Jaime Pressly confesses that her first-born son is her favorite
Of all the annoying and uncomfortable questions that kids come up with, one of the hardest to answer is, “Who is your favorite kid?” Most of us attempt neutralization. We don’t have a favorite, right? Every child is a snowflake, beautiful and unique in their own way. We love them all the same, and don’t play favorites – even if we do.
However, some parents, Jaime Pressly included, totally have a favorite kid and they see no reason not to let the others know about it. In a new Instagram post shared over the weekend, the former My Name Is Earl star unashamedly admits that despite loving all her kids equally, she does play favorites when it comes to Dezi, her first-born son with ex Eric Cubiche.
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Best time ever hangin with my favorite son, Dezi. That’s right I said it. I have a favorite son although I luv all 3 of my boys with everything I have in me. Dez and I have a special bond that no one else will ever match because we’ve grown up together. #firstborn #iloveyou
“Best time ever hangin with my favorite son, Dezi. That’s right I said it,” the mother of three boys wrote.
“I have a favorite son although I luv all 3 of my boys with everything I have in me,” she continued.
“Dez and I have a special bond that no one else will ever match because we’ve grown up together.” She concluded the post with the hashtags #firstborn and #iloveyou.
Jaime’s post incited all sorts of reactions, as you can imagine. Several people pointed out that picking out a favorite kid simply isn’t cool, especially since it could hurt the others feelings. Another blatantly called it illegal? Which, no.
“I would not ever say this for fear that my other children would feel invalid and not valued,” pointed out one person. “I’m sure parents have a favorite, but we don’t need to broadcast it. It could be emotionally damaging to your other children. To each their own. Just my opinion.”
Others supported her confession, claiming that every parent secretly has a favorite, but most of them won’t admit it.
If you can relate to Jaime, and do in fact, have a favorite child, you certainly aren’t alone. According to one study, 74 percent of mothers and 70 percent of fathers reported preferential treatment toward one child. So how does it impact the children who aren’t the favorite? Researchers, who examined pairs of siblings four years apart, found that playing favorites definitely affected younger siblings’ sense of self-worth. However, when it came to the older kids, the differential treatment had a negative impact on them. The first-borns also felt like they were the preferred child more often than not.
While you might in fact have a favorite kid, maybe consider keeping it to yourself and not broadcasting to others — especially not the other kids. No matter how old they are, it could seriously hurt their feelings.