It’s Time to Schedule Something for YOU
Does your toddler fall apart when you fall out of sight? She might be dealing with separation anxiety. The emotional lives of toddlers are surprisingly overwhelming to them at times and although they cannot quite articulate that into words, they can show you through action. So, suck it up, buttercup, you have more outbursts to surf through.
While you may find yourself wanting to give your kid a fist bump of solidarity to show her that you totally get the whole anxiety thing or the need for soothing, giving too much attention to anxious behavior will not help it go away. Relax your child with calming touch and simple words of comfort to reassure her and help her feel safe.
Don’t forget your secret weapon: the binky, blankie, lovie, or whatever you want to call it. Giving your child a “transitional object” allows him to learn self-soothing through chewing on, babbling to, or squeezing close the soft object that is a constant familiar in their everyday. Try not to wash it too much. (We know, gross, right?) But the familiar scent will go a long way in helping to calm your child down.
Scary Mommy Tip: Sometimes parents forget to check in on how they are doing with the pressures of raising kids. Are you finding that you’re getting stressed out by all of that stress you’re busy soothing out of your child? There is absolutely nothing wrong with scheduling some YOU time!
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