06 · 10 · 2010

How to be a Good Wife

Want to be a good wife?

With three young kids, jobs, a new house and just general life, my marriage could use some TLC. Sure, my husband knows that I love him. But, do I love him well? Turns out, I have some things to learn.

Imagine how excited I was when I stumbled upon this inspirational site. There is a challenge called “Loving Him Well” that just started this week. By participating in this two month commitment, I’ll make my man happier and more fulfilled. Through that, I will become more fulfilled myself. For, a happy husband makes a happy wife. That’s what it’s all about!

This enlightening video lays out the plan:

Are you excited? I’m super excited! Here are the weeks that I’m especially looking forward to:

Ask your husband every morning how you can pray for him that day.

Bonus: Fast and pray for him one day this week. (I especially love the idea of combining the fasting and the praying. Two of my most favorite things!)

Make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask him to prioritize them for you of what is important to him.

For example – a clean home, home cooked dinner, coupon clipping, service at church, having friends over for dinner, watching/doing sports with him, etc. (Not sure about you, but Jeff gets really excited when I clip coupons! That’s going to top the list for sure!!)

Make him a priority.

Ask him what his favorite dinner, dessert and drink are. Be sure to serve him all three one night this week. Bonus: cook his favorite dishes all week long! (Homemade pizza, Chinese food and burgers, here we come!!)

Support his vision.

Discuss his vision for your family. Where does he see your family in 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years. Share with us how you let your husband lead. (We’ll follow wherever he may lead.)

R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

No complaining, criticizing, rolling your eyes, nagging, or giving him any friction this week. Enjoy a week of peace in your home! (No friction at home- yay! Except, maybe in between the sheets, if you know what I mean! Wink, wink!)

Fun, right?! I can’t wait!

It’s really amazing to have found a site that is so in line with my personal values as a mother, a wife and a woman. The most exciting part? That there are 127 other women whom I can find so much in common with. Gee whiz, it’s almost too much for me to bear!

So, are you with me, dear readers? Can we all commit the next two months to becoming the women our husbands really want? Women that serve them, worship them and put them first? I know that I can’t wait to jump right in!

{ 472 comments }

1 Kathryn Lang March 18, 2011 at 9:00 am

A post about “completing her” would probably have just as many negative comments because marriage is a team effort. The problem comes when trying to tell someone else what to do. I can only change me so that is what I have to focus on doing when things are not the way I want or need them to be.

IMO – I think she is showing that when a wife listens to her husband’s needs and then honors those needs then she becomes a better person and that effects both the marriage and her husband.
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2 christi March 30, 2011 at 10:21 am

I would totally go for something like this if it was an endeavor to do together as a couple. How can we serve each other better? Of course, it just makes me think of oral sex.

3 Kristi March 30, 2011 at 11:57 am

I recently stumbled upon Courtney and the Women Living Well blog. I believe she has a lot of great suggestions. Of course men have a large part in serving their wives and children, but I am a wife so I need to focus what God is expecting me to do. Her video clips are short and don’t go into a lot of depth. There are complexities I’d imagine to having a drunk or drug addicted husband and one would have to be careful to not enable them and also to get them appropriate help — and keep everyone safe. Though the world has different ideas, I am so happy to know Christ and follow His plan no matter how silly it may seem to some, it does bring about a peace that I didn’t have before.

4 Ilseken April 16, 2011 at 1:16 am

I stopped listening to her words after about 5 seconds, but I couldn’t take my eyes of her hands, what’s up with all the circle-waving moves? And I have to wonder about the comment at the end, did she really say “walk with the King”? WTF does that even mean?!?!

5 GodFearing June 2, 2011 at 12:22 pm

Quote: did she really say “walk with the King”? WTF does that even mean?!?!

It means to follow in Gods foot steps.
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6 Nikki June 24, 2011 at 12:36 pm

Hey. i am 19 and am married with 2 kids. I love my husband so much, and he means the world to me. He loves me too. Lately we have been arguing a lot and just disrespecting each other,and it kills me. I know we both want to be together forever, and be a family with our children, but it is hard with all the stress so early on in our marriage, and we are obviously young, so that means we have a lot to learn. I am so giving this challenge a shot, and I am very excited about it! Please pray for me, and him. We really could use the support. We have a beautiful family now, and we need to keep it together and happy. I am determined; ourbeautiful little baby boys deserve it, and so do we. Thanks!

7 Skye June 24, 2011 at 7:37 pm

You gotta be kidding me!!!!!!!

8 Skye June 24, 2011 at 7:41 pm

This may have worked when television only came in black and white! But bless those who try!

9 FormerlyPreggersStepMom July 8, 2011 at 4:50 pm

6-10-2010 was when this article was written, and yet people are going into Scary Mommy archives to bash it? This is hilarious!
“Judge not lest ye be judged” may be a biblical quote the bible thumpers need to look up. While I can throw out several more, I’d rather keep living the way Christ himself taught rather than following a book put together and edited by one of the most corrupt churches ever known, thanks so much for reaffirming the reasons why people dislike and/or hate Christians ladies, I love having to defend MY faith because of spiteful hateful people who claim to be following in His footsteps.

10 Dgbrown July 9, 2011 at 7:52 pm

Oh. My. Effin. God. (hey, does that count as praying? Score!)

11 Rita July 9, 2011 at 7:59 pm

Somehow, I don’t think the bible thumpers understood the sheer sarcasm of this article and comments. Sad.

12 Marta July 10, 2011 at 12:18 am

Wow. That was… something. Certainly an example of the kind of people I hope to stay very very far away from. For my safety and theirs.

13 Sherri July 10, 2011 at 12:23 am

Wow! This is scary! Lol. I tried just about everything in this article, except praying for him every day.
My divorce will be final in a month or two. No joke!!
Men may say they WANT a woman like this, but they sure AS HELL don’t respect a woman who does everything for them!

14 SinnerElla July 13, 2011 at 12:12 am

OK, so I have a few little comments that I would like to add, though this post seems almost as old as the head of lettuce that’s probably in my veggie drawer in my fridge.
1. It would be less painful for my husband, children and myself for me to punch myself in the throat with a brick repeatedly than it would for me to even attempt this “Challenge”.
2. I feel that the sarcasm in the post above is perfectly acceptable as no one here has forced anyone else here to read said blog post.
3. I do not agree with bashing another’s beliefs in their religious view. I do, however believe in calling a spade a spade and pointing out the obvious (no matter how trivial, rude, abrasive or repugnant my choice of words may seem) that this view of a marriage seems very insecure and 1 sided. If a wife (or husband, for that matter) feels the need to literally change who they are for 2 months to be happier in their marriage, then there is something really fundamentally wrong with that marriage. (and probably said wife or husband)
4. I feel that doing things for my husband comes naturally to me (as it probably does with most wives who are happy in their situation) but please remember that at some point, no matter how happy I am there will be at LEAST a minimal amount of grumbling, complaining, eye rolling, nagging, and eventually cussing.
5. I don’t think that the whole basis of selflessness is wrong, just the way it’s gone about here. Why would one need a list supplied to them in the order of another’s chosen priority? As mothers, domestic CEO’s and wives, we pretty much see and know better than anyone else in the home, the list of priority in which things NEED to be done, no matter what anyone wants done.
6. The bible quoting is getting old. Most here have read the book, it seems and all seem to know how it ends. Use your own thoughts and reason with each other as opposed to attacking, name calling and link splashing back and forth. If you still feel the need to scream blasphemer or to tell another to shut their cockpocket, walk away from the board for a while. Like the saying goes, arguing online is like running in the special olympics… (Here’s the effed up politically incorrect punch line) No matter who wins, you’re all still a bunch of tards.
All that being said (and this being my first post) I’m going to take my overbearing, opinionated, stubborn, never know when to shut my mouth, Heathen self over to my couch and stare blankly at the talking box I paid way too much to watch football, drink beer and scream obscenities at during football season.

15 Kim July 30, 2011 at 11:06 am

How do i deal with my husband and facebook?

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