Blogger Constance Hall is back with a viral letter in support of moms.
A few weeks ago a blogger named Constance Hall wrote a hilarious viral Facebook post about what sex is like as a parent. Now, she’s back with a more serious message that every woman with kids needs to read.
Over the weekend, the mom of four posted an ode to moms who are practicing self-care and doing the best they can. In it, she tackles a number of parenting debates and lays waste to each one with a stunning message of support for moms. Not one to shy away from telling it like it is, Hall opens her post with, “To the woman at the park, looking at her phone, ignoring her children, I salute you.”
She applauds the women who don’t give in to “the public perception that you should be switched on, 24 hours a day” and the one with “piles of dishes and washing who walks straight out the door for a coffee at her friends.” She adds, “Being a good mum or wife or human does NOT mean spending eternity cleaning your house. If you leave them [dishes] for long enough your friends will start doing them. Trust me.”
She then turns her attention to moms battling depression and salutes the women who find the strength to seek treatment. “Postnatal depression is a rude little cunt,” she says, and truer words have never been spoken. Hall goes on to point out that “too often strength and weakness are confused,” but that “strength is asking for help” when you need it. “You are so strong,” she writes. “So many women are going through the exact same thing, they just don’t talk about it.”
Finally, Hall gives a shoutout to the women out there (read: all of us) who’ve found our bodies just aren’t quite the same after giving birth. She writes:
“To the woman who didn’t loose [sic] all of that baby weight, I salute you. A brand new 24 hour job that doesn’t pay and won’t end for around 20 years is NOT a good time to give up cake. Eat the cake, eat the whole fucking cake and fuck off anyone who dares to say anything. Your post baby body is not all the sudden free for public commentary.”
Since the post went up, it’s been shared a whopping 108,000 times. Hundreds of women have left comments thanking Hall for her wise words and sharing their own stories of battling postpartum depression or learning to accept their bodies. Wrote one, “I’m a mum of a 12 week old… I’m on antidepressants .. He’s playing while I check Facebook having a coffee! I’ve got dishes to do and got a beautiful baby wobble bum and tum! Screw what people think! My Rox is the happiest baby and I’m loving life!”
The things Hall touched on in her post are things to which almost every single one of us can relate. Being a mom is a huge emotional and physical undertaking, and it’s daunting. It’s so rare to see women just supporting each other through the monumental task of raising kids, and it’s really refreshing to see a post like this go viral, rather than the usual viral guilt trips that beg us to put down the phone, give more, sacrifice the most, and martyr ourselves on the altar of motherhood. Constance is keeping it real and encouraging others moms to do the same, and we could all use a little bit more of that.