Breastfeeding Is No Fairytale


Sometimes, life is just harder than we expect it to be. Maybe we put too much pressure on ourselves? Maybe we buy in too early on romantic ideas about the future?

  • Prince Charming
  • Picket Fence
  • Glass Slippers

Nobody tells you the truth. Prince Charming? How many frogs are you willing to meet first, Cinderelly? Picket Fence? Why? So you can be HOA compliant? Screw that shit. Glass Slippers? Someone just try to pry these UGGs off of me with a goddamn crowbar.

Nevertheless, when I was ten, I started plotting and coursing out my future. I was easily influenced by song lyrics and so I turned to the masters like Whitney for inspiration.

Age ten was also when I fell in love for the first time. His name was Jon and his family lived close to mine, in a blue-collar suburb of New Jersey. He was out of my league and his hair was prettier than mine, but that didn’t matter when it came to matters of love.

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Please excuse my check lists. They make me feel organized.

  • Have kids
  • Teach my kids well
  • Let my kids lead the way
  • Marry Jon Bon Jovi

Over time, I learned. My checklist needed some adjusting. But I still, you know, yearned. I imagined what a perfect wife I would be. I was going to have an amazing career. I was going to be the Indian Connie Chung. I dreamed about the perfect husband I would have. How I would look as I tossed my smiling children into the air, believing that the still developing Polaroid image matched what I envisioned. And so what if I took some poetic license? The future had a few great things in store for me.

Namely, “Pilates” and “Brazilian Blowouts.”

In my hazy Polaroid picture, I was always a very giving, selfless mother (with great posture (Thanks, Pilates!) and even better hair (Thanks, Keratin! You sure make me shine!)). I just didn’t realize how much more complicated my checklists would become.

  • Can cook meals to keep the whole family happy. And healthy.
  • Can still maintain killer gym workouts and a toned physique.
  • Can work hard for the bacon, fry it up in a pan while still keeping things sizzling in bed.
  • Raise balanced, well behaved and kind children without ever touching a remote control.

My checklists would even look perfect. I would make calligraphy check marks.

I guess, after a while, I just really didn’t understand how MANY checklists there would be.  Or how MANY new items I would add to that list myself. How many times I allowed someone to add new items to my checklists for me. Checklists which not only became unrealistic, but unachievable.

Look. I am not saying that marrying Jon Bon Jovi was ever achievable. But I was ten. As a grown woman, once I checked off the items, “Married,” “Strong career” and “Make children, per instructions from Whitney,” that list grew so fast, sometimes it was easier to just stay in bed and cry than try to tackle all of it. The boxes kept coming, and I could never keep up with my beat up Sharpie. Never mind calligraphy.

I don’t even know how to DO calligraphy.

I think I hit an all time low at one point in my life when I could not accomplish what comes so naturally for so many women.


“Breast is best.” I knew this. I know this. And I planned to. I really did. But things didn’t quite work out how I expected. Rather than use this post to tell you why it didn’t work, or how much I tried or how many tears were shed and how much pain I felt, let me just cut to the chase.

It didn’t happen. It just…

It didn’t.

And I can’t always explain to everybody why it didn’t work. And I don’t have it in me to try to convince everyone how much I tried. And I will never be able to get over that feeling of initial judgment when someone asks not if I breastfed, but instead how long I did it for.

Note: I usually avoid having to answer by running away and saying, “Lo siento, no hablo Ingles,” but this doesn’t work well with friends and family, who know that the only Spanish thing about me is that my husband is the spitting image of Eric Estrada. And I like rice and beans. Que bueno!

I am proud of my friends who have successfully breastfed, appreciating it more because I knew how challenging it was. I hear my friends talk about their abundant milk supply and the feeling of bonding they shared with their children. As they talk and commiserate about things like chapped nipples, I applaud them. Trust me, I was so READY for chapped nipples.

Sometimes checklists have to be amended. I had to scratch off, “Handle chapped nipples.”

I recall one time being on Facebook and seeing a friend’s post about how one of the formula companies had sent her some Enfamil. I recall how ANGRY she was. She wanted everyone to know she was going to write them a scathing letter about sending that “poison” to her door. She got a LOT of likes.

I left a comment asking if she wouldn’t mind leaving it on her porch since I was driving that way anyway.

Ok. Ok. I didn’t. But the only reason was because my son was using a different formula. Otherwise, I would have been all up on that shit.

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There are days where I still feel guilt about my lack of success with breastfeeding my children. And it bothers me. I sometimes wonder if it has impacted my children. There is always that nagging thought in the back of my head when my daughter gets an ear infection or my son gets a brutal cough. Or when my son thinks he’s a pink cat and crawls around the house purring, “MEOW.”

At times like that, I can’t help but think, “Is this because I didn’t breastfeed?”

I can play that game with myself, but it will just detract from all the things I am doing right as a parent. I have no idea why my son thinks he’s a cat or if their colds are because of me or the snotty kid they played “Ring Around the Rosie” with the other day.

For now, my checklists seem to have shifted.

  • Be happy
  • Smile
  • Remember that our children are the future and try not to mess them up too badly

For now, this checklist is fine with me.

About the writer

Kiran Kairab is a full-time professional and mother of two who is also a devoted singer/songwriter. She writes about her recent divorce and other relationship issues on her album "Night Flower." Learn more at


Anne 1 year ago

My son just turned one and I fought like a madwoman for the first seven weeks of his life to try and breastfeed. I spoke to lactation consultants, went to nursing groups, even took him to a chiropractor, and nothing could get him to nurse consistently. I felt like the ultimate failure of a woman, of a mommy, and shed a LOT of tears. I still get choked up thinking about it. I have to keep telling myself what one of those lactation consultants told me: “Nursing is a partnership and if either party isn’t doing their part, it won’t work out.” My son simply didn’t want to nurse. He took a bottle like a champ, and I exclusively pumped until he was 6 months old, but because of all the struggles, exhaustion, and fighting at the beginning, and having a crappy pump at first, my supply established low and I had to supplement the whole time and then after 6 months, he was formula fed, but he then ate real food (pureed, mashed, etc. and now table food). He has been hitting developmental milestones early pretty consistently and he’s happy and healthy, but I still have a lot of heartache about the breastfeeding situation.

This article helped me get a little more peace. Thank you.

Mela 1 year ago

Thank you for sharing! I am currently breastfeeding… well, pumping and bottle feeding because I can produce enough, but my little one has a shallow latch and hurts me when she nurses. I’ve often thought about stopping, but have felt guilted into keeping it up, even though it hurts. It’s nice to hear someone talk about not nursing for a change, and how that’s ok too. So many moms are quick to judge. I already work and feel guilty for not being home, I just couldn’t take giving up nursing and being made to feel like a bad mom for that too!

Leslie 1 year ago

I breastfed my son(2) for 3 1/2 weeks and I still feel guilty and wish I’d powered through almost every day. I had an extremely difficult pregnancy, then We had to move when he was 3 weeks old, several days with no gas or electricity to sterilize the donated pump so I could use it. Had a beer the night we moved in to celebrate, experienced SIL said have one more, you’ll be fine. Was still tipsy when he was hungry so she let me borrow formula and a bottle for the night. When I went back to breast feeding in the morning, I felt like I was in chains. I knew I had to quit for my own sanity, abd he ended up needing soy formula anyway, and he’s fine. but I still beat myself up about it. Thanks for easing my guilt.

Mary 1 year ago

Thank you from another member of the bottle club. My milk never came in. I kept asking nurses and doctors, when do I give up on breastfeeding? They kept telling me to hang on and keep trying, while my son lost too much weight and another nurse told me I needed to supplement with formula. My mom answered my question with, you quit right now and you don’t worry about it. I cried a lot and felt guilty, but know I did the right thing. My sanity was saved, my child was nourished, and that is the most important thing.

rose 1 year ago

I breastfed one and bottle fed one. They both turned out to be six foot athletic men with the same allergies as minor illnesses. In retrospect, it really didn’t make that much difference. If you are agonizing over you’re decision, stop now.

Christine 2 years ago

Look, I’m a self proclaimed boob nazi, crazy proud that I’ve convinced and helped about 13 on the fence moms to breastfeed. It took till my third kid to manage a formula free kid. And it was HARD. (I only got past week 6 with kid 1 bc it was free) Stop with the guilt, your “breastfeeding success” in my eyes is that you even wanted to!

Christine 2 years ago

I breastfed my first 2 children. I didn’t do it for my last because I valued my sanity more than his health. Ironically he is the healthiest; such as not a single ear infection.

Natasha 2 years ago

I breastfeed, but I can guarantee you if I thought for a minute my daughter was underfed due to low supply, I would switch to formula in a heartbeat. I hate how society is so judgemental all the time. Everyone says breast is best, but breastfeed in public and you would swear that you are stripping around a pole in the middle of the park. Formula feed and people say you are not doing what is best for your baby. I say do what works for you and your family. Happy bottle feeding, in my opinion, is better than unhappy breastfeeding.

Prerna 2 years ago

Thank you Thank you Thank you!

Dawn 3 years ago

Thank you so much for this. I had the most awful time in the first few days of breastfeeding my son. Now I am mixed feeding but reached breaking point with the guilt of it all. Your post helped me to find some perspective and focus on being an awesome mum! I have set up my own blog for my own amusement but would welcome more readers. Will share yours to mine too xxx

Confectionista 3 years ago

I am so proud you wrote this and shared. Here’s a sign we can post on our social media-

“Dear Fellow Women –
Some of us, MANY of us cannot breast-feed. It does not work. Get over it.

The rest of us who support other women.

Michelle Miller 3 years ago

So very true I wish breast feeding could be easy for everyone but some of us just have a hard time. I only breastfed my 1st for about 6 weeks – I just wasn't making enough milk, and my second one I was able to breastfeed for about 7 months before my milk supply was gone. I tried everything and it was so frustrating – but the worst part was being looked down on by so many people because I wasn't breast feeding my babies. It is not the end of the world and formula isn't poison – I just wish those who can do it so easily would stop looking down on those of us who try but can't.

Sharon L. Maxwell 3 years ago

I had one son bottle fed (he had inflamed nostrils at birth which prevented us from starting) and one breast fed son. I LOATHE people who shame mothers about their feeding choices. Good for you for putting it out there that sometimes sh*t happens and that it is MORE than okay to make sure your baby gets nutrition the best way yo can. Heck, those whiney heifers probably would have let their babies shrivel up and die if they couldn't breastfeed them. (Okay, maybe not- but yeah. LOL)

Rebecca Nemmers Morris 3 years ago

I love this post! I have tried and failed twice with breastfeeding. My kids are now 5 and 3 and I still think about it all the time, you can tell how much it impacted me, huh? It is exhausting to think of how many conversations I've had to have about WHY it didn't work out and how hard I really did try. People seem to think if one doesn't breastfeed, its because they didn't try hard enough and that's just not true. Thank you again for this post- its good to know I'm not the only one.

Megan 3 years ago

Words cannot accurately express how much I love this post.

I wanted so badly to breastfeed but after a long, traumatic labor, a postpartum hemorrhage, retained tissue that caused failed lactogenesis and near-septic shock that landed me back in the hospital for an emergency D&C, it just didnt happen. I even killed myself trying relactation.

16 month later, and I still havent fully recovered from the trauma. Yet, I thank god every day for that “poison” that kept my daughter alive.

Charlotte May 3 years ago

Thank you for this post. As another woman who desperately wanted to breastfeed as was devastated when I was (twice) unable to, I understand your pain, and the judgement you felt!

Courtney Kindree 3 years ago

Thank you for writing this. I am so glad I came across this post! Made me smile knowing I am not the only one that felt this way! : )

Stasie McKinnon 3 years ago

it is a very fine line with the breast feeding. I encourage people to breastfeed but would not push it. I believe that the initial push was to desexualize the breast to return the breast to a non-judgmental and natural act and pull mothers out of the closet. while doing this managed to create a shame for non-breast feeding mothers. every situation is individual and I am so happy you have reached a place where you are comfortable and happy with your parenting and providing. thank you so much for sharing it reminds me in my work that there is no right or wrong way but rather the way that is best for you.

    Connie Beaton 3 years ago

    Very powerful reading

Elisabeth 3 years ago

This is such a hard issue. Sensible women want to do their best for their kids but not ram things down other women’s throats. There are so many people who will scowl at you if you nurse your baby and so many who will scowl at you if you don’t. As someone who had to overcome a LOT of hurdles with my firstborn, every time I see a mom who’s giving up on breastfeeding my gut wants to scream “I KNOW you can do it, let me help you!” but the truth is not all women can, and no one should be forced to or shamed into it. It’s so hard to find that line between making sure that all women have access to the knowledge and support they need to succeed, and making sure you don’t pressure someone, especially someone who physically can’t. A lot of mistakes have been made in both directions and they’re all awful.

Tarryn 3 years ago

It’s really hard when everybody is brainwashed into thinking “Breast is the ONLY way- you’ll destroy your baby if you don’t…it’ll have x y z problems if you don’t” I was “Lucky” that I got to breastfeed my son for his first year exclusively- it took me a minimum of 6 weeks of anger, frustration and total nervousness about going ANYWHERE with him as it was that hard. I’m glad I managed, but as I went through this struggle with no help other than my husband for support, I thought to myself “Now I know why some women can’t do this” Good on you for sticking up for the mom’s who can’t :)

Shari 3 years ago

I loved this…and it made me cry!! The pressure to breast feed can be overwhelming, especially to a brand new hormonal mother who is already insecure and unsure. Well done!!

Gina 3 years ago

Thank you all. I am currently pregnant with my second, bottle feed my first and struggling to decide what to do this time around. The internet is full of terrible things that have made me feel horrible for my choices. This site and you ladies have brought tears (of joy) to my eyes and made me feel like I am not alone.

Molly 3 years ago

I am so glad someone else went through the same thing I did and could put it down so well. I can’t even tell you how hard I tried to breastfeed and how much I wanted to, but it just didn’t happen. Two weeks postpartum, I still had only a few drops of milk to give. So I gave up. I hate the judgement I still get from people, and I cherish those people who understand my decision. Thanks for writing this!

Anne 3 years ago

This post struck a nerve very dear to me. I bought into the “Breast is Best” hype. BIG TIME! My son latched on correctly once and only once…even with help from a lactation consultant. I pumped like a fiend and ended up with something I’d never heard of….nipple erosion. Yeah, forget “cracked nipples”. Mine sloughed off. COMPLETELY. Within the first week. It was hell and contributed to more anxiety and post-partum depression. I supplemented with formula because I couldn’t bring myself to endure the pain and agony long enough to fully feed my son. Then, after 2 weeks, the pregnancy hormones disappeared and the SSRI I was on (which was the ONLY one my general practitioner permitted me to breastfeed on) started giving me side effects that I couldn’t live with. I switched back to another SNRI that I’d been on for years but that meant I couldn’t breastfeed anymore. I hated myself. Felt like an absolute failure. I was the ONLY mom I knew who didn’t successfully breastfeed (except for a friend who has RA and couldn’t because of her arthritis drugs). Thank God for my husband who was supportive and kept repeating the mantra to me that my son needed me mentally healthy more than he needed breast milk.

Then I came across an article when my son was about 6 months old. It was written by a woman who actually read the articles in the peer-reviewed medical journals. And what she found was that the actual data done in well-designed studies just doesn’t support the rabid “breast is best” fundamentalism. There is no “statistically significant” benefit. Anecdotal? Sure. But overall, what the studies show is that the majority of the mothers who breastfeed tend to be more highly educated women with better access to healthcare and are more aware of the kinds of things that lead to better health and higher IQ scores. So really, it’s NOT that the breast milk makes your child smarter, healthier, etc. It’s YOU!

I can’t begin to tell you how furious I was when I discovered this. I felt duped by an industry (AMA, AAP, LLL, etc.) that has acquiesced to the breastfeeding nazis who have a strong lobby. And it’s easier to just agree with them than to point to the data and say their claims are unfounded. My son is now 4 years old and I’m still angry that I emotionally beat myself up over something that isn’t even true.

I’m on a different SSRI now that minimally passes into breast milk. My husband is also in pharmacy school and has befriended a pharmacist whose entire career has been spent studying the expression and impact of drugs in breast milk. He’s essentially a lactation expert from the drug side. If he says it’s safe, I’m going to try to breastfeed my daughter who is due in May. If it’s not safe to do so or she has trouble latching or, God forbid, I experience nipple erosion again, I will not hesitate to give my daughter formula. And I refuse to be berated, beaten down, or made to feel guilty for doing what’s best for me and my child.

Brandi 3 years ago

I love this post. It is so true. Sometimes it doesn’t happen and there is nothing wrong with it. I did breastfeed both of my children and let me tell you, they still get ear infections and illnesses. I am sure you are a wonderful momma! I applaud you for even trying to breastfeed…some women don’t even try!

Rebekah 3 years ago

Just wanted to say thank you for writing this! A very warm thank you at that! My daughter is 2 now, and I still to this day cry myself to sleep sometimes when I think about how breast feeding didn’t work out. I wanted SO badly to breast feed, took classes, read la leche league books, you name it. I thought I was prepared, what I wasn’t prepared for was a horrible fight with “child-bed fever” post partum. Even though I pumped and dumped my entire 3 week stay in the hospital ( there were too many pain killers and heavy duty antibiotics coursing through my veins for me to feed her my milk) once I got home I just could not keep up with what she needed. I would pump 5 times a day for 20 minutes a session just to get enough milk for one bottle. After 3 months of drinking more milk teas, and taking “milk increasing” supplements I finally threw in the towel when I wasn’t even producing 4 ounces in a day. I beat myself up over it day in and day out, every bottle of formula I gave her I judged myself for. Mainly, and unfortunately because my midwives and even my friends felt that I didn’t try hard enough. They had the attitude that if I tried hard enough it would have worked out. It was the worst feeling in the world. I tried my ass off. Reading lifted some of the weight off of my shoulders! I am glad I am not the only one who battled with breast vs. bottle guilt.

    michele 3 years ago

    my point exactly i’ve had women pay me to stop breastfeeding, so they could tell their friends they tried everything…including a lc so sad, ladies stand up for yourselves, you are not just breasts, believe me all for breast feeding, just not for any kind of guilt system

michele 3 years ago

i am a lactation consultant….who every 10 years must take a test to recertify (it costs 480.00), because every 10 years breasts change. i am also a nurse of 23 years, who has never retested b/c medicine never changes. i have seen first hand the pressure american women are under, Europeans do well because their maternity leave and support is much better…when i retook the test in 2010, not one question on american moms and that Damn 12 week FMLA. Until we say happy MOM EQUALS A HAPPY BABY, we can’t get past this stupid breastfeeding debate, who are any of us to judge? Any amount of breast feeding is good, ladies you need support not judgement

    michele 3 years ago

    also i am a mother of 6 kids…who became an lc after consulting one, and she just gave me the book answer, my baby didn’t follow the book.

Caroline 3 years ago

I was not able to breastfeed, Kiran. I am convinced that it was because I had the gastric bypass surgery several years ago and simply could not ingest the caloric intake necessary to produce milk. One day, I had kind of an epiphany: (1) if I had not had the surgery, I probably wouldn’t have even GOTTEN pregnant in the first place; and (2) at the end of the day, parenting effectively was going to go WAY beyond breastfeeding. The irony there is that my child could literally have any kind of formula without getting sick, which meant we saved a lot of money. She has only had one earache in her entire life, and she is one of the happiest, smartest, healthiest, well-adjusted children on the face of the planet (remember the Bitlet?) She gets better with age, and so do I. That, at the end of the day, is all that matters.

Plus, when a representative from the La Leche League tells you that your first priority should be to feed your baby, it might be time to break out the bottle. That really did happen. I feel so much more guilt over the weight my child lost, the fact that she was dehydrated, and the fact that it took a breastfeeding advocate to snap me out of my mindless obsession to do something that just was not working.

And I balance it all out by giving her soy milk and vitamins, rather than milk loaded with BGH.

Mostly, though, I just love my child to death, know that we have an amazing bond, and she is an amazing child. The rest of the world, and all the myriad opinions there are, matter not at all. Great post, loved reading it. Have missed you.

    Caroline 3 years ago

    I feel so much more guilt over the weight my child lost ***so much weight*** . . . .

Shaynie 3 years ago

I had a hard time bf my twins due to post partum depression. I would literally throw up after pumping (I pumped to have back up since I had twins). After two weeks of not eating and throwing up I was finally diagnosed with PPD and put on antidepressants. I was not put on bf friendly antidepressants because I prescribed a drug that I had taken before that was effective. I made the choice to switch to formula rather than risk that 10% of the SSRI was being given to my tiny babies. I couldn’t bear to think that I was giving them neurological stimulants while they were developing like that.

It is emotional for me on so many levels. 1) it reminds me about the dark period in my life when I couldn’t even look at my amazingly beautiful babies 2) i feel like I failed at something that I was determined to do 3) 6 months later I am perfectly fine and off the medication, but it’s too late to reclaim it 4) my post partum gut will not go away and when I was bfeeding it was shrinking.

All in all, the formula has been great and they are really thriving, but it’s hard to be reminded when you hear of the success of so many.

mindy bloom 3 years ago

i have a beautiful little girl who came out a few weeks early. she didn’t quite get the latching thing. ok. but, i did want her having breast milk for as long as possible. so, i pumped. and, boyyyyyyy, did i pump. 15 months. LMAO i made bessie the cow look like an underachiever. i learned to pump almost anywhere. there were times i’d latch the pumps on and fall back asleep. i don’t recommend that…it can be messy. this was a PERSONAL choice and lots of people thought i was crazy for staying on so long. but you do what feels right for you and your baby. i just feel bad that so many times i see posts about moms not continuing w/breastfeeding b/c of latch issues and i wonder if they were even given good info about pumping???

Sophie 3 years ago

WOW, sounds like non-bf’s are the ones being a bit judgey… I have seen the term “Boob Nazi” at least 10 times in the comments. You know what? I DO breastfeed my daughter… and it was VERY painful for the first 5 weeks…. I am talking bleeding nipples and being unable to shower properly, let alone wear clothes for most of the day. There were moments where I thought I couldn’t go on, but I have never been more determined to conquer something in my life… and I am PROUD to say I did…. now, I don’t judge those who formula feed, as long as babes are getting fed who cares how? But I feel like I am being labeled as a hippy chick just because I do bf. IMO our bodies produce milk (if we are lucky) for a reason after giving birth. My DD gets one or two bottles of pumped milk a week from hubby… and every time I am sterilizing the bottle, preparing it, warming it up I think of the mamas that ff and need to do that up to 8 times a day… and wow… it’s a lot work! I do appreciate the fact that my dd and I jumped the hurdle and are successfully bf ing, and I remind myself of that at least once a day. But if she wasn’t thriving or getting what she needed those first crucial few days and weeks I would be very thankful that there would be an acceptable supplement available to give her.

    Molly 3 years ago

    Good for you that you were able to do it despite how hard it is! No one is saying you are a “boob nazi”! But they are out there, trust me.

Ilene 3 years ago

This is such an emotional issue and what makes it even worse is that it’s an emotional issue for the new mom – who is emotional enough already. And it’s an issue that people make enemies over! Thank you for your honesty and perspective and reminder that you can be an awesome mom but still not do THAT!

Rachel Gurevich 3 years ago

Thank you for writing this! I have been feeling so overwhelmed by everything I feel like I’m “not doing right.” My checklists are just becoming insane. I was crying over my inability to check off my lists yesterday, and this post made me feel 100 times better.

I also, ahem, suddenly feel less guilty about weaning my three year old twins last week. (And yes, I’m serious. I nursed them for three years, and I feel so horribly guilty for weaning them! How silly is that?!)

Thank you!

Amy 3 years ago

I so needed to read this . I feel you on this one. Did not happen for me, either. No matter how many tears I cried. Then I realized, I was formula fed and so was my husband and we are fine…well as “normal” as everyone else!

Michelle 3 years ago

I have a large, close family. 7 cousins (all girls, most of whom are mothers now). Not one of us was breast fed and we are fine. Degrees, careers, families and no substantial health problems (as children or now). I breast fed my 3 y/o daughter exclusively for 2 years and she gets at least 5 ear infections a year and has a cold or flu every month or 2. I have a 13 y/o daughter that I only breast fed for a few months, she has never had an ear infection and rarely even gets the sniffles. My 8 y/o niece was breast fed once (for cholostrum) and I have only seen her have the flu once (and I am not convinced that it wasn’t food poisoning).

My point? People need to stop judging others. If you choose not to breastfeed, or are unable, it’s no one’s business and you do not owe them shit. No explanations and especially no feelings of inadequacy required. It’s a mixed bag. Your kids will get sick (or won’t) regardless of how you feed them.

Christina Rodriguez 3 years ago

I couldn’t breastfeed either and I don’t feel bad at all. I tried, it didn’t work, I moved on. People are so judgmental and pushy. They don’t realize that not everyone can breastfeed just because they have breasts. I am grateful that we have formula and my kids are just fine, thank you! With my last child, I got sick of the people from WIC and La Leche barging into my hospital room so I called security and threw the bitches out.

Laura 3 years ago

Those of us who couldn’t or even didn’t want to need to be honest so we stop feeding in to the shame of not breastfeeding. I almost killed myself trying to breastfeed twins for 3 months. Once I stopped I actually started to love and bond with the two bastards.

Christa 3 years ago

AMEN!!!! You just told my story.

Mary @ A Teachable Mom 3 years ago

I love your humor, honesty and attitude – all of it! Great post!

Sara 3 years ago

Thank you thank you…I know I am not alone, it is just nice to read it.


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