She wants single moms to know they’re superheroes — because they are
If you’re raising kids with a partner, it makes things infinitely easier. If you have that, it’s tough to imagine what it’s like doing it all on your own, and one mom wanted to pay tribute to the incredible women who hold it together while parenting solo.
Let’s hear it for the single moms.
Jennifer Wheedon Palazzo of Mom Cave TV brings us this very honest video where she confesses how much she admires single moms for doing it all. From her parked car with a baby asleep in the back, (the only time we can think straight, obviously) she lays out all the reasons single moms are basically superheroes.
“Holy shit, you are doing an amazing job,” is how the monologue opens. Palazzo then lists all the reasons she knows it’s true. “You’re single. You have a kid or more than one kid. And they’re still alive. So you are doing an amazing job.”
That about sums it up.
She explains that although she isn’t a single mom, she often feels like one, as her husband travels extensively for his job. Though Palazzo’s quick to acknowledge there are huge differences between the situations.
“When he’s gone all the time, it’s hard. It’s hard because I’m the only one. I know I’m lucky because when I’m home, amidst all the chaos, I know there’s somebody else out there who is working hard to support us.” And Palazzo says the partnership isn’t just about providing financial support. “He’s also just there emotionally. As a partner. As an equal, responsible party in this whole crazy parenting thing.”
She understands that going at the parenting thing alone must be “doubly, triply hard” because of that lack of someone else around to share the load — both mental and otherwise. And to the moms who decide to become single parents from the start?
“That is brave stuff.”
“If you started out on this journey thinking you had somebody else and now you don’t, I am so so sorry. And I wish I could give you a hug,” she laments.
Palazzo talks about how even if her husband isn’t always home, at least she knows they have one big, important thing in common. “There is somebody else in the world who understands that I love these two little human beings more than anything in the world, even though I fucking want to kill them sometimes.”
Been there, sister.
“So to all the single moms out there I see you. We see you. And we might not step in to help because you look like you are doing a pretty damn good job of it. This is really hard. I don’t know how you’re doing it. I’m barely doing it. And if there is any way that I can help, even though I’m a mess myself, come over. Be a mess with me. If you need me to hold your baby so you can take a shit, so be it.”
I will throw that offer out to any single moms I know too. Because all moms deserve to shit in peace.
Palazzo says that coming together with other moms might be just what we need to see we aren’t alone — single or not. “We might be relieved that somebody else is having it as tough as we are. That somebody else is willing to admit it. And we can join forces and help each other out.”
Wouldn’t that be nice?