Women share the horrible ways men have responded to rejection in a viral Twitter thread
No means no. It’s really as simple, easy, and straightforward as that. Yet time and time again, men can get mean, aggressive, and violent when their advances are turned down. If you want sickening proof, just head to a viral Twitter thread that features women discussing the worst ways that men have handled romantic rejection.
Last month, a student opened fire at Santa Fe High School and killed 10 people. One of the victims was Shana Fisher, a fellow student who — according to Fisher’s mom Sadie Rodriguez — had “4 months of problems” with the shooter. “He kept making advances on her and she repeatedly told him no,” Rodriguez told the LA Times. “…A week later he opens fire on everyone he didn’t like. Shana being the first one.”
It probably isn’t a coincidence that one day after this story came out, Twitter user Elizabeth M. asked women to share their worst stories about rejecting men.
“RT if you’ve have had a frightening response from a man when you’ve rebuffed, rejected, or otherwise ignored his advances,” she wrote. “If you feel comfortable enough to share your experience in the comments, I want to hear you.”
And share they did. Elizabeth’s post has so far received thousands of comments. Warning: each story is completely grotesque, disheartening, and beyond alarming.
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At a bar— Tired Goddess (@TiredInOR4Now) May 31, 2018
He was trying to chat
Told him to buzz off
He claimed he was FBI
Threatened to bring his agent buddies over to arrest me
"You'll give me your time when I take it" in this menacing voice
Told him to F O
He went away but stared at me & my friends from afar until we left
So many. Most notably working in a brewery and a regular client constantly speaking to me inappropriately, asking me out, wouldn't take no for an answer. I tried to shift tasks to avoid interacting w him, but finally had to say 'I think I've made it very clear I'm not interested'— Jesse Hitchcock (@jessehitchcock) May 29, 2018
He responded to that by yelling and swearing at me, and pushing the table I was behind, knocking over a chair as he stormed out. I told management, and despite the fact that he's also gotten DUI's and had several other incidents, he is still allowed as a patron.— Jesse Hitchcock (@jessehitchcock) May 29, 2018
Others shared stories of being stalked by men.
When I turned a guy down for a 2nd date, he became angry, telling me he "knew" I was into him. For the next 8 months, he showed up at my office and home repeatedly. Each time insisting he was "giving me a chance" to change my mind bc I was "so stupid" not to go out with him again— Stephanie Davis (@I_Am_StephanieD) June 2, 2018
Then there were the ex-boyfriends/co-workers/misc. other men who got aggressive, creepy, and scary.
my ex boyfriend still bother me by social media.the latest thing he did was to annoy my friends telling them private things about me.I broke up with him because he is a toxic and manipulative person. I've lost a lot of friends because they don't believe me— Pao🍒 (@hey_PaoZm) May 31, 2018
Just to mention a few....I worked two jobs when I was 19, one in fast food and the second in a warehouse. Now this warehouse seemed to be full of drama. I had one guy consistently ask me out despite tell him I had a bf at the time.— Nicky B (@strengthofmind8) May 30, 2018
After several rejections he started a rumor that I was pregnant by my best friend who also worked there. And the best part...he was married with children. There was also a manager who made life miserable after I rejected him until I reported him to a supervisor— Nicky B (@strengthofmind8) May 30, 2018
I once playfully declined a guy, so he picked me up carried me away from my friends and asked if it would be ok if he just raped me. He thought it was funny. My friends (guys) then didn't want to leave me and was shocked these things could happen.— Victoria Phillips (@ToriaPhillips) June 1, 2018
And then there were the countless other stories about men who wouldn’t take no for an answer and proceeded to scare the living daylights out of women. If you are currently questioning whether there’s literally any humanity left in this world, I promise you that you are very much not alone.
Left a party late and was walking home alone in our well-lit college town. A couple guys on a balcony yelled down "Blondie! Come party!" I ignored them, kept walking, then booked it when they started yelling "FUCKING SLUT WE'RE GONNA COME DOWN & FIND YOU!"— Me (@Plaidsheep324) May 30, 2018
Last year, two neighbors tried to get me to their room to "party" with them. Despite the refusals and reasons I gave them, they kept insisting and in the end I had to run back into my apartment.— puti 🌈 (@astarinthegloom) May 30, 2018
Locked my door, closed my windows, and drew the curtains since they could see me from their window, but still the guy who did the most talking bang my door for around ten minutes. Didn't leave when I refused to open.— puti 🌈 (@astarinthegloom) May 30, 2018
Oh, he tried to open my door for multiple times too. They kept roaming around while high/drunk our floor for the whole freaking night while I was locked in my apartment, terrified that they might try to break in again.— puti 🌈 (@astarinthegloom) May 30, 2018
Sending all the love and hugs and support to every single woman who has had to deal with this disgraceful behavior. And to men everywhere — as if it needs to be said again – women owe you nothing. Period. End of story.