Viral Facebook video has parents in awe of dad’s skills
Tantrums are a part of every parent’s life. It’s not always easy to keep your cool while you’re trying to control you kid.
One dad has it mastered.
In a Facebook video that has been viewed more than 20 million times, every parent’s new role model shows superhuman patience while simultaneously passing wisdom down to parents everywhere.
After his daughter had a meltdown in Walmart, Terel Rico Relz Crawford took her outside to the parking lot, sat her on the hood of his car, and waited her out. And in the meantime, he calmly explained to all the parent watching how to discipline kids in public, without raising your hand, or even your voice.
The video is titled “When spoiled ass kids gets told NO in Walmart” and runs about six minutes, which is plenty of time for Terel to explain the situation and school us all.
“This is what happens when you spoil your kids,” he says. He explains that even if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, “don’t put one in your kid’s mouth.”
He opens the video by explaining that he took his daughter out of Walmart when she started melting down. Actually, scratch that. The video opens with Terel silently staring at the camera, with an expression of bemused, almost indifferent frustration, as his daughter’s tantrum whines down. He explains, first to her, and then to the viewer, what’s happening.
“I’m not taking you back into Walmart until you stop with your mess.”
He tells her they will stay outside until she calms down. He doesn’t promise her a toy, or ice cream, he doesn’t raise his voice, and he doesn’t spank her.
“I don’t beat my kids,” he says. “I take stuff from them. I make them sit down.”
He explains that his mother “beat the hell out of” him, but that’s not his style. He even admits he’s not perfect, that sometimes he yells at home, but in public, his tactic is to calmly take his daughter somewhere boring and wait out her antics. No argument, no discussion, no nothing.
“If your children don’t learn by you teaching, then who are they going to learn by?” muses Crawford. “We buy the stuff they get. We take it away from them when they don’t deserve it.”
About halfway through the video, after Terel has explained to us that it’s not the fit that bugs him, it’s his daughter’s refusal to listen when she’s told to stop,” his daughter has responded to his discipline, and calmed herself down.
Suddenly happy and feeling playful, the duo returns to Walmart only after Terel has secured her promise that she is done screaming and is going to behave.
Tantrums can be frustrating as all get out, and when they happen in public they can be humiliating for parents. But Terel understands that he’s the adult, and that as parents we need to remember that we can control ourselves but children “don’t know what they’re doing.”
“I’m the daddy, I’m grown,” he says.
At the end of the video, the pair is back in the store, Terel’s daughter seemingly having forgotten the entire incident as children often do, and parents everywhere have been taught a valuable lesson in tantrum management.