Billie Lourd is grieving the loss of her mother and grandmother, who died a day apart
Last week we lost two of our greatest stars: Carrie Fisher and her mother, Debbie Reynolds. Now, their families are planning a joint funeral for the two, who died just a day apart.
On Friday, December 23rd, Fisher, age 60, suffered a heart attack while on a flight from London to Los Angeles. She died four days later. The next day, Fisher’s mother, the great Debbie Reynolds, and Fisher’s brother, Todd, were at his home planning Fisher’s funeral. According to Todd, she told him how much she missed Carrie and that “she would like to be with her again.” Fifteen minutes later, Reynolds had a stroke. She died just a few hours later.
Carrie Fisher watches her mom, Debbie Reynolds, on stage at the riviera hotel in las vegas (1963). Rest in peace to both of them pic.twitter.com/152hmac92X
— History In Pictures (@HistoryInPix) December 29, 2016
Before Fisher’s death, Reynolds made this post on her Facebook page, referring to herself only as “Carrie’s mother”:
Thank you to everyone who has embraced the gifts and talents of my beloved and amazing daughter. I am grateful for your thoughts and prayers that are now guiding her to her next stop. Love Carries Mother
Since these two losses, so great and so unthinkably close together, Billie Lourd has stayed away from the media, only releasing a statement through the family’s spokesperson confirming Fisher’s death. It’s difficult to imagine what she’s going through right now. For many of us, the idea of losing our mothers is enough to destroy us — to lose a grandmother as well, just one day later, would bring us to our knees.
Fisher and Reynolds’ relationship was notoriously complicated. Fisher wrote about her upbringing with her mother in two of her wonderful books, the novel Postcards From The Edge, which later became a movie starring Meryl Streep, and Wishful Drinking, her first memoir. But despite all the chaos and friction, it was clear that the two loved each other deeply.
Lourd’s relationship with Fisher appeared to be a wonderful one, and the two had expressed their admiration of each other many times. In an interview with People Magazine in May, Lourd said of her mom, “I’m always proud of my mother, she’s killing it right now. She’s incredible.” Fisher felt no less proud of Lourd, as she said in this tweet from October:
What’s happening twitter asks? My daughter Billie Lourd from Scream Queens.She’s MUCH more than my kid.Witty & pretty,I aspire 2 deserve her pic.twitter.com/oRietTuci3
— Carrie Fisher (@carrieffisher) October 15, 2016
Lourd also had a great relationship with her grandmother, who lived with Lourd in her home. Lourd called her “an incredible grandmother” who was delighted with Lourd’s work on the show, Scream Queens. “She thinks it’s hilarious, she loves it so much,” Lourd said. “She loves the costumes. [She’s] obsessed with fur and ear muffs and all of that.”
Lourd’s uncle, Todd Fisher, is trying to arrange for a joint funeral. Fisher told The Daily News that “It’s what we want to do, but we’re still working on the mechanics…I’m going out right now to look at places. We like the idea, if it’s at all possible. I think it’s appropriate.” Though planning a joint service for two people who were beloved by so many will no doubt be a challenge, it seems that — given the timing of their losses and the bond the two shared — a joint service would be the perfect way to say goodbye.
This is a beautiful love story to witness in my 58 years. I miss them both so much. Love is everlasting pic.twitter.com/AeIVGaGl9k
— Todd Fisher (@tafish) December 29, 2016
Messages of support have been pouring in for Lourd on social media:
I can’t believe that Debbie Reynolds passed away. Billie Lourd is so young to have to carry so much grief at once. Bless you child.
— Patricia Arquette (@PattyArquette) December 29, 2016
There are no words. Just that we all want 2 surround Billie with loving strength & support. Please give her space media. Please. Please.
— Jamie Lee Curtis (@jamieleecurtis) December 29, 2016
i love you billie. so so much. rest in peace, debbie reynolds.
— Ariana Grande (@ArianaGrande) December 29, 2016
But no message has been quite so moving as the one posted on Instagram by her stepfather Bruce Bozzi, who is married to her father, Bryan Lourd.
“It’s an honor to be your stepfather, he wrote. “The strength of these women live so vibrantly in you.”
@praisethelourd it’s an honor to be your Stepfather. This day, your NYU grad day we had so much fun! Yankee Stadium your mom and I laughed our asses off, as she kept one fantastic line coming after the other – no less when we all fell asleep the night before in the smaller ceremony because it was so boring. Every time Carrie looked at me she said ” how are you still awake”! Your grandmother with our sweet Ava was the kindest most loving. So…as Carrie said to me years ago ” I’m a good stepmother” I promise I will always be & the strength of these women live so vibrantly in you. I’ve been lucky enough to see this for a decade! Many decades to come…..heaven just got a shit load more fun!!!! I love you @praisethelourd xo Bru Thursday 12/29/16
A photo posted by Bruce Bozzi (@brucebozzi) on
We wish Lourd all the strength and love she will need to get through this difficult time.