works harder than the other ,but because I would enjoy the work in my home a lot more.

ijustgottasay 1 year ago

Wow. First of all I have been a working mom and a SAHM. It is a tough job either way. With both cases, the mom never stops working. We never have “off days”. If you are a working mom, you go to your job outside the home and then you get your kids and don’t stop working until they are in bed. Even after they go to bed, you still feel obligated to pick up the house. On your “off days” you spend the whole day taking care of kids and using those “off days” to catch up on house work. Same goes for SAHM. You are “on the clock” from the time you get up to when you go to bed.

You ask “why” we have children. We have children for the same reason YOU have children. We want to be mothers. We want to have a family. Not all of us are able to quit our jobs to be at home. Not all of us are able to live off just our husband’s salary. With the economy the way it is, it usually takes two to make it. Then you have those single moms who have no choice but to work. There are single moms who work 2 or 3 jobs to take care of their kids.

In all honesty, I have no idea why I am responding to your ignorant post. I shouldn’t feed the trolls, troll! Go back under your bridge!

Larissa 1 year ago


Done it both ways 1 year ago

You all need to stop it! I scanned this article for a quick laugh, as a mom that is now a sahm, but was a working mom with my first child. Both of my kids are doing great in school, sports, socially, etc. The one constant in both of their preschool lives was the constant, unconditional love of my husband and I. Each mother has tough choices she has to make each day, and I bet we all want our kids to be the best they can be under the best circumstances we can give them. I read the article for a chuckle, but scanning the comments broke my heart. Not a single one of you has the credentials, power or authority to declare “the best way to raise a child.” But what you all do have the power and authority to do is be kind to one another, especially your fellow female. Prove your happiness with your chosen lifestyle by exuding kindness through the actions and words you use. You don’t have to prove yourself or justify your choices to the other readers of this casual article. Get off the computer, and show your kids how to be nice. If you reply to this comment, I won’t see it. I’m getting off the computer to go hang with my kids.

Teresa 1 year ago

I look up at my vac as I skim this and laugh bc it’s sooo true. #20…..

MommyDan 1 year ago

It is tooo broad of a topic with tooo many factors involved to compare the day of a SAHM to a day of a working mom. Some people have NO choice in what they are doing but at the end of the day they are doing their best fr their family. And hey, whatever works for you probably will not work for the family next door or in another state.
Here are just some factors/scenarios that vary for EVERYONE because everyone’s family & needs are different:
How many kids you have/ Does the parent want to stay home or work?/ Can you afford that plan?/ Maybe you have family that can help babysit days for free while you make extra money/ Maybe you are a single parent with no help/ Maybe you live in a condo or home that is paid off and your partner makes enough to support you and the children/ Maybe you work as a teacher or part time or nights somewhere and can work but also be home a lot too (Not every working mom works 8 hours a day at a computer!)

We should all respect what everyone else is doing. I think the messages can get nasty here because sometimes people take things the wrong way and get offended. There really is no way anyone can compare your life with someone elses.

I am a SAHM of twin toddlers and let me tell you it is not easy. This is my first time even writing on a blog because I just have no time for myself anymore. My husband works very long/late hours and I have no help from family so things can get chaotic. It’s not like I watch soaps, or nap or get bored like some people think SAHMs can do. Since we are home all day the house gets constantly trashed all day long. I probably clean the kitchen 6 x a day!

Anyone who has kids should know they need /want constant attention pretty much at any age, and that is OK because I want my attention on them! I even know women who work from home but send their kids to day care because it is too much to do both from home. Their kids are needing attention and care. That proves the point that being home with the kids is a job too.

Every mother is tired at the end of the day, it’s part of our job! :) Kudos to the working moms & SAHMs!!

hshdhdidk 1 year ago

Ummm your just a bitch for saying that! How dare you say that working moms pay someone else to raise there kids!! Some of us working moms dont have a choice. You need to pull your head out of your ass and think about what you saod and how many women you offended by saying what you did! I spend every waking moment with my son when im not at work.

Kel 1 year ago

Wow, that is an awful thing to say. Some of us didn’t have much of a choice but to put our kids in daycare. I have been a single mom since my child was a baby so I never had the opportunity to stay home… does that mean I should never have had her? Just terrible. She may have been in daycare, but I know for a fact that I have raised her. And very well, I might add. She is a happy, loving, well-rounded 7 year old now. It wasn’t an ideal situation but I made the best of it and it worked out just fine. And by the way, I never, EVER schedule “mom-time” after work or on the weekends. My life revolves around my child, and every day when I get off work I can’t wait to go pick her up and see how her day was. You have a pretty warped view of what a working mom does.

S 1 year ago

If you have the money for daycare why don’t you use that money for a housekeeper or someone to aid in meal prep or a mothers helper? Sounds like you need help with thr house!

Susan 1 year ago

I have 7 out of 10 kids at home. I’m a stay at home m. It’s challenging but I wouldn’t change a thing. Right now my husband works in a different state so I’m on my own. Did I mention out of the seven five are teenagers. I enjoy it and don’t think anyone can do it as well as moms do

Allie 1 year ago

That’s a pretty rude thing to say. I have absolutely nothing against sahms but I do hate when they act like their way is the only right way to raise kids. And actually, by saying “all of the work that goes into raising them, you pay others to do,” you’re implying that working moms aren’t raising their kids at all, which is just not true. Personally, I would be a terrible sahm because I need a lot of mental stimulation, conversations with intelligent adults, challenges in my professional life, etc. Without that I would become bored, lazy, and resentful of my husband, and that would be much worse for my kids than spending some time with a babysitter. Who are you to say that Roe or I, or any working women, shouldn’t have children? It’s just as offensive and uncalled for as if I were to tell you to stop having children so that you can work and be a productive member of society. You’ll get a lot more respect as a sahm if you drop the holier-than-thou attitude and acknowledge that while staying home may be what’s best for you and your family, it isn’t the one ideal method of raising kids.

Kate 1 year ago

Isn’t it weird when that era comes to a close! My youngest is almost 5 and he will be going off to full day school in only one more year! I have always planned on returning to work full-time once all my kids were in all day school and I can’t believe that time is just around the corner!

Kate 1 year ago

I’ve been staying home with my three boys for eight years and I have to agree with you – the only item on this list I really can relate to is #25 :)

I like to eat too much to be satisfied with my kids’ leftovers, my day always starts with hot coffee while I read the news, and we have a super active, tight-knit social group (full of other children!) that takes us out of the house many times each week for park trips, museum visits, arts and crafts, berry picking, etc, etc!

If I was trapped in the house every day, unable to shower, eating leftover grilled cheese, with no other adult interaction – I would be miserable! LOL

Maha 1 year ago

Amen, sister! My kids used to love coming home to “teach” me and hubby things they assumed we never knew, and we got to go “Oooooh” and they felt so special. Totally precious! And to this day, my daughter and I have a habit of sitting by the bed and discussing all the ins and outs of life. Amazingly, my kids are also closely bonded to their grandparents despite not being with them every waking moment of the day either!

Maha 1 year ago

Depends on the mom! I would’ve given anything to have been in daycare instead of home!

Maha 1 year ago

Well, I feel better knowing even the SAHMs don’t have perfect houses. Nothing like coming home to start the work at 6pm that others have had the luxury of a head start on… vacuum cleaner one was funny – mine stays plugged in because I keep telling myself that one of these days I’ll have time to do it before midnight, LOL. And the one about scheduling a doctor’s visit – hilarious! If my doctor sees my within 5 years she’ll be shocked!

Maha 1 year ago

Don’t know about anyone else, but I keep moving, yet somehow I can’t get the money tree to grow very well in my backyard. Oh well. 😛

stacia 1 year ago

I think what you are trying to say is that work and balancing kids IS harder. You say it is not but then you say all the reason it is? Staying home is easier then trying to balance both for sure and staying home is much more rewarding.

stacia 1 year ago

I worked as a Pre-K teacher and the kids that were “raised” in daycare are the ones that have social deficits and here is why. In the infant room the ratio is 1:3 the babies who cry and scream are those ones who are held. In the toddler room the ratio is 1:5 the ones who are jumping off the table are the ones that get the attention because we need to keep the room safe, at this point kids start to form the conclusion, if I misbehave I get attention, if I am good then I get pushed to the side. Now they get to the terrible two room ratio 1:8 that is 8 two year olds for one teacher and sometimes 16 kds with an assistant who does not need expereince or education in childhood development. 16 two year olds and one capable teacher = chaos Kids hit eachother,bite, etc so at this age they learn hurt or get hurt. At 3 the ratio goes to 1:10 that is up to 20 with an assistant! Again, I often received some teenage girl who I had to give projects to just to get her out of my hair, go cut out these squares while I actually take care of these 20 children by myself. Things happen in daycare, I was blessed to never have anything happen on my watch but we had a child allergic to peanuts given peanut butter by a new assistant that was subbing in another classroom, we have straight up “lost” children for 20 minutes, the teachers shuffle around all day so that staff can be cut, so there is no consistency, and in the school age room k-age 13 ratio 1:20 a 13 year old was taking the younger kids into the bathroom and kissing them. That all happened in one year working at a big corporate daycare, probably the biggest one out there. So I moved to a different private school, did not make a difference things were still pretty chaotic. My son even had his head bashed in by another kid with one of those 2 by 4 wooden blocks and had to be taken to emergency!

Crystal 1 year ago

I couldn’t have said it better!!!!!!!

stacia 1 year ago

Also, I am going to add to this that I never was at home with a baby, baby so kids before two might not be as big of helpers lol but after two get those kiddos to work ahahaha Also, I love kids I worked as a Pre-K teacher and an Early Intervention Specialist so I naturally enjoy everything about working with kiddos and understand not everyone is the same. I also work one day a week now as an EI specialist, I thought I would be dying for my one work day a week but honestly I just want to be home =)

stacia 1 year ago

One thing that really bothers me is when SAHMs complain about staying home and how tough it is. I am not saying it is easy but realize that if you are in a position to stay home you are very blessed. I worked full time not by choice but because I was the primary breadwinner. I worked up to 10 hours a day with an hour and half commute to and from work. Then I would get home, make dinner,give baths and individually read each of my kids a bedtime story and have a chat with them and then finish up on paperwork for the next day. Most nights I got 4 hours of sleep but other nights my four year old had a nightmare and I got even less but I never complained, I did it because I chose to become a parent. My husband got a huge promotion which allows me to stay home with my kids and I feel so blessed and I never take a day for granted because they grow up so quick and you NEVER will get this time back EVER! For the moms that chose to work even though they don’t have to, good for you but also respect the ones who chose to stay home. On a side note, at least for me staying home is bajillion times easier then working full time and attempting to be a full time mom, but I learned a lot of skills from work that I can carry over. For example, my kids do MOST of the cleaning. We wake up and eat breakfast and then we go room to room and each of us have assigned jobs in each room. The kids do it because they are not allowed to do ANYTHING (watch tv,go outside, play with friends etc) until it is done so they are motivated to get it done and get it done fast. Secondly, they get a weekly allowance which they have plenty of uses for since I only buy their necessities and admission into fun places but all the “extras” are on them. Lost your gloves? That is okay, we can use your allowance to buy new ones You want a funnel cake at the fair? Okay we can use your allowance to buy that. BTW my kids don’t even hate me, in fact the constantly tell me I am in the best mom in the world because we work on the cleaning for an hour in the morning and spend the rest of the day doing fun activities together with little to no stress. When kids are engaged in something they are not fighting or making messes, so they trick to easy parenting is just to find ways to get your kids involved in everything so they working with you instead of against you.

mim 1 year ago

I find it a little shocking, especially reading that child welfare workers would only trust 14% of daycares with their own children, that anyone would say they are better for children than their mothers. Watching a mother clean isn’t bad for a child.

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Kylene 1 year ago

I completely disagree with this, when your child is home with the mother then they can learn so much more. You can have one on one time with each child unlike in daycare when there are lots of kids. I homeschool my kids and they are above the average, they take tests each year to make sure they are not falling behind and they are above there grade level. So, being home has been wonderful for them. I may not get to put myself first but I do get to put my kids first. I don’t care if I have old coffee as long as my kids are learning what they need to.

SAHM 1 year ago

I am also sorry that you had that kind of experience. I do hope that you find happiness in your role as mother. I’m not saying that you don’t love your child, because I’m sure you do, but loving your child and enjoying your child are two different things.
All the more reason abusers should be locked away. You’re an adult, and you’re still suffering emotionally from the abuse you suffered.
By the way, Jesus is the friend you have always been looking for. A relationship with Him is irreplaceable, and He loves you.

Steph 1 year ago

… Because working doesn’t mean you don’t get to be around them at all? I work full-time, and I still spend more time with my daughter than away from her. We have mornings, evenings, weekends, holidays… And I feel like I’m a better mother because I get out of the house and go to work. Also, I’m the main breadwinner. My husband makes a decent amount of money, but he’d have to get a second job to make ends meet if I were to stay home, and then I’d get to see my daughter more, but she would hardly get to see her dad at all. I don’t get this argument at all. No one says this to working dads.

Raelynn 1 year ago

I love this! It’s so true! I have a 6 yr old an 18 month old (who was born 3 months early so he has delays… Thank God his therapists come to our house!) And a 7 month old. Between taking care of two babies and entertaining my 6 yr old (now that its summer and he’s not in school) life can be crazy! We play outside but rarely go places unless I have a helper with me.

Raelynn 1 year ago

I mean no offense by this, but its much different when you only have once child. When I just had one I was out and about whenever it wasn’t nap time… Fast forward to now… I have 3 children two of which are babies (18 months and 7 months) and it is NOT easy to get out of the house. We play outside but forget going places everyday. My babies don’t nap at the same time anymore and most of the day one or the other is napping… And I refuse to let them miss naps, it’s a shit storm if they miss naps. If I can get a shower in and get my kids ready and go to the store that’s a huge accomplishment.

Sharon Marsh 1 year ago

I can’t believe there’s actually comments of agreement on this post…Or that it’s even real! This is disgusting. Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you should just turn into a disgusting hermit. The way you describe yourselves makes you sound like homeless people…that have houses, messy ones. Wear clothes, without filth on them, take bathe, eat real food. Jesus Christ people, quit being filthy.

Jen 1 year ago

I’m a stay at home mother of a 2 1/2 year old boy. This is not true of all of us. I take my child somewhere every day. We never just sit at home in front of cartoons all day. There are tons of free or really cheap activities for small kids if you just look for them. Idk maybe if I had a bunch of kids it would be different but I just have the one. I just feel sad when us sahms are made to seem as if we never shower or wear anything other than pjs. Believe or not we have lives. This was pretty funny though.

Rae 1 year ago

I’m sorry, but I just don’t understand what woman like you have children for. All of the work that goes into raising them, you pay others to do. Meanwhile, you schedule Mom time after work or on weekends. That would drive me crazy. Stop having children if you don’t want to care for them once that initial buzz of having a newborn has worn off.

Willow34 1 year ago

What a funny article and so true! However, I regret reading the comments. Somehow it quickly devolved into a mommy mudslinging match. The fact of the matter is that if you spend time with your children in the present moment really seeing them and loving them for who they actually are and not who you want them to be…then it won’t matter whether you stayed at home or worked part time or worked full time. That is the bottom line.

Holly Abraham 1 year ago

twinmommy… I couldn’t agree more! I’m also a stay at home mommy. I have 5 children. My house is clean, but I wouldn’t suggest eating off the floors, I may have a basket or two of laundry sitting around waiting to be put away, there’s usually a few dishes in the sink waiting to be washed… But all those things come second to playing, singing, dancing, reading, cuddling, napping, teaching, bathing and just plain spending good quality time with my children. I had to work with my first 3 children and fortunately, I’ve been able to be a stay at home mom with my last two babies. I will be the first person to say it is definitely the hardest job I’ve ever had, but it’s also the most rewarding job as well.

3mama 1 year ago

I’m a working mom and i’d say more than half of those still apply to me.

Kate 1 year ago

Of course I didn’t have time to read all the comments but will one day! All these made me laugh way too loudly. is it bad that I have regressed to the point of laughing insanely on random occasions and asking people, “Wanna know how I got these scars?” while wearing smeared lip gloss and raccoon like eye makeup?

Amy 1 year ago

While I’m sure you don’t MEAN to come off as condescending, that is kind of how I’m taking your post. You obviously wanted MANY children, and that’s great, as apparently you can afford them if you can afford daycare for all of them, AND a cleaning lady. Most of us stop having children after having only a couple. I knew my limits as to what I could handle, and that is a BIG reason we stopped with 2. My kids have been home with me since day one. They are both happy, bright, sweet and considerate children, who know that mom will always be there. Of COURSE they bicker…show my a scenario where more than one child playing together DOESN’T! They also love each other very much, and the first to defend their sibling when shit hits the fan! I’m not cooking and cleaning all day…I do what I can when I can. Our house is always kept up, and we also have 3 dogs and 2 cats. I feel VERY fortunate to be home for them, and would never consider daycare for them unless I worked…despite having MANY physical health challenges. My babies are MY responsibility, and I love that I am able to do this for this short period of their life.

Ashley 1 year ago

I’ve don’t know what anything on that list feels like. I’m a stay at home mom that lives at home with parents still and they take care of my son while I just…do absolutely nothing. Wow…That just makes me look really bad :/

Brandy 1 year ago

Aw I wasn’t offended at all. I actually appreciate someone understands and respects how difficult being a stay at home mom can be. I’ve seen offensive comments, many offensive comments. Anyone who gets their panties in a bunch over this really needs to find something bigger to complain about. To take this wrong is to be trying really, really hard to find something to whine about. She’s not a politician she’s human and I get what she’s saying, and I’m a stay at home mom. Lighten up people, whew.

April 1 year ago

Number 15 cracked me up. I am one of Jehovah’s Witnesses and I might welcome the offer of a dirty martini when I’m out in the ministry :) Also I have spent 20 years being a SAHM and I may or may not have eaten more than one soggy half eaten pop tart off the floor, used a Chip and Dale duffle bag for my own over night bag, and put towels and more blanket over a peed bed in the middle of the night and put the kid back in it. I only have one home now- it’s quiet when they start to leave.

Mia 1 year ago

This makes me feel like I do not want children…. :-\ or maybe have them but not stay home with them.

Mia 1 year ago

She said she was ABLE to quit. I don’t think she meant it as an insult to sahm’s…

Heather 1 year ago

noname – your obviously reading it soooo how are you to say others shouldn’t be reading this?

Kristyn 1 year ago

Lmfao!! This is totally me! I still work very part time but can honestly say, thank good for scrubs and yoga pants because my “adult wardrobe” walked out on me years ago!! I have to REALLY search through my clothes to find something that doesn’t have some souvenir from my kiddo on it :) I usually go from one set of pajamas or yoga pants to another. My husband commented on the fact that I was very nicely dressed up the other day when we went to the circus…..I was wearing Jeans, boots and a sweater. Yay me!!! 😀

smiley 1 year ago

I’ve struggled with the exact same situation and being able to really evaluate your actions and the motivations behind them makes such a difference. I’m working on being a more rational and calm mom, thanks for your post

mom-o-8 1 year ago

I have 8 kids age 10 and under and would never think about putting them in daycare. The conversations that arise when we are doing things during the day are priceless and would never happen if there weren’t prolonged moments together. These are precious years to encourage, love, build up confidence and just enjoy the sweetness. It sounds like maybe you should have slowed down the number of kids you were having if it was such a stress. Having a large family is definitely work and not for everyone, but I have found it immensely fulfilling and can’t imagine farming my kids out sooner then we have to (we do public school). Save the daycare money and pay for a housekeeper and enjoy your sweet ones.-PS, this is not judging people who put their children in daycare. Some women really enjoy an outside career and the balance it gives them. Each person needs to do what is best for their emotional state and family. And having time to yourself is not bad, even as a stay at home mom. Just wanted to let people know that you can have a large brood and enjoy it and not be consumed with the housework. Children love to “help” and soon become old enough for that “helping” to actually make a difference, if they are taught at a young age. My 7 year old twin boys fight over who gets to Lysol down the toilet!

KK 1 year ago

I too was a teacher for 10 years while my older two were younger (now 11 and 12) and now I am at home with my 2 year old, and being at home is a bazillion times easier. Being a teacher meant I was busy (and out of the house) from 6:15 am until 4:30 pm and then had work to do AT home as well as housework, kid activities, and trying to spend time with my husband and kids. Sure, we have some hectic days – but overall, it is so much easier – every one is more relaxed and happy. I would never consider taking my child to a playground then to the grocery store as mentally or physically taxing as working all day and then coming home to take my child to a playground or grocery shop. It really annoys me too when I hear SAHMs complaining about how difficult things are – I’ve done both and this gig is definitely feels like the life of ease compared to the alternative. BUT – I only have one toddler at home, I LOVE getting my older two up and driving them to school- making their lunches – doing their laundry and putting it away nice and neat unlike what they would do – because I didn’t have the opportunity to do that until now (I was a young divorced single parent when they were younger) – and maybe because I didn’t have the luxury of having a choice before, getting the opportunity now is something that I appreciate too much to complain about it!

Noname 1 year ago

I just want to make an observation to all the ladies commenting here- we aren’t just mothers-we are women too and I think the first thing we need to do is stop going on the computer looking up stuff like this and spending our time reading it and we should go be grown ups more often :) Strong independent women-our kids will thank us later :)

Josh 1 year ago

I am a stay at home daddy of 2 boys. My youngest just turned a year old and my oldest is going to be 3 in June. I love my boys and am working my butt off to raise them to be good people. My wife works full time, and I run a small eBay store selling video games. I had to find something where I could set my own hours, and if I get an hour of free time I can get SO much done!
In their entire lives I have only spent about a week’s worth of time away from my boys, and although a break is nice I actually missed them :)
My grandmother is amazed that I can do this, but she does keep asking me when I’m going to get a job, you know, for in all of my free time. Lol If I have free time it’s spent taking a shower or mowing the yard. I feel so blessed to have this opportunity.
Do what works for you, but remember to enjoy the little things, slow down and be happy.

Haley H 2 years ago

This list bothers me…more than it should, probably. But I think its for the simple reason that it is distilling stay-at-home life into this kind of pathetic, never leave the house situation. That, and a ton of the items on this list are just as applicable to “working” mothers. Staying at home with kids CAN be an exciting, enriching, fun-filled life and moms who work outside of the home also leave the house covered in their kids’ bodily fluids, and can’t think of anything more glorious than pooping alone. Be more creative next time.

sarcasmica 2 years ago

So exactly true. *slow midday sip*

littlebitblind 2 years ago

If i dont shower, my hubby doesn’t care.
if i dont wear a bra he’s liKE WOO FREE BOOBIES lol
But i live this list. and i only have one.
no oen is perfect, and i have not given up on life.
i just dont need to impress anyone inside of my home.
And when you have boobs this big, not wearing a bra feels SOOOOOO NICE!
And my son does not let me shower. at all.
And once my hubby is home, I want to spend time as a nice stinky family ><
Im glad a lot of people think it's the most wonderful enlightening beautiful job ever, but it's hard, and not everyone is cut out for it the same way.
Not every day is like this but a lot are.
And it's still time well spent.

Kelly 2 years ago

I love the first one – my kid asks every time I brush my hair!

Nikki 2 years ago

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have :)

JA 2 years ago

OMG #20! In spite of the fact that you could feed a family of six at any given time from the Lucky Charms and Cheetos crumbs in the carpet!

kaya66 2 years ago

sham does not have to be like it is sounding here…..I did it and enjoyed it so much but we did not watch tv much and didn’t really stay in the house that much….we went on hikes with backpacks and snuglys before they could walk and after they just walked or ran around…..it is all a matter of what you want to do with them…..we went alone or with friends to the zoo a lot and the library and parks everyday and had picnics…even trips to the grocery store were fun if you get them involved….and it wasn’t that hard….when we got home in afternoon they could relax with a little tv or read the books THEY picked out….there is a lot you can do that doesn’t cost a lot of money…..I was glad when my husband got home at night to give me a break but the days for the most part flew by because we were busy…..it helps to have a good friend or two that feels the same as you and likes to do stuff everyday….I think since we did it from the start they really liked it and then we all appreciated a rare day just at home…..I would love to do it all over again….I didn’t have the computer to be on….I really just enjoyed their company and they enjoyed me being there…..just my experience……I can’t think of anything worse than having the tv on all day every day and kids just lounging around…..I say get outside the sooner the better before they decide they don’t want to do anything but watch tv…..I’m not trying to put anyone down just saying what worked well for me…..

Jo W. 2 years ago

Us too. The only social time I get is when my kids are at their therapies. During speech or OT, I get 30-60 minutes of uninterrupted grown up conversations about things like “what foods our kids won’t eat” and “what apps are best for problem solving when a child is afraid of the timer in the games” lol Yea, mostly we still just talk about our kids.

Ajean72 2 years ago

Wait a minute, something is missing from the list!
You hum theme songs to kids’ shows in your head while awake.

Sarah Brooks 2 years ago

Is someone spying on me?? lol

Sonja Bachman ItWorks BodyWrap 2 years ago

Oh YES! Nailed it!

Robin Varney Simms 2 years ago

I’m a stay at home mom….and I homeschool! No breaks from kids EVER. LOL Anyway, I found this funny, and most of them, I can relate!

MamaChelle 2 years ago

Thanks for making me laugh. Today has been a rough day and I’ve wondered is it time to go back to work? Lol. Pregnant with a three and a one year old is not as easy as some stay at home moms make it seem and I needed this to laugh and know that I’m not alone.

jj 2 years ago

I’ve got 3 kids that I am a SAHM mom to and I totally agree with you. The only one that I can agree with is the last one (hence why I’m still up at 9:37 after everyone else has gone to bed) 😉

Vanessa Aschmann 2 years ago

O my GOD! This is hilariously similar to my own internal list. Thanks for a great laugh!

Lisa 2 years ago

The thing is, I don’t have the drive to socialize with people like other moms seem to have. I have gone through so much crap and abuse in my life I have practically sworn off people forever. My friend would have to be like Jesus, a saint, and people like that don’t come around too often. My son plays with the neighbours kids so he’s always socializing, but me, I keep to myself. It also didn’t help that I had no car or money for 4 years of stay-at-home motherhood. If I had the funds I would of spent time at the mall shopping, or whatever. My son was an unplanned/unexpected pregnancy, I was totally not ready emotionally/psychologically/financially. I wanted 1) settled in my own home/not renting (we moved like 3 times after he was born) 2) financial stability 3) My own car, those things would have made being a SAHM tolerable and probably even enjoyable for me.

Cindy 2 years ago

Makes perfect sense to me. :-)

devrie 2 years ago

I stay at home with two little ones while my oldest goes to public school. Sometimes I wish I could put them in daycare for just one day a week. To me, that would be perfect!

devrie 2 years ago

I pretty much live this list (except for the bra and I while I don’t shower regularly, I wash things in segments: hair when bathing kids, legs and a shave quickly during the day, Etc. lol), and I didn’t give up on life. I don’t get a job because of our income! We’d make slightly more after gasoline and childcare, and at that point, what’s the point? I’d be dropping the kids off and spending time away from them to net an extra $200 a month?

How we live as SAHM’s or working moms is going to vary greatly depending on family support, family income, geographic location, cultural differences, and general priorities. It’s NOT miserable, and it is a joke. It’s not a vacation either. There are certainly challenges, and it’s okay to laugh at them and even to complain about them a little.

devrie 2 years ago

It does that here in Florida too, lol. It’s funny, because we’ve considered moving to Texas! lol

devrie 2 years ago

Pretty on par with my beliefs, actually. Thank you!

devrie 2 years ago

Grits, I have thought about volunteering. :) I have done it very sparingly, because it costs a lot in gas just to get anywhere. I will take any prayers you send, and thank you!! :) I do have some solace, though…and it’s the dirt! lol We live on a road with some of the smallests lots….at 1/2 acre. It still seems rather large, so I like to plant trees and plants and bushes. The kids like to help. We do get outside frequently when the sun is out, and it’s out more often where we live than it is in other places in the country.

My mother and I were thinking of conceiving a community party or something for our area. Maybe we can create some kind of community event for everyone to get together and meet everyone so we don’t have too far to go to enjoy our little rural corner of the Earth.

annkilter 2 years ago

I can so relate to this blog post. I raised two kids with autism and a third with a related disorder. I was at home until my youngest was 12. Then I went back to school to get more job training so I could do something more than mop floors for a living.. The kids are now almost through college. Those years were hard, and I had many anxieties about their future. But the Lord helped me, and many teachers, parents, youth leaders, and therapists helped us. The years go by so quickly from this perspective, but when my kids were young, it seemed so slow.

Grits 2 years ago

We all feel stressed under different circumstances. We all cope with stress in different ways. Six months ago, I was the yelling-through-the-house-spanking-sending-to-nap-early-Mommy. Now, I don’t do any of those things. I have learned that I stress over petty things. So, I’ve also learned to mentally take a step back. Ask myself a few questions: How important is this, really? What is the best way to respond to this situation? In light of my child’s age, what is the most I can expect from him? Looking at things, I realized I was putting unrealistic expectations on myself, and my children. When I let go of some things that didn’t matter, my children relaxed as I relaxed. My husband has relaxed. Our house has grown happier. Even the dog is happier! It is true that we mothers set the tone for the rest of the family. So, if you really needed a break and you got one: more power to ya’! For me, I just had to reexamine my priorities, and teach myself a few tricks for dealing w/ stress. (who says you can’t teach an old dog new tricks???)

Grits 2 years ago

P.S,–Not sure what your faith is. My Bible, however, says where two or more are gathered, there is a church. So there’s you and your hubby for the two, then the kid(s). Just saying. (not trying to preach at you. I’m not really sure of your belief system, but this may apply to you, or someone else reading it…) Remember, you’re not alone, not really.

Grits 2 years ago

Have you thought of volunteer work on the weekends? Or just visiting a nursing home every two weeks? Take the kids, or go alone. Sometimes, when we feel we are helping others, it makes us feel better. Gas prices are expensive… Have you thought of taking up an inexpensive hobby that can be done outdoors? Wood working, drawing, writing, hiking? Anything that gets you out there absorbing some vitamin D. I will be praying for you. It is really hard to do anything, when we feel we are alone in it. Maybe have the hubby take a break at the same time each day, and just go on a family walk? Make up stories together, when you run out of new things to talk about…

Grits 2 years ago


Grits 2 years ago

Put my name down, too!

Grits 2 years ago

Give it time, and more of them will apply to your. I’d say, around two or three more yrs. 😉

Stacey Red 2 years ago

I have a fantastic bond with my son and he’s in daycare 9 hours a day, 4 days a week. But thanks for the judgement.

Reader 2 years ago

I know, I know. But when my husband has NO clean underwear and is working so hard getting up at 5am, I need to get the laundry done! And when I am getting injured from walking into toys and stuff, or the floor is so dirty a baby would choke from its old food contents. I cannot describe how messy it is having all the little ones home all day DESPITE constant cleaning. A clean house is peace of mind; I am so less stressed. And I don’t mean “clean.” Just safe so we’re not getting injured, wearing clothes that smell or are stained, and don’t have bed sheets soaked in pee. Basic, basic stuff. With 3 kids it was EASY. 15 kids…that’s awesome. I don’t know how though! When the house is a total filthy zoo, the kids and husband don’t like that; it’s stressful and gross. Nobody else cares for sure!

daffodilgirl 2 years ago

I am a SAHM to 4 kiddos, and wouldn’t have it any other way. I think this list was made to be comical, not to start arguments over staying home or working. You have to do what you have to do. I was a bit surprised, though, at the various comments about trying to stay home but it not working because the kids were bored. I guess every family is different, but my kids love being home and having free time to play together, use their imaginations, etc. Of course they fight and drive me nuts sometimes, but with the oldest 2 in school all day, it is good for them to come home and have some unstructured play time. They look forward to being home and rarely complain about being bored.

Mary 2 years ago

Rofl ! I laughed so hard I almost cried. Thanks so much for writing this. I now know I am normal!

M 2 years ago

Excuse me, I am a stay at home mom and don’t go around complaining. It is NOT harder to balance work and children, as I did it for 9 months after my first was born. It was sad for me. As a teacher I spent most of my days with other people’s children, while away from mine an average of 10 hrs a day. Being at home is harder than working away from home, but so much more rewarding. You say you love for your girls to see they can have a career and be a mom? Good for you. I am not saying anything against it. However, I LOVE for my children to see their mom is there every step of the way because as a teacher I SAW the devastation that can occur when mom is too busy “balancing” a career and a household. Can you be a wonderful mother and do both? Yes, I believe you can, but my mother was a SAHM for over 10 years, went to work because she had to, and I would come home alone everyday for several hours, even with after school programs and it was not a happy time. I missed having my mom there and honestly her being home with me is what cemented my roots and helped me make good decisions.
While my friends were taking advantage that no one was home and doing all sorts of things, I did not want to disappoint my mother and stayed on the straight path.

M 2 years ago

That’s crazy! My grandmother had 15 and they all (with the exception of the youngest lol) grew up to be responsible, loving adults! You need to prioritize, get of things and downsize to something more manageable. Five hours a day spent on the house? You said it, they were there but you were “too busy”. Forget the cleaning, no one cares about it, and they people that would snub at your messy house are not welcomed!

TakeActionWAHM 2 years ago

Ha… I brushed my hair to go on a G+ hangout, and my kid asked what I was all dressed up for!

lookwhoshere 2 years ago

Because sometimes birth control fails. I love my son more than life but we were not trying and yet here he is. We are doing what we have to do to make sure we have a roof over our heads and food on the table. Sure we have extras, but that is only because we are both working. Had I not gone back to work, we would have $60 after the bills were paid (rent, utilities, ONE car payment, car insurance, etc) this was not even taking into consideration that my husband’s pay check would be further stretched by him having to take over the health insurance my job had previously had provided. Would you rather I hd had an unwanted abortion or that we would have needed to go on food stamps and medicaid? Our situation has changed and I will be a stay at home mom in a few months, and as any mother who wanted to stay home but simply couldn’t would tell you, I am lucky. I LIKE my job, I worked hard for the degree, and have been working since I was 15. Sure I can go back to work after he starts school, but my career/job changes so fast, I may well too far removed to jump back in.

Traci 2 years ago

Why would anyone have a child if they didn’t want to be around them? I get that some families can not afford to have the mother stay at home, but the mothers that I know that work cant wait to race home to their children. How sad for the children who have parents that would rather not spend too much time around them. Children need the bond of parents and it gives them the security they need to go out and face the world. Every child would tell you they do not care what kind of house they live in, or what kind of car you tote them around in all day…. all they want is you :)

Courtney Conover 2 years ago

Very well-said, devrie. Thank you.

MadisMom 2 years ago

I thought this was hilarious! It’s sad that someone writes a blog intended to be funny, then a lot of the comments are so mean. Toward other Mother’s. Sad really. Lighten up people!

Sierra Hopper 2 years ago

Is this a thing? This needs to be a thing! Where do I sign up? Lol.

Courtney Conover 2 years ago

Yup. This list is my siren song.

devrie 2 years ago

I live in a rural community so it’s not easy to get out. Top it off with the fact that my hubby and I are both only children and our only biological relatives are our moms! So we have, like, and island of support. Our nearest library is 10 miles away, and I think we have more books decorating our home than that library–let alone that it’s only open until 5 pm three days a week! Plus, my husband works from home, so we don’t even have “work friends.” My oldest kid’s school is 20 miles from our home so she gets really frustrated with where we live. :( I love being here for my kids, but I get cabin fever–especially since gasoline prices have gone up to the point that we rarely just drive somewhere. I would go to church if my religious denomination was nearby (or in my county). I think the joy of being the SAHM is always there, but the level of frustration and exacerbation really depends on so many factors that it is really difficult to lump all SAHM’s (or even working moms) in the same category…finances, location, family and friend support can all make a world of difference.

devrie 2 years ago

They’re not a burden, but it can be exhausting, especially for those of us who aren’t good at perfectly structured days! I always lament that I don’t have a schedule like some moms. Somehow, we end up outside playing games, or I end up with a toddler on my lap doing ABCmouse.com games, or we end up spinning around in the kitchen making up happier versions of “Ring Around the Rosie,” (because isn’t it about people dying from plague?…so we do Ring Around the Balloon, pocket full of looney tunes…). They spill stuff, (and when you live in a small house where everything is in the living room, it can get messy and dizzy quickly), the boys argue over a Lego piece, a million fake boo boos need to be kissed while attempting to wash the same pot… It’s beautiful and messy. It’s chaotic and artful…it’s squished grapes on the play table and all amazing. But it’s tiring. A mom can start losing a sense of her own curiosity and wonder–her own privacy and control over her own being, and deep inside she may feel the need to explore if for nothing else but for her posterity. A lamentation or a cry for validation doesn’t mean it’s horrible. Just because we’re moms doesn’t mean mother’s work isn’t sometimes a little exhausting.

devrie 2 years ago

It’s not harder, but it’s just AS exhausting–on a mental or emotional level or something. I think we feel like we need some validation. :) I’ve been the working married mom, the single working mom, and now the married SAHM–they all have their challenges, but I find more people feel like you “do something” when you’re working. People understood why I was tired at the end of the day, but now they don’t understand why I don’t get a night job or something–after all, I don’t “work” during the day, so I couldn’t possibly be ready for a break, right? :) I think I actually “worked” harder when I worked outside the home; however, I can definitely say I feel more exhausted all the time as a SAHM. I don’t consider the work I do as “work,” because it feels like I’m supposed to be doing it anyway–but when I was working, someone else was doing that stuff that I’m doing now. When I worked outside the home, I pined for the ability to stay home. Now I kind of wish I was working sometimes. :) All moms work hard (well, most, anyway!!). Props go out to the working moms–ya’ll are juggling in different ways and it’s awesome that you do that. Just don’t forget to recognize those of us who stay at home as working too–that way we won’t feel compelled to prove to you that we’re working hard too!!

katrina 2 years ago

I can tell you are mom to only one child! 😉 just had my second recently and now most of these things describe me! Lol but I love itandwouldn’t trade it for the world. :-)

Traci 2 years ago

“25 Ways You Know You’re a Stay at Home Mom”

Uh…you stay at home? That would be my first clue.

Anita Davis Sullivan 2 years ago

I don’t think you meant it that way, but by saying you quit to raise her implies that working moms don’t raise their kids. I’m sure since you raised your first two while working that you understand that, but comes off quite bad.

Gingersnap 2 years ago

Not all of this applies to me, nor does it have to. It’s FUNNY! *sheesh* BTW, I am living #25 right now.

LAndrews86 2 years ago

Maybe because people in the workforce like you treat SAHM’s like all we do is sit on our butts all day. I know what it’s like to work full time, 40+ hours a week. Do you know what it’s like being alone with toddlers for 12hours a day? It’s quite different compared to sitting behind a computer for 8hrs a day.

Jojo 2 years ago

Ya’ll are way to serious…..I am a stay at home mom and I found this super funny. And truth of the matter is most days are just like the post said.

Julie 2 years ago

I’m sure this is meant as a joke (I hope) if I didn’t shower and wear a bra my husband would be disappointed. Is the person living this list giving up on life? If being a stay-at-home mom is so miserable why don’t you just work? I stay home because it’s the best place for my small children. In daycare they get so sick and they are crammed in a little room with a bunch of children. Daycare does not give them the attention that they need as little children. Just my opinion but this list was depressing. I don’t think about drinking alcohol in the morning and I definitely take the kids outside as much as I can and on field trips.

Amy 2 years ago

This is funny but it also portrays staying at home in a bad light. Sure there are days when you want to pull your hair out and you just want to go to the potty by yourself. But then there are the days when your babies seem extra cuddley, or everyone had played so well together, or you just felt like you had it together that day. I promise those are the days you will remember and long for! My youngest of 3 boys is now in first grade and I can’t tell you how much I miss being a full time stay at home mommy. I promise it’s worth it!

It’s me 2 years ago

I’m sorry you had that experience with SAH. I found the complete opposite and I know it makes all the difference. You have to put yourself out there in ways that you never had to before kids. So many other things matter like if your kids are similar age, like the same activities, play well together, and lastly whether you get along with the other mom(s). But there are SO many things to do, at least in a suburban/ urban area. I can totally see how a rural or sparsely populated area would drive one batty.

It’s Me 2 years ago

Anytime someone says this it comes across as smug. Whether it was meant as such it’s hard to say over the internet but I vote that it’s never written again! and that goes for the opposite of “thank god I could stay home, I don’t know how working mother do it but I commend them”.

radiofreejenn 2 years ago

Lol try it with 3 under 3 and a 10 year old with Autism.

Reader 2 years ago

Yes. The kids were totally ignored. I spent no time with them. They’d fight and be bored. I felt bad for them, so I chose daycare so they could have structure, friends, and age-appropriate stimulation. Having 6 under age 8 meant nobody’s needs were really met. But the daycare was grouped by age. And here is the thing:my kids loved it. They begged to go each day. They have fun! Do you know how much laundry we have? I am talking basic things like pants not soaked in pee, or sheets that don’t smell, or a living room you can walk through and not trip on. We even have a cleaning lady and it’s still about 5 hours a day minimum I spend on the house. And it still looks messy each day! Being home was not fun for my kids and made me too guilty, since they were “there” but I was so busy. Daycare is the perfect solution. It was mental torture (as Lisa called it) for all of us to be home all day.

Lisa 2 years ago

I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years now and I hate it. Mental torture at it’s finest. Now that he’s in school all day I’m starting to feel human again. I think the main problem is lack of community and isolation. The news has made everyone paranoid of each other, neighbours aren’t as warm and friendly as they were when I was growing up. People in general are more hateful, judgmental and mean.

dawn 2 years ago

#16 is just a part of being in texas. It was 70 degrees out 3 hours ago. Now its 20. No joke.

Susan Kewin 2 years ago

My children are all grown. We have 5 between the ages of 20- 30. I was able to be a stay at home mom, and I am so grateful that I could. It took a big financial sacrifice. It is sad that this is becoming less and less of a viable option because of economics. I made many mistakes, and would love a do over…but not staying home.

Mab 2 years ago

oh, only 11 of those applied to me, yay! i had fun reading this.

happy mommy 2 years ago

Yes! My son is 6 now, in school all day, and I look back on his baby years as a SAHM with such pride and no regrets. Your days sound a lot like mine were, and I know in my heart it was the best thing for my son, and it was the best thing for me! I did not miss a moment. The years that they want to be with us are so short. In a couple of years my son won’t want to hold my hand in public, but I was there with him, holding his hand, for all the years that he has seen me as the most important person in his life. I would never trade that for anything.

BTW, if you stay home when she is at school, your me time will consist of powering through all the errands, chores, dinner prep, exercise, etc., so that when she gets off school you have time to go to the park or have a play date, do homework, and get some snuggles in before dinner. :)

Reader 2 years ago

They asked to watch TV ALL DAY LONG. Of course I said no, but that’s ALL they wanted to do. I got out the educational bored games, I offered to read to them, I took them outside, we even went to the park. They were bored. So I gave up and put them in camps all summer and aftercare during the school year. They truly love these programs and are upset if there is a day they can’t go. The programs keep them busy and active and their friends are there, too. No way would I allow them to be couch potatoes and watch TV. And no way was I going to listen to them whine about TV all day either. I think having 6 little ones too made it chaotic. I appreciate the help from these programs and the kids are not watching TV. So I am happy; they are happy. I know many kids on our block are at home (at least all summer) and they simply play video games, which isn’t what I wanted for us.

Bee 2 years ago

That’s a terrible thing to say. It’s the most rewarding job out there.

sojaided 2 years ago

I stay home with my 14 month old and only 1 or 2 of these apply to me. Staying home with your child/children doesn’t have to be as bad as you make it sound. Yes, it can be hard or frustrating sometimes but it’s so worth it and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Also, for the woman earlier, if your kids are in daycare all the time, you’re not a SAHM mom. You’re just unemployed

brandi 2 years ago

I think this is where you have to understand that is what is best for your family… but you can’t just post a statement saying kids shouldn’t be with their mothers. As a stay at home Momma.. I have built a bond with my two boys and help them grow together. I know I couldn’t handle any more kids right now by myself, so we have stopped for the moment. This is MY choice. I don’t spend my day cleaning and cooking I get my oldest to help so he’s learning something I love to do and interacting. He knows a lot more than most children his age. When daddy gets home is when I get cleaning done, not during my precious moments with my boys. They’re not little for long, cleaning can wait.

tonyboloney 2 years ago

I have been fortunate. I supposed because I grew up in a huge family and there were always babies around me. Though abandoned by my ex husband with a 3yr. old and an 18 month old out of my home state and away from all I’d ever known, I learned to survive. Returned home, became a certified N.A. and by God’s grace worked in acute hospitals. My work was mainly with Pediatrics or O.B. or the nursery. Because of my past experiences caring for my kids just blended in. They were always a joy. At forty my second husband and I were surprise with a blessed but un-expect arrival! We’d tried on our own for 20 years to have a baby together. When we accepted no more babies, here she comes! She was a wonderful baby. I’d have to wake her for her feedings. She remained constant. Happy and always smiling. I always stayed a step of her and kept her occupied. The was about 34 years ago. She’s still a great joy and has blest us with a grand little girl. She is the one who put up this post, and I am puzzled and amused because she was an almost perfect baby as far as behavior went.
God bless you Mom’s, Num. 6:24-26

tonyboloney 2 years ago

We all have a different calling. I had to work for 10 years with my two little ones. By the time my third one came a long I was able to quit and raise her. Anyway one slices it, we all do the best we can, and we all have a different calling. You can still spend quality time at home when you are off. They’ll remember those times and not the times when you had to be away. We are all like the pebble that was thrown into the middle of the pond, your life, your job affects people you are not even aware of in a positive way. “No man is an island.” Num. 6:24-26

MLP 2 years ago

These are awful! They make it sound like being a SAHM is a horrible thing. It doesn’t have to be like this at all. I worked and owned my own business before we relocated due to my husbands job. I have been a SAHM since then. I have to say I love being here for my kids. To those of you who say put them in daycare so they won’t be bored… why not give them something productive to do? I home-school my kids and there is never an “I’m bored” moment. Because during the week they are busy doing school work or playing outside. Yes, remember that! We played outside as kids, its good for them! It gives you time to do what needs to get done and they are being active. On weekends there are trips to the zoo, museums, parks, lakes, ect. Things that I could never do while I was working because I was to busy catching up on the weekends. If its bad weather out why not let them play an educational board game? You don’t have to sit them in front of the tv all day. My kids enjoy helping me with cooking and cleaning. Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t matter if you work or if you are a SAHM. You should love your kids, these make it sound like they are a burden. And I’ll state one more time, if these pertain to you, it doesn’t have to be that way!

Nena La Gemela 2 years ago

Reading this article made me Laugh as I am a stay at home mom by choice so many things are true.

My days as a sahm cooking , house chores, the park, library, play dates, shopping, bank, hikes, my daughter goes everywhere with me she is glued to my hip : ) but one day that will all change in 2 years she will go to big school
( Kindergarten ) and my daughters time now will be shared with teachers, friends, sports, I will look back and wonder wow time sure went bye fast , Hope my daughter remembers our times together hope she remembers i was her first teacher, best friend, nurse, coach, super hero, chef, house keeper, driver, Will she know she was my world my everything. So when she walks into her classroom in 2 years I will wave bye i will smile and cry and know my SAHM job is done and now i have 7 hours of Me time

Melssa 2 years ago

It seems you just read this post to have the opportunity to post some negativity?

Reader 2 years ago

I disagree. The kids would fight all day and be bored at home. I was stressed. It was not good at ALL; our interactions. I work ALL day with cleaning,cooking, and laundry and house management and the house would still not even be really great. 6 little kids under age 8. Daycare was a lifesaver. The kids are much happier there. My oldest gets really mad if I pick her up early. They have FUN there. And I don’t feel guilty I am ignoring the kids while I do the work in the house. Maybe 2 or 3 kids is different. It is great you play together. I don’t even get a shower more than every 2 to 3 days. :)

Reader 2 years ago

With all respect for your comments, I did stay at home for my little ones for a bit. Our interactions were so terrible. I was too stressed, trying to keep the house in order (some basic things; it didn’t have to be perfect). The kids were always bored. We had baby to age 5 so going anywhere was hard and the older ones wanted to do stuff that I couldn’t easily do with a baby. So I compromised financially. I did part-time day care. It was the best decision ever. My older kids LOVED it. They could even go on field trips in summer that I couldn’t easily do with them. And even the 15 month old liked it; he got good interactions from the teachers and other little ones. I was way less stressed and I knew the kids were being cared for and entertained/stimulated while I managed the house. Any woman who tries to do it all…bless her. I am grateful for daycare, even as a SAHM.

Tracy 2 years ago

I have been a stay at home mom since the day we had our 1st ( almost nine years ago) I chose not to return to work because I didn’t want to miss anything!!! I had our second baby while my husband was over seas.( he missed it by a week) not only was I a stay at home mom , but also a military wife taking on both rolls as a parent for 8 months at a time! If I wasn’t there who would they have had? I love being home with them! As much as I enjoy alone time, seeing and hearing about their accomplishments is the best part of my day! I wouldn’t change my decision even on the worst day to watch my babies grow!!! And yes every single one of the things on the list are spot on!!!!

Name 2 years ago

I am a mom of three girls and I have worked and stayed home over the years!! It is much harder to balance work and children! Staying home was great! Playing and caring for my girls each day! I am not sure why stay at home moms complain so much! I love for my girls to see that I can have a career and be a mom! They can do it all! Children THRIVE when they have good caring parents!! It does not matter if you stay at home or work we are all moms who love our children!!!

MrsWelton 2 years ago

Bang on. *yawn* I need a drink.

shabbygirl 2 years ago

This article made me laugh so many things are true..As I am a stay at home mom, As a stay at home mom my choice, My mornings and afternoons and evenings are shared with my daughter, we go to the park, library, the zoo, shopping, the bank, walking and hiking, play dates, we have lunch together some days are not so easy as she might have a cold or be under the weather but I am there to hold her comfort her and make her feel a bit okay, I only have 2 more years to fully enjoy her on one on one time, Soon she will walk into kindergarten and i will wave bye and smile and cry and know that my time with her now will be shared with lots of friends, teachers. sports and many new activities but that’s okay because she was my one and only for 5 years and now its time for me to go to work .

momofeveryone 2 years ago

This is so my lIfe at the moment lol! 3 under 6, and we have been down a car for over a month.I love the grocery store!

Your mom 2 years ago

And the number one way you can tell: a SAHM will take every opportunity to remind you how much “harder” she works than everyone else in the workforce.

guest 2 years ago

you are amazing ..your kids will love you forever

advice 2 years ago

completely agree

TwinMommy 2 years ago

LOL! We’ll have to agree to disagree here. As a stay at home mom I am not focused on cleaning, laundry and maintaining patience. Laundry is done when my kids are in bed; I can clean when they nap. Rather, my day is spent focused on my children, their stimulation, their learning, structure, hot balanced organic meals, and FUN… a lot of fun! I get that some people have to or choose to put their kids in daycare, and that is totally fine! Whatever works for your family! But I just don’t see how you could say that being in a loving home with a parent is worse than being in a daycare with two teachers trying to control 25 other kids. Both my children and I are so blessed that we can spend these precious years learning and playing and loving together! <3

Katreena Mabe 2 years ago

Thank god I’m not the only one! I love my dd with every fiber of my being, but I’ve discovered that I also love adult conversation. Or any conversation that doesn’t involve my dd’s imaginary friends!

Shana 2 years ago

Except that all the research shows the exact opposite of what you said to be true. Children thrive when they are home with their moms, compared to being in day care. I’m sure there are good day cares but they are not a replacement for what a child learns at home.

beth 2 years ago

Yes, a survival of the fittest environment is very stimulating. Nothing like learning to be aggressive.

Jen 2 years ago

I work in the evenings and weekends, but I giggled at most of these.

LadyM 2 years ago

I’ve been home for ten years and they haven’t looked like that! Some of those are awful!

kmz 2 years ago

During the years before preschool, I completely believe that if the mother can stay at home with her children they should. It builds a bond between the mother and the children that is needed in this world. Every human will have plenty of time to bond and socialize with the rest of the world. Visits with family and friends, and of course lil adventures daily, tons of playtime is plenty of socialization for a young mind. Staying at home is not easy, and can leave a woman weary by the time, the hubby walks in the door, but when I see my child do the littlest things that I taught him, then I know it is all worth it. For those who can not stay at home, or choose to work, I would hope that anyone would applaud you for knowing what is best for your family and yourself. :) Not a single one of us is “doing it Right” anyway. :) We all can only try our best! This comment was strictly for the person who said that “kids need socialization and not to be with their mothers all day long, because they are cooking and cleaning…” Children are always watching, and can learn so much from this environment. My children do small chores around the house, like clean up toys, feed the dog with help, and other tiny things, but all of this is teaching them responsibility at their level. It lets them see what needs to be done to survive a day, and is exactly what education they will need most in life. They will only be so little for so long, and a mother can only hold their little hands for so long, so why not try (if you can) embrace for as long as you can?

Serina 2 years ago

I legitimately might kill myself if I lived like that.

cheesehead4ever 2 years ago

After spending almost twelve years at home, I would agree with most of them except the bra one. I never go without a bra.

But even though those years set us back financially, I would make the exact same decision to stay home again.

Reader 2 years ago

I don’t think a child should be home with mom all day. I have many small ones, and I’d love to have them all in daycare for their stimulation, friends, structure, learning, hot balanced meals and FUN. If daycare didn’t cost as much as college, we’d be there in a second! Moms at home are trying to clean, cook, do laundry, maintain patience, etc. Not the best environment for a kid.

Leslie mom of 4 2 years ago

yep. to every single one. 😀 I didn’t post anything yesterday because everyone had it covered!

autw 2 years ago

#11, for sure! Lol

Roe 2 years ago

Thank god I have a career! The six months I spent at home on maternity leave were enough to drive me to the nut-house. I just don’t know how anyone can stay home with kids, I commend those mothers! I love my kids, I love my job!

Snotty Noses 2 years ago

Haha! I was wondering today if those silent buddhist monks do package holidays for mums. If not, I think they’re missing a trick.


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