Little girl can’t understand what this cashier is getting at
We all know ignorance is alive and well in our world. So many times we want to fight fire with fire, getting angry and pointing fingers at a person’s small-mindedness. But sometimes it takes a child to show us how it’s really done. Brandi Benner’s two year old daughter, Sophia, did just that when checking out of a store with a new doll she’d picked out, a gift for nailing potty training like the boss she is.
Benner and her husband made a deal with their daughter that she could pick out a “special prize” if she went poop on the potty for a month. Because bribing your kid is exactly how you get shit done. Sophia picked out her new doll and “while we were checking out, the cashier asked Sophia if she was going to a birthday party,” Benner explained on her Facebook page.
When neither of them could figure out what she was talking about, it became clear to Benner what the cashier was insinuating. “The woman gave me a puzzled look and turned to Sophia and asked, ‘Are you sure this is the doll you want, honey?’ She doesn’t look like you. We have lots of other dolls that look more like you,” Benner wrote.
Benner said she was about to get angry and let the cashier have it, when little Sophia responded with, “Yes, she does. She’s a doctor like I’m a doctor. And I’m a pretty girl and she’s a pretty girl. See her pretty hair? And see her stethoscope?”
And that, Sophia, is how it’s done.
Kids aren’t born with the intent to include or exclude others based on gender, age, or race. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like they don’t have eyes. Eventually everyone comes to recognize people have different color skin. Using that information to decide what or who to play with or love, however, is something that is taught. The cashier’s concern that her doll needs to look like her is absurd.
Diversity is a good thing. What makes us different makes us stronger. Why are we still having this conversation, ever?
Benner said the cashier eventually decided to drop it and Sophia left with her new doll in tow. “This experience just confirmed my belief that we aren’t born with the idea that color matters. Skin comes in different colors just like hair and eyes and every shade is beautiful.”
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