Supporting someone through a serious illness, death in the family, or other life-changing horrible event is not easy. It’s hard to find the words, to offer the right support. Sometimes we are so afraid of saying the wrong thing that we say nothing. And we don’t want to say nothing, do we? No. We want to be the friend who’s unafraid of reaching out.
Emily McDowell Studio makes cards that allow you to reach out in situations that may make you uncomfortable. Her Twitter profile simply says, “We make things that tell the truth and make people happy.”
“When your friend has cancer, they’re still them. This card helps you be supportive in a loving and funny and real way, just like your friendship is.”
“I mean, if YOU want to refer to it as a journey, that’s awesome. But as someone who loves you, I know you are the only person who gets to decide that. And if right now it doesn’t feel like a journey, or maybe it feels like a journey to hell, that is totally okay.”
“If you buy a sick person this card, I promise they will a) laugh, and b) feel relieved that you understand.”
“Giving someone this card lets them know you’re in their corner. You might not know what it feels like to be in their shoes, but you know when to be irritated on their behalf. And that will mean a lot.”
These cards open the door. And you’re on the other side saying, “I’m here.” Isn’t that what we all need when we are going through something terrible? To feel less alone?
These cards are the best.
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