Dating Tips For Women: Online Dating Tips For Single Moms At Every Age

7 Truly Helpful Online Dating Tips For Single Moms Of All Ages

May 18, 2020 Updated May 26, 2020

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Here’s the thing people seem to forget: You don’t lose your sex drive the minute you become a mother. And if you have a romantic partner, that’s great — we hope you’re very happy together. But if you don’t, and that’s something you’re interested in, we fully encourage you to get out there and date if you want to. And by “out there” we mean dating apps, because is there any other way right now? If you’ve never done online dating before, you may be a little apprehensive about the whole process. But trust us, it’s not that bad. In fact, swiping left and right can be pretty fun. Not sure where to start? Here are some helpful online dating tips for moms of every age to give you that first push.

Wait Until You’re Ready

Wanting to start dating and feeling as though you should start dating are two different things. Even if everyone else in your life is pressuring you to get back out there, if your mind and heart are not in it, give yourself the time and space you need.

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But Push Yourself a Little

OK, fine, we know we just told you to take your time, but technically, you could get stalled here forever. Are any of us truly ever ready for anything? We know how that logic works. Even if you’re a little uncomfortable at first — which is completely understandable — you may need to give yourself a little push to get back out there.

Make Peace with Online Dating

Maybe we should have started with this one, but if you’re going to do online dating, you have to truly get on board. If you’re new to online dating or apps, this could be a completely different experience for you. And we get it — new experiences can be scary. But honestly, there’s no stigma attached to online dating and frankly, it saves you precious time. Who wants to have to go back to meeting people in bars?

Talk to Your Kids If/When You Meet Someone

Depending on your child’s age, they may or may not notice that you’re dating. But if they know what’s going on, you’re going to want to be honest with them. “Be upfront,” Lanae St. John, a certified sex coach tells Oprah Magazine, and consider using it as a teachable moment with older kids. “When you get to a point where you’re seeing someone special, take the opportunity with your children to discuss your special someone’s qualities and characteristics, and why those are essential to you.”

Go On As Many First Dates As Possible

We know you’re short on time, but the whole point of online dating is to meet people, so go do it! Dates don’t have to be long. In fact, meeting someone for lunch or a quick coffee is a great first date. At the end of the day, dating is a numbers game, so you want to play the odds and go out on as many first dates as you can. Who knows who you’ll meet!

Be Honest

When it comes to moms and online dating, honesty is the best policy. Be honest with yourself when it comes to what you’re looking for in a potential partner. Be honest with anyone you may go out with about being a mom.

Don’t Feel Guilty

As a mom, you may feel as though you need to spend all of your time with your kids. But that is absolutely not the case. You are your own person deserving of love and affection, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about getting back out there. And, as Lara Lillibridge, author of Mama, Mama, Only Mama: An Irreverent Guide for the Newly Single Parent, tells Oprah Magazine, demonstrating what a healthy and happy dating life looks like for your kids is actually a good thing. “Kids need a healthy relationship role model,” she says. “There’s pressure for moms to be born-again virgins, and sacrifice everything for their children. While this might sound noble, children learn a lot by observation, and it doesn’t teach kids what a good relationship—or dating life—looks like.”