Bride Cancels Wedding, Keeps $30k 'Donations' Then Asks Guests For More

by Leah Groth
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In a viral Reddit post, a bride named Pam informs her guests that she is canceling her wedding but keeping the $30 grand they donated toward it

After a wedding is canceled, one might assume that all the gifts and money given by generous friends and family would be returned. It only makes sense that any investments made to celebrate the union of a couple, should be returned if that couple never made it to the altar, right? Well, we all know that you can’t assume anything these days.

Sometimes it feels as though etiquette is a historically outdated practice, at least for many of those who inhabit the same planet as us. Case in point? One recent bride named Pam saw nothing wrong with keeping all of her monetary wedding gifts, despite the fact that she and her fiancé had decided to cancel their wedding. A Reddit user decided to share Pam’s Facebook post with the internet, and of course, it has gone viral.

“We thank each and every one of you for your generous early donations to our money fund,” she started the Facebook post. “Can you believe we have raised over $30,000? Unbelievable!!” (Um, since when are wedding gifts considered fundraising?) She then assured her friends and family that their money wouldn’t be spent “in vain” but on an upcoming honeymoon.

However, in addition to keeping the money, she wanted to let everyone know that they expected more of it once they rescheduled the ceremony. “After we regain financial stability and hold calm in our hearts after a honeymoon, we will announce a new wedding date and re-open our money fund for any further gifts,” she wrote. “Weddings are expensive!”

She also added that she doesn’t take her loved ones for granted. No, she and Edward (that’s her fiancé) are “blessed” to have such “generous family members.” In addition to future fundraising, she wanted to let everyone know that they could still buy them crap on Amazon. “I’ll be updating our gift fund registry on Amazon if anyone would like to gift us something to take on a honeymoon,” she wrote.

And again, she reminded them that she will keep everyone in the loop as to when their money fund will be reopened because obviously, everyone in her life just can’t wait to donate more. “Don’t be sad, the new wedding is going to be a HIT,” she concluded.

For obvious reasons, the people of the internet had a field day with this viral Reddit post. Did we mention that the bride’s friends and family also commented on her Facebook post, and they weren’t exactly understanding.

A family member of the groom wrote, “Is this a f–king joke???? After raking in $30k you decide to be greedy and use it all for yourselves?” Yes, family member of groom, that is exactly their plan.

One of the bride’s pals accuses her of “day drinking,” and points out how disrespectful it is to cancel a wedding that is a month away — considering that she already took time off work. And another friend dropped the f-bomb, because she was majorly pissed.

Pam was seriously shocked by the response, telling everyone to “please calm down” because she felt “very attacked and hanged up on.” Whatever that means. “You chose to DONATE to ME,” she points out. “If I want to use the money, who cares how?”

Apparently Pam’s uncle was so mad that he demanded his money be returned, and threatened a lawsuit if his 12k (talk about a generous uncle!) money wasn’t back in his bank account ASAP.

While it’s not clear what Pam ultimately decided to do, she did admit that she is “sooooo stressed out” about the situation.

It seems there are lots of brides these days, feeling scarily entitled due to their special day. There was that one bride in 2018 who tried to charge guests $1500 just to attend her nuptials and another who put together an insanely restrictive list of dos and don’ts for her guests.

The moral of the story, people: don’t be a jerk. And, if you decide to cancel a wedding, just return all the gifts and wedding “donations” and definitely don’t ask them for another dime!

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