Imagine what we could do together if all women supported one another?
It’s fascinating a woman’s need to justify her choices where her children are concerned. Even if you’re secure with your decisions and never felt the need to rationalize to family, friends, or strangers on the street, all who inevitably give you their advice — there is nothing like motherhood to leave you constantly questioning yourself.
Sia Cooper, Certified Personal Trainer and mom of two, is all of us who’ve been judged by others and are sick and tired of it. She posted a picture on her Instagram page listing all the ways she’s been criticized and it’s resonating with women everywhere.
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If I had a nickel for every time I’ve been called a “bad mom,” I would be soooo rich! It seems almost impossible to be a textbook or politically correct good mom these days because everywhere you turn another mom is judging your parenting choices. Am I right? I’ve been called a bad mom for: Workout out during pregnancy. Working out while having kids… period. For caring about my looks and health. Working out in Target. Using canned goods and plastic crockpot liners. Having tattoos and piercings. Enjoying wine every now and then. For letting my kids use technology. For letting my kids have sugar and happy meals occasionally. For not “covering up” around my kids. For running a full time business from home. For co-sleeping with my kids. For collecting sports cars and motorcycles aka having a hobby. For taking time for myself. For having abs. I’ve learned that the true “bad moms” out there are the ones who constantly tear other moms down by judging them. Those moms are the ones who are truly insecure and have strong feelings of inadequacy because why else would they do that? Misery loves company. There’s no one right way to parent or to be a mom. We all are running in the same race and doing the best that we can. Motherhood is not a one size fits all-what works for one family may not work for the next. So who are we to judge another mom’s choices or reasoning? Being a mom is hard enough and if all the following make me a “bad mom” then I’ll gladly wear it proudly! Here’s to all the bad moms out there. Follow @badmomconfessions to submit a confession or read other anonymous mothers’ spills! @todayshow @goodmorningamerica @theviewabc @thetalkcbs @theellenshow
“It seems almost impossible to be a textbook or politically correct good mom these days because everywhere you turn another mom is judging your parenting choices,” Cooper wrote. “I’ve been called a bad mom for workout out during pregnancy, for caring about my looks and health, using canned goods, having tattoos and piercings.” The list goes on and on.
Cooper said she’s learned that the true “bad moms” out there are the ones who constantly tear other moms down by judging them. “Those moms are the ones who are truly insecure and have strong feelings of inadequacy because why else would they do that?” she said. “Misery loves company.”
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My son asked me this morning if I could give him another baby to play with LOL.. I originally had wanted 4 kids, but I’ve been enjoying having just 2 so far! I want more eventually.. just not right now. I’ve always wanted a big family since I never had one. How many kids did you have?
Cooper continued that she’s also been insulted for enjoying wine, letting her kids have sugar, and even not “covering up” around her kids. Because god forbid she show them an example of what it means to be a strong, fit woman.
Cooper told Scary Mommy she was inspired to write the post after being on the receiving end of judgment day after day. “The latest straw was the fact I was judged for using plastic crockpot liners for a soup recipe that I had posted! I mean COME ON! So I decided to stand up against the judgy moms and wear my ‘bad mom’ title loud and proud.”