Parenting

Shame On The ADULT WOMEN Who Came For This Teen's Homecoming Dress

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High school junior Grace Brumfield went viral after she shared screenshots of the horrifying comments made by older people about her homecoming dress

Since at least 2016 (and a certain election that happened at that time), we’ve known that Facebook is an absolute cesspool of misinformation and cruel, vile behavior. Somehow that seems even more true of the platform’s older users — when allowed to communicate online from behind the perceived distance and safety a computer screen offers, there are boomers who become downright nasty, and for seemingly no reason. Don’t believe me? Well, just check out this TikTok made by a teen girl in Alabama to highlight the horrifying things older folks in her community said about her because of her homecoming dress.

https://www.tiktok.com/@mgracebrumfield/video/7015417246008855813?referer_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.buzzfeed.com%2F&referer_video_id=7015417246008855813&refer=embed&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6891408312291264006

Seventeen-year-old Grace Brumfield went viral for the video, which shows her absolutely gorgeous homecoming photos — superimposed with the comments adults were making about them on Facebook. They’re honestly just heartbreaking to read.

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One grown woman even implied that Brumfield was a prostitute hired by her boyfriend as a homecoming date.

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Can we reiterate that these are adults making these horrid comments about a child?

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While all the comments are horrifying, the worst one came from a woman named Rhonda, who said that, among other things, Brumfield was asking to be sexually assaulted because of her dress.

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It is shocking that anyone needs to be reminded of this in the year 2021, but women are never at fault for being assaulted. Period. It does not matter what they are wearing. It does not matter how they are acting. The person responsible for their assault is the person who assaults them.

All that in addition to the fact that it is just vile beyond the pale to publicly comment that a 17-year-old child is asking to be raped. Rhonda, if by some chance you ever read this, please take a long, hard look in the mirror and try to assess why you would behave this way.

Brumfield also posted a follow-up video to respond to that comment, and her response is absolutely filled with grace.

https://www.tiktok.com/@mgracebrumfield/video/7015486911242374406?referer_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.buzzfeed.com%2F&referer_video_id=7015417246008855813&refer=embed&is_copy_url=0&is_from_webapp=v1&sender_device=pc&sender_web_id=6891408312291264006

There have also been countless people online coming to Brumfield’s defense after seeing her viral video.

At the end of the day, it’s important we talk about the way older people have weaponized their online presences, feeling emboldened to behave badly by the distance put between them and others on opposite sides of a screen. But no one should be treated the way Brumfield was for that to happen.