There are a lot of reasons that parents choose to co-sleep or bed share, but I think the main one is convenience. It’s easier to nurse a child without having to get out of bed. It’s easier to sleep next to kids than having to put them back in their own bed approximately 424,642 times.
But that doesn’t mean that parents who co-sleep necessarily love it, either. Sure, it’s sweet to watch your kids fall asleep and see their little angelic faces. And they’re only little and willing to be cuddled for a short window of time. But there is very little actual sleeping involved in co-sleeping, because it usually looks a little like this:
But at least the funny parents of Twitter understand our love/hate relationship with co-sleeping.
After becoming a mother, I really learned how to live life on the edge. Of the mattress. Co-sleep, I co-sleep.
— Mommy Cusses (@mommy_cusses) March 3, 2017
Also known as “Being too tired to object to co-sleeping” or “Reluctant co-sleeping“:
If by co-sleep you mean a kid climbs into our bed at 3 am every night and we are too tired to fight it, then yeah. We co-sleep.
— Karen Johnson (@21stcenturysahm) July 14, 2016
And the kids know that we’re tired and weak:
Me, negotiating: “Ok, but you are not going to spend the whole night in mommy and daddy’s bed.”
4: “I like my plan better.”
— Janina Maria (@dontlosethekids) December 12, 2017
Because parenting is the most exhausting job on the planet:
That feeling when you finally get your kids to bed pic.twitter.com/gKLjciSIEQ
— tragic ally (@TragicAllyHere) April 19, 2016
And we all justify it to ourselves at first, but getting them out of your bed is tougher than it looks:
Any of you first time parents out there, looking at your little tiny babies and thinking "ah, we'll let them sleep in our bed with us. They won't be there for ever"…
As a parent of a ten y.o and a seven y.o, I can tell you that YES. YES THEY FUCKING WILL!
— IKINTST (@IKINTST) June 19, 2018
And it’s almost impossible to sleep when you don’t have any personal space:
The fun thing about co-sleeping is how you have a huge bed so everyone can sleep comfortably, and your kid still tries to curl up next to your left kidney.
— Scary Mommy (@ScaryMommy) June 3, 2018
But your kids somehow have more than plenty:
— Annie Reneau (@MotherhoodnMore) October 2, 2017
It’s also tough to sleep when your small child somehow snores louder than your husband:
My 5yo is asleep in my bed & snoring & it's like being yelled at by a really angry snake now I know how Harry Potter felt please send help.
— AsKateWouldHaveIt (@KateWouldHaveIt) July 25, 2016
Or when you physically get pushed off in the middle of the night:
The best part about co-sleeping is how sometimes I fall out of the bed.
— Scary Mommy (@ScaryMommy) June 30, 2018
Sometimes you have to sneak to the couch for your own mental health:
Friend: Do you co-sleep?
Me: Co-sleep? Nah, I go-sleep. My kids sleep in my bed and I go-sleep somewhere else.
— The Real American Dadass (@R_A_Dadass) February 16, 2017
And it’s not like co-sleeping makes it easier to get them to fall asleep:
My child is literally holding her eyes open to keep from sleeping in case you were thinking you'd get more sleep after the newborn phase.
— Goodnight Sanity (@GoodnightSanity) July 7, 2016
In fact, they like to think it’s kind of like a big party before bedtime:
Me: "Thinking about going to bed early tonight.."
My kid: pic.twitter.com/Q30GQuBz6Y
— MommieKnowsfresh (@MommieKnwsFresh) May 3, 2017
And they definitely wake up before dawn:
Well, you're up early.
-Me, greeting my children every morning since they were born
— Unremarkable Files (@ThatEvansLady) March 27, 2017
So much so that you change your definition of “sleeping in”:
My kids slept in until 6 AM!
See what I did there? I used "slept in" and "6 AM" in the same sentence.
This is your life on parenting.
— No Idea: Daddy Blog (@byclintedwards) March 24, 2016
They have almost given you an actual heart attack more than once:
Having a 3yo whisper "the sun is up" when I'm in a dead sleep makes me feel nostalgic about waking up to actual alarm clocks.
— Meredith (@PerfectPending) October 18, 2015
And you definitely have to be careful about rolling over in the morning:
Babies are okay if you're into alarm clocks that poop.
— mark (@TheCatWhisprer) September 17, 2015
Although it all feels strangely worth it:
There is nothing sweeter than waking up next to your sleeping child.
— Scary Mommy (@ScaryMommy) July 5, 2018
Until it isn’t:
My wife just screamed “STAY AWAY FROM ME!” at the top of her lungs.
I’m pretty sure she was talking to our ultra-clingy kids but I’m hiding under the bed just in case.
— Dad and Buried (@DadandBuried) July 7, 2018
But we persevere… and try to rest when we can:
Early bird gets the worm unless the bird is so early everything hurts and she tries to sleep on the couch while her toddler watches cartoons
— Sweatpants Cher (@House_Feminist) May 19, 2016
Because moms are fucking superheroes:
Motherhood: doing twice as much in half the time, one handed, on a third as much sleep.
— YourLazyMom (@yourlazymom) June 10, 2018
Co-sleeping might not include a whole lot of actual sleep, but it’s only temporary, so get those snuggles in while you can. And invest in a shit-ton of caffeine.