No pregnant woman wants to hear your opinion on the size of her belly
Any day now, huh? If pregnant women got a dollar every time someone said that to them in their last few months of pregnancy, they’d be able to send their spawn to college. What is up with commenting on the size of a woman’s belly? Just because there’s a baby in there, doesn’t make saying things like, Wow, you look huge! any less rude.
Fitness model Revie Jane Schulz shared a throwback image of herself at 24 weeks pregnant this week. At the time, people could not stop telling her how big her bump looked. That gets real old, real quick when you’re pregnant. She decided to finally address the issue this week.
“I posted this after so many comments were thrown my way for having a massive bump,” she captioned her Instagram photo. “I was so fed up, even when I had tried on this dress and the shop assistant said ‘Holy moly! My friend is 36 weeks and you’re only 24 weeks and you’re WAY bigger than her!’ She repeated this to the lady in the next changing room to me. I cried while I tried the dress on.” What the hell? This is not okay. There is never another time when it’s okay to essentially tell someone they’re huge. Why do some people think pregnant women — who are hormonal, tired, and adjusting to a totally different body shape — would ever want to hear a comment like this?
“I got it everywhere I went and it did make me want to hide away. It’s tough, you’re carrying a human, your body is dramatically changing, more than you ever expected and then to rub salt in it, strangers feel the need to comment every time you’re out in public,” she explains. It’s so true. Some people have zero boundaries around pregnant women and it’s unacceptable. Stop.
She posted an image a few months ago that showed the progression of her pregnancy:
“Here’s a tip, don’t mention the size of a bump. No “you’re so big!’s” No “oh! You’re so tiny!’s” Just say something like “you look beautiful/ healthy/ amazing,” she writes. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. No one wants to be told they look huge. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. If you feel those words coming on, here’s another tip:
close your mouth.
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