A man follows a woman into the bathroom to make sure she’s using the “right” one
After Target issued a statement clarifying their policy of letting people use the bathroom they’re comfortable using, it became quickly apparent that many are afraid of a problem that doesn’t actually exist — bathroom bogeymen.
To that end, it seems some have appointed themselves guardian and keeper of public restrooms, to use their discerning eye to determine which bathroom a person should be using based on their judgment of their appearance. A disturbing video was shared this week taken by a woman named Jessica Rush, capturing one of these “bathroom police” as he followed her into a women’s restroom at Baylor Medical Center. He was insistent that she might be a man. Watch the video here. And be prepared to roll your eyes.
The man is trailing behind Rush and practically goes into the bathroom with her in his attempt to take “justice” into his own hands. The dialogue between them went like this:
“You didn’t look like a girl when I saw you enter. I thought you was…”
“Yeah, it was kind of confusing. It’s difficult. You’re dressed like a man.”
According to The Dallas Observer, Rush is definitely female with no intention of changing. “I look very much like a girl. I’m not trying to transition, nothing like that.” She wears her hair in a bleached blonde fauxhawk and dresses androgynously, apparently confusing people who think a woman is only a woman if she’s wearing very feminine clothing. And taking it upon themselves to grill someone who’s only trying to use the bathroom.
After the incident, the man told Rush he was worried for his mother, who had just gone into the restroom. “The point is I was helping my mom. I was confused when I see someone entering the woman’s bathroom looking like a man,” he said. “Each one of us is man or woman so … I wanted to make sure she was going to the right place.”
Rush was indeed going into the right place, and unless women with short hair wearing something other than a prom dress aren’t allowed in the women’s bathroom, no one has any right to question her. Let alone follow her into the bathroom. Let’s take a moment to appreciate the irony. The very thing he was afraid of happening to his mother, he then did to someone else. Barging into a bathroom he had no business being in, probably frightening Rush in the process.
But make no mistake — we will be hearing more and more stories like this. Misinformation, fear and bigotry are taking center-stage with basic human rights falling by the wayside. Eventually, one of these little confrontations will turn into something far worse than hurt feelings.
And it’s practically a guarantee that the person getting hurt won’t be a woman or girl like the “bathroom police” are so worried about. It will be someone like Rush — a human being just trying to pee in peace.
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