James Van Der Beek and his wife Kimberly have suffered another loss
After sharing the news that James Van Der Beek and his wife Kimberly had suffered a miscarriage back in November 2019, he took to social media again to share another tragic loss. After becoming pregnant again shortly after their most recent miscarriage, the couple lost another child at 17 weeks.
Van Der Beek took to Instagram to share the devastating news and to pose a poignant question for us all. “After suffering a brutal, very public miscarriage last November, we were overjoyed to learn we were pregnant. This time, we kept the news to ourselves,” the actor shared. “But last weekend, once again, 17 weeks in… the soul we’d been excited to welcome into the world had lessons for our family that did not include joining us in a living physical body.”
He went on the explain they’d rushed Kimberly to the emergency room for a night of blood transfusions and, unable to do more than rub her feet and keep her warm, he said he began thinking of the world we are living in today and how helpless he felt. “Something kept running through my head, again and again, which I now feel compelled to share,” he said. “The world is in pain right now. There’s denial, shock, numbness, anger – all the old patterns we cling to when deep trauma is unearthed. And there are no words to ease that pain… to make the process hurt less or to solve it quickly. But the way out of it? Starts with an open, broken-hearted contemplation of this question: How can we take better care of each other?”
Back in November, Van Der Beek announced that he and his wife were expecting their sixth child live on DWTS and opened up a conversation around the stigma of miscarriages. “We’ve had five kids and three miscarriages,” he said to his dance partner, Emma Slater. “Miscarriage is something that people don’t really talk about, and we wanted to recognize that it happens to people. We wanted to destigmatize that as much as we possibly could.”
After the loss of that pregnancy, Van Der Beek shared that he and his family were, “Wrecked. Devastated. In shock. That’s how we’re feeling right now after the soul we thought we were going to welcome into our family in April… has taken a short cut to whatever lies beyond this life.”
Having someone with a public platform be so open and share such intimate details of his personal life with the world helps make the conversation around miscarriage a bit easier to talk about. His message that couples going through this should know there are so many others out there suffering the same way is one that certainly resonates.
“We’ve got to take better care of each other,” he said. “And to all the families who have gone through this… you are not alone.”