Ugh, even Jameela Jamil has to go to great lengths to fend off unwanted advancements from men
Any woman who has ever existed in a public place knows that unwanted advancements from pushy, rude men who can’t take no for an answer are just a regular part of life (even if they shouldn’t be). It turns out that even celebrities aren’t immune to this kind of crap. Jameela Jamil, who you might know from a little NBC hit series called The Good Place, recently shared a story about trying to reject a man who did not handle it well. She tweeted about the unsettling experience, and women from all over the world chimed in to share their own stories, showing just how common an issue this is for women.
“Was out at the shops with my friend. Man ogles me. Man then approaches me to give me his number,” Jamil recalled in her tweet. “I explain I have a boyfriend but thank him for the offer. Man then threatens my career, saying I better remember that I rejected him. And then Shouts at me that I’m low class.”
LOL at this guy wanting to go out with her, then saying she’s “low class” after she rejected him. Clearly he didn’t think so when he was asking her out? Logic is not a trait these kinds of men possess.
What really sucks about this is that Jamil didn’t just tell the guy she wasn’t interested. Instead, she told him she has a boyfriend. This is a common tactic for women who aren’t interested in the advances of strange men, because it’s more likely that they’ll respect the fact that you’re “taken” by another man, than that you just don’t want to go out with them. It’s problematic as all hell, and women wasted no time in talking about that in their replies to Jamil’s tweet.
Seriously, why is this a thing? Why isn’t “no” good enough for so many men? Women deserve to be able to live in a world where they don’t feel like hurting a man’s feelings could put their life at risk, like the woman who shared the story about her Uber driver. That’s terrifying, but it’s the reality of existing as a woman. Everything is a calculation of risk.
Some women are chiming in to talk about the work they’re doing to ensure their boys grow up knowing how to respect a “no” from a woman, something that Jamil endorses fully.
Jameela Jamil has long been working to use her celebrity platform to make the world a better place for women. Remember her “I weigh” campaign, which encouraged women to write about all the amazing qualities they “weigh,” rather than assign their self-worth to a number on a scale?
And then there’s her continuing crusade to stop social media influencers from selling potentially damaging weight loss products on social media when their bodies are the result of nutritionists, personal trainers, surgery and other factors most women don’t have access to.
In conclusion, Jameela Jamil is a treasure and we don’t deserve her, but we sure are glad she’s here and speaking up.
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