15 Tips on Surviving as a Mom in the Suburbs

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Nearly a decade ago, I moved to the suburbs from NYC. In that time I’ve learned some pretty important things to ensure surviving, nay, keeping my sanity being a Mom in the suburbs.

If my suburb sent out a handbook it would look something like this. Feel free to use it as a mini-survival guide. Good luck and in the words of that guy on Hill Street Blues, ‘Hey, let’s be careful out there.’

1. All children must be signed up for multiple sports and extracurricular activities, to ensure that no family can plan anything on a Saturday until their kids are too old to want to spend Saturday’s with their family.

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2. Do NOT be alarmed if you try to enter the wrong minivan or SUV; this is common. Try to lessen the confusion by putting fun stickers on your back windshield representing each of your children performing their favorite activity.

3. You can paint your house one of 477 shades of tan. Other colors will be categorically denied, so don’t even try it!

4. If your child has strep or hand foot and mouth, be aware that the entire town will know about it before you get his/her prescription filled. PS this same urgency in passing news applies to affairs as well!

5. As a suburban mom you are expected to start some kind of craft business immediately. Your choices are: hair accessories, jewelry, embellished clothing, or things you can print on card stock – anything else must be cleared through the Chamber of Commerce.

6. If you already have a job, you are expected to purchase these crafted goods, in bulk, at the myriad of local holiday boutiques that celebrate everything from Ramadan to Flag Day. Like PTA meetings, being absent is frowned upon.

7. If you do not find a grocery store or Starbucks within one mile of your current position, you’re lost and have entered an inferior neighborhood! Please stay calm and return to your suburb immediately.

8. You are required to join a gym. There, you must take spin classes with disco lighting, pretzel yourself into a reformer, and learn the art-form that is Zumba.

9. You will be expected to pressure clean anything and everything from your sidewalk to your dog. Be prepared.

10. Make sure your dog is cute, as neighbors will constantly stop to pet it. Be warned, the same neighbors will turn you in to the association the first time Rufus barks after 9PM. (Don’t name your dog Rufus.)

11. Make an immediate trip to lululemon/Athetica/GapBody/Target, and pick up workout/athletic/golf/tennis gear that’s trendier than simply wearing sweatpants. Wear these goods at least 50 -100% of the time; in the winter, simply wear your athletic gear with Uggs.

12. You will need to attend a mind-numbing amount of birthday lunches/dinners for ladies turning anywhere from 30-50. Get there early, as who you sit next to (or don’t sit next to) can make or break your day.

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13. Cut back on sex ASAP, as you will find yourself in conversations where moms discuss their infrequent, and unsatisfying sex life regularly – at lunches, parties, dinners, play-dates.

14. And stop giving BJ’s! People in the ‘burbs are only expected to give them on birthdays and anniversaries (it’s one of the perks).

15. Living in the ‘burbs is a little like reading Us Weekly: Everything is sensationalized. It’s fun to discuss “who wore it best,” but not as much fun as playing Fashion Police. You will find yourself looking for cellulite/wrinkles on young skinny moms. And gossip is treated as gospel.

I hope this helps you fit into the suburban life you’ve chosen. Maybe I’ll see you at the next boutique sale – I’ll be selling picture frames with random findings glued to it!

About the writer

@SuburbanJungle

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog is the humorist behind The Suburban Jungle. A card carrying Gen Xer and columnist at Huff Po and The Stir, her goal is to you keep herself sane and to teach dolphins to read. She is failing at both. Join the insanity on Facebook and Twitter.

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Jessica McFarland 1 year ago

OMG Rural Georgia too!!

MissieChrissie 1 year ago

When I arrived at the playground in flip flops jeans and a t shirt and the other moms were wearing heels, I knew I wasn’t in Kansas anymore. Momma Melch is right the schools are great and I love the town and what it has to offer. Thank god my old friends are normal.

jenn 1 year ago

This is my life right now. I am packing up a lifetime of living in nyc and heading for lynbrook long island. something i said would happen over my cold dead body. but alas, here I am. well, it beats being divorced and homeless I guess. However, I already make jewelry and have for several years. on hiatus until i unpack and set up my studio (ok having an attic I can use for my business is a major plus) but i’m coming to the burbs with that under my belt. what I don’t have under my belt? driving skills. dude I’m from western queens, i sooooo don’t drive. my license is for show.

outletsynve 2 years ago

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JZ 3 years ago

NOT true: my husband rides his bike to work 3 times a day. Here in San Diego, we have bike lanes EVERYWHERE, and bike racks on the buses.

JZ 3 years ago

Also a So Cal burb thing…just saying.

JZ 3 years ago

A-freakin-men! I’ve been in suburban hell since the aughts…I’m so over it. But living in the city again would freak me out with kids, since we’ve lived in the burbs since having them…not sure how I’d do juggling strollers, baby bags, etc. on a commuter train on bus. :/

But the weekends with FAMILY, we have always ALWAYS hammered that into our kids. Luckily, I did not give birth to athletes, and they never once complained we didn’t spend Saturday after Saturday on a ball field…

As for the birthday parties, we gave up on those once the kids hit around 7 or so. We only indulged in something cool for them when my husband’s terminal illness turned around and he was well again. We felt the kids deserved something for almost losing their dad. Otherwise, fogeddaboudit…

jennifer riedel 3 years ago

Still don’t have the velour track suit or Uggs. Also worth mentioning, all houses are furnished with the exact same plates, wall hangings and personal expressions acquired from the local Costco as can be seen in the Bunco, Tupperware, Mary Kay, mommy made hair accessories, etc rotation.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

The stickers are a deal breaker!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Listen, everyone has a breaking point. XO

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

XOXO

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

I have to be honest … as much as I poke fun … it ain’t so bad!

Grown and Flown 3 years ago

Jenny, I live in said suburb North of NYC and have just taken my 16 year old to soccer practice, so while I love your list, you will never reach that moment when they are done with sports and extracurricular activities. The end of suburban driving is a pipe dream!!

jd 3 years ago

Since the 70’s, I’ve gone to “parties,” for Tupperware, Discovery toys, Pennyrich bras, Mary Kay, and other types of makeup, all kinds of jewelry, candles, lingerie and sex toys (yes!), baskets, plants, clothing, children’s books, crystal, Pampered Chef, knives, and others that I can’t remember now. I had a party ONCE. I didn’t really want to do it, but you know how it is… you get so caught up thinking that you might be able to offset your own expenses by bugging your friends to come to your party and buy crap they don’t need. I’ll never do it again. I did make enough to get a few things that I had wanted, but it wasn’t worth it at all. This marketing technique just annoys the heck out of me. It preys upon our womanly friendships, our loyalty, and sense of wanting to help our friends in their quest to start a little business. It sabotages us with our own guilt, and we often spend more money than we can’t really afford just to be a good friend. I mean, you just can’t go to one of these things and not buy something…. although occasionally there is a brave soul who manges to stay true to their own budget. I cringe with dread everytime I get an invitation to one of these thinly disguised beg a thons. I try to avoid going, because I am not one of those who can walk away empty handed. It’s not that I ever need or even want the objects, and the prices are never at a bargain. The last time I went, I spent $75 on an item that I would NEVER, in my regular shopping, pay more than about $10 for. But at least I do stick to my guns on one thing: I do not ever give in to have a party. Why is that only women succumb this kind of marketing? Why don’t we see guys having power tool parties, or gun parties.? Because guys would call BS on that in a heartbeat. And we should, too… unless we really like being gluttons for punishment.

JW 3 years ago

Oh, I’ve lived in quite a few Chicago burbs in my lifetime, and this list is spot on. The degrees of accurateness may vary depending on the burb, but it definitely applies to the Chicago area burbs. You’re either in or you’re out, as Heidi Klum would say.

Karen Baitch Rosenberg 3 years ago

Love me some Scary AND Suburban Jungle! Thanks for the smiles ~

Katlin 3 years ago

Well, a dooryard is a sight to be seen. Instead of explaining myself, I turn to the urban dictionary for their definition:
A Maine term for front yard or driveway.
Boy: Who drove into the dooryard?
Girl: Its my folks!
Boy: Oh no!
Girl: Quick!
Put your clothes back on before they come in!!

So there you have it, a dooryard.

Erin@MommyontheSpot 3 years ago

Hilarious! I am so guilty of wearing my uniform of yoga pants every damn day. But I refuse to follow rule #1. I’m a rebel that way.

Mary 3 years ago

I loved the comment about the hundreds of shades of tan. So true!

Mary 3 years ago

What is a dooryard?

Andrea 3 years ago

Man, are you right about being in or shunned in the Chicago ‘burbs. I’m also a Texan who lived up there for nine years-two of them after having my daughter-and it was a huge wake up call to discover myself on the shunned side of the street (for living in the wrong ‘burn no less). We’re back in Texas now, and I’m much happier for it-much less shunning.

Andrea 3 years ago

I do cakes out of my house now (I guess that’s my suburban mommy craft business) but pre-baby I worked in a specialty cake shop. It used to amaze me the number of mommies who would happily pay hundreds of dollars for their kids first birthday cakes. Granted, my daughter is about to turn three and she’s had a kick-ass cake every year, but it’s because I love to do them, not because I feel compelled to keep up with the Jones’s in the cake department.

Andrea 3 years ago

Ever since the episode of “Dexter” where the Trinity Killer was able to lure a kid away thanks to the details on a sticker set, I have sworn up and down that there is no way in HELL I’m putting those on my car. So far I’ve held firm to that, and it helps that my husband thinks they’re stupid as well.

Heather 3 years ago

Although #2 has happened to me, there is no way I’m putting those terrible stickers on my SUV!
I have a feeling the burbs are going to hate me….

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

anytime loulou xo

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Hey Kristen nice to see you over here. Please, I bought a pressure cleaner because I couldn’t keep up with the notices … and I do it myself. My hubs could not be happier that I’m so anal.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

LOL My old neighbor used to host all those parties and take a cut… because I adored her, I went to every one. EVERY ONE! They moved for a job last year and I beyond miss her… but I don’t miss having to buy 5 different kinds of flavored olive oils!

Loukia 3 years ago

Haha! LOVE. Thanks for the afternoon laugh! xo

Annie 3 years ago

Very funny! I can totally relate. Just remember the trick is not to have one animal, but a zoo under your roof. Anything that moves… capture, cage, and feed crickets. People used to refer to me as “that Jane Goodall looking women with bad hair.” Fun read. Thank you!

Kristen Mae at Abandoning Pretense 3 years ago

Ohhhhh the pressure cleaning. I grew up poor, and I always wondered how ‘the rich people’ kept everything so spic-and-span. I do the driveway, but only half of it. It’s my way of staying connected to my roots.

I call all this crap “pretense.” And I abandoned it. (My blog – wink-wink)

Christine 3 years ago

I live in the burbs, but commute into the city, (Toronto) in Canada everyday and while I totally laughed at your post, I don’t see the difference much with city mom’s. They want/have way more expensive items and try to flash things a lot more than those in the burbs. (and there are way more Starbuck’s in the city!)

Hilarious about the having to do a craft as a job – I’m the only non-stay at home mom at my oldest daugther’s pre-school and everyone else is a Stella and Dot, Avon, Tupperware, etc rep (I know this because they sign their emails with their businesses)

Cheers!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

The hubs is so onto those city chicks! I’d prefer to lose the frenemy … it’s almost better to be overt about it. Passive aggressiveness always makes me want to do secretly that’s snide with the sole purpose of annoying the other person. Wait, that’s the definition of passive aggressive, isn’t it. Oh, never mind.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Anything to help a motha out!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

OK, that’s just dangerous. You should tell the hubs you need to the city because it’s just too dangerous in the burbs. Let me know how it goes. XO

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Leah Ummmmm ditto! And I could have added every one of those. Grand Lux is the best place to eat, I mean, is it not? I have a membership to Sams Club and Costco and my kids go to camp. If you can’t beat em, join em… and then write about them!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

No one ever said it doesn’t have it’s perks. LOL

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Please, I could’ve made those parties an entire post in itself. I used to have birthdays at HoJo’s freakin’ HoJo’s. LOL

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Ooh a Zumba flashmob actually sounds fun. LOL. I like to wear the work out gear when I’m not even working out … that way I feel like other people will think I look really good when I sweat, plus it allows me to avoid showering!!! Thanks for reading XO

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

LOL I guess you’re not a good candidate for a sticker then.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

WORKED!!! Looking forward to reading!

April 3 years ago

I knew there was a reason he wanted to move into the city. He must have read #13 and 14. :-)

I made one attempt at this list when I lived in the Chicago suburbs. In fact, I am from and currently live in Texas and for all its reputation for being all desperate housewives in the burbs, those Chicago girls are no joke. They don’t even do the Frenemy thing. You’re either in or you’re shunned.

Josie 3 years ago

Thank you for making me appreciate my life in the hood just a little bit more. Next time I’m complaining about car alarms and neighbors fighting in the street I will think of holiday craft bazaars and Saturday soccer marathons and be at peace with my life just a bit longer.

Ariana 3 years ago

The suburb of all suburbs…Boulder, CO…where people ONLY wear workout clothes, and arriving to a destination in any vehicle that is not a bicycle or a Subaru with a bike rack on top will result in a fine or expulsion from the town. Residents really are in crazy good shape, though.

AmberB 3 years ago

OMG – yes, bunco…and all of those damn parties where you should buy at least SOMETHING to support a girlfriend’s “business”-and the latest, urban homesteading…because buying cheese and yogurt at the store is so 1990s.

Elki 3 years ago

(Insert appropriate slang of appreciation here.) An NYC to burn transfer myself, via Honolulu (which is a totally different story) – all of this is too familiar! As much as I love volunteering in my son’s class I try to be off the grid otherwise! When people find out that we only have one child and that I’m not working right now I become a huge target for everything! I have to admit that I’ve had a few flip outs on my husband lately- why?? Why can’t we live in the city? We no longer have a stroller to carry up and down the stairs into the subway! I swear… If we didn’t have silver medal schools… I miss the noises of traffic and sirens at night. It’s so quiet and dark where we are! Until the coyotes go on a howling bit. Coyotes, seriously. Keep the faith, sisters!

Leah 3 years ago

I too moved from NYC to the burbs 7 years ago…
You forgot a few things:
1. You must immediately get a BJs or Costco membership. Not having one is very frowned upon!
2. You must start LOVING Olive Garden/The Cheesecake Factory/PF Changs as the “best places to eat” and never tell anyone you like to eat all kinds of ethnic foods from Indian to Dominican….
3. Your kid better be enrolled in camp – what kind of morons are you trying to raise, not going to camp?!

Very funny…
But I must admit I like livin in the burbs…while still being a city girl at heart.

Allen @ Funny Baby Videos 3 years ago

Great list, I would also add that true suburbanites never ever ride their bicycle near any public places. Someone might recognize you and think you are crazy or cannot afford a car. Get rid of any bikes you own or drive them on designated trails only.

AP 3 years ago

Must be a NY burb thing, I was born and raised in the Chicago burbs and didn’t relate to most of it. Except for wearing uggs (knock offs) but that is cause nothing else keeps my feet as warm in these miserable winters. Those are going to have to be pried off my warm, dead feet. I kinda wish I had a little of it though, neighborhood gossip sounds like it would keep things more interesting. And I wouldn’t have complained if there was a group that could have stopped the people down the street from painting their house electric blue. Such an eyesore.

Wendy 3 years ago

Very True! The sports one drives me nuts! I’m not going to allow my 4 children to be so wrapped up in sports that we as a family cannot commit to anything. And one you didn’t mention, was the very pricey over-the-top birthday parties!!

Katlin 3 years ago

I have been trying to link it all morning….but it doesn’t work….any suggestions?

Arnebya 3 years ago

Awwwwwww I like the stickers (it’s because my kids don’t do shit, isn’t it? And the representation would be the five of us just standing still, no dog. And what if we were represented in black clothing instead of white? The no one would even see us because of our stupid blackness. My inappropriateness knows no bounds today. I like it.)

Arnebya 3 years ago

City husbands who have suburban husband friends giggle and point when those friends say they had an off-season bj. “And it’s not even my birthday!” (#3 pisses me off. DEATH TO THE HSA!)

Elsie 3 years ago

Don’t be terrified Katie, the older mommies will be very clear about their expectations for the newer mommies :) Seriously though, join the PTA and help out occasionally. ‘Burb mommies take their PTA duties VERY seriously.

doni 3 years ago

Finally someone pointed out the constant wearing of workout clothes!! Ahhhh! Drives me crazy! Surely they aren’t working out THAT much…or maybe they just want to be prepared for a zumba flashmob at anytime.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

The stickers drive me insane as well. Just put your #SS number on the back and I’ll look you up if I’m interested!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Katlin – Brilliant, where’s your blog?

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

How could I, I get asked to play monthly!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Brandi I think it’s probably tougher for you. That’s culture shock! Just put on a tennis skirt every once in a while and no one will ever know. LOL

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Stephanie – Well, you’re giving them fodder… they owe you!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

You learn something new every day, Ariana. LOL> I too grew up in the burbs so I wasn’t shocked by the beige houses!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Don’t worry Mary I honestly love sugar scrubs and someone’s gotta make ’em right?

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Yes, I spent many a Gymborie class with a group of kids and their nannies. Fun.

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Ehhhh, so way I!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

They sound like the scariest Mafia ever and I kinda mean that, I know what Mothers are capable of!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

Any time Debbie and the truth is PLAYDATE for me is usually a word that means let’s have coffee or whateve while we try to make our kids friends so we can do this again sometime!

Jenny Isenman AKA Jenny From the Blog 3 years ago

True the schools are fab and living in the ‘burbs is not SO bad, just sometimes SO cliche!
xo

Kathleen 3 years ago

Oh, I HATE those stickers!

And don’t forget those uber-expensive strollers and diaper bags that go along with the yoga getup.

Katlin 3 years ago

It is amazing how similar life in Rural Maine can be, although there are a few differences.

The children are of course all signed up for multiple activities, even the little three year olds, but they must each be at least an hour of driving, each way, so that there is never a possibility of a family meal together, except at the one McDonald’s in a twenty mile radius.

Your house can be any color at all. But you will be instead judged by your dooryard, the size of your truck, or the number of snowmobiles or quads, depending on the season.

The acceptable mommy businesses are limited to the invite and sell to ‘friends’ parties. Which you will have to find a way to squeeze into your schedule at least every weekend. And once there, you will be expected to buy things you will never use and can’t afford, like stinky candles, kitchen gadgets that break, and more flower print bags than your children could ever fill with their endless supplies of necessary extracurricular equipment.

If you do find a Starbucks, large grocery store or well equipped playground within ten miles of your current location, you are “in the city” and should retreat immediately to the frost-heaved back roads. Unless of course, you are there for one of the many children’s activities, in which case you should make a day of it and spend ALL of you money on more ‘necessary for survival’ children’s equipment.

The mommy attire and sex rules are about the same here. Although, the clothes should only come from Target or maybe Walmart. The children’s clothes on the other hand have to be from babyGap, the Children’s Place, LL Beans, or possibly Hanna Anderson. And they are most likely all bought online as the nearest shopping mall is at least two hours away.

And the best gossip place is either Facebook, during the time usually devote to good quality family time like dinner, or at pick up from public school while waiting to shuttle your kids to the new coolest after school activity, such as ice fishing.

And I also love the Scary mommy disclaimer…I think I need that as my next sleeve tattoo.

Katlin 3 years ago

Rural Maine…similar yet different.

The children are of course all signed up for multiple activities, even the little three year olds, but they must each be at least an hour of driving, each way, so that there is never a possibility of a family meal together, except at the one McDonald’s in a twenty mile radius.

Your house can be any color at all. But you will be instead judged by your dooryard, the size of your truck, or the number of snowmobiles or quads, depending on the season.

The acceptable mommy businesses are limited to the invite and sell to ‘friends’ parties. Which you will have to find a way to squeeze into your schedule at least every weekend. And once there, you will be expected to buy things you will never use and can’t afford, like stinky candles, kitchen gadgets that break, and more flower print bags than your children could ever fill with their endless supplies of necessary extracurricular equipment.

If you do find a Starbucks, large grocery store or well equipped playground within ten miles of your current location, you are “in the city” and should retreat immediately to the frost-heaved back roads. Unless of course, you are there for one of the many children’s activities, in which case you should make a day of it and spend ALL of you money on more ‘necessary for survival’ children’s equipment.

The mommy attire and sex rules are about the same here. Although, the clothes should only come from Target or maybe Walmart. The children’s clothes on the other hand have to be from babyGap, the Children’s Place, LL Beans, or possibly Hanna Anderson. And they are most likely all bought online as the nearest shopping mall is at least two hours away.

And the best gossip place is either Facebook, during the time usually devote to good quality family time like dinner, or at pick up from public school while waiting to shuttle your kids to the new coolest after school activity, such as ice fishing.

And I also love the Scary mommy disclaimer…I think I need that as my next sleeve tattoo.

Katlin 3 years ago

Love it….great belly laughs…though life in rural Maine is strikingly similar

Nancy 3 years ago

This is exactly why I live in the woods!

jd 3 years ago

Don’t forget about Bunco.

Brandi 3 years ago

Couldn’t have said it better myself. Coming from the country, where these things did not matter, was a major shock when we moved into a neighborhood. The lifestyles are totally opposite. Thanks for the laugh!

Becca B 3 years ago

OMG! This is the hell I live….

Stephanie 3 years ago

Ha! I’d love to see Ramadan in my development.

This makes me very glad my kids (and life) keep me too busy to canoodle with the neighbors. (Though they’re probably gossiping about that. Or the blog. Either one.)

Ariana 3 years ago

I grew up in the burbs so the environment has always been the same for me, but definitely nail on the head! Sending my kids to private school when they were young made me aware that every other suburban myth was indeed fact! (And love #14…I didn’t know that!)

MarySunshine 3 years ago

I’m the weirdo mom on the court. But I’ve always been a “weirdo”, so I’m used to the looks. LOL

I do like to craft though, so I got a little butthurt by 5. No one wants sugar scrubs or crocheted scarves? Crap. There goes my idea of work when they kids start school. 😉

I might not be a city transplant, but I’m definitely an outsider looking in on the suburban mom phenomenon. LOL

Karen 3 years ago

Mo different in the city, except everyone has a nanny.

Amy 3 years ago

Yes, yes, fifteen times yes!

I’m feeling a little bad, though. I was following the suburb BJ rules even when I lived in the city. Sorry, honey!

DEbi 3 years ago

LOL! I could have written this piece. Do we live in the same “hood”? You forgot the mandatory brow beating you get if you don’t join the DAR or Junior league at once and OMG, the reason for the gym membership is so we don’t embarrass ourselves when we go to the neighborhood pool ( which is mandatory on weekdays throughout the summer) while we sip Fraps to the skinny, perfect 25 year old who just had a baby yesterday and is wearing a bikini and sporting a bronze goddess tan today. Cripes,I;m tired just talking about it and now, I must go workout. May is just around the corner.

Heather @ Kraus House Mom 3 years ago

If you do not follow the “rules” you can be subject to a “hit” from the Mothers Mafia.

Katie 3 years ago

As a mother of a 1 1/2 year old I haven’t had to endure any of this yet- but now im terrified…

Debbie 3 years ago

Oh Jenny this is wonderful. Love it. What i call following the crowd. It is amazing to me what lenghts people are going to go to, ‘to fit in’.

My kids are grown, but i see and hear this going on with my girls and grandkids. I love checking there FB and laugh at what they put on it.
I always get a kick out of the play dates. When my were young, I wanted to go over to a girl friends and have a cup of coffee or beer and the kids played. I didn’t make up a name for this active, I knew that i was thirst and it was going to be great to have kids to intertain kids while we ladies had a little adult conversation.

My heart does go out to you mothers these days. All I can say is be yourself and if they don’t like it you aren’t going to be spending the rest of your life around them anyway. Most of them are going to find a nicer community to live in someday, because the old one just isn’t classy enough any more.

I do like the idea of bumper sticker for the mini van so you can find yours. Thanks Jenny for the smiles this early morning.
Have a great day,
Debbie

Mama Melch 3 years ago

Wow, such a perfect description of the world in which I cannot imagine inhabiting…but the schools are just soo great.