Minka Kelly opened up about her own experience with abortion and why these new laws are so destructive
More and more states are lining up to rip away women’s reproductive rights. Minka Kelly penned a powerful post on Instagram explaining exactly why these laws are so damaging for women and families. She also shared her own experience with abortion and why she doesn’t regret her decision one bit.
Kelly took to Instagram to post a picture of the twenty-five male Alabama senators who voted to advance the most restrictive abortion law in the country. The actress began her post by explaining that she made the decision to get an abortion when she was younger.
“It was the smartest decision I could’ve made, not only for myself & my boyfriend at the time, but also for this unborn fetus,” she wrote. “For a baby to’ve been born to two people — too young and completely ill equipped — with no means or help from family, would have resulted in a child born into an unnecessary world of struggle.”
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When I was younger I had an abortion. It was the smartest decision I could’ve made, not only for myself & my boyfriend at the time, but also for this unborn fetus. For a baby to’ve been born to two people — too young and completely ill equipped — with no means or help from family, would have resulted in a child born into an unnecessary world of struggle. Having a baby at that time would have only perpetuated the cycle of poverty, chaos and dysfunction I was born into. Forcing a child to be born to a mother who isn’t ready, isn’t financially stable, was raped, a victim of incest (!!), isn’t doing that theoretical child any favors. For those of you insisting abortion is murder, and to Rep. Terri Collins who said “an unborn baby is a person who deserves love and attention” — forget bringing up the mother might be in need of some “love and attention.” What do you think happens to these kids who end up bouncing around in foster care, live on government assistance because the mother has no help, can’t afford childcare while she works a minimum wage job, and is trapped in a cycle of trying to survive on the meager government assistance so many of you same pro-lifers are determined to also take away. If you insist on forcing women to carry to term, why do you refuse to talk about comprehensive sex-ed, the maternal mortality rate, free daycare, paid maternity leave? Our lives, traumas & family planning is for no one to decide but us. Certainly not a group of old white men. Speaking of men… With all this punishment for women I wonder where all the punishment is for the men in this scenario. By looking at the photo of all the men who are making this mess, I find it hard to believe that if it were the autonomy of a man's body, health and life in question, I cant help but be certain we wouldn’t be having this conversation in the first place. I appreciate seeing men speak up on this issue – women do not get pregnant alone. Lest we forget, outlawing abortion has never stopped women from attempting it. @abortionfunds @yellowfund & @EmergeAmerica @emilys_list @runforsomethingnow who work 2 elect pro-choice candidates. #YouKnowMe
If she had gone through with the pregnancy, Kelly noted, the child would have been raised in the same “cycle of poverty, chaos and dysfunction” she was born into. She also pointed out the hypocrisy that many of these anti-abortion politicians fight for fetuses to be born BUT have no interest in helping them after they’re actually in the world.
“What do you think happens to these kids who end up bouncing around in foster care, live on government assistance because the mother has no help, can’t afford childcare while she works a minimum wage job, and is trapped in a cycle of trying to survive on the meager government assistance so many of you same pro-lifers are determined to also take away,” Kelly wrote.
And WHY, she asked, do these very same people not want to discuss supporting women’s health in other ways, like maternal mortality rate, free daycare, and paid maternity leave? The only times they seem concerned about women and children is when it involves a pregnancy. Forget about everything else after that.
Kelly also made the very important point that men would be handling this situation so, so differently if they were the ones in the woman’s situation.
“By looking at the photo of all the men who are making this mess, I find it hard to believe that if it were the autonomy of a man’s body, health and life in question, I cant help but be certain we wouldn’t be having this conversation in the first place,” she wrote.
Kelly is one of the many women who are opening up about their abortions in light of these awful laws. Busy Philipps kicked off the open, honest discussion when she appeared on her talk show and spoke candidly about her own experience.
“The statistic is one in four women will have an abortion before age 45,” she said. “That statistic sometimes surprises people, and maybe you’re sitting there thinking, ‘I don’t know a woman who would have an abortion.’ Well, you know me.”
Lots and lots of women chimed in on Twitter, under the hashtag #YouKnowMe.
I was a year sober and just getting my life back. He was also in early recovery and we didn't think twice about an abortion. 6 months later, he relapsed, cheated on me and left. I finished college, have been sober 8 years and never regretted MY decision. #youknowme
— Emily Kohon (@Emilykohon) May 17, 2019
Wouldn’t have my beautiful daughter now if I didn’t have the right to my own body then. I was 14 & never once regretted it #youKnowMe
— layn (@alaynamcg_) May 17, 2019
My abortion was a medical procedure. It gave me my life back. Its not shameful or wrong, it just is. Support each other. Dont push woman back to unsafe procedures & fear. #youknowme
— stacy (@stacy73644924) May 17, 2019
I had an abortion when I was 18 years old. I’m not sure if I’ve ever talked about it on here but I’m not ashamed so I’m sharing today because if #youknowme then you know someone who has had an abortion.
— Zerlina Maxwell (@ZerlinaMaxwell) May 16, 2019
If you’d like to help the women in Alabama who are having their reproductive rights completely taken away, head to The Yellowhammer Fund, a local fund that helps women afford the expenses necessary to get an abortion.