Gordon and Nanjiani co-wrote The Big Sick, a movie about her chronic illness
If you’re familiar with the critically-acclaimed movie The Big Sick, then you probably know it’s based on the real-life relationship between actor and comedian Kumail Nanjiani and writer Emily V. Gordon — and Gordon’s struggle with a rare, life-threatening illness.
Nanjiani recently shared some emotional tweets about the experience, prompted by finding a memento of Gordon’s initial hospital stay. Go ahead and grab yourself a tissue, we’ll wait.
Emily's mom just found this. I'd given her my phone number when she first came to the hospital when Emily got sick in case she needed to contact me. Wrote it on the back of the visitor badge.
She still has it.
Certain objects have the power to pull you back. Wow. pic.twitter.com/kptIxbFTfo
— Kumail Nanjiani (@kumailn) January 8, 2018
Nanjiani played the role of himself in The Big Sick, which documents the early days of his relationship with Gordon as she’s diagnosed with adult-onset Still’s disease, an extremely rare form of arthritis that can shut down the body’s vital organs and lead to death.https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950434827316203520 https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950435253532930048
Anyone who’s experienced personal trauma can relate to this incredibly earnest, spot-on tweet. You’re trapped in your own bubble of god-awful grief and feel outraged by everyone who is seemingly very happily going about their life.https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950435932636893185 https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950436466206953472
Ugh. So heartbreaking.
Just eight months into dating, Gordon became incredibly sick and was placed in a medically-induced coma. The Big Sick shows Nanjiani and Gordon’s parents as they struggle to cope with doctors, an unknown diagnosis, and cultural challenges between Nanjiani, who is Pakistani, and Gordon’s American family. At one point, Gordon’s organs began shutting down.https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950437005565071360 https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950437343802085376 https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950437789350486017 https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950438222571687936
No one should feel shame about circumstances beyond their control, especially surrounding their health. The fact that Gordon shared her story in The Big Sick is so valuable to anyone struggling with illness themselves, or those struggling to understand and cope with a sick loved one.
Nanjiani’s Twitter thread seemed to resonate with many.
This is perfect. My husband was diagnosed with MS a few months after we met. I had so many of those "why do YOU get a normal life" moments (still do sometimes). But yeah, it's not who he is -- just something we deal with.— shauna (@goldengateblond) January 8, 2018
I was sick for more than 1/2 my life. Deathbed sick. Had to write a will while my heart was failing sick. It took me 8 years of perfect health to become ok with talking about it because I felt weak/guilty. This thread is fantastic. This movie is fantastic. @kumailn is fantastic. https://t.co/jukkNDr1je— The Sassiest Semite (@LittleMissLizz) January 8, 2018
Best statement I’ve seen in a long time by a person who’s in love with someone with a serious/chronic/long-term illness. This is legit unconditional love - rare, scary, beautiful & exceptional. Makes me tear up. Hope they take you up on it Rosie! Loved you on Stern!— Michelle A (@TweetMichelleA) January 9, 2018
I carry a card from our pediatrician she gave me the day my 15 month old daughter was diagnosed with leukemia. It is her home number so I can call anytime. My daughter is now a freshman in college. Thankful for the constant reminder of the fear, hope and love in our lives.— Lynn Smith (@islanddynamo) January 9, 2018
Nanjiani ended his thread with an important lesson, no doubt one we could all benefit from being reminded of in terms of chronic illness and the lives and families it touches.https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/950441071439425537