Chrissy Teigen Reminds Us Not To Assume All Women Want Kids
She nails it, as usual
Chrissy Teigen is once again spouting off wisdom the whole world needs to hear and this time, it’s aimed at defending women who *gasp* might not want to have kids.
Because it’s not 1952 and motherhood is far from a woman’s only option, dammit.
In an interview with Refinery29‘s Arianna Davis, our favorite celebrity mom explains that it’s absolute bullshit to assume all women ultimately want to become moms. When Davis mentioned she was questioning whether she would have kids, Teigen jumped right in. “Well, first of all, I want to commend you in your decision to be open about maybe not having children at all. I think it’s really commendable to even doubt the process out loud, because I don’t feel like people should be pressured to have children.”
Can we get that embroidered on throw pillows to mail out to thousands of nosy mothers-in-law? Thanks, Chrissy.
Teigen continues, “I’m sure that when you announce that fact to somebody, they’re very quick to be like, ‘Gasp! Why don’t you want kids?’ And I’ve never been that way with people, because I don’t think any of us should assume all women’s goals are to have kids. It’s a choice!”
Preach, sister. And let’s note how especially powerful this is coming from Teigen, who made very public her and husband John Legend’s struggles to conceive daughter Luna, 11 months. She made very clear how much she wanted kids, even sharing their journey through fertility treatments and everything after. No matter how much she wanted to be a mom, she knows it’s not everyone’s end goal.
And because of that journey, Teigen’s all too aware of how those questions can be more than a prying annoyance — they can be incredibly painful to a woman who’s having trouble getting pregnant. In 2015, she told Tyra Banks about her struggle to conceive and how people’s nosy bullshit only made things worse.
“It’s been a process! We’ve seen fertility doctors. And then once you open up about all those things to other people, you start learning that a lot of people in your life are seeing these people, and they have this shame about it. So anytime somebody asks me if I’m going to have kids, I’m like, ‘One day, you’re going to ask that to the wrong girl who’s really struggling, and it’s going to be really hurtful to them.’ And I hate that. So I hate it. Stop asking me!”
Amen, Chrissy. A-freaking-men.