Yes, You Should Have a Third Child


I’ve run a few posts lately on the difficulties of having three children and the merits of having just two. I’m certainly not on a mission to prevent third children, but can see how the posts would be interpreted that way. Last week, a reader commented that she thought she wanted three kids, but was having second thoughts thanks to my postings, which was never my intent at all. So, for the record: I love having three children and truly can’t imagine my life any other way. If you are on the fence about if you should have a third child or not, I most definitely recommend expanding your family. Your days will no doubt be more hectic, more challenging and more overwhelming, but they will also be filled with more wonder and more love than ever before. How could you not want that?

Here are ten (out of a gazillion) reasons I love my third child…


1. He doesn’t just kiss you; he grabs your face with both hands and KISSES YOUR FACE OFF. He does’t just hug you; he envelopes you completely. Everyone he loves, he loves fiercely.


2. He brings out the silliness in everyone around him. It’s just impossible not to laugh around Evan.

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3. He dives into everything he does one hundred and ten percent (often without looking and always causing me near heart attacks, but still.)


4. He completely worships his big brother and big sister.


5. He will find his way into your arms and make himself completely at home there.

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6. He is happy just to come along for the ride, his expectations pathetically low.


7. He’s got a style all his own, and he rocks it.


8. He is pure and utter sweetness, even when he is up to no good.


9. He made our family complete, despite it never feeling incomplete before.


10. He will always be my baby, long after he isn’t a baby anymore. I know so, because he promised me. And I’m holding him to it.


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  1. Kat says

    It’s funny, the picture that you posted to #8 (pure and utter sweetness) looks like he’s planning something not entirely sweet, lol!

    My 14 yr old boy who is 5’10”, all arms, legs and manly hairiness absolutely breaks my heart with his grown up body and attitude but shows me in so many ways that he is still my boy (makes his dad jealous). Trust me, he’ll keep his promise.

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  2. Molly says

    My third was not planned and the pregnancy surprised us at the worst time possible. I was upset about just being pregnant for months! The turning point came seeing my husband’s face when he found out that after 2 girls (and 2 much older stepdaughters) we were having a boy. He had always embraced being a dad to girls, but the moment he found out he was no longer alone in a sea of estrogen made everything worthwhile. Today, 4.5 years (and a vasectomy)later I can’t imagine what our life would be like without our baby boy!

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  3. amber says

    I am really sad I can not have more. My adorable son is just so amazing. I always thought we would have more. 31 and I had a stroke that made it too risky to have more. Enjoy those kiddos. Kids their faces and enjoy the bickering. My son really wants a little brother or sister. =(

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  4. Grown and Flown says

    Third child was the best decision I ever made. Two children, one relationship. Three children, three relationships. One mom’s opinion, it made my family life so much richer. And even though my third is 17, other than some of the kissing and lap sitting, not one of the other things on your list has changed!

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  5. Heather says

    2 kids. A boy and a girl. That’s what I wanted. 2 boys or 2 girls would have been just fine too but the magic number was 2. When I met my husband, he was on the same page…he’d only ever wanted 2. Had my girl first. 3 years later after lots of trying, got pregnant but lost the baby. Didn’t know if I wanted to try again but in the end we did and a year later, our son came along. Voila! There was my dream family. A year later, Surprise! I was pregnant with our third child. Wasn’t expected or planned but I couldn’t imagine our family without her in it…it would be too quiet :)

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