Moms everywhere are disgusted by the bride-to-be’s request for guests to breastfeed in the bathroom
We can understand brides who don’t want kids at their wedding. Requesting an adults only affair is totally reasonable. But asking your guests who are nursing mothers to feed their babies in the bathroom? Nope. Nope as hell.
A bride is getting slammed (rightfully so) for sending wedding invitations with a tacky note enclosed. A photo of the invite and the ridiculous request was posted on the Facebook page Breastfeeding Mama Talk and has since gone viral. The anonymous poster is a mom of two kids, a two-year-old and a three-month-old.
“To all our mommies who are breastfeeding,” the note reads. “We are sensitive to the fact you may have to breastfeed during our event, therefore we have designated an appropriate place for you to feed your baby so you do not have to do so in public in front of our Family and Friends.”
The bridezilla goes on to say, “For your convenience we are accommodating you with a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room. We request that you use this area when you are breastfeeding. Thank you.” (She put “thank you” on the end to absolve her of her awfulness, we suppose).
The woman who received this gross invitation is the wife of the best man. She explains that this isn’t the first time the family has expressed disgust over her feeding her baby.
“We have had several arguments over ‘my’ breastfeeding ways and they have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in ‘private!'”
She even offered to have her best friend watch the kids and wet nurse the baby for her, but the family wasn’t having that either. Why these people, who aren’t parents of this baby, are trying to dictate how the baby eats, is beyond my comprehension. What in the actual fuck?
In the post the woman is pleading for advice, asking how to deal with it in a “nice” way, which to be honest, makes her a goddamn saint. Many people in the comments section of the post gave her great suggestions. Most of which are basically telling bridezilla to suck it.
Have your friend come to the wedding as your date and wet nurse her out in the open. And then get plastered and ruin the wedding.
I would leave your nursling with your friend and have your date night as intended. And then I would get super petty and while at the wedding “relocate” the chairs and ridiculous set up somewhere more public for my own amusement!
*Whips boob out unapologetically* Thanks for the chairs for the women waiting in line to pee! So happy I can breastfeed anywhere I want. I wouldn’t want those women to have to stand while waiting in line.
I want to give great advice, but all I keep thinking is, “Tell them to all f*** off…” including the MIL. Sorry I’m no help.
Many also pointed out how the photo of the “comfortable” and “private” accommodations were the opposite of those two words.
I would never nurse in those chairs! Not even arm rests… obviously these people don’t know what comfort is…
How in the world is it considered appropriate and comfortable to sit smack dab in front of a bathroom door? To sit in front of it and what..hope there’s no awkward eye contact through the slit? Sit there and listen to people piss and shit..and smell it?
According to updates in the comments section, the woman ended up leaving her kids with a friend and a grandparent to attend the wedding. I personally would’ve declined the invitation and planned for a nice, relaxing evening at home binge-watching Netflix and eating fine dark chocolates while snuggling my new baby. No one needs that type of toxic negativity in their life.
Ultimately, when faced with breastfeeding shamers you have to do what you’re comfortable with. It seems the mother did just that. This wedding was supposed to be a celebration, a joyous occasion, so we can only hope the mom had fun with her husband (and wore a dress with huge amounts of cleavage).