Dad's Post Goes Viral Because People Still Need A Reminder That SAHMs Work Their Butts Off

by Maria Guido
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Dad’s tribute to his stay at home mom fiancé goes viral

Last week, a man posted what the internet seems to think is the most beautiful tribute to motherhood ever: an acknowledgment that his stay-at-home-mom fiancé doesn’t just sit with the baby and watch TV all day.

Are we still confused about that? That staying home with children isn’t a parade of bonbons, fuzzy slippers, and reality TV marathons? That caring for children is actual work?

“I sometimes don’t give this woman the credit she is due,” writes Tony Emms about his SAHM fiancé Charlotte Sperry. “When I come from work she is always ‘tired’ now it’s me who has been at work doing stuff all day, but lately I’ve been thinking what this amazing woman does while I’m out …surely she just sits with the baby and watches tv and has a chilled day right?”


And he’s realized it, finally. His post includes the following revelations:

“When I leave for work she… has to spring straight in to action to get up and get her self sorted for the hectic day she has…”

“…baby is kicking off cause he is hungry but so is she, she doesn’t eat but baby does..”

“…then [she] sits and plays with him, then change(s) a disgusting nappy, then plays again, he falls asleep…”

He goes on to explain that instead of taking a nap when the baby does she “does the washing, cleans up baby’s toys and starts washing the pots from the night before” only to have the baby wake up and need things again — like food that mom still hasn’t had a chance to eat…” Emms admits he used to be annoyed when he got home to a messy house, thinking his wife hadn’t “done anything,” but somehow finally realized that she’d been “working her ass off all day to make sure baby is healthy and happy.” Hence Facebook post tribute, reminding dads to “respect” the mother of their children.

Good for Emms for writing this post. It’s amazing we still need a reminder that moms have incredibly tough days watching children: that they haven’t simply won the life lottery and are on a permanent vacation.

Hopefully someday posts like this won’t need to go viral because we’ll finally give stay at home moms the respect and validation they deserve. Full-time parenting isn’t a walk in the park for anyone. If you think it is, you’ve probably never done it.

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