40 Things Every Mom Should Have or Should Know by 40

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A whole decade has passed. Where did it go? An amazing husband, multiple careers, a recession, two incredible children, and the blink of an eye later, I’m here, turning the corner on 40. There are many subtle yet life-changing differences a decade makes. (This may not be as sentimental as the it’s predecessor, but hey, I’m a humor columnist)

By 40, you should have…

1. Access to a great therapist, a great dry cleaner, a great hair stylist, and a great lawyer… but mostly a great therapist.

2. Cellulite that you play with when you sit “criss cross applesauce.”

3. The knowledge that the position I just referred to was once un-PC-ishly called “Indian Style.”

4. Enough videos and pictures of your children to fill a credenza.

5. A credenza.

6. Worry lines from every bruise, bump and first day of school that you lovingly freaked out about.

7. Gray hairs from every tantrum, debate, and negotiation lost to a toddler.

8. A designer handbag that’s so pricey you would sell on Craig’s list if you didn’t think someone would murder you at the pick up.

9. A designer for Target item, which you don’t like and doesn’t fit, but you wear anyway because you had to fight another woman for it.

10. A drawer filled with mostly unsuccessful creams/scrubs/supplements for your cellulite, stretch-marks, dark puffy circles, and increasingly dry skin.

11. A cabinet filled with wraps/casts/prescriptions for your bad lower back, arthritic toe, irritable bowel, adult onset ADD, or carpal tunnel syndrome.

12. Broken capillaries from exfoliating hard enough to erase your crows feet. Freakin’ crows feet!

13. Laugh lines from being a total dork with your kids, and spider veins that your kids affectionately compare to tattoos.

14. Saggy boobs that have been blown up and deflated with each pregnancy, like a Snoopy in a Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade.

15 .A great foundation (even though you swore you’d never wear one), that’s not cakey and covers redness and freckles — also known as rosecia and age-spots.

16. Enough success in parenting that you have faith you’re kids will turn out ok (Well, maybe with minimal psychoanalysis.)

17. A bathing suit or shorts that you should no longer be wearing. A fact everyone is aware of, but you.

18. The ability to pull off heels, flats, or a ponytail with almost anything.

19. A pair of jeans that are too tight, but you refuse to throw away, because those 5lbs you haven’t been able to lose this decade will come off, you just know it.

20. Spent enough time chasing dreams to know that they can be caught. (oh, I can be beautifully sentimental when I wanna be!).

By 40, you should know….

1. When people call you ma’am, they’re trying to be polite, even though it sounds REALLY rude.

2. How to cook at least a week’s worth of meals. (I mean, if someone had a gun to your head.)

3. Enough about politics to have a position on healthcare, and taxes even if that position is to not have one.

4. That you DID become your parents, even though you swore you wouldn’t.

5. How to throw together a bus stop/carpool appropriate outfit in under 2 minutes.

6. That said outfit doesn’t not need to include makeup, shoes or a bra… yes, even pants are optional.

7. How to make a man happy in 5 minutes or less. (For your benefit… and his, but mostly yours. Hello, there are reality shows to be watched.)

8. At least one man who knows how to satisfy you.. and hopefully you’re married to him.

9. That as your parents age you need to start checking how much they tip the waitress.

10. 40 is nowhere near as old as it seemed when you were 20.

11. That most the celebs you wanted to be like in your 20‘s and 30’s have things that are fake, enhanced or airbrushed.

12. That said celebs are now nearing or over 40!

13. It’s ok to have the fake hair, fake lashes, fake nails and any other falsie, if you so desire. (see 11.)

14. Gas is still funny… maybe funnier.

15. That your parents didn’t know any more about raising children than you do.

16. How to get kids out the door for school in 10 minutes because YOU overslept.

17. That Spanx are like chocolate or cheese, they make everything better.

18. You’re just like you were in your 20′s only savvier and less bendy.

19. That you can survive on 2hrs. sleep each night for 6 months.

20. That you can’t fight it anymore – You are officially a WOMAN – and that’s not such a bad thing to be.

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