6 Benefits to Having an Autistic Child

Autistic Child

Being the mother of two children with autism is not without some benefits.

Don’t get me wrong, My boys certainly bring out the “extreme” in parenting. However, when I talk with my friends who are raising neuro-typical children and I listen to their many frustrations in raising them I have noticed a number of difficulties we do not share.  In fact, I have a much easier time of parenting the Trouble Brothers because they don’t engage in many of the “normal” behaviors of their NT peers.

1. No Whining. My boys do not whine.  Ever. They may scream loudly like wild banshees at times when their developmental limitations prevent them from using words to express their dissatisfaction with something but they never resort to that incessant nails-on-the-chalkboard whine that lasts hours and leaves a mother white knuckling it through the day.

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2. Lack of Sibling rivalry. Growing up with two sisters I remember the antics we used to pull that left our mom wanting to sell us to the gypsies.  Every trip in the car, grocery store visit, and family photography was laden with the whines of, “MOOOOMMMMM, Caryn poked me!”, “MOOOOMMMM, Sunday touched my new Barbie and gave it cooties”, “MOOOOOMMMMM, Molly picked her nose and touched my pillow!”  Truly, I don’t know how any of us lived past the age of 10.

Thankfully, I have never had to experience this with my own children.  My boys tend to steer clear of one another and will gladly enjoy their own books, videos, or toys independently from one another.

3. No Fashion Awareness.“But MOMMMMM, everyone has more Silly Bandz than me!”, “I can’t wear THAT!  All the kids will make fun of me if I don’t have such and such jeans!”, “I am NOT wearing anything that comes from Walmart Mom!” Thankfully my boys will never utter these words.  Individuals with autism do not recognize the social desire to fit in and follow the crowd.  They are their own crowd and they like it that way.

4. Lack of Greed & Competition. Thankfully my boys don’t spend Christmas morning counting who has more presents than the other.  If money is a little tight and they only have one present on their birthday they are overjoyed with what they do have instead of being mad that there wasn’t more.  In fact, I can visit the local children’s consignment shop and buy a gently used toy for a quarter of the price of a new one and they could care less.   They are happy to have anything that is new…even if its only new to them.

5. Not hearing “WHY???” Endlessly. If there is one thing I am most thankful for in having children with autism it is that I never have to listen to the barrage of whiny ad-nauseam “WHY?” questions. In general, individuals with autism do not tolerate not knowing what is coming next.  This is why the question “Why?” makes them uncomfortable.  The autistic mind prefers knowing the answer to a question before asking it.  At the very least, they prefer a simple “yes” or “no” answer over the unknown that can follow the question, “Why?”

6. Routine. My kids have a very set routine to their day-to-day life.  Their diets are boring and quite limited but those limitations also make meal times a snap.  I know that as long as I have bread, cheese, and chocolate chip cookies in the house the boys are set for life.  Noah has a definite addiction to Pepperidge Farm Goldfish Crackers but other than that my kids are easy-peasy eaters.  I don’t have to listen to my kids whine and complain that they are having peanut butter and jelly AGAIN or that they want to try those expensive yogurt snacks all their friends have in their lunch.

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Similarly, the boys love watching the same DVDs and episodes of Dora the Explorer or Yo Gabba Gabba over and over again.  And while I do sometimes complain about watching Finding Nemo for the 1,342,893rd time I am happy knowing the same movie makes them laugh in all the same spots each time.  Its simple and yet, beautiful.

I’ve never been a Pollyanna optimist but I am neither a cold-hearted pessimist.  Instead I find myself being more of a realist and reality dictates that when you raise children with autism, whether it is high-functioning Aspergers or a diagnosis of profound autism, its imperative that you find the joy in the small things. Like the above.

About the writer

Sunday is the frazzled mom behind the banshee mask who writes about the antics of her two young sons who are on the severe end of the autism spectrum at Adventures In Extreme Parenthood.  Sunday is also a certifiable Twitter addict and can be found @xtremeparnthood.

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Absynia 5 months ago

I liked this article very much. I am an adult with aspergers and, while I can say I don’t believe my childhood was like this, its good to know that there is ‘more’ out there now for kids who are like me, and for their parents. I have a partner who is interested in knowing about, even a teensy bit, about ASD, but my problem is, whats the best place for me to go to, to provide her with information? I stumbled upon this site by a friend who showed me an article she thought I’d find funny, which I did btw.

Then I saw this and it reminded me that a few months back, she told me she wanted to know more. I regret now, that its late, thankfully she hasn’t lost interest lol. Anyways, though I am an adult and not a kid, I thought maybe someone here, might be of help. To be honest I dunno of anyone else who is even remotely like myself and its kinda…terrifying just, poofing that out and asking for information. So, if anyone is able to help, I’d really appreciate it, just cuz honestly I’d kinda like to know what all is going on in my head too.

Dana 7 months ago

Thank you for the “6 Benefits to having an Autistic Child”. My son is now 11 and officially diagnosed with High Functioning ASD in 4th grade. He is really easy and some of my friends with “typical” sons just don’t believe me. What I love most about him is his ability to make decisions that would take me forever. Picking out glasses. He looks, tries on one pair and says “these are great I’ll take them”. He has never asked for those colored basketball socks the kids are wearing. He just wants comfortable socks. He is sweet and kind and very respectful.

Tina 9 months ago

we get the dreaded why question all.the.time. Maybe it’s because he’s high functioning? I don’t know, but he asks why? About a 1000 times a day. Now I agree – he knows the answers to most of these why questions. But every now and then he asks some very funny ones. Why is that car not a police car? How do you answer that one? Lol.

Simone Blanchard 9 months ago

Horsey B our kids need to hang out 😉

Simone Blanchard 9 months ago

All of these apply to us — except the WHY — but the WHY is applied to science stuff, and normally kicks off a soliloquy. Why does the sun rise and set? I’ll tell you. Launch into Neil deGrasse Tyson-inspired speech.

My younger typical child does all the whining, fretting about clothing, rivalry crap, comparing gifts, etc. and it is so exhausting! Her brother is the yin to her yang. In many ways, he is my ‘easy’ child, as her emotional needs are a lot higher.

Melinda 9 months ago

Another benefit pops it’s head up this time of year. My son is eleven and he still believes in Santa Clause. Sometimes, his being oblivious of what’s going on is a benefit.

horseyb 11 months ago

My High Functioning ASD son never STOPS asking ‘Why?’ Seriously. NEVER. It’s only ever about science, but at 7 years old, his questions are pushing my brain to its limits. And I LOVE science! I’m really glad he’s able to understand science so well, and love that he’s inquisitive, but, well, it’d be nice to go 5 minutes without saying, “Um…I’m not sure. Let’s Google it!” So, the ‘Why?’ factor can definitely go both ways!

Jennifer 1 year ago

I loved the read. O am not alone. I relate to everything. Got me a little tear eyed because until now i realized n discovered. I am not the only mom to two children with autism.

Charliewhiskers 1 year ago

I love this, could have written it myself! So happy I stumbled upon your blog!

Just me 1 year ago

Seriously doubting if my son is on the spectrum after this post! Just kidding…
Maybe it’s because he also has ADHD?

Andrea 1 year ago

I think you should have clarified that these are “perks” of classic autism. I appreciate your “bright side” of autism approach.

I have children however with high functioning autism and this is just simply not true for them. On the contrary, “why?” is asked at an early age and needs a precise answer, sibling rivalry with more than one kid with autism is nearly unavoidable, constant and overwhelming, fashion means my son wants to wear paper taped to his chest or the same shirt two days in a row or shorts in the winter because he likes it though he does hate it if he gets made fun of subsequently for it (today I had to tell him that if anyone made fun of him for wearing a green wristband with a glittery mustache charm on it to school to let me know and not let it bother him), routine means any deviation from it sets off emotional meltdowns if we are out of bread for said sandwich and refusal to eat anything else in the cupboard or use any cup now that their favorite one is dirty or broken, whining is incessant and nonstop and can include negativity that is very hard to reverse, competition is intense and to the point where if rules aren’t strictly followed in a baseball game or rules are changed a meltdown ensues or if he loses, a meltdown ensues despite any and all preparation for the chance it could happen (not letting them win does nothing for preparation of this in real life, either). On the bright side, my advantages are that I have very sensitive, loving, compassionate, smart, creative (in an unconventional way at times), determined, hard working, sweet children who see the beauty in this world in a way no other person can. I’m not knocking your positive outlook but stating that these aren’t perks of all types of autism is necessary in this article.

tkay michel 1 year ago

Maybe everyone else things this article is cute, but I found it appalling. Basically, what you’re saying here is that you love having autistic children because it’s so much easier on YOU as a mother!

My son is autistic, and it’s not a joke. He was bullied so badly in h.s. that we had to relocate to a different school district. Even though my son is high functioning, and I’m so proud of the fact that he supports himself without accepting SSI, I know how isolated he feels. He works, he comes home, he plays video games. He has only dated one girl in his entire life, and that was 18 years ago. Not that he hasn’t tried, but he lacks to social skills to be successful making connections with anyone, let alone the opposite sex. His father and I are both in our 50s and have health issues, so I worry what will happen when we’re gone. Maybe in a few decades, when you’re older and your children are no longer little and ‘cute,’ you won’t find your childrens’ disability so amusing.

I’m so glad you’re enjoying the ease of having children whose disability makes motherhood so much easier for you, but personally, I find your attitude selfish. I’d give anything to see my son living a normal life, and able to enjoy normal relationships with his peers!

Darlin Bonchek 1 year ago

We have a 25 year old daughter Carly who is Autistic , non verbal and globally delayed.. She is a great young woman and we love her completely, Although I would give my life so she could have a voice. I would have liked sitting in the family room to all hours listening to her future plans. I would love to have a argument about Jeans, from Walmart or anywhere else. I would like to argue about yogurt and keeping up with friends. I would like to have met her friends. I would like to have driven her with all her crap to university. I would have ,liked to have went wedding dress shopping and held her new baby as she and her husband look on.. I don’t want to have to worry about her safety for the rest of my life,and after we are gone , who will protect her emotionally and physically then.

Darlin Bonchek 1 year ago

We have a 25 year old daughter Carly who is Autistic , non verbal and globally delayed.. She is a great young woman and we love her completely, Although I would give my life so she could have a voice. I would have liked sitting in the family room to all hours listening to her future plans. I would love to have a argument about Jeans, from Walmart or anywhere else. I would like to argue about yogurt and keeping up with friends. I would like to have met her friends. I would like to have driven her with all her crap to university. I would have liked to have went wedding dress shopping and held her new baby as she and her husband look on.. I dont want to have to worry about her safety for the rest of my life,and after we are gone , who will protect her emotionally and physically then. I am sorry but there are no perks to AUTISM

Tsara Shelton 2 years ago

This is a lovely list! Hardly any of it matches my experience growing up with four autistic brothers, or having two sons on the autism spectrum, but I definitely appreciate any celebration. Especially a parenting one!!

One Similarity: We have enjoyed countless viewings of Who Framed Roger Rabbit? and episodes of Friends.

We also enjoyed a lack of greed, but that had more to do with poverty and a mom who always highlighted the fun of experience, than autism.

I think my favorite thing about being a sibling, daughter, and mom of autism is this: Finding myself explaining everything, and hence discovering many, many, many unnecessary–and even harmful!–social expectations and judgements. And then willingly changing them! Growing up surrounded by autism has helped me grow into a kinder, more intentional, and open minded mom, friend, sibling, wife etc.

Like the lovely author of this post, I’ve learned to celebrate and appreciate living with difference, rather than wonder, worry, or aim blindly toward a sameness with my peers.

Amy 2 years ago

I love how refreshing this post is. Too many times, people stick to the bad and never really (fully) see the good. My daughter is 5 and is diagnosed severe autism. Let me tell you, there are days that I don’t know how we make it through. But even during those days, there is awesome within it all. My daughter reads and writes at a grade 3 level. That caters to me so perfectly as I’m an avid fan of books (children’s or adult books) and love reading to her. I love hearing her read even more though, and I love that she has a great skill to get her started in life.

People always think we have it harder than people with NT children but I think it’s the other way around some days. I love that conversations are quick and easy to follow. It’s amazing on the greatest points about it are so top notch it’s perfect. I love the yes or no questions not involving why for either response. I love that I buy her clothes and as long as she’s not too warm or cold she’s happy- no need for designer names, or hefty price tags.

Becky 2 years ago

Wow your life is so very different from mine lol. My eldest son is 6 going on 21 with autism. Although it is not known where on the spectrum he lies at the moment. He does whine a lot and fights with his younger brother over certain toys and dvds. He does watch some of the same dvds repeatedly but when it comes to tv he knows when he has seen something before and refuses to watch it again! He also has a thirst for knowledge and always asks why. Wanting to know the ins and outs of everything even if it means me researching the answers for him. He does not know the value of money but wants all the time (although he does not get). He has many perks and I love his humour and his personality. I have worked closely with his teachers and independently to help him gain friends and be happy and content. Even if that’s meant rocking the boat and having some tantrums along the way!

April Martin 2 years ago

lovely to read, thanks sunday x

Anna 2 years ago

Oh I completely agree about the perks- my autistic son has a ton of perks. Autism is a good thing is the saying around our house :). However, he meets very few of the list above. He can whine up with the best of them, the why’s are never ending one of the more frequent phrases heard here is “I just don’t know, come on let’s go google that one” (Because not only are they why’s they are TOUGH whys that I often don’t know the answer). His 3 siblings can attest to the fact while it is much less than our allistic kiddos, he has a healthy share of sibling rivalry (and competition). Having 4 kids both allistic and autistic each has their own challenges and strengths. Autism is too often vilified, parenting is hard no matter if you have one kid, four kids, allistic or autistic.

danalise 2 years ago

Are you out of your mind regarding the perks of having autistic children???? I don’t think it was a bit cute or “refreshing”. Wait until your sons are adults with autism and see how heart breking this illness is.

Danielle 2 years ago

No… Lol that would have been weird eh? Mine is a James. He is pretty special :) But then they all are eh? My daughter is “normal” and I adore her also, but my challenges with her are sometimes more frustrating. Especially on eating. She hates everything. James has only met a few foods he doesn’t like, and yet he will still eat it. My favorite is when he tried a breakfast taco with Chorizo for the first time… he is like eh… I don’t really like this… and then he finished it without another comment. Thats just how he is. LOL.

Danielle 2 years ago

Danielle, my 15yo is just shy of 6 ft, size 13.5 shoes but only weighs about 110 pounds, soaking wet – bean pole! And yes, I can relate to the eating :) any chance your son is a Kevin?

Danielle 2 years ago

Lol – My post below is also on my boy who is autistic and is a teenager =P But different posters… even if we look similar =P

Danielle 2 years ago

Lol… I read through this and the most overwhelming thought I had was… Just wait.

Just wait until the teenage years, then you will have a completely new list to be thankful for. My son, God love him (and I do too), does not have any of the issues that most normal teenage boys do. He is not girl crazy (I am not even sure if the kid notices girls honestly), I am constantly reminding him to TAKE HIS CELL PHONE!!!… The cell phone could fall off the face of the earth for all he cares, I seriously doubt the kid knows how to text, He is not argumentative, fussy, over privledged, nothing. He is a sweet, goofy, amazing kid that is messy, forgets to turn in home work (even though we do it) and is just gernally a card. He loves to walk circles in the flooring while he listens to his ipod.

My biggest gripe… I still find candy wrappers, rocks, pencils and any other treasure he can find in his pockets and he is 16, he still doesn’t like his hair cut… he has always been terrified of the scissors/clippers near his ears… And he eats. NON STOP. If he has one normal teenage boy syndrome it is that he will just eat and eat and eat and eat… and Im not quite sure what he does with it all… he is 6ft weighs a whopping 150. He just never quits eating. lol.

oh and his big gripe about clothing is not label issued… no its sensory. He HATES skinny jeans… but thinks they are all skinny lol. I have to make sure I find the super relaxed fit when I buy the boy clothes… which is all the time because he is a beansprout and won’t stop getting taller =P

Tracey 2 years ago

I loved this, people always say to me “it must be so hard”. My answer to that is….. Your challenges are just different to mine, it’s just that my daughter won’t come home with a tattoo, a tounge piercing, stay out all night with boys or want really expensive clothes and the best part is she will always want to do things with me like go to the movies. Not so bad after all!!!

Danielle 3 years ago

This so hit home… most people’s response to hearing my youngest son (14) has autism is a version of: “sorry, that must be so hard” … I then get to tell them that he never fights bedtime, puts all his clean clothes away the minute he sees them stacked on his floor (even if it is multiple times a day), empties his level of the dishwasher whenever the clean token is on the counter, does all his homework, piano practicing, and other chores w/o complaining as long as they are listed on his afternoon To Do white board list, and all this without ever being prompted by parents. Not that there aren’t challenges as you know, but reliance on routine, rules and structure is a definite perk!

Sharon Kearley 3 years ago

Thank you for writing out what I feel everyday. my son makes me feel so special to be his mom!

Smallbutmighty 3 years ago

Beautifully stated!

Casey 3 years ago

I do not have autistic children, but i was truly touched by this post. You have such an amazing outlook. Your boys are so lucky to have you!

Susan 3 years ago

I, too, have two boys on the spectrum. As much as I love my many neices and nephews (all neuro-typical), I could not imagine parenting them. The whining and the ‘why’s, the skipping certain aisles at stores for fear of more whining and tantrums and never getting to leave them again, the rivalry and competition – I don’t know how my siblings and in-laws do it!

I have said before that, yes, if I could somehow “fix” my boys and make life easier for them, I would in a heartbeat… but I would never do so if it changed one thing about their personailities. They are perfect the way they are (with the atypical behavior and their uniqueness) and there is absolutely no need to “fix” that.

Patti Shanahan 3 years ago

Whenever my family shares a weekend trip with their families, I always find the other siblings arguing about one thing or another. It can get pretty intense. I then look at my son and ask “Aren’t you glad Kayla has autism?” He looks at me, smiles, and replies “Oh Yea.”

Bird 3 years ago

Thank you for this post! It sums up how great kids with autism are! So many articles and things on the internet always seem like doom and gloom and your post is so positive! LOVE IT!

Kimberly 3 years ago

So very happy to have found this! Thank you, Sunday!

Adro 3 years ago

(Mom of 2 boys here, one with Autism/one without)
I love this post it is amazing what a routine will do! Even though the days we just cant keep it are really hard, I have the best kids when the routine is good.

Kimberly 3 years ago

I completely agree. My son has his good days and bad days, but being sick doesn’t phase him at all. He’s usually pretty chipper, but he has random moments throughout the day when he’ll start screaming for seemingly no reason. It’s just a fact of life for him. I hope he doesn’t change too much as he gets older. He’ll be three soon, and was recently diagnosed as being on the spectrum.

luke’s dad 3 years ago

I LOVED this list. Especially # 6. We have also watched Finding Nemo 75,000 times, he still loves it. Blues Clues never gets old for him.
Raising a child with autism is SO hard and SO frustrating some times – he needs his routine…but it helps keep us sane too.
And NEVER have I heard “Aw Mac’n’cheese again!?”

Nealy Burks 3 years ago

Bless you for finding the positives! You are inspiring me to do the same :)

Jill.F 3 years ago

As a mother of a son on the spectrum i totally relate to this…ty for the happy side of autism!

Emma Jayne 5 years ago

Awesome post! As the parent of a teenager with autism, I can totally relate.

Mandy 5 years ago

I love your outlook!!! I wish my sister could feel the same way. She feels like a victim in raising her boys. So refreshing.

NotReallyComplicated 5 years ago

Oh yes…..
If I hear one more time “there is a special place in heaven for parents of special needs children” I will gag!
There are sooo many things I get to automatically opt out of due to my kids (massive sleepover invites, seriously overcompetitve children’s sports, and many B-day invites at Chuck E Cheese to name a few) They make me feel so lucky to be their mom.

Another Suburban Mom 5 years ago

I love your post and perspective. You rock!

Sunday 5 years ago

Clearly this means you need to come for a visit and we can trade for a few days! 😀

Fadra 5 years ago

I don’t know how you do what you do but I’m glad that you do it. You are an awesome mommy and an excellent writer. Thanks for showing us the sunny side of autism. I have many days where I could do without the whining 😉

Shannon 5 years ago

This is absolutely awesome, Sunday! I am so glad to share a last name with you even though we aren’t related. Wanna be my sister? :) Anyway, I think these things all the time! My son is so pure and loving and kind too and smart!

beckie & the grub 5 years ago

This is hilarious and yes, Sunday – you’re totally a Twitter addict.

Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation 5 years ago

Ahhh! I love Sunday! Great post. You have such a healthy and admirable perspective on life.

Erin Margolin 5 years ago

Sunday,

I admire you so much. You are SuperMom. Really and truly. And those boys? are soooooooo incredibly lucky to have you.

Woohoo for getting to guest post here at Scary Mommy’s place, too!
😉

Stefanie 5 years ago

I do not have nearly the proper words to describe how much a adore you. Beyond. You? Are something beyond special.

Chris P-M 5 years ago

Absolutely LOVE the fact that my kiddo has no clue about the value of gifts or fashion…. huge plus! Not understanding the concept of time has its perks too. The sibling rivalry schtick…..still have it. Damn, I wish we could get rid of THAT one! He doesn’t get the WHY behind anything, but he needs to tantrum anyway….yeesh.

Thanks for sharing your perks….it helped me realize that they ARE there!

Chris

Stimey 5 years ago

I have three kids. The one with autism is almost definitely the easiest. Yeah, I’ve probably (definitely) cried more tears over him than the other two, but since he was a baby and would play quietly for hours to now when he, like your guys, doesn’t whine at all. Awesome.

Maybe the best thing though is when your kid with autism does something cool or learns something that you might take for granted with another kid, you get the most amazing feeling. Like, when Jack lied for the first time. Awesomesauce. For real.

Dani G 5 years ago

Ok, you’re right! There ARE perks!! I agree with all of this- especially with the fashion part since I have a girl. Plus, I probably won’t be dealing with the catty mean girls getting to my bird- they’ll have to get through me first anyway. Grrrr!

Jen 5 years ago

I just loved this post. :)

Jill 5 years ago

I know what you mean! As much as ASD makes me want to pull out my hair sometimes, there are so many bright sides I try to remember- many the same as yours!

Cheryl D. 5 years ago

This is where raising a kid with high-functioning autism or Asperger’s can be a challenge. You still have to deal with the BS that kids of NTs bring, yet deal with some of the BS that kids with autism brings.

toywithme 5 years ago

Very refreshing post. It’s always inspiring to read someone who views life from a positive perspective. Thanks :)

Sunday 5 years ago

YES! My boys will not eat ANY candy, cake, soda, or any of the typical things kids want and cry over not getting.

Sunday 5 years ago

Yes, I do have one amazingly handsome kilted man! Thanks darlin!

Jennifer 5 years ago

Oooh I have one. My daughter only drinks water. I don’t ever have to worry about her wanting soda. She can’t bring herself to drink anything but water and the very occasional lemonade (one particularly brand).

DiPaola Momma 5 years ago

I adore ya, you know that. What you may not know though is that the grace and humor with which you approach not just the boys, but everything in life, is awe inspiring to me. You take my breath away lady. Would that I could be as amazing as you. Well and also that my hubby looked as hawt in a kilt as yours!

dusty earth mother 5 years ago

I’ve been a big fan of Sunday’s since she won the SoyJoy contest here. This was incredibly moving and incredibly funny and this was my favorite line: “Individuals with autism do not recognize the social desire to fit in and follow the crowd. They are their own crowd and they like it that way.” Man, oh MAN, that is perfectly miraculous. Thank you so much for talking to us, Sunday.

nic @mybottlesup 5 years ago

sunday is one woman who never ceases to amaze me and i’m better for knowing her.

S Club Mama 5 years ago

My older son has developmental delays (autism testing to come next month) so while he wouldn’t be on the severe end, he definitely has some of these perks (like “why” and not caring what he wears or asking for this or that toy/fad/food).

theMamaTeresa 5 years ago

Thanks so much for sharing! It’s good to be reminded of the perks sometimes.
It reminds me of my all-time favorite quote from a t-shirt at an Autsim Support Group meeting: “If you think my hands are full, you should see my heart.”
Good Stuff.

Ally 5 years ago

I read your post and then clicked over and watch the video by Mary Beth Neuvalis… first let me say, the video was so well done and she really did capture the beauty of your boys. She also captured the beauty of you and your marriage.

The funny spots in Nemo really are still funny, although I’ve only seen it 342 times. :-)

Ally

Lee H 5 years ago

As a father of a awesome autistic son… I really loved this read. I too reap the benefits of “why” not being asked very often. My son sees everything in black or white. He has trouble processing the “gray” areas. It’s black or white, right or wrong, yes or no. I can think of so many “perks” I could add to your list. His superior intellect has to be highest on my list. He’s been able to READ his ABC’s since two. He can tell you the names of all of Jupiter’s moons, and the details about them. He’s forced ME to learn just so I can help feed that hungry brain of his :)

Please forgive a shameless plug of his story my wife published last month. I’m very proud of it. It’s titled: “Emerging From Autism: One Boy’s Story”

Thanks so much for this wonderful post. The autism road can be a hard rocky one to travel. But thanks for reminding me to pause and smell the flowers that are growing alongside it.

Jennifer 5 years ago

It is all about perspective. I say that a lot, but it is so true. You always have good. Sometimes you just have to look for it. I will try to do that tonight with my nagging, screaming, whining, begging, fighting NT kids. Thanks Sunday!

Angel 5 years ago

I had a friend who lived with us when her hubby got discharged from the Navy. So we had her, her hubby and her son. I would have taken 7 of her son who was Autistic with Sensory processing disorder and a few other things then his parents. He was a joy, even with all the autistic tendencies. They on the other hand were a whole other story

Sunday 5 years ago

HA! I know what you mean!

Another great perk I forgot to mention in the post is the lack of drama when the boys are sick or hurt themselves. They don’t “milk things for all their worth” in an attempt to get sympathy or attention.
When they are sick they are the same as they are all the other days of the year, just with a runny nose and a cough.

Now THAT is a quality I wish my friends and family shared!

Megan (Best of Fates) 5 years ago

No whining at all? Sigh. I wish my friends were more like that.

Amanda 5 years ago

Thank you so much for this list, things like this are refreshing for mom’s with special kids! I can relate to much of the list lol I have been blessed with 5 kids. 3 on the spectrum and 2 typical. So I guess I get too deal with both worlds.

Kelly 5 years ago

Sunday, this was wonderful! Parent’s of autistic children are the most patient people I know and also have the best sense of humor!

I love how Finding Nemo can garner a laugh each and every time. :)

Kir 5 years ago

what a gorgeous post, thank you for sharing all that with us.
as the mom of “normal” ha……twin boys, I enjoyed reading this and seeing how you love those boys of yours .
I’ll be over to your blog to read about your amazing sons.

Rebecca 5 years ago

This small list IS a big deal…beautiful post.

lynn @ Maven of Savin 5 years ago

Sunday – Beautifully written way to look at the up side of things. AND though I KNOW all the other hard stuff you go through, you are right, some of these things are unbearable for us – happening right now as I type as a matter of fact. Thank you so much for sharing so openly about your biys – it is refreshing.

Lynn from For Love or Funny 5 years ago

I love Sunday. Her attitude inspires me, and her funny tweets always make me smile.

Rae 5 years ago

What a fabulous way to start the day! Its nice to hear the story from a different perspective than the typical feeling sorry for the parents. I wish we could get through one day without any of the above listed things. With an 8 year old and a 1 1/2 year old, you just don’t, except maybe sibling rivalry (though I’m pretty sure that is to come)…..

Kelley 5 years ago

I absolutely loved reading this post about the “Trouble Brothers”! It was very refreshing & obviously written by a mother who loves & adores her sons immensely. So glad you shared this with us!