From The Confessional: You're Telling Us All About Your Crush

Okay girlfriends, if you wake up with the warm tingles after a hot dream about Aqua Man or Wonder Woman (or both—wink, wink), we get it. We’ve all got our crush—that one person who really does it for us. Maybe it’s someone you know IRL, like a co-worker, or your kid’s gym teacher. Maybe it’s your brother-in-law, and you steal blushing glances across the room at Thanksgiving. Maybe it’s your own actual significant other and you’re incredibly lucky to have such passion right at your fingertips every day.

We’ve all had crushes, and they’re perfectly normal. They remind us we are alive and can still feel things, even after a long day of kids beating us down with their snack demands and shitting through their swim diapers. Getting lost in a fantasy about Thor and his massive “hammer” isn’t the worst way to escape your life and forget about this pandemic and disaster that is our world right now.

Sometimes as we get older we surprise ourselves with who, exactly, lights our fire. Over time, our desires change—we used to like dark hair, now we’re into grays. Or we previously went after skinny guys and now we want the biggest arms we can find. Or gorgeous women are our speed now instead of men. Let yourself evolve and enjoy your crushes, whatever or whomever they may be.

Sometimes we have crushes we know we shouldn’t. It’s natural. So what if you blush a little and let your heart flutter? At the end of the day, as long as you stay true to who you are, crushes are pretty harmless.

Crushes and fantasies help re-spark flames within that may have burnt out, and that’s not always a bad thing. I mean, some tan guy with a beard can fix my WiFi anytime.

Hollywood crushes are the best because they are completely harmless and there’s a wide array of choices. Psychopathic stalker does it for you? Cool. Classical violinist? Get it, girl. This is your fantasy, so own it.

And then there’s the old classic “superhero” crush. This one makes sense—hot, muscular, save-the-world type… in tights? What’s not to love?

Crushes and fantasies are normal and usually pretty healthy, so have some fun with them. As long as you don’t actually stalk Chris Evans Joe Goldberg-style, you’re good.